greatcrown:
If all u said were to be true; I think the two of u were not ready for marriage!

Even now both of you are still not ready.

if you think I am not ready for marriage pls tell me wat I did wrong to make u think so and wat I should do to show that I am ready for marriage.

What is killing him is pride and unnecessary ego, when deep down he is hurting. I saw him and couldn't recognise him, it's very obvious physically dat he is miserable.

greatcrown:
If all u said were to be true; I think the two of u were not ready for marriage!

Even now both of you are still not ready.

what will I do to show that am ready for marriage? Mind you I have my pride to protect as a woman.

I would advice you to get a divorce. You don't have a healthy relationship, secondly the man clearly doesn't care about you. The marriage doesn't look like it will ever be functional. Ask your self if your life and happiness matters more than what people think... At the end of the day, you are the one miserable in the marriage not them. Why would you go back to a man who physically abuses you when you can raise your kids on your own and live on your own? Do you have a job? Are you financially okay? If yes, then why would you go back? What if he beats you one day and you lose consciousness and die? Thirdly, he behaves as if he has moved on, probably has a serious relationship(s) with another female. I would advice you to move on for your own good. I know this is a bad saying but I don't believe marriage is a do or die especially when there is violence involved. Your life and well being should be priority. Good luck!

diva90:
I would advice you to get a divorce. You don't have a healthy relationship, secondly the man clearly doesn't care about you. The marriage doesn't look like it will ever be functional. Ask your self if your life and happiness matters more than what people think... At the end of the day, you are the one miserable in the marriage not them. Why would you go back to a man who physically abuses you when you can raise your kids on your own and live on your own? Do you have a job? Are you financially okay? If yes, then why would you go back? What if he beats you one day and you lose consciousness and die? Thirdly, he behaves as if he has moved on, probably has a serious relationship(s) with another female. I would advice you to move on for your own good. I know this is a bad saying but I don't believe marriage is a do or die especially when there is violence involved. Your life and well being should be priority. Good luck!

thnk you

Limiting God.

Is there anything too hard for God to do?

Has God created anybody he can't control?


Take this case to the person who created him, let's see the outcome.

finewoman:
Pls I need ur honest advice because I am at d verge of filling for a divorce. My marriage is just 3 yrs old and I hav two sons for him, we are currently separated and living separate for 16mnths now and all dis while he never called nor checked up on his kids to knw how dey are fairing, I hav been d one taking care of the kids alone. I left him because not only dat he physically and emotionally abuses me, he is also indecisive, he risks my life and dat of the kids, he has once abandoned me and d kids on d road stranded the day we payed him a surprise visit in uyo, we slept on d road till d following day and wen it was obvious he wasn't coming to pick us, we went back to lagos. Mind u the children he abandoned on d road were just 1yr old and 2yrs old. his family won't allow us leave in peace, dey are always interfering and it has always caused problem between us. The both families were called for reconciliation after 16mnths of separation. Its two weeks now since we were reconciled but he has not come to see us nor even called me on phone. He is very heart less and full of pride and ego, he never apologise wen he is wrong, and from all indications he has not changed. I am being pressured into goin back to him even wen he has not apologised for all d Ill treatment he meted out to me. all I really want is a divorce. Pls wat should I do?

If you are relatively OK where you and the kids are, still remain there, tell your parents to give you more time to pray over it(moving back), don't go back yet, don't file for a divorce yet. Some people have stayed much more longer, and came back as brand new couples otherwise, allow the union to die a natural death, it is only a Monster that will allow his wife and innocent children sleep on the road, no matter what the woman did.

MARKone:


If you are relatively OK where you and the kids are, still remain there, tell your parents to give you more time to pray over it(moving back), don't go back yet, don't file for a divorce yet. Some people have stayed much more longer, and came back as brand new couples otherwise, allow the union to die a natural death, it is only a Monster that will allow his wife and innocent children sleep on the road, no matter what the woman did.

thanks for ur advice but I need to divorce him so dat he can be made to contribute for the children's upkeep, since I left him till now he has never called to knw how d kids are fairing not to talk of contributing to their upkeep. Everything has been on my shoulders alone both sch fees, feeding, hospital bills, clothing, birthday celebrations, etc. While he is busy gallivanting around and spending money on women. Is such a man not coursed?