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misspicy:
i have had dis discussion with the OP.times without number and d guy always say.d same thing...imagine talk

this guy wants women to stay with a guy when he has nothing and he sees nothing wrong if the guy should eventually ditch the girl wen he is made...like seriously,women don suffer...he wants to eat his cake and have it.....lubbish


i say NO to all those useless questions he asked because i no come this world come suffer,i have my own money and i must marry a made man too...lobatan

Toks2008:
Its really amazing how ladies fear the possibility of remaining unmarried for a long time stretching into their late twenties and thirties.

I have seen countless number of naija spinsters visit many prayer houses to seek spiritual guide and advice just to be a mrs and while so many will quickly come out to say they are unperturbed,the truth is that deep inside of them they hope that they just find the "right man" fast enough and start raising a family before reaching their menopause age.



Many ladies do not need prayer and fasting and in most cases,there is no spiritual attack from anywhere but these ladies are their own pitfalls and the simple truth is that 90% of unmarried ladies in their late 20s and 30s have no business still remaining single.

Considering the present global socio economy siituations expecially in a country like ours,here are 5 very vital questions to ask yourself as a lady and the more you give a NO to each of these 5 questions the harder it may be for you to get a man to marry you.

1.Can you start a life with a man in one room ?: Many ladies have boyfriends who live in this type of apartment and infact they have spent some nights with him in that same one room apartment and the guy has lost count of how many times he has scr*wd you in any imaginable ways but when it comes to marriage you will foolishly say you can't marry into one room apartment.

Sorry is your second name and i strongly pity you.Most men who own mansions today started their lives in one room so if you are ok being scr*wd in one room but you can not marry same man living in one room then you are not only clueless but foolish and be ready to be dumped after he has really had you to his fullness.


2.Can you marry a struggling man who has no regular job?:Oh i can imagine some ladies answering LAI! LAI!,MBA NUNU! GOD FORBID and so on to this particular question but please let me ask you"why date a struggling guy or allow him srw you at will yet cant marry him?" strange and foolish i must say.

It is important to know that as long as that man is not lazy,his break through will come and must come.How many ladies have given up an affair because they feel the guy has no job just to realize a year latter that he is gainfully employed or he has started a profitable business and they start feeling bad for not being patient enough.

Ok what is even the guaranty that the ones who have good jobs or business can not experience a crazy turn around? many ladies have lost their chance with a vibrant vision driven man just because they are waiting to say yes to a man who has a job rather than for them to also find something doing that will make them financially independent while the guy has enough space to pursue his dreams.Believe it or not 95% of the rich or successful guys you see today have passed through a struggling phase.


3.Can you have a very low budget wedding?: Now i want every reasonable lady reading this to understand that marital union and marriage ceremony are 2 different things.

Most times when you hear words like "my guy is not ready yet for marriage" what this simply implies is that the guy is NOT READY FOR A BIG MARRIAGE CEREMONY and not that he is not mentally,psychologically and emotionally ready but because our young ladies are overwhelmed with that one day celebration,they will never ever plan any wedding with a man who does not have the money to give them a flamboyant wedding and this is one major reasons why many ladies remain single for a very long time.

Have you looked around to see many graduates still struggling in their 30s with no assurance that a job or business will come up tomorrow? Are you among the myopic ladies who get carried away by a flamboyant wedding ceremony rich parents organize for their children?

Who says you can't have a marriage ceremony with N50,000 budget where a man pays the bride price and proceed to the registry with you and when the money starts coming in you two can do another big time wedding ceremony so why put yourself in bondage of having a compulsory big time wedding before you can be a mrs? Why are you giving that guy a good reason to continue using you,saying he is not ready for marriage ceremony but doing all the imaginable things a man will do to a wife on you.

For my igbo sisters i will advice you to appeal to the elders at home to understand that the fact that few of you are lucky to have a guy pay so much or spend so much on a marriage ceremony against all odds does not erase the fact that countless number of Igbo girls are been courted but not married in a timely manner due to the high expenses involved.


4.Can you marry a man who loves you but is not your preferred spec?:Yes there is nothing absolutely wrong in having a picture of who you want and while some ladies are very fortunate to find such,many have lived in a fantasy world hoping to meet that man who has those qualities they dream of just to wait and wait until they become old waiting for an "ideal man"

In marriage there is nothing like a bad or good choice neither do we have an ideal or non ideal man but its about your choice.Many ladies want a tall,cute,rich.GOD fearing,romantic guy and its so amazing how some ladies will never shift ground and when that short caring and loving guy comes their way they hush him and start running after a prince charming that feels nada for them,what a shame.

