deeptesting:


Lol!
1. They are of age as defined by the society.
2. Others are married so why should they be an exception.
3. For the guys they don't want to loose their beautiful girlfriends.
4. She is pregnant, cannot abort so we marry.
5. For the girls material reasons, the guy has an apartment, looks good, a good ride then let's marry.

You can help me add yours because the list is inconclusive.

deeptesting:


Nothing i drink oo my Brother... Have been married for 8 years and got separated, separation has given me so much room for a deep reflection and retrospect... When i see people going into the contract of marriage for the wrong reasons i feel very bad... I have two kids out of my marriage, Bro it is better to remain single and receive all the insults in the world than going into a marriage for the wrong reason.. Nothing is killing me so fast today than seeing my beautiful kids growing without both parents living under the same roof. The fact that i will wake up every morning and no longer getting them ready for school, driving them to school, pick them up when i have time, do their home work together breaks me down but i am happy being alone, it could have been worse.

The OP needs to take a chill Pepsi big bottle and truly figure out what he really wants out of marriage and most importantly find a woman who shares the same life value with him...

pappy2000:
My brother, I am also 36" n I feel the same way too, it's so bad

danbrowndmf:
I'm 80...so can i see ur parent nextweek?

robosky02:


i like them 70

cos on the reverse you are actually 20 lol

Amhappy:
Good luck bro. For those who desire to get married,pray to God for a suitable partner and hold on to the right person when he/she comes along. The truth remains that at as age increases,it is more tough for ladies,so don't wait for so long. The pressure you will put on yourself alone is huge not to talk of the one from ur family and friends. A friend of mine just got duped in the name of love. A beautiful lady that many men were dying for some years back. She was a good preacher against desperation and I still couldn't believe it caught her.

400billionman:

One of them is dancing around this thread acting happy. All pretence.
Attitude matters alot in this marriage stuff. Never let a supposed partner smell desperation. Its a pity for the ladies that a guy will prefer a 23 year old to a 30 year old lady. So i will advice ladies to marry when their demand is very high. B4 25. Truth is, it feels good to be married.

Zico5:
It is imperative to marry at the right time. If u see anyone still single at 37 then such person need to check his life very well cos something is missing. After marriage u ll begin to blame urself when u see how small ur kids re compare to ur age. Many don't know but this is reality.

Sleekyshuga:

I dey wait for you, as substitute boify .

dumie:
Ironically, all the bad boys and naughty girls are hooking up and getting married, while the good, smart, working class, busy professional, relatively drama-free are still single.

a2space:
I am a 37 year old bachelor and I must confess that never in my wildest dreams did I ever imagine that someday I would be desperate to get married. When I was in my twenties, I used to hear of desperation amongst ladies to get married but I never clearly understood the feeling. I felt it was a "lady thing" until I got to the age of 34yrs. One day I was in my bedroom suddenly I felt the rush of emotions come upon me so strongly that all of a sudden started making me feel desperate for marriage. By the following year the desperate feeling became like torture and the loneliness was so depressing. I could no longer stand it when I attended weddings to see other young couples getting married. I could no longer stand it when I hear people discussing marriage around me.

I became like an object of fun in the office when they would call me "the oldest bachelor". I'm telling you, the feeling is not funny at all. Even when people innocently ask "Hey, why are you not yet married?" or "what are u waiting for?" It's a question that I just can't take emotionally. Though I'm doing my best to tie the knot soon but I must confess that it is a feeling that I don't even wish my enemies to have.

If me as a guy could be feeling like this, I can just imagine what single ladies of marriageable age are passing through emotionally.
For those of you reading my post, it is my prayer that you all get married at the right time and age so that you don't have to pass through the same emotional trauma of loneliness and desperation to get married.

Vision4God:
every1 has his tym, d most important thing is not to miss d ryt person at d ryt tym.
@op Just b calm bout it n let God lead u as ur preparing to tie d knot

cremedelacreme:
I wonder why people would not mind their business. It's really annoying when people keep on asking you "what are you waiting for?". Everybody must not marry in their twenties. My advice to the unmarried ones is not to allow pressure from people to push you into marrying the wrong person.

AreaFada2:


OP, I get your drift.

I was discussing this "right time" issue with a friend recently.

Reason was an acquaintance who died this year.

He was too busy with other things in life. Trying to uplift certain family members among others.

He was finally engaged but died suddenly. A total shock to everyone. He was in his 40s.

Had he married at age 30, he might have had kids ranging from 16 to 10 years old. Old enough to remember him.

We pray for God's blessings, protection and long life.

henryhemon:
Truth is it's good to marry as early as possible and it's also good to marry the right person but anyday you wake up n say am doing this is your right time. How do you find the right person? That's entirely between you and God but get this no one is perfect,so it boils down to what you can take and what you can't take. You have to make sacrifices but never let go of your standards cuz of someone by standards I mean moral standards....Am not going to marry a Muslim or someone who doesn't believe in God and fear God,if you find a woman that truely fear God your problem is solved and that's the right person.

jmoore:
Nna mehn.. I must marry next year, by fire by force.

Right time, right person? You can create your own right time and find the right person. My right time is next year.

zaragal:
jst passing bye ...one advice!! NEVER RUSH INTO MARRAIGE YOU MIGHT RUSH OUT and by den u will be 50 and divorce...check which is worse. and has more stigma. take ur tym ....let GOD lead before u make a move....i said one word..already made a two sentence

elantraceey:



Lol, Of course he won't but you know that scenario can't just happen like that, who suffers most during the rough beginnings isn't it the children?

SexyStrawberry:


Hmmmmm, dis is surprising coming from a guy, well.......unfortunately we still have old bachelors of 40yrs and above, and dem still dey do shakara o!

Tuham:

Can you sell that *space* for me so i can use it?
Plus i see we're both July-born, whats your date?

Kachisbarbie:


that guy done dey reach male menopause o. I won't let him be at all.


Come, how old you be sef?
Make I know when I go remember your own matter. Don't think you are safe...
No be to dey create thread, una no go allow babes rest for this NL whereas some of una sp*rm done dey turn to tadpole due to old age.

FisifunKododada:
Marriage is NOT mandatory. I repeat marriage is NOT mandatory. Its a cultural expectation. Like believing in God or going to church or mosque. There is nothing intrinsically NEEDFUL about it. And if you enter marriage out of desperation, you will be more likely to end up with one of these very numerous one-chance marriages that will cut your lifespan by half. Be a man. Think for yourself and stop worrying too much about people's and cultural expectations. If you die now, none of these people disturbing your life will agree to join you 6 feet under. Wise up bro.

deeptesting:
I think i have responded to someone who also made reference to the Bible.. The school will teach you the theory but life teaches you the practical.. If you are lonely and want to marry then look for a lonely woman and marry so both of you can pursue same goal of getting out of loneliness but if you think getting a partner will take you out of loneliness then you are on a long thing... Marriage has it`s own troubles big enough that will compound your loneliness and take it to 360 degree.

And what is the right person? So you want to marry a happy girl and bring in your garbage inherited from loneliness to her life so she begins to pamper you like a child? If you are lonely fix it, find the root cause of it.. I think the OP is bored living alone don`t get it twisted.. If you are lonely get out and make friends, get social and enjoy singleness.