ps2:
The bible said something in Galatians 3:13,"For Christ hath redeemed us from the curse of the Law".It also said a woman must leave her family and join to her husband and they shall be one flesh. Religiously speaking she can get married. Tribal discrimination must end...

DrDauda:

You sound like an OSU

DrDauda:


How old are you?

U sound like a child born in the nineties. You children know absolutely nothing

Spirit1:


No actually I don't. I have very good and close friends who are Osu.
I love them just like any other, I respect them, I eat and dine with them. We just understand that this has nothing to do with marriage. I actually don't like the caste system in Igbo land, but I respect my culture and understand the seriousness. Is it right?..NO.
My problem is with those who wave away this serious Igbo culture and belief system. The same people who advise people to engage in Osu marriage.

An interesting example was Chief Micheal Okpara the then Eastern Nigeria premier who passed a law against the Osu caste system, but when his kinsmen asked him to give his daughter's hand in marriage to an Osu man, he refused.

My other problem is that Osu families know themselves and know that this problem exists, but they are constantly playing this game. They will never voluntarily tell a free born until it's too late. By the way, osu's are the best educated in Igbo land and are usually very good looking. They first embraced Christianity and benefited from early education from the missionaries while the rest of the free born stuck to their shrines.
They know to marry themselves, but no they prefer to cause problems in families as in this case.
Why pregnant this girl, when you don't have approval of her family yet and when you are not married. Isn't that bad enough?

donTbone:

Note this:
Before getting married to anyone, those that must give you their consent are;

1. you pastor or spiritual leader
2. parents
3. siblings
4. closest friends

If any of the above shouldnt concur, see to their reason and have a rethink!
#soft
http://datingyouths..com

funkyibodude:
Osu caste system is an ancient practice in Igbo land, in which somebody or a family is considered to be a property to the gods of the land they are considered sacred and some are used for sacrifice and are forbid to participate in any village activities or holding any title thus are banished and don't have any business with anyone. Most of them are extremely beautiful and very intelligent that's why the believe the belong to the gods and the posses special powers. That's in ancient Igbo land before civilization. Most villages in Igbo land have abolished this practice due to religion and civilization but some still consider this practice because of the fear of wrath of the gods. OSU normally marry themselves and if a freeborn marries an osu you are forbid to have a child with that person and you will equally be banished from the land.. Hope you are satisfied.

schumastic:
For a preamble and for the benefit of those visitors without the necessary background knowledge of the subject here discussed, OSU, like the “Dalits” of India is a caste system in the Igbo speaking areas of South Eastern Nigeria, Africa. OSU are people tainted by their birth into a caste system that deems them impure and less human. According to legend, OSU came into being as a result of human sacrifice to the gods wherein a person usually a slave or a war-spoil, instead of being physically killed as a sacrifice to the gods is spared the butcher’s knife and instead dedicated symbolically to the deity as its’ property. The implication therefore is that such a person breathes and exists for the deity and none other; and assumes the stature of a lesser human who has been sacrificed as an offal to the gods. Regrettably these human-sacrifices married and procreated thus transferring unto their descendants the stigma of their “burnt-offering” status; which also make them properties of the gods that their forebears were sacrificed to. The downside is that these “people” because of their very lowly and sometimes “non-existent” status in the society are forced to reconcile their fate to the worthless and basest of a given Igbo society; wherein they found themselves and nobody seriously speaking, wants any association with them be it marriage, neighborhood, business and/or other associations that brings people together. One who is a free born cannot marry the lowly caste OSU and vice-versa. An OSU cannot also aspire to be a high chief or ruler/king in the society wherein they are born. This practice is prevalent within the Igbo society and its denial sometimes is for public relations purposes only. Several legislation have been targeted at this practice which so many have come to regard as inhuman practice aka man’s inhumanity to man; but is the OSU really man or human in the eye of the Igbo society wherein the practice thrives to date?
This blogger remembers quite vividly too, a traditional ruler (king) who wanted to outlaw the OSU practice. He summoned his Igwe - in- council (cabinet) for a parley wherein he intimated them of his intentions. According to the story, this Chief informed his council that he plans to outlaw the practice of OSU in his domain. After he finished speaking, one of the elders in the council raised his hand for recognition to speak or contribute to the deliberation. He was granted the floor to speak and all he did was ask the Chief if he would, as a show of goodwill allow his daughter to be married away to an OSU. The Chief was livid with anger and demanded to know where from the speaker got his audacity to speak on the subject as it appertains to his princess. And this was the last bus stop for the proposed legislation in the Igwe-n-councilThe irony for victims of OSU practice is that no amount of wealth they may acquire is ever enough to wash them off this stigma. Also their rise in the society of their ancestry is always stunted forcing most of them to take a long hard refuge in a foreign soil where they sometimes live out the rest of their lives agonizing of this fate; which though not self-inflicted but a result of generational apron string, are yoked down irrevocably to the tabooed status of being an OSU. It is such a very painful experience to undergo and no one should wish that - being an OSU on his worst enemy, indeed!
This blogger also knows one prominent well to do family who were living happily until one of the daughters decided to marry. She fell in love with this young medical doctor practicing in New York City – they moved in together and within nine months had a baby. Then the traditional marriage rites started in earnest wherein the man sent words to his family still in Nigeria to proceed with formalizing their relationship. Wherein it was discovered that the bride came from an OSU family and this was no brainier; so the child notwithstanding, the marriage or jactitation or semblance thereto has to be terminated [/b] forthwith because the father of the groom was a politician who would not want any taint whatsoever, of an OSU, as a daughter in-law. The girl moved to the west coast with her daughter and presently lives in southern California as a single mother. The groom has since re-married but the girl has not been that lucky as all the men who came around always jumps the ship as soon as the story of her ancestry reached their ears.

