Hello OUR, I am a married woman and I live with my husband in a two bedroom apartment. I have been married for three years but do not have any kids yet as my husband and I are still waiting for God to bless us with children. You would think this is the problem I have with my mother-in-law right? The fact that i don’t have kids? Actually, the reason i am writing to you is far from that. My mother-in-law lives in the village and we live in the city. She comes to visit us quite often which i definitely do not have a problem with as she is welcome to our home anytime. The only issue i have with her regular visits is the fact that whenever she comes, for whatever reason, my husband always asks me to evacuate our matrimonial bedroom for her. He makes me leave our room to sleep in the guestroom while him and his mother sleep in our bedroom. I have wondered and thought to myself if it is normal to have a full grown man sleep with his mother in the same room especially when there is another room available but i am unable to reconcile it in my head. I asked him why he does it and his response to me was “my mother and I are very close and she suffered so much for me growing up so the least I feel I owe her is to make her very comfortable. And if she feels more comfortable in our matrimonial bed? Then so be it”. I was appalled after i got his response. So appalled that i decided enough is enough! The next time she visited, i deliberately went to bed earlier than usual and tucked myself under the covers pretending to be asleep. When it was time for her to go to bed, could you believe my husband came to wake me up from my pretend sleep telling me that i should go to the other room so “mama” can come to bed? I couldn’t believe my ears. I literally thought i was dreaming. Anyway, just for peace to reign, i did as i was told and mama actually came to bed while i slept in the guest room as usual. Please OUR, tell me what i can do. I have endured this for three years but it is becoming ridiculous. What will happen when we have kids? How will I explain to them that daddy sleeps in the same room with grandma whenever she’s around and not mummy? Does that even sound like something anyone should say out loud? Kindly advise on what i should do to save the situation because i am really getting tired of the entire thing. Source: http://alocovivavoce.com/2015/10/09/877/

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Khd95:
I dy come make i go brush

you no go work abi u dey wait for Buhari 5k?

Nothing wrong with that, a man sleeping in the same room with her mother,

the only wrong I see there is sending you out of your matrimonial bed, I condemn that.

mama should use the guests room, and he can sleep along with his mother in the guests room.

Hmmmm end time mother in law. She's up to no good otherwise she would steer clear from her son's matrimonial bed and room. OP since Mama is in love with ur matrimonial bed and mattress,the next time she visits,move the entire bed and mattress to the guest room for her. When she's leaving,she can even go with it. And talk to that wuss of a man you married. Maybe he sees nothing wrong in the whole scenario. Don't nag or start a fight. Don't bother confronting your MIL.

Pix or adonbilivit

Just when one thinks he have heard enough of d wierd things happening in dis world.. Its sad i must say. Just try nd find out whats happening beyond sleeping on d same bed. If nuttn is happening den a counsellor is needed for d husband. Nd try to talk to ur mother Inlaw too .. Make i borrow d saying .. #endtimehusband

Dis one is a crazy fellow.. I thought dey caught d guy dat supplies u with Ghaninian weed ? How did u get d one u just smoked ?

jcflex:
Nothing wrong with that, a man sleeping in the same room with her mother,

the only wrong I see there is sending you out of your matrimonial bed, I condemn that.

mama should use the guests room, and he can sleep along with his mother in the guests room.

No matter what its illegal. Sharing ur matrimonial bed wid ur mum..... There are other rooms ....



U'v tolerated enough.... Tell ur hubby dis can't continue again....



I love my mum buh nt to chase my wife away and have her in..... Na she I de straff? Nawa oh



In Nigeria mentality::: dis myt be d reason u guys haven't had an issue...

wEsOmE:
Dis one is a crazy fellow.. I thought dey caught d guy dat supplies u with Ghaninian weed ? How did u get d one u just smoked ?

just because internet is for all, does not mean you abuse it.

if you did not share my opinion, why dnt you just ignore, and zoom off.


must you always abuse people having contrary opinion to your.

it simply shows your upbringing and level of understanding.