Stop having this myopic belief that there is an ideal man out there,no man has it all and all you need to look out for is a man who truly desires and deserves you. If you like keep waiting and screening until you become the object of screening yourself. Be wise.


5.Can you marry a man with a wide age gap to you:This is one of the most dangerous mistakes many ladies make. For crying out loud, except a lady just wants to play around,i do not see why a teenage girl will be dating a fellow teenager or a lady in her early twenties will be dating a guy of just a year or two older than her because when she eventually becomes ripe for marriage, in most cases this guy is still jumping around and fulfilling his sexual fantasies.

Yes age is nothing but a number but in most cases, ladies who date or court guys with wide age gaps like 8years or more tend to end up as a wife to the guy while most ladies who at their young ages started an affair with guys of close age proximity are usually left heart broken latter in life because most guys in the 20s are probably still playing around and not even psychologically ready for marital union.

So when i hear a 23 year old lady telling a guy in his 30s that he is too old for her i just laugh at her ignorance. If you are a teenager reading this or a lady in your early twenties,i will advice that except you just want to play around,you should date or court guys with wide age gap to avoid had i known.YES THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS to this but most times my assertion holds true.

I hope these write up makes sense to those who want to see sense in it.

Toks2008:
You are either a teenager or in your 20s so i understand your stand-view. I am certain in years time you will remember this and say oh so its true.

Whatever rocks your boat.

misspicy:
Like seriously? If i didnt love him will i stay and struggle with him in d first place....
So it is okay for the guy to move on to another woman after he has finally made it because the one who struggled with him wants a pay check? Why did she struggle with him in d first place wen she had oda better off suitors,so it is okay she lose both ways

i keep saying,this is a risk i for one will not undertake,imagine if d guy i struggle with af dis kind of mindset

graciella:
All these questions shaa.... one of the major reasons a guy marries is so he doesnt sleep around. starting with a room is okay but pls dont tell me he should continue staying there because he is poor because children will come and you still advise him to stay there?

please before you attempt to marry make sure you have provision to fend for two and also advise your wife to get something doing as well. A woman who was always good looking now looking tattered because she married you? ABEGI this error must be corrected jor!

darlenese:
The Op has complex issues


Guy go hustle jor,

OK over to the guys...........
1. Can u marry a woman with flat chest?
2. Can u marry a woman with flat ass?
3. Can u marry a woman with V.mobile shape?

If. Ur answers to the above questions is no, then delete ur post!

repogirl:
Hmm.... Actually quite true and makes some sense....doesn't mean ladies should go and marry guys who are in one room apartment and very comfortable in it sha.

It's not about where he is now, its about where he sees himself in future and how he's working toward it. It's not about his properties at present but about his diligence, resilience and hardwork.

Finally, if you can't marry him, why in the world are you dating him?

Toks2008:
You are still one of the myopic people who juxtapose write ups with the writer.What i wrote is a realistic observation and has nada to do with my life or personality so get that erroneous notion outta your brain..

You should as well attribute every story line of a film to the scriptwriter.

daretodiffer:
Were you not the same moniker who says that is normal for man to cheat and for his wife to just suck it up?

Toks2008:
Its really amazing how ladies fear the possibility of remaining unmarried for a long time stretching into their late twenties and thirties.

I have seen countless number of naija spinsters visit many prayer houses to seek spiritual guide and advice just to be a mrs and while so many will quickly come out to say they are unperturbed,the truth is that deep inside of them they hope that they just find the "right man" fast enough and start raising a family before reaching their menopause age.

Many ladies do not need prayer and fasting and in most cases,there is no spiritual attack from anywhere but these ladies are their own pitfalls and the simple truth is that 90% of unmarried ladies in their late 20s and 30s have no business still remaining single.

Considering the present global socio economy siituations expecially in a country like ours,here are 5 very vital questions to ask yourself as a lady and the more you give a NO to each of these 5 questions the harder it may be for you to get a man to marry you.

1.Can you start a life with a man in one room ?: Many ladies have boyfriends who live in this type of apartment and infact they have spent some nights with him in that same one room apartment and the guy has lost count of how many times he has scr*wd you in any imaginable ways but when it comes to marriage you will foolishly say you can't marry into one room apartment.

Sorry is your second name and i strongly pity you.Most men who own mansions today started their lives in one room so if you are ok being scr*wd in one room but you can not marry same man living in one room then you are not only clueless but foolish and be ready to be dumped after he has really had you to his fullness.


2.Can you marry a struggling man who has no regular job?:Oh i can imagine some ladies answering LAI! LAI!,MBA NUNU! GOD FORBID and so on to this particular question but please let me ask you"why date a struggling guy or allow him srw you at will yet cant marry him?" strange and foolish i must say.

