QueenValerie:
Hehe I modified the words I spoke/typed not the pic,it's a bit different now

Cutehector:
I was referring to ur pic! Not ur jargons...

Oh that hurt...kidding

QueenValerie:
Oh that hurt...kidding

Toks2008:


You were spot on.

Cutehector:
jargons isn't a hurtin word... I never meant it like a bad thing.

missKiffy:
The fact that there are cases whereby love turned sour, does not mean true love does not exist or love do not last, the truth is the same thing might not work for everybody. There are cases of couples whom their love turned sour, there are also case of couples who weathered the storm with the love they both share. It doesn't mean love is trash, love is not trash.

Cutehector:
we are saying the same thing!

QueenValerie:
. Dude I was playing

Toks2008:
Over the years i have realized that LOVE is the most wrongly used word in the dictionary.

I have seen many people who professed love to each other suddenly make a 360 degree turn and then i tend to wonder if they ever understood that word love.

I have heard of a situation where a man or woman found it so easy to walk away from the spouse and children after many years just to conclude that what they felt all through the years was probably pity and not love.

It has become the norm for us to now see a million dollar wedding crashing down even before it began and then these same people who were all smiles and curdled up on the wedding day, exchanging vows will turn against each other with so much hatred.

Husbands kill same woman they made a vow to love and wives do same to their hubbies even when they have borne the same man children.

How many husbands can still tell their wives "i love you" even if she denies him sex? how many husbands will still love their wives if she refuses to do her duties as a wife in the house? and how many women will still love their husbands even if he fails to live up to his status?

Judging from all these happenings i have decided to stop using that word love and any one who uses such word to describe his or her feelings for the partner must really take a chill pill and think deep before uttering such.

If from the real life situation i see, i think it will be reasonable for anyone to wait for at least 20years of being with your partner before you can truly say those words "I LOVE YOU" even if we all know that even after 30years people can still turn against each other but at least 20years is good enough to pass that assertion.

I have come to believe that LOVE can only exist between GOD and man and what humans feel is just a temporary feeling of desire which can be in form of initial gragra(Adrenaline love), infatuation(Unreasoning love),Lust or maybe a superficial love as a result of what you are getting from that person and in the absence of such will diminish.

Yes maybe i am over-flogging it,maybe we still have true love between very rare partners but the truth is that i would rather seek for a true friendship, a true bonding which i have found to be more realistic than that facade called True love.

Cutehector:
so dat means God's love is trash? U berra be serious here!

Rukkydelta:

Leave the guy alone, he is probably suffering from a heart break

Oahray:
Op, don't start arguing against something without a clear definition of what you think it means. Would help avoid strawman arguments.

Love means different things to different persons, and no one is born with love in his heart. If it can grow, it can die.

I think it's the overly romanticized pic of love that has got you confused. The unconditional love farce. You want to see Cinderella's happily ever after in reality, innit?

Well, think of love as a flowering plant. It's existence and survival is very much conditional. After being planted, it needs to be watered constantly or it withers instead of blossoming.

Your argument is that if it withers, it was never a plant. Does that even sound reasonable to you?

wrongnumber:


I agree 90%. Especially for naija

wrongnumber:


My sister if you interview those people you go realize say most times the benefit wey dem dey see from each other still dey intact.

For me,no love between man and woman but na only affairs with condition.

Toks2008:


The truth is that guys and ladies within the ages of 18 to 22 still believes in this "love thing" but most of them will have a re-orientation when they grow older so i quite understand their mindset.

In most cases, a lady of 18 to 22 years will love genuinely and so unconditionally and that is why you see them at this age gushing over the guy and will not even mind turning their backs oin their parents or running away with the guy but when they attain a much older age,life begins to teach them some lessons and then their eyes will be opened and they will realize the futility of human love and same goes for the male folks within that age bracket.

So without any fear of contradiction i will say anyone below a certain age may not really understand this write up.

Toks2008:


Honestly im trying so hard to comprehend your stance ..can you please explain better?

Toks2008:


LOL!

I could as well be suffering from every topic my thread is based on.I honestly believe it is so awkward to always leave the topic of discussion to start attacking the personality of the writer..please stop this funny act make youre contributions if you have one and if not please refrain from making derogatory comments because no poster before you have ever left the topic to start writing unwarranted comments.

Oahray:
I do not agree with your opinion that once there's truly love between two persons at any point in time, it cannot ever become something else.

Let me use the example of love between God and man you praised as the perfect example of love.

God loved the nation of Israel so much (since they were descendants of Abraham through Isaac and Jacob) that he delivered them from Egypt even through the Red Sea.

The love was mutual at that point, and Israel vowed to obey God.

Yet God nearly wiped the whole nation out shortly after when they worshipped a Golden Calf. Much later, He promised the adults older than 19 would all die off in the wilderness for their lack of faith.

Sometime later, David stubbornly conducted a census and Israelites with no say in the matter died by divine pestilence. Then Jesus finished them off centuries later by saying their house have been abandoned to them for rejecting him.

If God's pure love can be influenced by the actions of the object of his love, why not humans?

My point is, the fact that love once existed doesn't mean it always would forever. It just never fails to act as long as it still exists, but it does die. It dies when the other person eventually becomes (or maybe we just didn't notice earlier) the opposite of what made the love sprout in the first place.

Toks2008:


Hmmm! Brilliant argument i must admit.

So apparently true love could actually exist until there is a tilt in the emotional balance occasioned by either of the two.Great.

I was actually looking at it from the less bias point of view even without a serious faltering meaning human love can easily be diminished unlike GOD's love that keeps blooming regardless of how many times we falter.

But i really love your insight.

firstking01:
Toks, u go really get too many criterions before u settle wit woman o ...i bet ur still single, judging with ur recent write ups

Vikky014:
As an emotionally weak girl i just decided on my own with the help of my sweet mum not indulge in this Love thingy in my teens to avoid hrt attack and it really helped me a lot to understand now that love btw a girl and a boy is jst for the moment using my female friends as a case study.
.LOL am always the one to console them whn the hrtbreak thing happens atleast one of them learnt her lessons.....

It is always good to be friends on platonic level with the opposite sex whn u r nt yet ready to tie the knot. if u r nt too emotional like me u can go ahead and be in the romantic relationship bt whn the chips are down just pick ur pieces and move on

in summary i dnt believe in Today's I LOVE YOU FROM MOST GUYS. most of them want something from we ladies...just maintain ur lane let me maintain mine after all we can be friends not LOVERS... but in marriage i think couples grow in LOVE. MY MUM AND DAD Confirms it...

Toks2008:


You get sense..I know even know whether lalasticlala wil find this worthy of front page cos the guy dey form levels these days