Goodday.

jcflex:

just because internet is for all, does not mean you abuse it.
if you did not share my opinion, why dnt you just ignore, and zoom off.

must you always abuse people having contrary opinion to your.
it simply shows your upbringing and level of understanding.
Goodday.

some opinions are just weird like yours now

Rubbish. why will a man send his wife out for him and his mother 2 sleep on their matrimonial bed? Gosh its unacceptable.
The mother should know that the wife is his "New Mother"

Discuss it with him that you have had enough and when next his mom visit, you wouldn't leave the matrimonial room for them. He should tell her to sleep in the guest room. Should he want them to sleep on sane bed, they can do that in the guest room as well.
That said, you need let him know he had to grow up as well as his excuse of the mom going through a lot for him is not a good one why you should be disrespected. Your parents also went through so much for you and explain to him why you wouldn't want to disrespect him when they visit as well. He's made the decision to marry you and should act in same manner.

Mother in-laws and their different colours of wahala!
How come we never hear of father in-laws?? Na wa oo!
Anyway, as far as I am concerned, that husband of yours is still a child with no mind of his own. How will any sensible man allow his mother sleep on his matrimonial bed? Like seriously, who does that?!
I think some parents should just let their married children be jare, especially mothers! Wetin sef!

Classic case of momma's boy taken to the extreme, he should grow his ass up!

Na WA o

Adaure4ever:
Rubbish. why will a man send his wife out for him and his mother 2 sleep on their matrimonial bed? Gosh its unacceptable.
The mother should know that the wife is his "New Mother"

Simple just make the guest room your permanent abode

Where's mrcork when you need him most?

End Time mother-inlaw



well as wife there are some things you need wisdom to do,why not make friends with your mother-inlaw,some truths might be revealed and do praying

So.. Your mother-in-law sleeps with your husband.. Ok


And instead of you to do something about it, you came to report the matter to us?

Okay... Continue looking at your husband and mother-in-law

He is still a boy not man, his mother still breast feeding him.... Miss Picy take note

this is partly ur fault madam...........u must have been seeing traces of such annoying behaviour before u married him.

well....thanks to the end time morther-in-law though.

this is the tym u and psalm 35(oppose those who oppose me lord) should to be best of friends. u wll see dat she will park well!

Wow dis is serious....should i join d end time crew naw.
Talking frm my experience as been a chronic nollywood fan i ve dis t say....u ve been married for 3yrs now nd no issue nd dat is nt even an issue to ur mother inlaw,wenever she cmes t ur house she sleeps on same mattress wit ur husband,a bed dat is supposed t be sacred nd u in turn cnt phantom wat goes on.hmmmmm EPUAN.

you should be paying consultancy and solution fee for what am about telling you..but never mind I will try help u out

it's obvious that so many things are going through ur mind .

first thing u need to do before taking any further step

when next ur MIL is around get a phone with good memory or Sdcard put it on flight ✈ mode

wen ur MIL is about sleeping go to the room and lay d bed... let ur husband know u have done dis so he won't do it again now select a place closer to the bed and start d recorder on d phone... if u have a way u can set a cam u can as well but dat requires more