It is important to know that as long as that man is not lazy,his break through will come and must come.How many ladies have given up an affair because they feel the guy has no job just to realize a year latter that he is gainfully employed or he has started a profitable business and they start feeling bad for not being patient enough.

Ok what is even the guaranty that the ones who have good jobs or business can not experience a crazy turn around? many ladies have lost their chance with a vibrant vision driven man just because they are waiting to say yes to a man who has a job rather than for them to also find something doing that will make them financially independent while the guy has enough space to pursue his dreams.Believe it or not 95% of the rich or successful guys you see today have passed through a struggling phase.


3.Can you have a very low budget wedding?: Now i want every reasonable lady reading this to understand that marital union and marriage ceremony are 2 different things.

Most times when you hear words like "my guy is not ready yet for marriage" what this simply implies is that the guy is NOT READY FOR A BIG MARRIAGE CEREMONY and not that he is not mentally,psychologically and emotionally ready but because our young ladies are overwhelmed with that one day celebration,they will never ever plan any wedding with a man who does not have the money to give them a flamboyant wedding and this is one major reasons why many ladies remain single for a very long time.

Have you looked around to see many graduates still struggling in their 30s with no assurance that a job or business will come up tomorrow? Are you among the myopic ladies who get carried away by a flamboyant wedding ceremony rich parents organize for their children?

Who says you can't have a marriage ceremony with N50,000 budget where a man pays the bride price and proceed to the registry with you and when the money starts coming in you two can do another big time wedding ceremony so why put yourself in bondage of having a compulsory big time wedding before you can be a mrs? Why are you giving that guy a good reason to continue using you,saying he is not ready for marriage ceremony but doing all the imaginable things a man will do to a wife on you.

For my igbo sisters i will advice you to appeal to the elders at home to understand that the fact that few of you are lucky to have a guy pay so much or spend so much on a marriage ceremony against all odds does not erase the fact that countless number of Igbo girls are been courted but not married in a timely manner due to the high expenses involved.


4.Can you marry a man who loves you but is not your preferred spec?:Yes there is nothing absolutely wrong in having a picture of who you want and while some ladies are very fortunate to find such,many have lived in a fantasy world hoping to meet that man who has those qualities they dream of just to wait and wait until they become old waiting for an "ideal man"

In marriage there is nothing like a bad or good choice neither do we have an ideal or non ideal man but its about your choice.Many ladies want a tall,cute,rich.GOD fearing,romantic guy and its so amazing how some ladies will never shift ground and when that short caring and loving guy comes their way they hush him and start running after a prince charming that feels nada for them,what a shame.

Stop having this myopic belief that there is an ideal man out there,no man has it all and all you need to look out for is a man who truly desires and deserves you. If you like keep waiting and screening until you become the object of screening yourself. Be wise.


5.Can you marry a man with a wide age gap to you:This is one of the most dangerous mistakes many ladies make. For crying out loud, except a lady just wants to play around,i do not see why a teenage girl will be dating a fellow teenager or a lady in her early twenties will be dating a guy of just a year or two older than her because when she eventually becomes ripe for marriage, in most cases this guy is still jumping around and fulfilling his sexual fantasies.

Yes age is nothing but a number but in most cases, ladies who date or court guys with wide age gaps like 8years or more tend to end up as a wife to the guy while most ladies who at their young ages started an affair with guys of close age proximity are usually left heart broken latter in life because most guys in the 20s are probably still playing around and not even psychologically ready for marital union.

So when i hear a 23 year old lady telling a guy in his 30s that he is too old for her i just laugh at her ignorance. If you are a teenager reading this or a lady in your early twenties,i will advice that except you just want to play around,you should date or court guys with wide age gap to avoid had i known.YES THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS to this but most times my assertion holds true.

I hope these write up makes sense to those who want to see sense in it.

francababy:
[size=14pt]All Men Out there. Including the OP Toks2008 hear this.

If you don't want to cause undue problem for yourself....

If you don't want to attract frustration....

If you don't want to turn to a perpetual beggar borrowing to pay school fees...

If you don't want to call your wife a witch in future...

If you don't want to die of hypertension...

DO NOT ATTEMPT POINT NO.2 BY THE OP

I showed this post to my male colleagues this evening before we left the office and they accepted all the points as okay except number 2. These are men earning upwards of 400k monthly. They know what it is to take care of a family in today's Nigeria[/size]

Oliviaarims:
It's only now u stated ur point clearly. I agree with u.

Toks2008:
Very simple

Its about choice based on feelings without affiliations to his potential future fortune.

