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Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by STENON(f): 12:28pm On Dec 25, 2015
Odunharry:
which one be no hug?? are you deeper life member ?
Nope, bt jst to avoid the message that it'l pass across to their brain ...
Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by Nobody: 12:31pm On Dec 25, 2015
iAmCharis:
Your head dey there jare. I'm always bemused when I come across or hear that assertion. I just don't get it.

I think any guy that's of the opinion he can't be just friends with a lady has some work to do on self.
Same way they say all men are cheats. There would always be humans that defy stereotypes... respect such people.
Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by Odunharry(m): 12:32pm On Dec 25, 2015
STENON:
Nope, bt jst to avoid the message that it'l pass across to their brain ...
lol.. nothing will be pass across... except u wanna hug tight and never let go
Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by Nobody: 12:32pm On Dec 25, 2015
I'm sorry to say you're the one who's myopic! Whatever happens to love? I don't make friends cause I can't keep them but when I do? Damn! I can die for them no matter what!
They're some ladies that are good for shag: merely seeing them, you're just tickled all over.
They're some who's company's therapeutic - they bring solace to my soul.
They're some I love and worship but can't touch them no matter what: they're too wild they stimulate the mind and big Johnny to go to sleep!
They're some you just want to keep on the shelve where dust and roaches can't get to.
The same way I relate to pets (animals) unconditionally, is the same with humans. So if you're trying to sell your opinion, please personalise it. Alright? Good.
Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by MVLOX(m): 12:32pm On Dec 25, 2015
This writeup is just one man's opinion and cannot be applied to all persons and situations. I was just a friend to my fiancé for more than 10 years b4 I started dating her only dis year. In fact we were best friends. On the oda hand I tried been friends to anoda babe .......just friends ooooo but kept showing same attitude the op talked abt here.....she kept throwing her self at me both sexually and even financially....... she felt like I wanted more from her but couldn't speak up..... more reason she tried seducing me and maybe tried to buy me financially............ presently I have blocked her on Whatsapp, deleted her on BBM and stop taking her calls..............Honestly we must stop this negative thinking ....... there are still guys and gals who still are capable of been just friends to either a guy or babe....... I rest my case
Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by chumakk: 12:33pm On Dec 25, 2015
Luckygurl:
Nah!! angry angry

I don't believe this...
That the male friends I've got are all hanging around me cos of some future banging they hope to get.
Plus the ones I personally initiated the friendship...

If I hear undecided undecided

In as much as majority of the so called friendship between the opposite sex are mere facades to what actually is going on, you can't totally rule out the fact that there exist the platonic kinda friendship between a few that actually know what they want.
Kia! You will not understand.
Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by noblegrex: 12:34pm On Dec 25, 2015
Cutehector:
Frndships dnt last forever
exactly my feels.friends with opposite sex doesn't last forever,expecialy when the other one get married.I don't think is a big deal.infacts,friends with opposite sex is even more beneficial
Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by STENON(f): 12:38pm On Dec 25, 2015
Odunharry:
which one be no hug?? are you deeper life member ?
Nope, bt jst to avoid the message that it'l pass across to their brain after the hug ...
Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by AceJam: 12:39pm On Dec 25, 2015
Hmn. grin grin
Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by Nobody: 12:41pm On Dec 25, 2015
end time friendship.


I don't keep end time casual female friends..

I so much beliv in comensalism n not parasitism. am never an end time learner.


tough shi*****ts happen...


I forbid any spirit of another man work,another man chop
Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by sidneyj(m): 12:43pm On Dec 25, 2015
Yes.... Only if you are gay and she is lesbian
Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by Nobody: 12:43pm On Dec 25, 2015
Kachisbarbie:
Same way they say all men are cheats. There would always be humans that defy stereotypes... respect such people.

Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by Sike(m): 12:44pm On Dec 25, 2015
Friends with Benefit? Yesss!
Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by Odunharry(m): 12:46pm On Dec 25, 2015
STENON:
Nope, bt jst to avoid the message that it'l pass across to their brain after the hug ...
maybe u well endowed in Frontt
Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by burmmersam: 12:46pm On Dec 25, 2015
In the actual sense, this article holds a fact that most people will dispute. Initially, I was like, "ki leleyi nso bayi". But when I got to where the article reads, "
I know some people will say not in all cases and i quite
agree but there is a simple test to know if there is no hidden
notion or surpressed desire so please as a lady just prove
me wrong? give that just friend of yours a kiss and watch
him stop you. After-all you guys ought to be just friends." Shouldn't we all just go for the test and come back here for the comments...
Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by queenfav(f):
This op and his far fetched theories!I am a lady and my best and closest friends are guys,both married and single.I don't have female friends because of their attitude of envy,competitive spirit and gossiping.Besides,its not every man that thinks with his dic.k!Though,its dicey when both of you are single.Even at that,you must not fuccck your friends na?There should be a dividing line.I can't trade my male friends for anything o,they are ride or die!I know I can trust and rely on them.So its not all cases of male-female friendships that transitions into friends with benefit.
Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by nosypat(m): 12:47pm On Dec 25, 2015
The OP is myopic and on testetorone.
My best friend is female. and we are good like that. She acts as my confidante and adviser in my relationship and I the other way round too. Just because you can't do it don't mean everyone else is same. There are those of us who never had brothers, grew up amongst so many women we are practically more comfortable around 'em than our male friends.
You just blabbed.
Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by sthugo: 12:48pm On Dec 25, 2015
Let the truth be told....

