jascon1:
I can't believe I ended reading a trashy piece of sheet like this. Sex guarantees nothing in a relationship. If your mind isn't there, no amount of sex will keep you. We fake things that aren't real. In a few years to come, you will confirm that holding on saves a lot of headaches.
That's why blacks keep feeling marginalised, coz they spend precious time looking for and giving sex, partying and following trends.

raayah:


They're also issues like vaginismus which cannot really be detected by the doctor ( vaginismus is severe pain in the vagina during sex).people with these problems can't have sex.

Even premature ejaculation is an issue, the man won't know he has until having sex.
There are also thing's like Micropenis ( even though the man may feel like he's endowed.)

there are various advantages of waiting till marriage but there are also several disadvantages and there is Nothing wrong In discussing them.

He is not encouraging pre-marital sex but let's not pretend that pre-marital sex is all bad.
Besides not everyone is a Muslim or Christian or religious in general...

oglalasioux:

You are very very wrong. There is nothing as real as sex and it's only when we define it that relationships can last.

commodorejydes:
tanks very much my dear....some persons r so quick to come online to preach n impose hw dey feel on oders ...dis issues r personal n should b a conscentual decision between d 2 person in d relationship.i for 1 dont see a shit wrong in pre marital sex n dose endulging in it should not b lebelled as some of us r doing ....wat right have u to judge ,r u God .

IamMissMarvel:

Speak for yourselves.
The problem is, you judge people without knowing who they really are.
Should people come to you to tell you they are virgins or they are not engaging in premarital sex or even present evidence to you before you won't judge them and tag them as hypocrites?
Experience has taught me that the real virgins are not the ones who look it, they won't even tell you and they know as much about sex as those who are sexually active. Because they read.
You don't know who is knacking who behind and pretend no to.
That's why Christianity is an individual race. If you are pretending to be what you're not, your judgement dey heaven, and if you know the truth and still choose to mislead pple or act like you don't care, then your judgement is also in heaven.
The standard of the bible will NEVER change to suit our earthly standards.
We are all sinners thriving to be holy. And we can't get there by pretending to not know the truth cause it is this truth that will set us free.

Cutehector:
Our parents and grandparents were virgins wen dey got married, at leqst a good number of them, and they gave birth to lots of children..
This new generation is filled with doubts and uncertainties.. Hence the need for experiments

AVRecruit:

im coming back to address you fully.

AVRecruit:

why are Nigerians such hypocrites and liars? u know its important you still claim it isnt.
fyi whites always show display of affection including in public places. the religious ones among them leaving sex till marriage still hold hands and such.

Eddygourdo:
Everybody here is a Virgin, the OP is corrupt, he and me are sex addicts because he pointed out his opinions on a philosophy, if you are all Virgins who abstain from sex, who are those men who have slept with all the ladies I know and will know. Nigerians ad shameless hypocrisy is like bread and butter. Shame

squash1986:
I honestly can't be in a relationship without sex being involved.If I meet a girl and I ask her for a relationship, then she tells me"Fine but no sex"I'll see such a girl as a 419er. "So you want to eat my money and now tell me no sex!"I can't go down in such a relationship. Rather,I'll just take the girl as my friend instead of a "girlfriend".

Gbopemi0:
If go beta supa market, dem dey test? mtcheeeew

farem:


Hmmmn.... no wonder prostitutes are having serious challenge of who to pick!!; A lot of guys are dying to take them to the altars!!!


STRONG DELUSION!

jascon1:
if sex is ur religion, then am a firm believer in abstinence. I won't mince words. I have daughters n if I have no belief, then is woe for them. Would be heretic for me to try to see the other side of sex without conjugal blessings. I begin to wonder how Christians view homosexuality as loathesome, but turn a blind eye to fornication. In my mind, we are being hypocritical. I Condemn sin, even if I'm sinful. Where is our conscience at all? It just ain't right sharing pre-marital bodily fluids and yet feeling good that our bodies are temples of God.
A full grown man in his late twenty or late thirty is still testing kitten, while in most places in the world his mates are raising kids. If you can't hold on, then Get married.
You got no money, you're not ready for marriage, but you ready for sex. I'm not lamenting here, cos is a Sign of the last days.
But, am sorry my faith got no compromise and I see clearly

Reiyvinn:


I believe you didn't really take your time to read this at all for the following reasons:

1.) Nowhere in the article was it stated that sex guarantees anything

2.) This article doesn't ENCOURAGE pre-marital sex but analyzes the disadvantages of waiting.

3.) The OP never said both parties cannot hold together, et cetera

Take your eye out of your religious bigoted lens for a second and examine this.


