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Oliviaarims:
Lol. Trust me, I do that, too. And he's had to perfect the act of mind reading He knows what's going on in my head even before telling him. But eventually, I come around and still try to clear things up.

That's tricky, you know.

Oliviaarims:
Saying what?

Sorry about typographical error, dating*** not saying*, why are you guys not dating. ?

[quote author=emusmith post=41695430]Good evening friends.

Here we come again, Oliviaarims and myself, Emusmith.

This collabo-thread focuses on exposing the Tight-Corners Ladies Put Guys through, Vice versa.

Being in a tight-corner with the opposite sex is being in a circumstance where you are "confused", not knowing what to do.

I'm from the Guy's Angle: Tight-Corner Situations Ladies Put Guys In.

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1. She expects him to ask her out over and over and over again before saying, "Yes".


Oh 21st Century ladies, be considerate! Those laws of yours are rather too much! Hian! A nice guy has just broken out of his own laws to approach you but you absurd rules drives him away. To some girls, a guy must ask them out for nothing less than a month. Does that portray him as serious? Nah, he might just be a player. Be flexible, young lady. When you set those 'standards', consider your age also. Let's be real, other girls are also bothering him. He leaves them because of you and you're forming, 'principled' and 'expensive'. Loosen up a little in 2016.


2. She makes him fall in love with her and then starts acting funny when he's trying to reciprocate.


Some chicks can be funny. After giving him a red light, he goes away and then all of a sudden, she starts caring rekindling old flames. Perhaps, he has erased all memories of her. This puts him in a fixed situation because he loves her. If you tell him, No, please leave him alone and go away. Don't ask him for anything. Don't commit him to your affairs. This is wicked! Some guys sef needs a strong heart.


3. She wakes up one morning and calls quit a marriage-bound relationship of years for just "no reason."

Young guy has planned his life with her only for her to wake one morning to call it quit. That's not cool. Where should he start from?


4. Comes to a date with her friends.

This is so childish, mehn! What if he didn't plan for that, what situation are you putting him?


5. Compels him get intimate and later deny he "forced himself" on her.

This happens as I learnt. Maybe, just a few but it does and it's precarious situation for a guy to be in. Yes, he didn't hold on to his guns but you should come as a protective cover and not an enemy.


6. Giving him the ultimatum of "Meet this need of mine or I'll break up with you"


Especially when she notices he loves her, she starts misbehaving and demanding unnecessarily. That's unfair. Is your love for sale? If it is, you're not fit to be called a 'Lady'.


7. Keeping mute and expecting him to read your mind after a quarrel you staged.

Not all guys are mind-readers. Don't be complicated by playing deaf on his honest questions. If you're mad, be simple and open up. Don't expect him to be a mind-reader overnight.


Understanding is the key to a smooth relationship. Every relationship thrives on it. Even before he officially asks you out, you could be observant and enough to know a thing or two about him. These days, some ladies just sit with their lazy self on their couch, consuming one love movie after the other; expecting a guy to lick their feet. To such ladies I say, It's possible if you believe. Keep believing!

#Passes the mic to oliviaarims#


Oliviaarims So true, Mr Smith.

I'll be speaking from the Ladies' Point of View.

Sometimes, in the process of getting to know that person for a potential relationship, we raise up the red flag without intending to do so. And this leaves the other party in a fix. Sometimes, it could mark the end of a relationship in potentiality.To avoid these, here are a number of things a guy unconsciously does which puts a girl in a tight-corner.

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1. You hardly Call, Text or Ping.

If you're looking at dating a girl, then these things are quite important if she's to take you seriously. It mustn't be an every day affair. Infact, if u guys aren't already very close, u shouldn't call everyday. But if you're still in the process of making her warm up to u and and to start considering u seriously, then u have to let her know she's on your mind. An occasional call, text or ping will do. But they shouldn't be too infrequent, like once in a month. This will leave her confused as to your intentions. 

You're formal with her. Come on, this is a girl u want to get into a relationship with. Loosen up! If you're uncharacteristically formal with her, she's most likely going to assume you're not very much into her.

2. You put up an "I don't care attitude"  about the guys around her.

This is assuming u know there are a number of guys she's involved with.. Friends or whatever they may be. Or it's just this one particular guy. If u never ask her about it, or act like u didn't even notice, she may quickly conclude that u don't like her enough to even get a lil bit jealous and concerned about her male friends.

3. Girls are always flocking around you.

If you're this dude, then she'd assume you're a flirt and probably want to flirt with her too or perhaps that you just like female friends and want to enlist her in your train of mere female friends.

4. You don't spend enough time with her.

If when eventually when u guys get to see each other, you're always in a hurry to leave, she'd presume u don't very much enjoy her company or that she's not important enough for u to spend quality time with.

