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Sister Uve got a good man better hold him tight,don't say I didn't tell you,a man that treats u well,respect you,take care of you is worth loving,or better still go try the love thing and u will understand,only that by then it will be too late,cos another woman will be flaunting what u rejected.
Besides didn't u say ur heart has been broken before.
A word is enough for a wise woman.
All single ladies pray for is a good man.

gottliebglobal:
You don't make any sense

I don't want to

These are the Jet age girls abi women. If you tell this contraceptive woman that IN THOSE DAY WOMEN WERE NOT EXPECTED TO TAKE IN CONTRACEPTIVES, these type of women and young men will simply say you are of the old generation. You are very backward, this and that.
Tufiakwa to today's young ladies, who are living toward a worthless life.

These are the Jet age girls abi women. If you tell this contraceptive woman that IN THOSE DAY WOMEN WERE NOT EXPECTED TO TAKE IN CONTRACEPTIVES, these type of women and young men will simply say you are of the old generation. You are very backward, this and that.
Tufiakwa to today's young ladies, who are living toward a worthless life, all in the name of civilization.

Trendition:
Got married two years ago to a now 34year old man, and I am 26. Met him through my mum when he came into the country 3years ago, so we dated for about 9months. We got married but he had to remain in canada while I stayed back.


Truth be told, I never loved him. He's rich, okay-looking, charming and all but I just do not love him. I married him cos I kinda saw him as a clean slate, a chance to start anew cos I have lived life, done things that I am not proud of, gotten heart broken. And I just don't want kids with a man I do not love. They say u can fall in love after marriage but not here, I just admire my husband.

Hubby comes home in December and stays through to february. I kept d pills in an empty bottle of multivitamins but never thought he'ld look closely at d inscriptions on the tablets cos I had gotten away with it the past years. No one has been on my neck about getting pregnant though.


He was so angry I thought he'ld throw me out that night. He's been sleeping in d guests', doesn't eat my food, he says I am a selfish and wicked woman. I'm sooooo scared he'll call my parents, I'll just die.


Do I just walk out now and risk my parents knowing what really happend? Will I find such a gentle man again? Do I get pregnant? will I love my kids? He's such a wonderful man but I don't love him!!!



PS: I never cheated on him

you are everything that is wrong with this world https://www.kanyetothe.com/forum/Smileys/default/3Ckf6mf.gif

cruzita:
singing*this is super storyyyyyyyyyy
a life of strife and sorrow oooooooo

daretodiffer:
The man must have been one of those men that scremas ashawo, hoes, sluts etc. He must have called second generation Nigerian women names and made them promises he knew he wouldn't keep. He could have knocked up quite a few and just couldn't be bothered because he is a smartass.

Oi, fit's adee?



@OP, I am not gonna be mad and curse you out like the rest.

I doubt you'll ever love this man even if you decide to be pregnant by him. The cracks between you guys and the chasm in the marriage will further widen when you guys start living together. You are still fairly young at 26, liberate the poor guy. You don't need him, he probably doesn't need a lady like you too.

Yalla, bye bye!

Trendition:
Truth be told, I never loved him. He's rich, okay-looking, charming and all but I just do not love him.

Trendition:
And I just don't want kids with a man I do not love. They say u can fall in love after marriage but not here, I just admire my husband.

Trendition:
He's such a wonderful man but I don't love him!!!

You have been very selfish, from your reasons for marrying this innocent gentleman to these cruel actions of yours. You have hurt him, deeply. You did not love him while you were dating, you do not love him now, and I doubt you ever will. This is a very big problem. You cannot remain married to someone you do not love. It is not fair to him at all. He deserves someone who will love him wholeheartedly, as well as want to have his children, raise a family together. You are fully aware of what you are doing and what you want. I would not suggest having his kids now or thinking that would change things. Kids will only expand the problems you had before, so right now you don't love him; you might just end up hating him when you have his kids. Do not bring children into this marriage if you know you do not love this man. At this point, the best gift you can give to this man is to leave him and let him find the right woman for himself.

