BoboYekini:
Hello, from the other side.

Same to you.

@Edwife: Thank God for healing.

Enjoy the season with a joyful 2016

@all: Compliments of the season

freecocoa:
Same to you.

For the coming year,

Odun yii,

a sowa s'ire

a sowa s'ayo

a sowa si gbogbo nkan

t'eyan fin layo

BoboYekini:

For the coming year,

Odun yii,

a sowa s'ire

a sowa s'ayo

a sowa si gbogbo nkan

t'eyan fin layo

Isêê ee.

BoboYekini:

For the coming year,

Odun yii,

a sowa s'ire

a sowa s'ayo

a sowa si gbogbo nkan

t'eyan fin layo

Amin o

Good evening people there's this friend of mine who almost got married last year. She had furnished her ex-fiancee's kitchen . Now she's in a dilenma of how to retrieve her set of pots,cutleries,table gas and some little things.
I don't know the advise to give her o. Anytime she calls the guy he rarely picks and anytime he picks he says he's not home.

bravitudenatura:
Good evening people there's this friend of mine who almost got married last year. She had furnished her ex-fiancee's kitchen . Now she's in a dilenma of how to retrieve her set of pots,cutleries,table gas and some little things.
I don't know the advise to give her o. Anytime she calls the guy he rarely picks and anytime he picks he says he's not home.

Poor thing.... Sure she doesn't want to count her pluses and forget the items?

She should have an idea of his schedule from their time together. For eg is he one to sleep in on Saturdays or go home straight after church on Sundays? She can just storm the place at those times but she shouldn't go alone in case it turns messy...

bravitudenatura:
Good evening people there's this friend of mine who almost got married last year. She had furnished her ex-fiancee's kitchen . Now she's in a dilenma of how to retrieve her set of pots,cutleries,table gas and some little things.
I don't know the advise to give her o. Anytime she calls the guy he rarely picks and anytime he picks he says he's not home.

She should look for money to buy a new set for herself.
Why do single girls pack all their loads into the house of a man who is not yet married to you?

bukatyne:
@Edwife: Thank God for healing.

Enjoy the season with a joyful 2016

@all: Compliments of the season

Thanks.

bravitudenatura:
Good evening people there's this friend of mine who almost got married last year. She had furnished her ex-fiancee's kitchen . Now she's in a dilenma of how to retrieve her set of pots,cutleries,table gas and some little things.
I don't know the advise to give her o. Anytime she calls the guy he rarely picks and anytime he picks he says he's not home.

If the man during the relationship offered her gifts(monetary or otherwise) she should count her losses.

Next time,she should not play the wife before the ring! Let her move on already!

Compliments of the season house... May this new year bring us everlasting Joy and fufiled desires. Amen.

Edwife, it's nice to see you again. With his stripes, they're healed. Trust you had a yummy Christmas? Pele dear.

bravitudenatura:
Good evening people there's this friend of mine who almost got married last year. She had furnished her ex-fiancee's kitchen . Now she's in a dilenma of how to retrieve her set of pots,cutleries,table gas and some little things.
I don't know the advise to give her o. Anytime she calls the guy he rarely picks and anytime he picks he says he's not home.

Lmao. You know you are desperate when you have to single handedly buy your matrimonial gas cooker! Not kero stove but gas cooker. LOL. Send him a text that you want your property and are coming at so so time. He should either make himself available or give you an alternate time. Be brief, and direct. If he no respond, pay some boys, stake out his house and pounce on him and the house as soon as you see him coming home. Bring pick up truck and pack away your belongings. Even one mopol is ok

bravitudenatura:
Good evening people there's this friend of mine who almost got married last year. She had furnished her ex-fiancee's kitchen . Now she's in a dilenma of how to retrieve her set of pots,cutleries,table gas and some little things.
I don't know the advise to give her o. Anytime she calls the guy he rarely picks and anytime he picks he says he's not home.

Does she hope to drop the stuffs she enjoyed too...

They are gone with the failed relationship.

Ewuro oooooooo
Where have you been
naija, Dubai or Australia

Compliments of the season House!

Hope no one has been affected by this severe weather everywhere.

Re kitchen stuff . . .pls just walk away
Lessons Learnt
He and his new partner are probably using the stuff anyway
Some people no get shame like that
Next time keep your money until you are married and then you can buy the things that you need.

