osazeeblue01:
No. Any girl that told u she keep male friends than female just know that she is a prostitute. If u think am lying go for research yourself.

I mean who does this on xmas day?

Very possible......... But rare very rare

Toks2008:


Lmao...i guess some ladies will expect a telemudo scene to play out where the guy will be like..no no no we should not be doing this...lol

Thanks for pointing that out jare.

Guy u are wasting ur energy.

Most people here don't understand the kind of friendship(paddy paddy) u meant. that is why the relate it with people the met randomly (through circumstances) at school, church, workplace and neighbourhoods. they mix up acquaintances with paddies.

i shouldn't dabble in this but everybody keeps friendship for a reason though many don't know theirs. that is why we friend and unfriend people from time to time.

@Post

I don't agree because not everyone is interested in fvcking especially outside wedlock and especially not in this day and age with all the sexually transmitted diseases out there. I will caution females to be careful with Nigerian bred men. Many are potential rapists. I remember vividly what they did to one Cynthia Osokogu who was drugged, raped and killed by her facebook Nigerian male friends. The average Nigerian bred male does not understand the word "NO" when 'konji' (sexual urge) hooks him. Not only that, the Nigerian-bred male has a weird way of thinking. They usually always think that because a lady is nice to them, she wants to sleep with them at some point. That can't be further from the truth because ladies have types of men they date and the Nigerian bred male may not even be the lady's type. She sincerely may just be looking for friendship. Anyways, for those who have sex on their minds 24/7, I can see why they would think that every lady who chooses to be just friends with a guy will eventually succumb to having sex with him. Nigerian bred males think everyone is interested in catching their sexually transmitted diseases that have not yet begun to show symptoms

danbrowndmf:
Because of this comment make i follow u. I swear u say my mind...This just my mind you wrote here. Which drink you dy drink? Tell me make i buy am send u with 2shicken.

MinorityTribe:
Before Nko? What do women have to offer in a friendship apart from Sex. I can always rely on my male friends for everything else. You watched too much American movies.

How old are you?

naijaboiy:
I agree with the Op totally.

There ain't no way I can be friends with a girl purely because of that. Most of the girls that are just my friends now we didn't just start like that. There was an attraction either from my side or hers but circumstances didn't let things happen.

And yes if given the chance i'll still have sex with like 97% of my female friends. It's only girls that will not agree with this because they don't understand.

Any girl who thinks every guy that is her friend has not nursed the intention of having sex with her before is just deceiving herself plainly.

Quote me in maiduguri.

you said it all mehn!

yeah....a guy could be a good friend doesnt mean all guys....if u want to be recent on d happenings lately, father rape their daughters.,...d chances of a guy bcoming a close friend is like 1 guy in every 30 guys....be discerning and careful...guys nwadays takes chances...

Joavid:
From the posts I see here, men who can't have platonic friendships with the opposite sex are sexists.

They see women as tools and sex objects.
They see women as people who have nothing to offer in a friendship.

So many people with fvcked up minds.

Not true! Men are sexual animals. Women are sexual animals. There is nothing sexist about it.

Mekzy02:
you said it all mehn!

naijaboy has said d fact...it is full of fact witout an iota of deception...guys, wether in 50 years old relationship or more, could take dat sex involving chance if it calls for....those 'bible joseph' of a guy are in 2 of every 89 guys...be recent with the happenings...even father rape their daughters....#funny facT#

if u av a guy as a frd...b careful....he might be so cool..#optimistiC#...buh be careful....

Afam4eva:

Do you mean a man or a woman cos i don't know when love became top priority for men.

Nobody said it was top priority

It is possible but I think such friendship is only profitable for the matured ones.Most young girls will betray any kind of relationship once they meet the guy they love.For that guy,they are ready to deny their own mother let alone a male friend.

Na lie joor abi you are leaving in a local environment

I don't usually comment on public forums except I feel there is a miseducation in majority of the opinions. I am not an authority per say but I believe I have the capacity of being objective.
I will say that the diverse views expressed here are all valid based on the experience of the individual sharing it.

So can opposite sex be just friends ?

Well, not exactly in every case.

So where is the confusion coming?

Simple, those who can't handle an "expectation" thus pretend that they can. When they fail they say that it not possible while they knew exactly what they wanted and will wait for as long as possible to get it.

What happens when you start to 'develop' feelings for your 'friend'

#FACT, you can develop feelings for and attachments for your 'friend'. When that happens, someone in it for the sake of being a 'friend' will take measures to stop it...including walking out/away if it becomes necessary. This is usually out of love and sincerity. Someone who doesn't want to "hurt" his/her 'friendship' will do everything to protect it. If he/she fails will usually take the walk..#quote me.