Its difficult to maintain such closeness,if you aint discipline. Just be discipline you start seeing her as a sister.if you cant you need visit a psychiatric.

Topic closed
Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by Favolly(f): 12:48pm On Dec 25, 2015
For the first time, I kinda agree with this Toks guy but only to the extent that the two individuals are single/unmarried

And it's especially very true for fine babes.....

If you're a fine babe, and you try that test, OYO is your case o. Just pray you're able to eventually stop yourself because your 'platonic' friend would never stop you.

Merry Christmas people!
Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by muyibaba222(m): 12:52pm On Dec 25, 2015
I agree with you OP.... Ere kini aja n ba ekun (what kind of friendship is between lion and dog?)
Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by queenfav(f): 12:53pm On Dec 25, 2015
osazeeblue01:
No. Any girl that told u she keep male friends than female just know that she is a prostitute. If u think am lying go for research yourself.
wow!Your stupidity astounds me.
Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by BuddhaPalm(m): 12:54pm On Dec 25, 2015
"Between Men and women there is no friendship possible. There is passion, enmity, worship, love, but no friendship"---- Oscar Wilde
Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by Nairaland101(m): 12:55pm On Dec 25, 2015
I should walk up to a male friend of mine and give him a kiss on the lips..
Lmao!!
I sure would get the 'looks like you've been neck deep into your usual romance novels' or 'when did you start drinking' reply...
On a more serious note, why should I?
Luckygirl, ur problemS are da u watch 2 much muvis
Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by rugged7(m): 12:55pm On Dec 25, 2015
Toks2008

WAITAMMINIT!!!

You can actually have a girl as your very good female friend.

However, both of u have to get the sex out of the way.

I had a very attractive friend who's assets were almost falling out of her clothes shocked

Walahi talahi, there was too much sexual tension.

We sat down and talked about it and agreed to sleep together once and get the sex out of the way.

Gabadaya, who am i to refuse.

Unfortunately or fortunately, once only was not enough; we had to do it a couple more time to really get the tension out.

She even gave me her naked pix as momentos

Me and her are the best of friends now.

She is married now and has 2 kids. tongue

I drink beer with her husband regularly as well. cool

No kasala wink

*And Yes, the husband doesn't know...
*And yes, i still have her naked pix
***Hmmm....Those kids look suspiciously familiar...
Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by Favolly(f): 1:01pm On Dec 25, 2015
Duru009:
Its possible to be friends......

But they will always end up banging eachoda. Its very difficult to be friends with a lady without banging.
All my female friends from high skul to university till i got a job. I will always bang them.

If you dont bang her she will always see you as a weak man.

Banging her will even mak her respact you more and always listen to your advise.

This is the true. Take it or leave it.
If you didn't smoke anything before typing this, then this is really tragic
Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by Vikky014(f): 1:03pm On Dec 25, 2015
Toks2008:
A MAN OR WOMAN CAN NOT BE JUST FRIENDS WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX

It’s no secret: guys and girls being "just friends" is a concept held by only the dreamers. Any lady who believes that she can be just a friend with a guy other than co-worker, co-student, or just on a platonic hi-hi level is in-fact the most myopic lady to walk on this planet

A guy’s friends consist of, well, only guys. The only reason a guy would go close to a girl would be to date or bed her. No guy is going to waste his time just being a friend with a girl because it’s not like she is a sports freak or a trans-gendered.

Guys have enough guy friends and won’t waste their time listening to ladies talk from a girl just to be their friend. Plain and simple he wants to bed you except of course you don't mind or he has not made it obvious yet.

Guys being friends with girls is a farce: either he wants to sleep with her, or she still believes in unicorns, because a guy cannot genuinely be friends with a girl and its either the lady secretly desires him or vis avis even while one of the two are ignorant of this.

