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petkruz:
Then he should leave me alone. Why did he come back for a better relationship if he was still pained?

Creamish:
Are u guys married?

D'u have a joint account?

If "NO"..then I see no reason why u should be pissed that he Dint tell u about his savings...esp since u once broke up wit him due to his financial status (or at least datz what he believes).

Secondly, he Dint call u on New year's day...did u call him? No. Wat if he had some issues? Ur being selfish IMO...

Nwayz... U need to calm d Fk down and think things thru only when calm. If u have nagging doubts, then address it with him. Communication is key in every relationship. Assumptions are relationship killers.

petkruz:
Then he should leave me alone. Why did he come back for a better relationship if he was still pained?

petkruz:
Then he should leave me alone. Why did he come back for a better relationship if he was still pained?

adanny01:
Did he tell you that?

What if it was meant to be a surprise and genuinely wants you to be happy for him.

I know a guy who has 3 cars but had a dream car in mind. When he got enough money, he took along his friend to go car window shopping. He bargained on the car he wanted and the friend wondered whether he was crazy. They left, the next day he went back and paid in full for the car without his friend or wife knowing. He showed up at his wife's place of work with his usual driving style, she saw his dream car, saw his driving style and her heart started pounding knowing who her hubby is. He didnt step out of the car but she left he seat heading to the car. Their dream car has arrived at last. Was she angry that he didnt plan witt her? No, never.

If you really do love your guy, you would see the car as our car not a spitefull item.

My own story. I dated a girl, it was about her birthday and she wanted to celebrate. Big sums of money doesnt come to me often but now i had just gotten a good chunk of money say 1m. Now i can afford to buy a car that i so much desired. Unfortunately, my 200k rent is expiring next month and my sister's 200k sch fees was due soon. Once i take out this sums, my car project is no longer feasible. I was confused so i sought for advise from my girl, she told me to drop the car since i drive an office vehicle. My problem with her advise was she wanted her birthday so much she doesnt mind i forfeit the car. After paying my rent and sis sch fees, i will be left with too much money in my account that she will just rub my back anytime she needed money. If i buy the car, i will struggle for months repaying debts for my rent and sis fees and in that case, she wont be seeing any cash from me and her birthday will be reduced to home cooked rice and chicken with no cake. She wanted whats best for her. I broke off with her same week, bought my car, paid my rent and paid my sis fees. Thank God there were no birthdays or clubbing with her friends on my bill.

The moral of my story is, you are watching your back too often that you cant see ahead. That means you sound selfish. Secondly, you are insecure from you own past actions.

If you really see his new car as an attempt to spite you, your rship is heading for the rocks.

petkruz:
Hey guys, i'm so angry right now i'm tempted to break up with the love of my life.

1) he didn't tell me he was saving to buy a car, he just drove to my compound and was looking at my face, I kept my cool.

2) My so-called boyfriend decided to call me today 3rd January and that's his first this year!! I didn't get any new year wishes. I confronted him, he apologised and all but ladies and gentlemen, the era of Men being non-challant is over.

Fine I did wrong years ago,but gone are the days when someone tries to pay back a sin I committed in my youthful restlessness.I have apologised,cried, begged, I became humble by force, I realised my mistake yet he hasn't gotten over the fact that I left him because he didn't have money when actually his possessiveness and lack of trust made me wanna always run out.

He can't be pained after 4years,its better I dump him now before he drops another bomb! But to be honest I do love him a lot, a whole lot. I'm angry and confused

evolg:
First issue: He bought a car without ur knowledge, it must have skipped his mind. Sorry!
Second issue: U dint get a new year msg frm him, probably network issues.
Moral of story: Ur nt jst dt important like you think.

evolg:
Girl, i'm jst bin real with u...not to make u feel bad. So don't feel bad...Ok?

evolg:
Girl, i'm jst bin real with u...not to make u feel bad. So don't feel bad...Ok?

petkruz:
Hey guys, i'm so angry right now i'm tempted to break up with the love of my life.

1) he didn't tell me he was saving to buy a car, he just drove to my compound and was looking at my face, I kept my cool.

2) My so-called boyfriend decided to call me today 3rd January and that's his first this year!! I didn't get any new year wishes. I confronted him, he apologised and all but ladies and gentlemen, the era of Men being non-challant is over.

Fine I did wrong years ago,but gone are the days when someone tries to pay back a sin I committed in my youthful restlessness.I have apologised,cried, begged, I became humble by force, I realised my mistake yet he hasn't gotten over the fact that I left him because he didn't have money when actually his possessiveness and lack of trust made me wanna always run out.

He can't be pained after 4years,its better I dump him now before he drops another bomb! But to be honest I do love him a lot, a whole lot. I'm angry and confused

Oliviaarims:
Aunty Petkruz, pls pay heed to me. Talk to ur boyfriend. Bare out ur feelings... Leave ur pride at the doorstep. Don't hold anything back, no matter how silly u think it might sound to him. He came back for u, I don't want to believe it was purely for revenge. He still loves u, even though he's trying to spite u in some ways.