If you are buying a gift then that's a different thing altogether. Im assuming that the pots and pans were already in use by the time the relationship broke down.

It works the other way too and I know of someone who left his house for his gf due to DV but when he came back the house was empty. She took everything including furniture and electronics.

Some people have agendas o! just pray that one doesn't fall into their hands.

Compliments of the season everyone ...Hope we all had a nice Christmas celebration.

Back at work I was so envious this morning when I left home and hubby and the kids were happily snoring away. Oh well the good part of it is I can get back to my routine and eat less. Chai the crap I have eaten this period I SMH for myself.

Ewuro4 how are you and family sis Missed you

To all my nairaland family, clients and loved ones.. This is a special appreciative message from me to you all. God bless and bless you richly.

And here we are again ! Rouding up 2015 filled with joy and hope. Its just 2 days from 2016 and as i look back at the begining of 2015 i am excited and greatful to you all.
Tru it all, you have been there. In the trying moments when i think of your support, love, encouragement, your comments and likes, they kept me strong and spured me futher.
I cant thank you enough neither can i find words to truly express how appreciative i am.
THANK YOU ! THANK YOU ! THANK YOU ! THANK YOU ! And THANK YOU !

You all have been awesome. Without YOU there is no Boash Cakes and Events.
Lets do it again come 2016 and we assure you of the very very best.

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HAPPY NEW YEAR !!! I LOVE YOU ALL.

thorpido:
She should look for money to buy a new set for herself.
Why do single girls pack all their loads into the house of a man who is not yet married to you?

Just a few days ago, one nairalander claimed his cousin was about to ditch a chic because they were engaged and the lady wasn't purchasing kitchen items or something like that. He felt she wasn't ready for marriage! What had happened was the said lady served food to her fiance/boyfriend and a guest with stainless steel plates and he was so embarrassed and felt she should have/own more decent plates....

so you see the dilemma single women are sometimes placed in

babythug:


Just a few days ago, one nairalander claimed his cousin was about to ditch a chic because they were engaged and the lady wasn't purchasing kitchen items or something like that. He felt she wasn't ready for marriage! What had happened was the said lady served food to her fiance/boyfriend and a guest with stainless steel plates and he was so embarrassed and felt she should have/own more decent plates....

so you see the dilemma single women are sometimes placed in

Personaly I dont see why a batchelor has to live like a tramp simply becasue they are not married yet
What was the man in question doing with stainless steel plates in the first instance?
Did he steal it from a buka

Seriously many mothers are just getting it so wrong
They put so much emphasis on training their daughters to be house proud and leaving their sons to rot away to become alapa ike

Why wont a man who lives on his own have his own decent cutlery and plates?
I remember when my brother got married, he and his wife went to the market and sold most of their household utensil wedding presents cos he already had most of them and no space to be piling things up.
Some people make batchelorhood look like a disorder.

babythug:


Just a few days ago, one nairalander claimed his cousin was about to ditch a chic because they were engaged and the lady wasn't purchasing kitchen items or something like that. He felt she wasn't ready for marriage! What had happened was the said lady served food to her fiance/boyfriend and a guest with stainless steel plates and he was so embarrassed and felt she should have/own more decent plates....

so you see the dilemma single women are sometimes placed in

Tearoses beat me to some of the points i wanted to raise.
When a man is a bachelor,he must have things in the house that are sufficient for his bachelorhood at least.When I was a bachelor,I had a camp gas and had ceramic plates.That was all i needed.I didn't need any woman to buy and bring any other thing and whoever came to my house used what I had.
After you marry,you can decide(usually would) to change those things.At that time the woman can decide to buy new ones.

The case you mentioned,was it not his house?Why didn't he put those things there?Whatever you have in the house as a bachelor is what you use.When you visit the lady's home,she serves you with what she has.When you marry,you can both decide to change whatever you desire.
There should still be limits even while courting.A fiancee is not yet a wife.

tearoses:


Personaly I dont see why a batchelor has to live like a tramp simply becasue they are not married yet
What was the man in question doing with stainless steel plates in the first instance?
Did he steal it from a buka

Seriously many mothers are just getting it so wrong
They put so much emphasis on training their daughters to be house proud and leaving their sons to rot away to become alapa ike

Why wont a man who lives on his own have his own decent cutlery and plates?
I remember when my brother got married, he and his wife went to the market and sold most of their household utensil wedding presents cos he already had most of them and no space to be piling things up.
Some people make batchelorhood look like a disorder.

