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MzPecs:
All these threads and counter-threads sef..

Do whatever pleases you!

I have be showing your the green light and you didn't even toast me

vizkiz:
I have be showing your the green light and you didn't even toast me

I see so many green lights that I can't even notice yours!

I think you should show me the blue light, that way your light will be different from others so I can notice u and then toast you.

Michellla:
Now many guys here may disagree and claim that they love a confident woman who has the cojones to walk up to a guy and ask him out.
But this isn’t always the case. At the end of the day, let’s face it. All a girl has to do is drop a few signs and if a guy does like her back, he’ll probably pop the question even before the girl thinks it. It’s safer, and an easier way to get to know if a guy likes you, saves the embarrassment of a guy turning you down.

Tunchi101:
Still Laughing!!!
Heaven knows it's been a while I've heard so much fallacy / n*nsense  in such a condensed manner    Oliviaarims, honestly, you way too pretty to come up with something like this.

When I read the little article at first,  I was like do people this primitive still exists But seriously where were they when the world was busy developing and still developing. The funniest part is that she even have some disciplines . Ladies out there, I beg you not to listen to such doctrines o. This same set of ladies would later go ask a man out and get into a relationship while you still waiting for 'Mr Right' all your life.

There is infact no reason why a lady who has got a good story and can stand her own ground can't ask a guy out. No reason I repeat. Just because a few ladies have been Rejected by some guys doesn't mean you wouldn't stand a chance. I would be giving a few reason to counter Oliviaarims thread.

1. Every Human Has A Right To Go For What He Or She Wants: I can't recollect any document or human stating that asking out is sole the duty of a guy. If you want someone, what's the crime in asking that person out 

2. Self Esteem : Trust me when I say esteem has a great role to play in cases like this. If you have got good self esteem, why not Some ladies be like they hate rejection. Some guys have been Rejected a million times and today they are with the bone of their bones. ( and remember the saying that goes thus, you've not made any good trial in life if you've not made a few mistakes)

3. Your Story : If you've got a bad background, do you expect every guy to accept you. That definitely doesn’t mean you shouldn't try again. On the other hand, some ladies can be so proud ehnn. I know I can't say a yes to a proud one. I've in reality even said no to one . They be asking someone out like they wanna feed someone.

4. What You Have To Bring To The Table : Trust me when I say there is nothing more sexier than a lady who can hold her own at this age. Some guys have termed some naija chicks as 'Hungry ladies' with the way they talk. Sometimes I wonder if some ladies don't have dignity.

5. Attitude: Some ladies don't have an a molecule of manner. Like I mentioned earlier on, how on this green earth do you expect to get a guy with zero attitude?? And even if you manage to get a guy by some divine intervention, do you expect him to stay?? Would you stay

On a final note, if you are a lady and you know you've got all I've mentioned in the right way, abeg go for what you want. DON'T LET ANOTHER PERSON USE YOUR HEAD TO CATCH BULLET OO. 


Feel free to add yours

Have A Good Year Ahead

Tunchi101

Cc Lalasticlala

Tunchi101:
so what about guys that keep trying even after d embarrassment?? Are you trying to say guys were made to be embarrassed??

Oliviaarims:
Everyone's entitled to their opinions and beliefs. U say it's primitive? Well, whatever rocks ur boat. At the end of the day, common sense is really what directs ppl in life... And everybody needs to know what works for them, what's a total NO for them and those things that could be given considerations, irrespective of what anybody says.

I've said my piece and I have my reasons for them. In all ur civility, u're supposed to know that we're all meant to be tolerant of each other's views,and there are far better ways to disagree than ur introduction up there. So ur saying categorically that my opinion is nonsense and that I'm also primitive at that belies ur proclivity to not even being more primitive.

wristbangle:
Smart ladies use all avenue to spring out love from real men through effective greenlight signals.

For any lady who sits back expecting MR. Right to chase her like dog may become single for life.

Michellla:
lol.thats what makes guys different from girls.they got more balls to handle the rejection.

LaurelP:
My problem with most girls is not even asking them out.


My problem is what happens after you ask them out. When you have gone through the rigor of convincing and cajoling them to accept you, they still expect you to struggle to keep the relationship moving.
You must constantly call, text, visit, spend on them and not also forgetting birthdays, valentine, Xmas, new year and sometimes even pay school fees.

This is the idea of a relationship for a typical Nigerian girl. The guy must bear all the burden while the lady enjoys.
And I ask, what role do ladies play in a relationship?

Tunchi101:
since you know everyone is entitled to their own beliefs, why then would you write up something like that with such conviction?? What you don't know is that you must have brainwashed at least 3 stupid ladies out there if not more than sef cos ur piece was posted on d home page

Meant no offence maam. I'm naughty by nature. Your write up was just too subjective. Once again, no vex

LaurelP:
My problem with most girls is not even asking them out.


My problem is what happens after you ask them out. When you have gone through the rigor of convincing and cajoling them to accept you, they still expect you to struggle to keep the relationship moving.
You must constantly call, text, visit, spend on them and not also forgetting birthdays, valentine, Xmas, new year and sometimes even pay school fees.

This is the idea of a relationship for a typical Nigerian girl. The guy must bear all the burden while the lady enjoys.
And I ask, what role do ladies play in a relationship?

wristbangle:
Smart ladies use all avenue to spring out love from real men through effective greenlight signals.

For any lady who sits back expecting MR. Right to chase her like dog may become single for life.

Oliviaarims:
Aren't all opinions subjective? Only truths can be said to be objective

I haven't brainwashed anybody. That's why I said commonsense is what directs. Whosoever agrees with me must have done so for some personal reasons and not simply because I've said so. Why should that be the case anyway? I haven't declared myself a standard on such issues.