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missyadorable:
Well said!For me,apart from God and my mother, nobody else loves me. Man and woman so called love is just scam,because of too much sex and what each person stands to gain!

kinglekan:

You are very wrong Mr Toks and I fault your line of thought considering the fact that you decided to go religious on the subject matter.

The statement in bold is far from the truth and as a matter of fact, nothing but mere conjecture.

Lets take a close look at the verse below.

1 John 4:20 (English Standard Version)

If anyone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen CANNOT love God whom he has not seen

You clearly asserted that love only exists between Man and God, yet this scripture says differently. The scripture lets us know it is much easier to love someone who you can see than to claim to love a God you haven't.

In other words the criterium for professing your love for God would be to love your brother (Sister, Relative, Spouse, Stranger, etc).

There is also a scripture regarded as the great commandment.

Mark 12:31 (English Standard Version)
The second is this: ‘ You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these

This was a statement made by Jesus and if it were impossible to truly love someone then it would mean that he gave a commandment no one could/can keep. But you know better.

The fact that people use the word "Love" and the next minute do something so silly that makes us question thier love doesn't mean love is a farce.

David was a man who loved God so much that God referred to him as a man after his own heart.
Yet David killed a man and took his wife, thereby commiting adultery and he did other despicable acts but God never questioned the Man's love towards him.

You have to understand one simple thing, you don't need to spend 30years with someone to say the words "I love you". Love is a force that can be felt, it supercedes our emotions and it is the greatest power given to man.

We are still encased in our earthly vessel so there are times our actions might not be in consonance with love but it doesn't change the fact that love is real, love exists and we have the ability to love unconditionally.

RadicallyBlunt:
"Fucck" is wrongly used too. As in fucck u, fucck up, shut dah fucck up, fucck off, get dah fucck outta here, what dah fucck, what's my fuccking business, fuccking shiit, fucck ur papa, fucck ur mama, efritin fuccking

In short fucck worse pass love




NB: Op why did u modify. Ur original post was "wrong use of the word -love"

Cutehector:
people think love is complicated, buh they got it all wrong.


Love is the most simplest form of action or force one could eva practice or feel.

U cannot talk abt friendship without love and u cannot talk abt love without friendship! They are together.

Vikky014:
LOL. do you only show emotion to a particular girl and sideline othersthen when the girl breaks up with you u move on to the next Life is sweet when you dont have preferential treatment. i so much believe in LOVE your neighbour as yourself please what do you mean by casual friends bc to me a casual friend can be someone i travelled with from the same bus or someone i met in a seminar.. so explain

Toks2008:
Over the years i have realized that LOVE is the most wrongly used word in the dictionary.

Do you know that when your bae says "I LOVE YOU",more often than not,that person is only stating his her feelings based on what he or she is benefiting from the union at that point in time?Take away the benefit(s) and see if such person will still profess an undying love for you.

I have seen many people who professed love to each other suddenly make a 360 degree turn and then i tend to wonder if they ever understood that word love.

I have heard of a situation where a man or woman found it so easy to walk away from the spouse and children after many years just to conclude that what they felt all through the years was probably pity and not love.

It has become the norm for us to now see a million dollar wedding crashing down even before it began and then these same people who were all smiles and curdled up on the wedding day, exchanging vows will turn against each other with so much hatred.

Husbands kill same woman they made a vow to love and wives do same to their hubbies even when they have borne the same man children.

How many husbands can still tell their wives "i love you" even if she denies him sex? how many husbands will still love their wives if she refuses to do her duties as a wife in the house? and how many women will still love their husbands even if he fails to live up to his status?

Judging from all these happenings i have decided to stop using that word love and any one who uses such word to describe his or her feelings for the partner must really take a chill pill and think deep before uttering such.

If from the real life situation i see, i think it will be reasonable for anyone to wait for at least 20years of being with your partner before you can truly say those words "I LOVE YOU" even if we all know that even after 30years people can still turn against each other but at least 20years is good enough to pass that assertion.