Half of all the pots we use today are hubbys pots from before we got married.

I was a typical iyawo nylon bag ( ok not nylon more like LV+ Luggage ) cos most of the kitchen stuff ( utensils/crockery/pots) that we used in our first few years of marriage were stuff from hubbys bachelor days. Maybe cos I relocated sha but my husband had always been self sufficient . I cant shakara him with taking care of the house/cooking/kids( make I no lie sha It can be annoying sometimes). He even jokingly says 'iyawo don't you think we ought to have changed this wine glasses after all this years' I can be so carefree on some things that are considered 'wifely'.. As long as the wine glasses are not broken why are we buying new sets naa?

I only just started buying 'wifely' materials say in the last 2- 3 years. when we moved house. That's why I think a couple should understand each other. By certain standards on certain things 'I am not 'wifely' at all and my my mother tried o its just that my fathers genes are too strong.

Babythug I wandered past that thread, was the serving in his house or her house?

damiso:


Half of all the pots we use today are hubbys pots from before we got married.

I was a typical iyawo nylon bag ( ok not nylon more like LV+ Luggage ) cos most of the kitchen stuff ( utensils/crockery/pots) that we used in our first few years of marriage were stuff from hubbys bachelor days. Maybe cos I relocated sha but my husband had always been self sufficient . I cant shakara him with taking care of the house/cooking/kids( make I no lie sha It can be annoying sometimes). He even jokingly says 'iyawo don't you think we ought to have changed this wine glasses after all this years' I can be so carefree on some things that are considered 'wifely'.. As long as the wine glasses are not broken why are we buying new sets naa?

I only just started buying 'wifely' materials say in the last 2- 3 years. when we moved house. That's why I think a couple should understand each other. By certain standards on certain things 'I am not 'wifely' at all and my my mother tried o its just that my fathers genes are too strong.

Babythug I wandered past that thread, was the serving in his house or her house?

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Lol@ your comments... you sef change the wine glasses na

I also am not sure where the said food was served oh!!!

babythug:
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Lol@ your comments... you sef change the wine glasses na

I also am not sure where the said food was served oh!!!

Don't worry I bought some new ones How many times or people are we hosting sef? No be only me and am dey use wine glass?

I hate clutter so taken the old ones to the charity shop. I chuck out anything that I have not used in 2/3 years and when I buy stuff I tend to give away or throw away the old ones. My mother is horrified


My biggest fear is my house turning to my mothers My mother has enough plates, cups, coolers etc to cater to a 500 guest party. Expensive ones o . But when we have a big party we get caterers who end up providing the table placement which includes plates,cutlery and serving stuff ie chafing dishes . I don't get it Her former argument was 'I am buying for you people you will people will thank me when you marry ' People being me and my sister but now me and my sister don't even want them

I asked cos if it was in his house I don't get how the girl should be the embarrassed one?

damiso:


Don't worry I bought some new ones How many times or people are we hosting sef? No be only me and am dey use wine glass?

I hate clutter so taken the old ones to the charity shop. I chuck out anything that I have not used in 2/3 years and when I buy stuff I tend to give away or throw away the old ones. My mother is horrified


My biggest fear is my house turning to my mothers My mother has enough plates, cups, coolers etc to cater to a 500 guest party. Expensive ones o . But when we have a big party we get caterers who end up providing the table placement which includes plates,cutlery and serving stuff ie chafing dishes . I don't get it Her former argument was 'I am buying for you people you will people will thank me when you marry ' ;DPeople being me and my sister but now me and my sister don't even want them

I asked cos if it was in his house I don't get how the girl should be the embarrassed one?

I think it was his house though I don't think it was stated.He expected her to 'set' the house while planning for marriage.

thorpido:
I think it was his house though I don't think it was stated.He expected her to 'set' the house while planning for marriage.

He should be the one embarrassed that he only had stainless steel plates.

I don't even think 'setting the house' is a bad thing per se as many engaged couples actually get/and furnish an apartment together.

But to be reconsidering her marriage suitability based on the fact that she served him/friend or relatives with the plates available at the time in his house I don't get.

damiso:


He should be the one embarrassed that he only had stainless steel plates.

I don't even think 'setting the house' is a bad thing per se as many engaged couples actually get/and furnish an apartment together.