Thanks and I did just that, it worked.



Whatever happens after u have a heart to heart discussion with him will clearly tell u what u should do next. End the relationship or keep forging ahead.

tosyne2much:
The tin use style vex me ni egbon

tosyne2much:
I felt it would be better reading comments but I'm forced to comment


I used to respect this OP but you just lost it. I only read your comments on the first page and I must say that one can surmise the you are very immature and delusional in thinking, and your level of reasoning is far below your age.


I don't even want to know if your boyfriend is to be blame or not, all I see is that, with your mode of talking, I just hope you would find a good husband at the end of the day. However, your over-bloated PRIDE will haunt you one day


I don't think any dude in his right sense of reasoning, will marry someone like you cos you don't even sound like someone that has something to offer, other than kitty-cat.

As for me, even if you are placed on OLX for free, I wouldn't even consider you twice

summerflame:
your comment is intriguing, may God bless you. You are the most sensible girl of the year on this forum and not like those fake ass forming i-wanna-be b*tches

ujezeez:
i was in a similar situation.whether you like it or not,there is no way he will forget about the past totally(his subconscious still harbour distrust).@ some point the relationship is got to end.kindly forgive my hasty conclusion with less premises.

petkruz:
Oooh shut up! Thankfully my man isn't as heartless and spiteful as u are. We have settled u can run along now

flokii:
Lmao
I no sabi her o... I just dey whyne her head ni

tosyne2much:
You can just fcck off with your pathetic low life. You are not even ashamed of yourself

petkruz:
Thanks and I did just that, it worked

petkruz:
[s] While u are boiling over this issue, he's waiting patiently for me to come back, maybe he has a bigger surprise this time. Learn not to rejoice over other people's pain! I used to respect you a lot too but u lost that. Go back and check I didn't reply anyone,i replied u only because u got my attention,unfortunately the wrong way. You really are a piece of s.hit and bless heavens my man aint as wicked and heartless as u are that's if u are male. Now get the hell outa this thread [/s]

ijustdey:
and she agrees with you

ijustdey:
and she agrees with you

petkruz:
Hey guys, i'm so angry right now i'm tempted to break up with the love of my life.

1) he didn't tell me he was saving to buy a car, he just drove to my compound and was looking at my face, I kept my cool.

2) My so-called boyfriend decided to call me today 3rd January and that's his first this year!! I didn't get any new year wishes. I confronted him, he apologised and all but ladies and gentlemen, the era of Men being non-challant is over.

Fine I did wrong years ago,but gone are the days when someone tries to pay back a sin I committed in my youthful restlessness.I have apologised,cried, begged, I became humble by force, I realised my mistake yet he hasn't gotten over the fact that I left him because he didn't have money when actually his possessiveness and lack of trust made me wanna always run out.

He can't be pained after 4years,its better I dump him now before he drops another bomb! But to be honest I do love him a lot, a whole lot. I'm angry and confused

marlockj:
To be Frank wit u,from ur reply to others you Dnt need advice.

Mst he tell u he Wats to buy a car?

Also how do u knw he s rubbing it on ur face.

U said u made a mistake in d past n Dat was 4yrs ago,be brave to let he pay u bck,den he will knw u rili messed up.

I wnt to let u knw,is one thing offending sumone and being d one to 4gv or always 4gv.u Hv to knw we r humans n Nt God.

I wnt to ask u sumthing,Hv u Nt seen a girl who goes to a guys Huz to apologize, she did actually Bt out of angry d guy beat ha up ,yet d girl did Nt fight bck.she still return Nxt day to beg,yet d guy Neva gv ha listening ears. She Kip pressuring it she succeeded.

From what I read abt u,ur comment n reply.you Dnt really love d guy.

Hw cn u love a guy n den u Kip saying he shuld leave u alone. Okk if he leaves u,Wat is d Lov for then?

Also from u reaction,it clearly show u left him Cuz of he was Nt having,ask me y I said that?.every one knw Wat is in his or her mind.Okk look at it this way he got a car n d 1st thing u culd think is he is paying u bck or trying to show u he now has money.this thing run in ur mind Cuz u left him Cuz of money.so anything he does runs to ur conscience as to Wat u did.

Why did u Nt say he displace his new car Cuz u refused to gv him money.


Hw cn u be in a crious date n u r here saying he shuld leave u alone.

Let me tell u suiting abt forgiving it cum from the heart, is not about 4yrs.is abt u pleading,letting him push out d anger n u that need forgiveness shuld absorb the anger. Evn if it is 20yrs let him put out d anger.


If u r truly Sorry for what u did,then absorb,b patient,plead,take d blame,tke Wat Eva s thrown @ u,den chnge.

Nothing clear a man's mind off pain than a woman kneeling down in tear to beg,I mean two knees down.

to me Wat really clears my mind of girlfrnd offends is ha kneeling dwn in a place u Dnt Evn Xcept,two knees n tears.automatically u Hv it.Bt curing to my Huz coded n no one is There Jst me n u. Is a no