in d morning go pick up ur phone

smileysmiley:
Hello OUR,
I am a married woman and I live with my
husband in a two bedroom apartment. I have
been married for three years but do not have any
kids yet as my husband and I are still waiting for
God to bless us with children.
You would think this is the problem I have with my
mother-in-law right? The fact that i don’t have
kids? Actually, the reason i am writing to you is
far from that.
My mother-in-law lives in the village and we live
in the city. She comes to visit us quite often which
i definitely do not have a problem with as she is
welcome to our home anytime.
The only issue i have with her regular visits is the
fact that whenever she comes, for whatever
reason, my husband always asks me to evacuate
our matrimonial bedroom for her. He makes me
leave our room to sleep in the guestroom while
him and his mother sleep in our bedroom.
I have wondered and thought to myself if it is
normal to have a full grown man sleep with his
mother in the same room especially when there is
another room available but i am unable to
reconcile it in my head.
I asked him why he does it and his response to me
was “my mother and I are very close and she
suffered so much for me growing up so the least
I feel I owe her is to make her very comfortable.
And if she feels more comfortable in
our matrimonial bed? Then so be it”.
I was appalled after i got his response. So
appalled that i decided enough is enough!
The next time she visited, i deliberately went to
bed earlier than usual and tucked myself under
the covers pretending to be asleep.
When it was time for her to go to bed, could you
believe my husband came to wake me up from
my pretend sleep telling me that i should go to the
other room so “mama” can come to bed?
I couldn’t believe my ears. I literally thought i was
dreaming.
Anyway, just for peace to reign, i did as i was told
and mama actually came to bed while i slept in
the guest room as usual.
Please OUR, tell me what i can do. I have endured
this for three years but it is becoming ridiculous.
What will happen when we have kids? How will I
explain to them that daddy sleeps in the same
room with grandma whenever she’s around and
not mummy? Does that even sound like
something anyone should say out loud?
Kindly advise on what i should do to save the
situation because i am really getting tired of the
entire thing.
Source: http://alocovivavoce.com/2015/10/09/877/

i blame you o.. Big time.. When u allowed it to happen the first time.. They now think its ok by you.. Wohs'wobi.. Just chill.. The next time it happens tell your husband to carry you away from d bed o.. You no go anywhere or una three go sleep 4 dia.. I go show dat mother-in-law hell on earth.. And reset that my husband brain because him no get sense at all.. Rubbish mother, stupid son

This is simple but complicated. Simple, in the sense that she's not his wife and you are. So, simply displace her from your rightful place. It's complicated, however, in the sense that it could cost you the peace you enjoy in your marriage. I could say you contributed to the complication. Why? Because you could have nipped it in the bud when you got married newly but didn't.
Way forward: In a polite manner, tell your husband that enough is enough. Let your husband do the resolution; never discuss it with your mother-in-law, NEVER! I believe you guys are Christians. Therefore, remind your husband that his mother is putting asunder to what God joined together. Also remind him what the bible says that, 'therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother and cling unto his wife and they shall become one flesh'.
Good morning people and have a good day

]you should be paying consultancy and solution fee for what am about telling you..but never mind I will try help u out

it's obvious that so many things are going through ur mind .

first thing u need to do before taking any further step

when next ur MIL is around get a phone with good memory or Sdcard put it on flight ✈ mode

wen ur MIL is about sleeping go to the room and lay d bed... let ur husband know u have done dis so he won't do it again now select a place closer to the bed and start d recorder on d phone... if u have a way u can set a cam u can as well but dat requires more

in d morning go pick up ur phone

If ur mum in law likes ur bed so much and she visits frequently, ur husband loves his mum so much, and his own way of showing love is letting her sleep on ur bed, he could simply buy same type of bed/matress in the guest room and let be there or u two should vacate the room for her whenever she is around. That is if the reason is JUST because of How comfy ur bed is

Eldorado01:
you should be paying consultancy and solution fee for what am about telling you..but never mind I will try help u out

it's obvious that so many things are going through ur mind .

first thing u need to do before taking any further step

when next ur MIL is around get a phone with good memory or Sdcard put it on flight ✈ mode

wen ur MIL is about sleeping go to the room and lay d bed... let ur husband know u have done dis so he won't do it again now select a place closer to the bed and start d recorder on d phone... if u have a way u can set a cam u can as well but dat requires more

in d morning go pick up ur phone

seconded. Ur MIL not being concerned about u not having kids and sleeping with Ur husband smells like fish to me.

Interesting

the things we read on NL

you should be paying consultancy and solution fee for what am about telling you..but never mind I will try help u out it's obvious that so many things are going through ur mind . first thing u need to do before taking any further step when next ur MIL is around get a phone with good memory or Sdcard put it on flight ✈ mode wen ur MIL is about sleeping go to the room and lay d bed... let ur husband know u have done dis so he won't do it again now select a place closer to the bed and start d recorder on d phone... if u have a way u can set a cam u can as well but dat requires more in d morning go pick up ur phone ""