But to be reconsidering her marriage suitability based on the fact that she served him/friend or relatives with the plates available at the time in his house I don't get.

Getting an apartment and furnishing together is alright as long as they both decide to do it.

I think this guy in question thinks the kitchen department should be taken care of by his fiancee and suitability for marriage depends on how well she does it.

thorpido:
Getting an apartment and furnishing together is alright as long as they both decide to do it.

I think this guy in question thinks the kitchen department should be taken care of by his fiancee and suitability for marriage depends on how well she does it.

Oh well I guess different strokes. But he could have as well told her na?

See now the 'wifely' lady that bought kitchen stuff was not married and now wants her stuff back

That's why I think the 'Is he/she wife/husband material '? question can never be fully exhausted.

baby124:

Lmao. You know you are desperate when you have to single handedly buy your matrimonial gas cooker! Not kero stove but gas cooker. LOL. Send him a text that you want your property and are coming at so so time. He should either make himself available or give you an alternate time. Be brief, and direct. If he no respond, pay some boys, stake out his house and pounce on him and the house as soon as you see him coming home. Bring pick up truck and pack away your belongings. Even one mopol is ok

I always laugh when I see women use this phrase 'pay/get some boys and pounce on him'

Fact: Man or woman, you don't just get hoodlums for hire. Unless you're a hoodlum yourself (or you have family that's a hoodlum).

damiso:


Oh well I guess different strokes. But he could have as well told her na?

See now the 'wifely' lady that bought kitchen stuff was not married and now wants her stuff back

That's why I think the 'Is he/she wife/husband material '? question can never be fully exhausted.

Truly the whole concept can only be fully clarified when the couple actually get married!

See the kitchen items purchasing fiancee probably imagined it was a done deal, hence she stocked the gentleman's kitchen like she had moved in. she probably also felt i'm always here anyway so lemme make us comfortable or something of the sort.

The non purchasing kitchen items fiancee probably feels when we marry i will buy the required items etc etc.

Either way it's a dilemma LOL

thorpido:
Getting an apartment and furnishing together is alright as long as they both decide to do it.

I think this guy in question thinks the kitchen department should be taken care of by his fiancee and suitability for marriage depends on how well she does it.

This is well said. And from that post the guy in question did mention that he cousin had already determined to buy some kitchen items himself but expected the lady to buy or rather have started buying.

I can't understand why he wanted to discard her because of a *mere that* sha!

damiso:


Oh well I guess different strokes. But he could have as well told her na?

See now the 'wifely' lady that bought kitchen stuff was not married and now wants her stuff back

That's why I think the 'Is he/she wife/husband material '? question can never be fully exhausted.

Yea,it's different things for different folks but I don't think a lady should do too much.

babythug:


This is well said. And from that post the guy in question did mention that he cousin had already determined to buy some kitchen items himself but expected the lady to buy or rather have started buying.

I can't understand why he wanted to discard her because of a *mere that* sha!

I think he stated that she was working and he didn't see what 'assets' she had from her income.
He's probably also one of those men who think a girl's competence in the kitchen is top priority.

damiso:
Compliments of the season everyone ...Hope we all had a nice Christmas celebration.

Back at work I was so envious this morning when I left home and hubby and the kids were happily snoring away. Oh well the good part of it is I can get back to my routine and eat less. Chai the crap I have eaten this period I SMH for myself.

Ewuro how are you and family sis Missed you

Miss you too sis Hope you had a wonderful Christmas celebration and How are my cuties? Lol @iyawo nylon bag, but honestly why buy another set when those ones you have rarely get used?
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Honestly I can't do it, stay home all holiday season without going crazy. chat with a friend yesterday who asked how holiday went, told her it's starting to feel like an addiction I must work sha ni.... @crap eating is the opposite for me, my workplaces are packed with junks and food, somebody brought beef/turkey jerky (like kilishi) to work, been snaking on that stuff since Boxing Day, even packed dry cereal & nido to soak knack am sef. The thing sweet die.

Tearoses where have I been?, kotangora ni Compliments of the season sis Dec 've always been crazy busy month for me, everyone wants a time off and I'm stuck with this weird looking schedule I've to figure out how to fill up. Olorun lo ni emi mi.

@babythug.. I'd leave all that crap for him jare, if in her shoes. Sad but fact is we have to cut our loses whenever a relationship fails.