Divorce him and see how destiny will punish you in the hand of fake or lust love outside.I pray you won't regret your actions.

If you really dont love him free yourself from the bondage. Go and marry someone else.

KimBerlyie:
Ahan han auntie how on earth can u marry someone u don't love nd u ain't even planning on having kids with him some ppl never cease to amaze me, so now what? Re u planning on using contraceptives till u re 40 or u plan on divorcing him wen u av finish admiring him like a new bride?


Now u re asking for advice, wat sort of advice re u expecting ehn? U were suppose to ask for advice before marrying him. Anyway u better open up to him, tell him how u feel nd apologize. Then u make ur marriage work, I don't advice divorce at all so u better start preparing ur mind from now.

U dont have to bash her,since u know better tell her what to do.
Bashing her doesnt help matters or show that u are wiser

@ OP i know how u feel and u have been sincere enough.
what u need to do is to Go on your knees and apologize to your husband before things get worse.
Secondly u need to make up your mind and realize that u are married which is a good thing.If u dont love your husband well u can get pregnant at least am sure u will love your baby and maybe from there u will start loving him too besides u said he isnt always in naija so u can still be with your lovely baby.
Divorce is also an option though i would not advice u to do that cos u will regret it, so many women out there are looking for half the man u have .immediately u move out your position is occupied and u might not find someone else to marry u so quickly...
U cant eat your cake and have it dear u just have to faace life somehow and be happy..

All the best

Spits on thread...d fear of woman ......

These are the Jet age girls abi women. If you tell this contraceptive woman that IN THOSE DAY WOMEN WERE NOT EXPECTED TO TAKE IN CONTRACEPTIVES, these type of women and young men will simply say you are of the old generation. You are very backward, this and that.
Tufiakwa to today's young ladies, who are living toward a worthless life, all in the name of civilization.....

Please divorce him

never get pregnant for him Children deserve parents who want them not parents who had them grudgingly

You are someone I would like to call BT-1000,Coon and a hoochie coochie mama! From what you wrote I saw you to be a very heartless lil hoodrat. Your husband made a mistake of going back home to marry you. Your problem is that you still want to enjoy life a little bit, you still want to be that 'free', 'deceivingly-hot' girl.
Anyway, if I were your husband I would file for divorce straight up! I've got no time for bums!

Chose one out of em..

chccho:
U dont have to bash her,since u know better tell her what to do.
Bashing her doesnt help matters or show that u are wiser

@ OP i know how u feel and u have been sincere enough.
what u need to do is to Go on your knees and apologize to your husband before things get worse.
Secondly u need to make up your mind and realize that u are married which is a good thing.If u dont love your husband well u can get pregnant at least am sure u will love your baby and maybe from there u will start loving him too..
Divorce is also an option though i would not advice u to do that cos u will regret it, so many women out there are looking for half the mn u have got so immediately u move u position is occupied and u might not find someone else to marry u so quickly...
U cant eat your cake and have it dear u just have to faace life somehow and be happy..

All the best

Hell-o ooohh , did u see me bashing her ehn? Or do u even know d meaning of bashing? Y don't u pray for a woman marry u without loving u and also plan on not having kids with u then come over here and tell us ur story. Mr solowizer

olukenzo:
Oi, fit's adee?



@OP, I am not gonna be mad and curse you out like the rest.

I doubt you'll ever love this man even if you decide to be pregnant by him. The cracks between you guys and the chasm in the marriage will further widen when you guys start living together. You are still fairly young at 26, liberate the poor guy. You don't need him, he probably doesn't need a lady like you too.

Yalla, bye bye!

Why did you quote me?

You didn't ask us whether u could marry him o. But u did. Now u are saying u don't love him. Why then did u marry him in first place.

Get preggy.... just a child... u would appreciate ur child... and get to love ur child, then get to love the father (how it works, is a miracle)

Trust me... u would want a 2nd so as. To avoid ur child being lonely.