Can you really call them your FRIENDS?

I think it is safe to say that if both parties are single, the term 'friend' MAY be valid. If one of the individuals involved is married or in a committed relationship, them the term 'friend...or "best friend" ' as commonly used is NO LONGER VALID. This is because I personally think that the person that you are with in a relationship should be your 'best friend'. It amounts to 'emotional infidelity' to be 'best friends' with someone who is not committed to you. It is an 'emotional affair' to actually depend on someone that is not committed ( by marriage and like agreements) to you emotionally. People make this mistake and it leads to problems in the long run. It has the potential of destroying your relationship with the legitimate person...with time. I have come across people that tell their 'best friends' of the opposite sex things that they withhold from their partner. It didn't start in a day, it was built over the years...

SOLUTION to the above senario is MAKE THEM JUST AN ACQUAINTANCE...set emotional boundaries... Physical ones may exist but the emotional one are tricky to draw afterall 'he is my 'best friend'.

BE WISE, BE CAREFUL... MERRY CHRISTMAS

Toks2008:


This one definite lacks good upbringing but must you let the world know?

You need serious spanking.

so having male friends equates to lack of good up bringing right? okay carry on
Have a great day

Its not easy o

I think we have to know the Fact that People or Individual are different. what applys to someone may not apply for the other... I respect every ones opinion on this matter. So run away from danger once you sense it coming

toks am with you on this, forget that frienship, na wash, most of the tym, either the lady or the guy may be nursin some feelings deep down, except if they are not too close sha.

hoobs:
Yess,bt my mind go still dy there,at a time we go chop clean mouth continue wid our friendship

I like people wey dey talk true.. ...heheheheheheeee

Afam4eva:

Aren't you a Lez?

What's up with all these labels?

Well yes a man and a woman can be friends but if they become too damm close then things might begin to happen that might be beyond their control.i am talking from experience.

Toks2008:


I made it clear in my first paragraph.

seriously some guys need Jesus in their life. i roll with brothers in the Lord dt can control themselves i also avoid being alone with any of my male frnds in a lonely place so evn if they r nursing crazy feelings they wunt b able to express it in reality... i had one funny experience while queuing to withdraw frm an atm the guy behind me was rubbing his stuff against my little asset. initially i thought it ws nt intentional and ignored him only for him to keep doing it. i hav to tell him to come to my front let me stay behind he did so wtout asking why ...my point is dt naturally guys will always nurse feelings evn wtout being ur frnd it now depends on the girl to draw the line.. so we girls know wht we r doing.. Thanks

kandiikane:


What's up with all these labels?

You mean like male and female?

Vikky014:
seriously some guys need Jesus in their life. i roll with brothers in the Lord dt can control themselves i also avoid being alone with any of my male frnds in a lonely place so evn if they r nursing crazy feelings they wunt b able to express it in reality... i had one funny experience while queuing to withdraw frm an atm the guy behind me was rubbing his stuff against my little asset. initially i thought it ws nt intentional and ignored him only for him to keep doing it. i hav to tell him to come to my front let me stay behind he did so wtout asking why ...my point is dt naturally guys will always nurse feelings evn wtout being ur frnd it now depends on the girl to draw the line.. so we girls know wht we r doing.. Thanks

lol...little asset indeed..anyways the truth is that judging from the comments so far,guys understand better because most ladies are neutral when it comes to this just friend thingy.

osazeeblue01:
No. Any girl that told u she keep male friends than female just know that she is a prostitute. If u think am lying go for research yourself.

Ode!

What's my own?

If you can't be just friends with me, no one will tell you before find another prey

Idrismusty97:
If you are a lady and you think you have male friends then i pity for the poor men you "Friendzone". Only a "Friendzone" guy can be your friend. Why should i just be your friend? You aren't interested in sport, You don't play games or some boys stuff. So i should just come to your house for what? Listen to some boring gist about yourself?

Interesting but you lost me on ‘boring gist'

Youngpo413:
you are very correct,I fuckkked one recently with ease and I just reach a conclusion that she is a hoe cos I'm really sure that those so called male friends are fuccccking her too,so I dumped her Asap.

You are a dog. How can you keep female friends. I am sure you are fucccking your other so-called female friends.

I guess so... Buh personally, i dnt keep female friends..

daretodiffer:

You are a dog. How can you keep female friends. I am sure you are fucccking your other so-called female friends.

Thanks