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I Can't Figure Her Out by neyop85(m): 9:43pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
I met this girl about a month ago, she walked into my office with her friends, they enquired if they could work as IT student. As soon as i set my eyes on her, i immediately took their IT letters and accepted three of them all because of her. They started working for me and i took special interest in her. After a week, i asked her out and she declined, i kept pestering for like a month before she said YES to me. So we started dating, within a week, i bought her a Zanotti bag, a shoe and a gold necklace just so she could know i was serious. The problem now is that we have never seen eye to eye, we keep arguing and quarrelling. She told me she has a boy friend who has left for South Africa, i have noticed that she truly is into this guy, she keeps using his pictures as social media profile picture, the guy's picture is on her wall in her room. The guy is main reason we quarrel cos i can't take it, i see it as an insult because i feel she should not make me see all those picture stuff. Now, my dilemma is this, we fight and i promise never to call her again, she calls me aftr two days and i forgive her again. its been like tjis since we started. Why can't she leave me alone? why can't she just focus on the one she loves who is far away? Do u think she loves me and if she does why will she flaunt her boy friend's picture when m around. The way she talks makes me feel she loves me, she keeps telling me to be patient. I have a good job and i have so many girls around me but i love her so much. ladies, what do i do? should i just forget her and move on? we argued this evening and i'm almost certain she will be back. Advice me pls. |
Re: I Can't Figure Her Out by vizkiz: 9:47pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
mugu 2 Likes |
Re: I Can't Figure Her Out by Nova15: 9:50pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
Hmmm...... She is just trying to hold on to you two for the time being. Weighing her choices to know which will favour her. If d one abroad proves to be better than you,then she'll give you the boot. So i suggest you get her to make the relationship clear to you so as not to waste your time and also not get your heart shattered. 1 Like |
Re: I Can't Figure Her Out by ronald4lif(m): 9:52pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
You've said it all yourself. All signs point to the fact that she's into her far away boo more than she is to you. What this means is that you're an adjutant boyfriend and would only be into the picture for as long as the other lives abroad or when he ditches her. She just doesn't want to be lonely and need a close-by loverboy to express her physical emotional needs with while boo is away. What you need do is either enjoy the affair while it last expecting the worse; sudden break up or quit it before you become too attached. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Can't Figure Her Out by dachaste(f): 9:54pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
Give me one reason y she should leave u. When u r foolishly falling prey and enjoying it. Babe said she got a guy, wot else do u wanna hear? If u must know. Truth is u r footing her bills pending wen her real nigga will return Shikena 2 Likes |
Re: I Can't Figure Her Out by AlienStar: 9:55pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
The gal is certainly using u
1. As a maga
2. As a plan B incase the S.A guy fails. :-/ 1 Like |
Re: I Can't Figure Her Out by Specialbaby(f): 9:58pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
So guys like op still exist?hmmmmmm |
Re: I Can't Figure Her Out by Nobody: 10:03pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
This is just dumb. What do u tink op,uve been tryna buy her affections with ur money and she can do w/o u bt nt w/o ur money so she'll always come back until u receive brain 1 Like |
Re: I Can't Figure Her Out by Gofwane(m): 10:08pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
So she has been using the picture of another nigga on her d.p, and you are here asking if she loves you? I don't want to curse you because i'm taking sugar cane at the moment. My guy, pack all that is left of your sanity and move to the next one 5 Likes |
Re: I Can't Figure Her Out by Richiy(f): 10:10pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
This is the point where you pick up the bits of your heart and run. I know this story. If she loves you, she'd run after you with willingness to give up EVERYTHING. But, why I no dey meet this kin guys sef |
Re: I Can't Figure Her Out by macaranta(m): 10:12pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
SMH why can't a line be drawn between business and pleasure?? Dudes be mixing $#it up,thinking with their balls. 1 Like |
Re: I Can't Figure Her Out by ivyT(f): 10:17pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
ronald4lif: Word! |
Re: I Can't Figure Her Out by ivyT(f): 10:17pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
dachaste:Gbam |
Re: I Can't Figure Her Out by MRBrownJ: 10:29pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
