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Without mincing words, love is the brick that holds our life together, no wonder the word of God declare that God is Love.There is no more justification for undying love than this. But often prove problematic because the two individual who profess love for each other do not understand each other. It is best however if the woman know what often offend the man, so that she might take precaution and thereby avoid unnecessary confrontation with the man she loves.
Men on their part need to enlighten the women folk on things they often do that make them to Jilt the ladies. a wise lady would definitely want to read this article and put her relationships with her man in good order to avoid the mistakes that can spell doom for her dream Man or her “Mr. Right”.
So this article is a scanning of heart of man and major reasons they often change
one lady after another and how you can avoid such ugly experience by avoiding the mistakes that their victims made.
Nobody’s perfect, but it seems there are some mistakes that have more dire consequences on your love relationship than others. Have you made any of these blunders?:
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1. The mistake of Changing the him:

In real life, it is very difficult to change a young growing child, how much more an adult! It is very difficult to change a man
in relationship, especially these that are
in love. Many young ladies who had crush
on a guy they have feelings for and were able to get to such guys’front and win
their heart often fails when it comes to winning the battle within the guy of
which they knew nothing of before hand,
and when it happens this way, the world
of such ladies seems to go into accelerated confusion.
Now not willing to quit, they would say “l
will change him” i am going to make him
a different person entirely. Watch out that is a costly mistake There’s nothing that turns off a man like meeting a woman he’s trying to impress and then having her immediately try to turn him into her latest “project” that she’s going to fix. Maybe it’s criticizing the way he dresses, insulting his table manners, or ridiculing his appearance or grooming habits. Women have a way of doing that because they tend to be caretakers by nature but frankly, it usually doesn’t end well for either party, and it just feels bad all the way around. People want to be seen, heard and appreciated for who they are. Never allow a man to pick wrong
impression about you in the name that
you want to change him. Some women
have the habit of calling a friend’s attention or a third party to the attitude
of their husband that they do not like.
THIS IS TOTALLY WRONG
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2. Feeling Like You’re A Failure In Relationships:

When some people see that things aren’t
working they become depressed. They
start to feel as though they’re not loveable, that destiny is against them or that they will always be a failure in love. The truth is that you’re not a failure. You simple have not yet been taught important truths about relationships.
Once you learn and practice new ideas
and methods, you’ll be able to handle your life in a way you may have never thought possible.
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3. Hacking into phone(s):

It's good to share phones and to be jealous over the one you love. But becoming over jealous is a no go area, becuase it makes you insecure in the relationship and 'some' men can use that as an advantage against you. Looking for suspicious messages and then yelling at him for the coded text he sent to his female 'co-worker' or females generally.
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4. Assumption:

Believing Your Partner Should Read Your
Mind, And Know What You Want Without
You “Communicating” Clearly. “If he really loved me, he knows what I need and he should give it to me.” Many believe that if their partners really loved them, they would read their minds. It wouldn’t be necessary to have to actually ask for what they wanted. This is one of the most
serious mistakes some females make in
relationships. Without truthful, open,
communication no relationship can flourish. Effective communication, however, can be a skill. And though you
may feel that you have repeated yourself
a thousand times.. There are available
communication techniques which, in and
of themselves, can save your relationship. Not only is it necessary to know what you
want, and to ask for it clearly without
assumption that you man should have
known.
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5. Not Respecting His Personal Space:

If he’s in a bad mood or doesn’t feel like talking, leave him alone and let it be.
Most guys don’t like to talk about their
issues the way women do. Instead, they
prefer to pull back and work things out
internally. “No matter what I do I can’t get him to talk, and I do not believe he is sharing all of his honest feelings with me.” Many women claim they can’t get
men to talk. When time comes for intimate conversation guys clam up.
Women feel shut out and men feel misunderstood. However, there is something women don’t realize. Men
want to talk. Under the right conditions,
they’ll talk all night long. However, something else many don’t realize this,
men are more fragile than women. In order for them to talk, things have to be
right. All that’s needed here is to learn
how to create the right conditions, what
is necessary for a man to feel safe enough
with you to talk.
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6. Making the Relationship your Ultimate Source of Happiness:

Women need to understand that relationship is a part of their life and not their entire life. Nothing suffocates man more than a woman who relies on him for everything, has nothing going on for herself and is extremely needy. Some women cut off their friends and family as soon as they get into a relationship or meet them rarely, making their man the focus of their lives, thinking this will make your man happy, it won’t. Have a
hobby, some passion, hang out with your friends with no strings attached and
family, have a positive glow. Don’t be boring.
Some men do no like women that are boring. Don’t be one of those girls who forgets her friends and her interests as soon as she has a man, it never ends well and makes you look needy.
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7. Not Taking Care of Yourself or Letting Yourself go:

It's a shame to see how many women think it’s okay to stop working out and shaving their legs as soon as they’re in a relationship. If anything, you should feel more motivated to make the effort once things are more settled to keep the attraction alive and sexual energy buzzing. It is a common practice by some women, once they are in a long term relationship and they feel secure that the man is in it for the long run especially after marriage and kids, they let themselves go and feel there’s no need to shave your legs, arm pit, work out, wear nice outfits or look good just for your man, like you used to do in the beginning and during your courtship. Women defend this point by saying he should love me at my worst, for my natural look, hey!!! nobody’s asking you to look like Barbie or Iya Sikira 24/7 all that is being asked is to at least look clean, smell nice,
be healthy be presentable.