donTbone:

Note this:
Before getting married to anyone, those that must give you their consent are;

1. you pastor or spiritual leader
2. parents
3. siblings
4. closest friends

If any of the above shouldnt concur, see to their reason and have a rethink!
#soft
http://datingyouths..com

Panudemaster:
An Yoruba adage's sayz, " Nkan ti agba ri, lo je ki oju gba jin". "Omode o le lasho, ko la kisa bi agba". All d adage interm mean Experience n we all say experience is d best teacher. No matter hw love is strong, in nigeria our traditional has edge ova it, the OSU of a thing, she listen to her parent in order 2 beta her life cuz no parent go wan make dier pikin suffer. Wat am abt 2 say is a true story of d life datz currently happening 2 ma mum, b4 she n ma dad got wedin, in her background they have dis traditional stuff, in which they do, buh due to whaj we all say dat Love is stronger, they went ahead n marry, after some years, it was her turn 2 do d traditional rites, she refused to do it n dis is a most. Few later the repercusion came on and till now she is suffering it, it been 17 year ma mum has being living un normal. Its painful didnt enjoy motherhood. She should listen 2 her parent n pray n fast to get d best answer from God, so dat she can live a life of a mother unlike my mum.

funkyibodude:
A female friend of mine brought up an issue that have been bothering her so much she said that she needs an urgent advice on what to do. Here's her story
She met a guy last year in a friend's get together party and they both fell for each other. According to her story the guy works with an insurance company in Lagos and my friend was about to go for her NYSC when they both met. So because of the heated romance between them, she decided to work her NYSC posting to Lagos state. During her service year the guy proposed to her and she accepted. So they both went for family introduction. Few months after her introduction, her father called her and told her that she should come home that there's something urgent he wants to tell her. When she traveled back home, her dad told her that the have done some investigation into the guy's Family and the discovered that the guy is an OSU ( meaning outcast in Igbo land) and their village still practice the osu caste system. So the implication there is the both can't get married. And if she insist in getting married to him that her family will not be part of it, literally she's on her own with the guy, she's so heart broken now because she loves her family and she told me she can't imagine her world without him. And more so she's few weeks pregnant for him and the have started making plans for their wedding. How can she break this news to her fiancee?!!.. She told me she rather dies than not marry him.




Please I would appreciate matured advice only because this is really a sensitive issue that involves tradition and beliefs, no attacking of any personality or ethnic group. it can happen to anyone out there. Thanks

Monalisa185:

sickstars:
Marry cos her parent ask her to
Nd not marry cos her parents ask her not to


Please ask her this

If u marry who u dont love cos of ur parents

When they are no more alive

How would she be ?
Wat will bcome of her life?


Parents family will always fight nd all
But once dey see u happy nd determined dey concur

I cant leave who i love so mch cos of family

I wud tell them its my happiness nt urs
My marriage nt urs


Dem kno me well for my family i take no bullsh*ts

DrDauda:


You sound like an OSU

nnamdiosu:



with all due respect.....is that the rubbish you teach people on ur blog? closet friends must give their consent before I marry? well I will like to be ur closest friend .......wen I tell u no 5 times, na only you go cone back to Nl and remove closest friends from this ur post. no offence meant.....

NifemiOlu:



Consent means approval. I hope you know, and if you know, it's really funny that you need approval from your pastor, siblings and friends. Really funny.

Monalisa185:


the advice is still in progress... check baq later

STFUareyouGod:
Like seriously, this is 2015 and in matter of days we'll be crossing over to 2016. What's with us and all these archaic bullshii? How can some set of people be tagged outcast? What makes them outcasts? Why can't we just open our eyes and see beyond all this bullshii for once? What's really wrong with us?
Isn't this one of reasons why we aren't progressing? This is really sickening to say the least

......And more so she's few weeks pregnant for him...

funkyibodude:
A female friend of mine brought up an issue that have been bothering her so much she said that she needs an urgent advice on what to do. Here's her story
She met a guy last year in a friend's get together party and they both fell for each other. According to her story the guy works with an insurance company in Lagos and my friend was about to go for her NYSC when they both met. So because of the heated romance between them, she decided to work her NYSC posting to Lagos state. During her service year the guy proposed to her and she accepted. So they both went for family introduction. Few months after her introduction, her father called her and told her that she should come home that there's something urgent he wants to tell her. When she traveled back home, her dad told her that the have done some investigation into the guy's Family and the discovered that the guy is an OSU ( meaning outcast in Igbo land) and their village still practice the osu caste system. So the implication there is the both can't get married. And if she insist in getting married to him that her family will not be part of it, literally she's on her own with the guy, she's so heart broken now because she loves her family and she told me she can't imagine her world without him. And more so she's few weeks pregnant for him and the have started making plans for their wedding. How can she break this news to her fiancee?!!.. She told me she rather dies than not marry him.



Please I would appreciate matured advice only because this is really a sensitive issue that involves tradition and beliefs, no attacking of any personality or ethnic group. it can happen to anyone out there. Thanks

icedbeatz:
as much as i despise the osu bullshii and condemn it i wouldnt deny thats it has fked things up for the couples that went against it, its a stupid igbo custom but goddamn its got some evil forces surrounding it. Ive heard about it a lot and the shii is so potent that it affected a couple that resides in U.s. God should pls abolish that crap, who would try to inviteall the troubles and after effects of going against our custom? Non igbos will never understand and for those that can do it by all means do r thing joor and fk the forces behind that trash.

STFUareyouGod:
What if they didn't grow up in Nigeria? What if they met and married outside Nigeria?