neyop85: didnt they teach you to..... NEVER EVER mix business with pleasure?! So we started dating, within a week, i bought her a Zanotti bag, a shoe and a gold necklace just so she could know i was serious. so in your world, buying present in order to try to impress a gal means you are serious?! The problem now is that we have never seen eye to eye dont you see her everyday at work?! you mean you have never seen her outside of work?! then how did you gave her the presents?! we keep arguing and quarrelling. you guys are not compatible, let it go! She told me she has a boy friend who has left for South Africa, i have noticed that she truly is into this guy, she keeps using his pictures as social media profile picture, the guy's picture is on her wall in her room. AGAIN, you guys are not compatible, let it go The guy is main reason we quarrel cos i can't take it, i see it as an insult because i feel she should not make me see all those picture stuff. the real insult here is that you keep hoping to get between this gal's life even though you got the message loud and clear that she is UNAVAILABLE.... btw: of course she is gonna take your presents (and possibly everything you got), what do you take her for? Now, my dilemma is this, we fight and i promise never to call her again, she calls me aftr two days and i forgive her again. its been like tjis since we started. why do you forgive her if you really dont want to see her again? we know why she is coming back to you.... you are her private ATM Why can't she leave me alone? and say no to many presents from her top mugu?! why can't she just focus on the one she loves who is far away? she wants her cake (aka her man) and have it too (aka presents from her mugu) o u think she loves me and if she does why will she flaunt her boy friend's picture when m around. this lady dont give a damn about you, its your wallet that she is attracted to. The way she talks makes me feel she loves me, she keeps telling me to be patient. bro, talk is cheap, its her ACTIONS that you should evaluate... i mean, come on, she hardly spends any time with you I have a good job and i have so many girls around me but i love her so much. pls stop talking about what you have no clue about... there is no love here, only a mugu infatuated with a gal who is taking him to the cleaners. ladies, what do i do? should i just forget her and move on? we argued this evening and i'm almost certain she will be back.
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Re: I Can't Figure Her Out by Idydarling(f): 10:36pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
op, I woulda sympathised with you, but the fact that you mentioned what you bought her (d bag, shoe and necklace. .. u even mentioned the brand sef ) imo op, I think you're a proud individual who keeps count of whatever good he has done to anoda. ...and yes, she's using u 4 the time being, in order not to feel too emotionally lonely now that the main boo is away. gd luck! |
Re: I Can't Figure Her Out by Dhavids(m): 10:38pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
neyop85: Op |
Re: I Can't Figure Her Out by Dhavids(m): 10:40pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
neyop85: Op.... all u need do is straff life out of her in a space of one week (lyk 4 to 5 straff sessions) and end d god damn relationship.... dnt be magalized!!!! 1 Like |
Re: I Can't Figure Her Out by neyop85(m): 10:58pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
Idydarling: Don't be too quick to judge me, I was just elaborating. |
Re: I Can't Figure Her Out by neyop85(m): 10:59pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
MRBrownJ: |
Re: I Can't Figure Her Out by kaziblake(f): 11:00pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
You are a side boo |
Re: I Can't Figure Her Out by kaziblake(f): 11:04pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
She already told you she have a boyfriend so why are still disturbing her...leave her alone and look for another girl or else she will keep you as a side boo |
Re: I Can't Figure Her Out by neyop85(m): 11:10pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
Richiy: Cos u are like her. |
Re: I Can't Figure Her Out by neyop85(m): 11:11pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
kaziblake: Thank you ma. |
Re: I Can't Figure Her Out by Richiy(f): 11:11pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
neyop85: I don't play this kinda games. If I don't like you, you will be the first to know. |
Re: I Can't Figure Her Out by neyop85(m): 11:18pm On Dec 19, 2015 |
Richiy: Cool. |
Re: I Can't Figure Her Out by elampiro(m): 11:33am On Dec 20, 2015 |
Suigeneris93: |
Re: I Can't Figure Her Out by Nobody: 11:43am On Dec 20, 2015 |
elampiro: Gbam! |
Re: I Can't Figure Her Out by Walesadeyemi(m): 1:48pm On Dec 20, 2015 |
Its very simple, you're her plan B or C or D........ Most women do this so that when the choice of their heart fails them, they can fall back on the other plans in order not to end up at prayer city at age 35 looking for husband. My advice: let her go Coz if you think she'll choose you later on if you show more affection, then you'll be thinking like a looser or if you think you want to 'chop and run' you'll still end up hurting yourself Coz no breakup is ever easy. So Bro LET HER GO now Coz the longer you wait, the tougher it becomes. 1 Like |
Re: I Can't Figure Her Out by neyop85(m): 3:49pm On Dec 20, 2015 |
Walesadeyemi: Thanks bro... Like i said, she's been calling but i've been ignoring her calls. |
Re: I Can't Figure Her Out by pinkiepetitee(f): 4:02pm On Dec 20, 2015 |
maga don pay shput alleluya!!!! ooooooooo mugu don pay shout alelluyaaaaaaaa |
Re: I Can't Figure Her Out by dastroud(m): 7:57pm On Dec 20, 2015 |
If you can't be with someone you love,love someone you're with! 1 Like |
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