5. You never invite her to your house.

This would seem really weird to her, especially as guys are quite fast in inviting girls over to their crib. And perhaps, when u do invite her, friends are always around. Trust me, she wouldn't be happy about this. She may not be expecting you to sleep with her, but it would be much appreciated if you two are alone. .

6. You don't allow her meet friends and family.

Even if you aren't an item yet, it would be a lil bothersome if she hasn't met any of your friends, at least. Maybe not family yet, but your friends. Because she believes that if really u like her, then ur friends would have known and would have wanted to meet her. 

7. Inviting her for an occasion and leaving her to herself

Now, this is so not nice. No matter how pre-occupied u seem to be at the occasion, she'd never feel happy being left alone, esp if she's in an unfamiliar territory. The proper thing to do is to first acknowledge her presence, if both of u didn't come in together, and then, sit with her, if possible. Otherwise, occasionally check in on her. This will show that u truly care. 

 As a guy, if u do most of those things, youl'd have succeeded in pushing your potential girl friend to the brink of giving up on you. She'd be uncertain about how you feel about her and your intentions. And if care's not taken, she'd start giving you attitude and give up on you totally.


That's cool, Oliviaarims. Both guys and ladies have their expectations from the opposite sex so it leaves us with the responsibility to find out exactly what our mates appreciate so we don't put them in a tight corner.

Good night.

[Nice one guys...Keep it up

harristo:
This is a good concept you've come up with, oliviaarims and emusmith. The counter thread concept is interesting and nice, but I think the collabo thread that you guys have introduced is also great.
The possibility of getting either of the two kind of thread is going to make Nairaland more fun, especially the romance section. Good job you two.

As for the post: I have to say; that girls are always flocking around you, in the second sections, is often times something the guy can't help and it doesn't always necessarily mean that the guy is a flirt.
I guess it is simply left for the girl to use her brain to understand the guys situation. Believe it or not girls always flock around some awesome guy who already has a girlfriend, let alone one who they know doesn't.
I can only feel sorry for a girl that would feel cornered, because she finds herself being woo by a guy that's in that kind of situation.

Thanks bro

[quote author=Frezo post=41709394][/quote]Thanks.

falconey:
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Great now we have 'OPS'

Hahahaha

This got me rolling on the floor… Lmao

Kenshinmunac:
Sorry about typographical error, dating*** not saying*, why are you guys not dating. ?

I'm already dating... He's dating, too..

[quote author=BUTCHCASSIDY post=41709219][/quote]C'mon, u believe me.. Don't u?

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are u raping or purgating figure of speech excessivity

lolz this got me laughing

[quote author=BUTCHCASSIDY post=41713175][/quote]Lol. Believe me, joor. It's the truth.

flamyd:
lolz this got me laughing

What did? BUTCHCASSIDY's image?

Oliviaarims:
What did? BUTCHCASSIDY's image?

yes

KingTom:
the Chinese Emperor

hello?

Vjcray:
hello?

hello

KingTom:
hello

Hello

Nubian113:
Hello

from the other side

Oliviaarims:
I'm already dating... He's dating, too..

Oh!

KingTom:
hello

and the fvck are you?

Thank you

Always a gud piece when u guys write
but from the girl angle no 3:
there are guys that ladies are all over
and that does mean they are players or flirts
its jst personality or should i say aura...
And no 4:
spend time?! look why do naija ladies
keep missing this - if ur man would be successful
there is neither time for quality time nor incessant dates, No WAY
it may come but its not a constant nor priority.
Imagine being offshore for 6months
where lies the time?

CaroLyner:
am not a mod..what gave you that impression.lol

u don forget...u told me so na...remember when i told you i'l misbehave and i told you you will unban me and you said it might not be in your power...i banked on you mehn

Vjcray:
and the fvck are you?

The Wuai Police

flamyd:
yes

Lol.

Oliviaarims:
Thanks.. U were banned?

yes...twas because of Iranuboo...she called me rude and i called her stu.pid and she reported me and one fellow that the lord will visit banned me and i was furious...but i forgive them all...only that the oniranu girl will regret her stupidity later in life...sorry for the epistle jare...i dey vex

AyamConfidence:
yes...twas because of Iranuboo...she called me rude and i called her stu.pid and she reported me and one fellow that the lord will visit banned me and i was furious...but i forgive them all...only that the oniranu girl will regret her stupidity later in life...sorry for the epistle jare...i dey vex

Lol.. Obviously.. Sorry bout that. What was ur previous moniker?

Oliviaarims:
Lol.

actually no but I just didn't feel like typing the reason I was laughing.

Here it is