In-fact i always tell a guy or lady to be more at alert when your bae says this about another opposite sex.."we are just friends,we enjoy each other's company,we are just fond of each other" because once you start hearing this from your bae,you should run because fondness is stronger than the feeling of love and what your bae will not dicsuss with you will be discussed freely with that person so of what use is the affair you are having?

I know some people will say not in all cases and i quite agree but there is a simple test to know if there is no hidden notion or surpressed desire so please as a lady just prove me wrong? give that just friend of yours a kiss and watch him stop you. After-all you guys ought to be just friends.

And for the married man, snap out of your delusion and tell yourself hard fact...YOU ARE OLOJU KOKORO...Let your wife be your only friend,best friend and close friend and same for the lady.

Keeping "friends" of the opposite sex while married or committed to someone is an emotional affair and its even worse than actual physical affair.

Just trying to make common sense.
HMMMMMMMMMMM..I HAV MANY MALE FRIENDS OOO SO U MEAN THEY ALL WANT TO BED VIKKY014..MY FORMER COURSE MATES
Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by iamord(m): 1:14pm On Dec 25, 2015
Rubbish. I have a Sexy lady as my closest friend .. With no string attached, we have been good
Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by Toks2008(op): 1:15pm On Dec 25, 2015
Duru009:
Its possible to be friends......

But thy will always end up banging eachoda. Its very difficult to be friends with a lady without banging.
All my female friends from high skul to university till i got a job. I will always bang them.

If you dont bang her she will always see you as a weak man.

Baging her will even mak her respact you more and always listen to your advise.

This is the true. Take it or leave it.
I do not fancy your tenses but i can relate with your raw message...

A lady i tot was just my friend came to my room while i was still in Uni and for one reason or the other she passed the night and i did not sleep with her .

About two weeks latter i went to her hostel and i was discussing with other ladies when she suddenly shouted....Bode is impotent from a reliable source...

All her friends were like..wettin this one dey talk...cos none had a clue that she passed the night in my place two weeks earlier...

This was a lady i tot we were just friends...

I also had another experience about 6months ago when a female facebook friend requested to pass the night in my place cos of a job interview since she was not based in lag...

She slept in my place for 3nights yet nothing happened and she told me frankly that she respects me....

Now from these two experiences among seceral others i hve come to realize that in most cases,one out of the two will usually have a neutral mindset while the other will be nursing desires so trust me..i know what i wrote.
Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by Toks2008(op): 1:16pm On Dec 25, 2015
Vikky014:
HMMMMMMMMMMM..I HAV MANY MALE FRIENDS OOO SO U MEAN THEY ALL WANT TO BED VIKKY014..MY FORMER COURSE MATES
I made it clear in my first paragraph.
Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by Toks2008(op): 1:21pm On Dec 25, 2015
rugged7:
Toks2008

WAITAMMINIT!!!

You can actually have a girl as your very good female friend.

However, both of u have to get the sex out of the way.

I had a very attractive friend who's assets were almost falling out of her clothes shocked

Walahi talahi, there was too much sexual tension.

We sat down and talked about it and agreed to sleep together once and get the sex out of the way.

Gabadaya, who am i to refuse.

Unfortunately or fortunately, once only was not enough; we had to do it a couple more time to really get the tension out.

She even gave me her naked pix as momentos

Me and her are the best of friends now.

She is married now and has 2 kids. tongue

I drink beer with her husband regularly as well. cool

No kasala wink

*And Yes, the husband doesn't know...
*And yes, i still have her naked pix
***Hmmm....Those kids look suspiciously familiar...
lol..your post is so rethorically ironic.
Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by henrydadon(m): 1:23pm On Dec 25, 2015
SirWere:
Why nothuh

My closest female friend is a fellow Arsenal fan. We're quite close, platonically........








Her brother is a soldier tho......
hahah. .no wonder ..bros no won visit barrack do frog jump
Re: Can A Guy and a lady be "Just Friends"? by Toks2008(op): 1:37pm On Dec 25, 2015
burmmersam:
In the actual sense, this article holds a fact that most people will dispute. Initially, I was like, "ki leleyi nso bayi". But when I got to where the article reads, "
I know some people will say not in all cases and i quite
agree but there is a simple test to know if there is no hidden
notion or surpressed desire so please as a lady just prove
me wrong? give that just friend of yours a kiss and watch
him stop you. After-all you guys ought to be just friends." Shouldn't we all just go for the test and come back here for the comments...
Lmao...i guess some ladies will expect a telemudo scene to play out where the guy will be like..no no no we should not be doing this...lol

Thanks for pointing that out jare.
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