I understand ur plight, but u need to help the man. He sees. A future in u. Trust me

God would see u through

@Trendition one more thing you should keep in mind is not to get married to your kid(s) over your hubby. it is something i see happen as it is quite easy to bond with the one whom you carry and birth.

Op I don't blv ur story though unless u're double dating and seriously in love with the other guy than ur Canadian bootie bag.

People like you are just confused.Why wasting the mans time.I hope he calls your parents and dump you for some deserving person.You dont love him yet you went ahead to marry him because he is rich.You don't deserve that guy at all. He was so unfortunate to have crossed your path.I hope and pray he sends you packing and he settles with a good woman while you eventually end up with an irresponsible guy so you can live in lifetime regrets. Useless girls frustrating the lives of good guys.

daretodiffer:
Why did you quote me?

I was just showing off my Doric since your location says Scotland. I wrote "what is wrong" in humour as your comment seemed off.

KimBerlyie:
Hell-o ooohh , did u see me bashing her ehn? Or do u even know d meaning of bashing? Y don't u pray for a woman marry u without loving u and also plan on not having kids with u then come over here and tell us ur story. Mr solowizer

U dont have to be bitter

If this story is true then I seriously think you need your brains examined by a psychiatrist..... Anyways u think uя still a young girl coz uя 26, God bless the day that God will open this Man's eye to know that you really don't love him that's why u don't want 2 have a baby for him...... Just pray to God this childish behavior will leave you b4 the young man will know and kick you out of his life, uя life will end up with bitter regrets...., if I were. Him I'll just take uя best friend and make her my mistress by the time uя sences are back. Then I'll divorce you, give u all the money. You need 2 go and marry the guy u love...... I can't imagine this wickedness in my life

Trendition:
Got married two years ago to a now 34year old man, and I am 26. Met him through my mum when he came into the country 3years ago, so we dated for about 9months. We got married but he had to remain in canada while I stayed back.


Truth be told, I never loved him. He's rich, okay-looking, charming and all but I just do not love him. I married him cos I kinda saw him as a clean slate, a chance to start anew cos I have lived life, done things that I am not proud of, gotten heart broken. And I just don't want kids with a man I do not love. They say u can fall in love after marriage but not here, I just admire my husband.

Hubby comes home in December and stays through to february. I kept d pills in an empty bottle of multivitamins but never thought he'ld look closely at d inscriptions on the tablets cos I had gotten away with it the past years. No one has been on my neck about getting pregnant though.


He was so angry I thought he'ld throw me out that night. He's been sleeping in d guests', doesn't eat my food, he says I am a selfish and wicked woman. I'm sooooo scared he'll call my parents, I'll just die.


Do I just walk out now and risk my parents knowing what really happend? Will I find such a gentle man again? Do I get pregnant? will I love my kids? He's such a wonderful man but I don't love him!!!



PS: I never cheated on him

Really don't no why people will not cherish and value what they have until they lose it. If only you know what you're doing to yourself. You're gradually opening the door for Satan to creep into your matrimonial home by breaking the trust your man have for you.

Remember.. it is difficult to retrieve broken trust when it is gone. Grow up and act wise.. you owe your man a sincere apology.


Moreover, who says love does not grow when given time. Please learn to love your man. God help you!

scachy:
I wish I know who this innocent n gullible young man is. I would just tell him how deceitful, wicked,selfish, Greed n above all, a heartless bad ass b!tch u are. N I pray n hope that he ll see through ur deceptive eyes n Accord u a well deserved disgrace n humiliation of ur life.

For God's, u r such a disgrace to marriage n womanhood!!
I pity many married men cos de got stucked to semi devils n scammers in wife clothing.
Smh!

Hmmmm,wao

olukenzo:
I was just showing off my Doric since your location says Scotland. I wrote "what is wrong" in humour as your comment seemed off.

okay

We speak English not Gaelic

On wedding day, when I see couple smiling. I wonder all what's on their mind.

You don't know what you want in life,that's why you live a careless life.I pray he throws you out because you don't deserve him.