How do you define the term "SEX"

If indeed you understand sex solely as a procreation tool then I think I'd just leave you with your definition.

Sex is not just for reproduction, it compliments and enriches intimacy in marriages.

People who tend to "hold on" more often than not tend to endure their marriages (rather than enjoy it) or cheat due to insatisfaction.

This article doesn't castigate or encourage, it simply analyzes. Thank you.

jascon1:
if sex is ur religion, then am a firm believer in abstinence. I won't mince words. I have daughters n if I have no belief, then is woe for them. Would be heretic for me to try to see the other side of sex without conjugal blessings. I begin to wonder how Christians view homosexuality as loathesome, but turn a blind eye to fornication. In my mind, we are being hypocritical. I Condemn sin, even if I'm sinful. Where is our conscience at all? It just ain't right sharing pre-marital bodily fluids and yet feeling good that our bodies are temples of God.
A full grown man in his late twenty or late thirty is still testing kitten, while in most places in the world his mates are raising kids. If you can't hold on, then Get married.
You got no money, you're not ready for marriage, but you ready for sex. I'm not lamenting here, cos is a Sign of the last days.
But, am sorry my faith got no compromise and I see clearly

raayah:


They're also issues like vaginismus which cannot really be detected by the doctor ( vaginismus is severe pain in the vagina during sex).people with these problems can't have sex.

Even premature ejaculation is an issue, the man won't know he has until having sex.
There are also thing's like Micropenis ( even though the man may feel like he's endowed.) its a major problem during sex

there are various advantages of waiting till marriage but there are also several disadvantages and there is Nothing wrong In discussing them.

He is not encouraging pre-marital sex but let's not pretend that pre-marital sex is all bad or foreign. It happening right now and will keep on happening as long as humans are on earth. No amount of preaching will reduce it.
Besides not everyone is a Muslim or Christian or religious in general...

I personally, do not see anything wrong if two people in a committed relationship have sex (remember personal)

queenfav:
Great analysis op..Its very enlightening.Because many decieve themselves that they are in a no sex before marriage relationship,yet you find them doing everything short of actual penetration.I know I can't marry a man I am supposed to spend my life with without knowing what to expect.I never dey that strong spiritually!Besides,a lot of issues in most marriages stem from sex.I have recommended dissolution of a marriage because the man(a serious spirico) said the woman doesn't give him head.It seemed like it was a vital part of se.x to him.The woman said she can't use her mouth meant to praise God to touch his johnthomas..Both of them looked very spiritual,so it was shocking to me.Besides,I appreciate the op being real about this.Many say no se.x before marriage to appear 'holy and decent' to their serious partner,wheras they have one guy man or woman knacking it steady on the side.Finally,it all comes down to whatever makes you happy..

dyn1800:
What solution can be profer to the Vaginismus issue..... Seems I'm entangled in one

jascon1:
if sex is ur religion, then am a firm believer in abstinence. I won't mince words. I have daughters n if I have no belief, then is woe for them. Would be heretic for me to try to see the other side of sex without conjugal blessings. I begin to wonder how Christians view homosexuality as loathesome, but turn a blind eye to fornication. In my mind, we are being hypocritical. I Condemn sin, even if I'm sinful. Where is our conscience at all? It just ain't right sharing pre-marital bodily fluids and yet feeling good that our bodies are temples of God.
A full grown man in his late twenty or late thirty is still testing kitten, while in most places in the world his mates are raising kids. If you can't hold on, then Get married.
You got no money, you're not ready for marriage, but you ready for sex. I'm not lamenting here, cos is a Sign of the last days.
But, am sorry my faith got no compromise and I see clearly

pretydiva:
Marriage is honorable n d bed undefile. Premarital sex is a sin..shikena

Toxay:
lets get it straight,happines shud nt b d goal 4 livin because u its momentary,PORPOSE shud be,which u cnt get in sex,premarital sex wud only inhibit it

jascon1:
I can't believe I ended reading a trashy piece of sheet like this. Sex guarantees nothing in a relationship. If your mind isn't there, no amount of sex will keep you. We fake things that aren't real. In a few years to come, you will confirm that holding on saves a lot of headaches.
That's why blacks keep feeling marginalised, coz they spend precious time looking for and giving sex, partying and following trends.

f8fine:
it's very sickening to know that propagators of moral-degrading theories like this fellow are taking their evil concepts into bewildering dimensions. If one never had a chance of doing a "trial test" of the family to which one was born or the gender which one came with during birth, how thoughtless is it to advocate for sex "trial test" before marriage?

Abstain from premarital sex because its consequences are too grievous to bear!