Remember,now that the relationship has been going on for quite some time it is more important to keep things feeling ‘sexy’ and refreshing.
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8. Being Aggressive and Passive:

Nothing drives men crazier than a woman being passive aggressive, when you clearly look upset but say ‘nothing’ when he asks what’s wrong. Don’t just say nothing and then continue being sad and
weird expecting him to force you into telling him, this will only annoy him because men are more straight forward by nature and it just pisses them off when women act all dramatic about things. If it’s something he did then don’t go for the silent treatment, tell him what’s bothering you, have a discussion about it and if it’s something outside the
relationship then let him help you by
being your support. We all have bad days,
it’s understandable. However, it’s in your
best interest to try and be happy and positive. No one wants to hang around with a Negative Nancy. In general, we’re
drawn to people who are happy and radiate a positive energy. Wake up with a
smile, express gratitude, see the good in
your life and in your relationship. This will not only help you in your relationships, but it will make your life better overall.
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9. Love him not in the way that makes him feel loved:

As true as this is for men, even women tend to take their man for granted.
Appreciate the things he is doing for you,
focus on his good more than his bad. For example you have date night planned and he gets thirty minutes late but gets you flowers to make up for it and is all apologetic, but all you do is fight him for
being late and ruin the date by being in a
bad mood for the rest of the night. If he
does something nice for you encourage
him by being thankful instead of acting all snobby about it like it was his duty to act this way.
Everyone feels love differently. Most women feel loved when their man brings
them a bouquet of flowers while this type of gesture would be meaningless to a guy. Guys have their own ways of feeling loved. It could be gifts, food, compliments, a cup of tea, or a massage at the end of a long day. Pay attention to how he responds to things to determine what makes him feel truly loved it should be obvious and try to do whatever it is as much as possible.
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10. Over Possessive and Jealous over Your Man:

Your over reaction when he talks to the opposite sex. It is in the nature of a man to look at attractive women. If you just act jealous and flip out when he does, it shows us that you’re insecure.
Being insecure is a very big turn off for guys. If you find that you’re constantly jealous when he’s around other women, you need to re-evaluate some issues in this relationship. First, you need to build up your self-esteem. No man will want to cheat on a woman who’s confident in herself and secure in the relationship.You also need to evaluate the trust issues found in this relationship. More so, do you trust him or not?

Addition
And finally, you need to see if he’s trying to make you jealous on purpose or that he is actually trying to cheat. If a man is trying to cheat, he WILL NEVER try to do it in front of you (at least no smart man will). That being said, if he’s talking to a woman in front of you, know that he’s probably just talking. Jealousy is an unnecessary emotion, an unnecessary strain that people put on their minds. At the end of the day, if one wants to cheat, he will cheat regardless of the fact that you’re jealous or not.
Acting jealous will only destroy your relationship, regardless of what the other person is doing. With that in mind, what’s the point of wasting your precious energy on something like jealousy when you could be doing a lot more productive things that time. You need to believe in yourself, you need to be sure that the person you’re with has absolutely no reason to cheat on you and if he does do it, then he’s the ONLY one losing out.
If any guy cheats on you, it’s a sign telling you that the relationship was headed down the wrong path from the start, anyway. It wasn’t meant to be. The first thing on your mind should be, "Thank
God this happened now" and not later.

Here I am..

Na that No3 dey always vex me pass,

It's like every girl's wired to just want to go through your phone. When they see something,they'll start crying, wetin carry you enter there when u no say u no go like wetin you go see.

well it seems that everything they do is a mistake

There's no such a thing as perfect.. In fact, Infatuation is when you find somebody who is absolutely perfect. Love is when you realize that they aren't and it doesn’t matter.

All the points are on point.!

ivyT:
All the points are on point.!

Just on point. My ex went through my phn one day nd saw a number of anoda lady, b4 i cud say "jack", she has startd caln d oda grl, i was like u went tru my phn 2 spoil anoda persons day? I dnt like sumone spyn on my phn, i hate it.

Maiconyoung:
Just on point. My ex went through my phn one day nd saw a number of anoda lady, b4 i cud say "jack", she has startd caln d oda grl, i was like u went tru my phn 2 spoil anoda persons day? I dnt like sumone spyn on my phn, i hate it.

'Most' people (majority) Dislike it when there are some traces of guilt on the phone.

Olasco93:
'Most' people (majority) Dislike it when there are some traces of guilt on the phone.

traces of guilt hw?

Maiconyoung:
traces of guilt hw?

What i mean by 'traces of guilt' (from her side not from you) is that she may see something that may not necessarily mean you are cheating (infidelity) on your phone, but trust me women interpret things differently when it comes to a situation like this relationship-wise.

Olasco93:
What i mean by 'traces of guilt' (from her side not from you) is that she may see something that may not necessarily mean you are cheating (infidelity) on your phone, but trust me women interpret things differently when it comes to a situation like this relationship-wise.

u re ryt, dat grl in particular suspcts alot

nice write up, vry helpful