a2space:
I am a 37 year old bachelor and I must confess that never in my wildest dreams did I ever imagine that someday I would be desperate to get married. When I was in my twenties, I used to hear of desperation amongst ladies to get married but I never clearly understood the feeling. I felt it was a "lady thing" until I got to the age of 34yrs. One day I was in my bedroom suddenly I felt the rush of emotions come upon me so strongly that all of a sudden started making me feel desperate for marriage. By the following year the desperate feeling became like torture and the loneliness was so depressing. I could no longer stand it when I attended weddings to see other young couples getting married. I could no longer stand it when I hear people discussing marriage around me.

I became like an object of fun in the office when they would call me "the oldest bachelor". I'm telling you, the feeling is not funny at all. Even when people innocently ask "Hey, why are you not yet married?" or "what are u waiting for?" It's a question that I just can't take emotionally. Though I'm doing my best to tie the knot soon but I must confess that it is a feeling that I don't even wish my enemies to have.

If me as a guy could be feeling like this, I can just imagine what single ladies of marriageable age are passing through emotionally.
For those of you reading my post, it is my prayer that you all get married at the right time and age so that you don't have to pass through the same emotional trauma of loneliness and desperation to get married.

josite:

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marriage is not mandatory so dat u can continue to fisi fun ko do dada.OJU E A JA

Toks2008:
Since you were 23,you have been praying for a tall,cute and GOD fearing man but over the years you have turned down Pastor Tom,and you won't even allow Jimmy to visit you and George just got married to the carpenters daughter after trying so long to get a yes from you and all these men are tall,cute and very GOD fearing..

Now you are 30 and i overheard you still telling your friend you want a tall,cute and GOD fearing man but i think there is one more thing you refuse to mention...........But that's none of my business though

manie:
I also did shakara, till I finally settled down at age 38. Currently enjoying my marriage, but i really had fun and enjoyed myself when i was single.

CioAngels:
When is right time? Your own time is your right time. You don,t have to use other peoples time and then make a mistake. Marriage is a lifetime project so please, don,t hurriedly go into it. Your best half will come at your own God given time.

ogawisdom:


Rubbish oyibo mentality, marriage is a divine injunction. It is not good for a man to b alone. Only a child will say I won't marry until I achieve all my dreams on earth, better get ur head examined soon.
Bad market, except u r impotent

Nnemuka:

coming from a 40 plus manchelor.... can you just give yourself break?
You sound frustrated!....

MARKone:


I pity the woman u go marry

musicwriter:


warning!. i always have my opinion move on if u dnt lik them.

PushMusic:
Estharfabian, comman let us talk o!

Ayam nuh marrying till the next 6yrs... Then, Imma be a Boss ass chick...

Toks2008:


I am really rolling on the floor right now laughing my ass out.

Me frustrated..common you need a good smacking for spewing that trash..

I will rather remain single rather than marry all these naija hopeless money mongers..over the years i have tested every lady i have met pretending to be so broke as in broke and they all failed woefully in the area of love of money over true affection and honestly but for christ i really dont see any need to get married.

If you quote me again to spew dust i will give you a resounding e-slap..am i the type who will look frustrated?do you know how many ladies i have around me that i can easily sleep with one each day...please give yourself brain.

Marriage is over-hyped and as i will always say that but for my love for christ i wil never consider marriage even for the next 10years.

-I can always get a babay mama as many as i want.
-I can always pay a cook to give me the best meals.
-I can always hire a maid to clean my house.
-I can always get as many girls to keep me company

So tell me one freaking reason why i should be frustrated? It is a lady's thing to be worried but for me even at 60 i can marry a 30year old sweet naija lady..after all is it not about money? A naija babe will not mind to be the 10th wife of a rich man rather than be the only man in a broke guy's life so please help me park very well one side.

If you quote me again...

SexyStrawberry:


Na the same thing wey I dey talk naaw, u for wait till 40 naaw, what stooped u? Pray u see ur grandchildren o, at 50 ur child would prolly be 10, at 60 ur child would be 20 and u know this our naija economy naaw plus ur child go still do d same shakara wey u do before settling down..........mehn ur chances of seeing ur grand kids may be slim o, pray for long life coz as u know women live longer then men in most most cases

Manweysabi:
^^^25 to 33 years.

manie:
My wife gave birth to a baby boy, 3 months after our wedding. Currently blessed with 2 boys aged 5 and 2, I have friends who got married 8 years before I did whose children are younger than mine. The most important thing is to stick to what works for you. I will advice young men to work hard, have big dreams, strive to achieve your dreams, enjoy life, know God if you believe in him and do not settle for less.