Thats the point.

When a lady stays with a struggling guy with hope that he makes it someday FOR HER TO START ENJOYING HIS WEALTH then that is parasitic,foolish and totally unreasonable.

If u wanna stay with a struggling guy do so because u love him and not because u are expecting a payback like its a service u are rendering.

i just hope u catch the drift.

stevedre:
I would like to add that I almost married my ex because of guilt, I thought i owed her because we dated for like some years. Now, thats the greatest marital mistake a person can do ( Marriage built on the foundation of guilt and pity ). To cut the long story short, I decided to marry her even if she dated some one else while I was abroad because i honestly dated some girls abroad too but she swore she was not seeing any one after i opened up to her then i left a nice girl based on i know this babe ive dated for years better then the new babe who i thought got attracted when my life was/is good but finally, my so called babe i thought i knew was keeping like 3 of us ( dont ask me how i found out lol ).

Now my advice to my fellow guys, the babe who meet you when you hit gold is not different from the one who drank garri with you. Destiny played the time difference role so follow your heart and dont use time or who suffered with me as a tool for marriage or wife serching. thank GOD i am now married and blessed with a daughter for now, guess what I dated my wife for 6 months, we spent the first and second year in marriage having allot of misunderstanding and quarrels since nobody is perfect, now are in our 4th year and were rocking with our baby girl cause we realized there can never be a perfect marriage and there can not be understanding with out misunderstanding. 1 love and GOD bless.

francababy:
[size=14pt]All Men Out there. Including the OP Toks2008 hear this.

If you don't want to cause undue problem for yourself....

If you don't want to attract frustration....

If you don't want to turn to a perpetual beggar borrowing to pay school fees...

If you don't want to call your wife a witch in future...

If you don't want to die of hypertension...

DO NOT ATTEMPT POINT NO.2 BY THE OP

I showed this post to my male colleagues this evening before we left the office and they accepted all the points as okay except number 2. These are men earning upwards of 400k monthly. They know what it is to take care of a family in today's Nigeria[/size]

Toks2008:
5.[s]Can you marry a man with a wide age gap to you[/size][/color]:This is one of the most dangerous mistakes many ladies make. For crying out loud, except a lady just wants to play around,i do not see why a teenage girl will be dating a fellow teenager or a lady in her early twenties will be dating a guy of just a year or two older than her because when she eventually becomes ripe for marriage, in most cases this guy is still jumping around and fulfilling his sexual fantasies.

Yes age is nothing but a number but in most cases, ladies who date or court guys with wide age gaps like 8years or more tend to end up as a wife to the guy while most ladies who at their young ages started an affair with guys of close age proximity are usually left heart broken latter in life because most guys in the 20s are probably still playing around and not even psychologically ready for marital union.

So when i hear a 23 year old lady telling a guy in his 30s that he is too old for her i just laugh at her ignorance. If you are a teenager reading this or a lady in your early twenties,i will advice that except you just want to play around,you should date or court guys with wide age gap to avoid had i known.YES THERE ARE EXCEPTIONS to this but most times my assertion holds true.

I hope these write up makes sense to those who want to see sense in it.[/s]

stellytwinkle:
you have just hit the nail on the head my dear. This is the TRUTH! Like they say the truth is bitter. And a bitter pill which must be swallowed. So the ripe and the overripe ladies out there for marriage should please examine themselves. A word they say is enough for the wise.

darlenese:
The Op has complex issues


Guy go hustle jor,

OK over to the guys...........
1. Can u marry a woman with flat chest?
2. Can u marry a woman with flat ass?
3. Can u marry a woman with V.mobile shape?

If. Ur answers to the above questions is no, then delete ur post!

alexis007:
That no. 5 point sef.....



It has some connection with Paedophilia, Yerima and Aisha Buhari.



Women have suffered. Their ultimate success seem to be the ability to hook down a guy into marriage. No chance of self-determination.


Till their brains get an upgrade, and the heavy reliance upon the male-folk disappears.......It's a man's world.

Tobadein:
Abeg repost am make dem read am well8)

emzila:
AND THOSE WERE THE QUESTIONS OUR GROUND MOTHERS SAID YES TO AND THEIR LIVES WERE SIMPLE AND SUCCESSFUL.
THESE DAYS, THE MOMENT A LADY NOTICE YOU ARE STILL STRUGGLING, IRRESPECTIVE OF YOUR POTENTIAL AND CHARACTER, THE NEXT THING YOU WILL HERE IS "I LIKE YOU VERY WELL AND YOU HAVE MOST OF THE QUALITY I DESIRE IN A MAN BUT THE LOVE IS NOT JUST THERE".