Nnemuka:


Listen to yourself...
and you are 40 plus old? kai tomorrow someone will marry this one and come for testimony in a church?
Your mates nolonger diss single women, by now they go on vacations with their wife and 3 kids.

FRustrated manchelor

cremedelacreme:
I wonder why people would not mind their business. It's really annoying when people keep on asking you "what are you waiting for?". Everybody must not marry in their twenties. My advice to the unmarried ones is not to allow pressure from people to push you into marrying the wrong person.

Zico5:
It is imperative to marry at the right time. If u see anyone still single at 37 then such person need to check his life very well cos something is missing. After marriage u ll begin to blame urself when u see how small ur kids re compare to ur age. Many don't know but this is reality.

SexyStrawberry:


Oh! so u know something reach like that? Na why u first begin dey score goal before wedding to be sure of d goods ur buying ehn ? hmmmmm, u be sharp shooter o, God just pity u sha come bless u with pikin, but whatever the case may be, ehn ur first child still no go pass 12 wen ur 50yrs old as for ur friends who were late to conceive, it doesn't mean u were smarter than them, u are just lucky that u scored the goal on time n God granted u ur wishes on time as well

Sleekyshuga:

Are you for real? Hahahahaha..

manie:
Same here, getting married early in other to have your grandchildren at 50 can only be determined by God. A lady in my church got married at 24 and did not not have child until 14 years after marriage while some of her friends who got married at 30 have gotten their own babies. The should not be a competition for the youngest to have children, but as responsible and informed people we should invest and build solid foundation that will give our children a good headstart in life. Some the endowment funds, trust accounts and investments made on behalf of my children should definitely by His grace give my boys a good headstart wheather I am alive or not.

Toks2008:


Why are you so full of wisdom? Did you live with your granny?

a2space:
I am a 37 year old bachelor and I must confess that never in my wildest dreams did I ever imagine that someday I would be desperate to get married. When I was in my twenties, I used to hear of desperation amongst ladies to get married but I never clearly understood the feeling. I felt it was a "lady thing" until I got to the age of 34yrs. One day I was in my bedroom suddenly I felt the rush of emotions come upon me so strongly that all of a sudden started making me feel desperate for marriage. By the following year the desperate feeling became like torture and the loneliness was so depressing. I could no longer stand it when I attended weddings to see other young couples getting married. I could no longer stand it when I hear people discussing marriage around me.

I became like an object of fun in the office when they would call me "the oldest bachelor". I'm telling you, the feeling is not funny at all. Even when people innocently ask "Hey, why are you not yet married?" or "what are u waiting for?" It's a question that I just can't take emotionally. Though I'm doing my best to tie the knot soon but I must confess that it is a feeling that I don't even wish my enemies to have.

If me as a guy could be feeling like this, I can just imagine what single ladies of marriageable age are passing through emotionally.
For those of you reading my post, it is my prayer that you all get married at the right time and age so that you don't have to pass through the same emotional trauma of loneliness and desperation to get married.

egbaguy:
Tbh @op.....u re over ripe for marriage. U mean at 37,u still wash plate? Go market to go buy pepper,grind and buy other stuffs? U still clean d house? Fact is u can't see a perfect partner,so I dnt understand d long wait. I am 27,and to get married dey hungry me ehn..... Marriage comes with being responsible All the best

egbaguy:
what is this one saying for God sake? are u ok?

Estharfabian:
Ayam nuh marrying till the next 6yrs... Then, Imma be a Boss ass chick...

MARKone:




S.tupid small boy. Go and pay for a slave then, who will be washing plate and cleaning house for you all the time. Don't you know that part of 'being responsible' you so flagrantly abused in your comment, is supporting her extensively is those chores, like going to market, and grinding that your pepper. Better wait when you mentally matured and understand what makes a happy home, before dabbling into marriage

prettychick:
IT IS WELL IJN