I have come to believe that LOVE can only exist between GOD and man and what humans feel is just a temporary feeling of desire which can be in form of initial gragra(Adrenaline love), infatuation(Unreasoning love),Lust or maybe a superficial love as a result of what you are getting from that person and in the absence of such will diminish.

Yes maybe i am over-flogging it,maybe we still have true love between very rare partners but the truth is that i would rather seek for a true friendship, a true bonding which i have found to be more realistic than that facade called True love.

My advice is that anyone in any affair should not put too much expectation but should just flow with the tide because that person who is all over you today can make a u-turn tomorrow and you will wonder if that is the same person you ever knew...

I hope this makes sense.

Oahray:
wow! I hope any nice man planning to marry you gets to learn about this your viewpoint before he finds himself trapped in a loveless self-centred marriage.

ronald4lif:
Too much sense in the write up. Makes a lotta sense. I've always affirmed that there's no such thing as true love in amorous relationship. It's just a temporal feeling which exist for as long as the other person dances to our rhythm. The earlier everyone realises this and flow with the tides like you said the better.

For everyone we claim to love wholeheartedly there's a reason behind it and once that reason evanesces then the love too dissipates like vapour. If true love existed there won't be any particular reason to love or get attracted to someone, it will just burgeon without a reason and maturate in form of a latency. There's no such thing as true love, it's all about vested interest.

IzonOwei:
thats the problem..many of our girls because of a few relationships they've been in makes them utter such self centered words..only God and her mother loves her...i laugh..and that same girl would still want to get married to frustrate a good loving man..

Toks2008:
Over the years i have realized that LOVE is the most wrongly used word in the dictionary.

Do you know that when your bae says "I LOVE YOU",more often than not,that person is only stating his her feelings based on what he or she is benefiting from the union at that point in time?Take away the benefit(s) and see if such person will still profess an undying love for you.

I have seen many people who professed love to each other suddenly make a 360 degree turn and then i tend to wonder if they ever understood that word love.

I have heard of a situation where a man or woman found it so easy to walk away from the spouse and children after many years just to conclude that what they felt all through the years was probably pity and not love.

It has become the norm for us to now see a million dollar wedding crashing down even before it began and then these same people who were all smiles and curdled up on the wedding day, exchanging vows will turn against each other with so much hatred.

Husbands kill same woman they made a vow to love and wives do same to their hubbies even when they have borne the same man children.

How many husbands can still tell their wives "i love you" even if she denies him sex? how many husbands will still love their wives if she refuses to do her duties as a wife in the house? and how many women will still love their husbands even if he fails to live up to his status?

Judging from all these happenings i have decided to stop using that word love and any one who uses such word to describe his or her feelings for the partner must really take a chill pill and think deep before uttering such.

If from the real life situation i see, i think it will be reasonable for anyone to wait for at least 20years of being with your partner before you can truly say those words "I LOVE YOU" even if we all know that even after 30years people can still turn against each other but at least 20years is good enough to pass that assertion.

I have come to believe that LOVE can only exist between GOD and man and what humans feel is just a temporary feeling of desire which can be in form of initial gragra(Adrenaline love), infatuation(Unreasoning love),Lust or maybe a superficial love as a result of what you are getting from that person and in the absence of such will diminish.

Yes maybe i am over-flogging it,maybe we still have true love between very rare partners but the truth is that i would rather seek for a true friendship, a true bonding which i have found to be more realistic than that facade called True love.

My advice is that anyone in any affair should not put too much expectation but should just flow with the tide because that person who is all over you today can make a u-turn tomorrow and you will wonder if that is the same person you ever knew...

I hope this makes sense.

Toks2008:
How else can i change the way some people reason?

What is this about people being so myopic to jusxtapose what people write with their life?

Honestly it is an unintelligent way of reasoning.

Do you need to be told that love is a facade?or are you living in jupiter to claim ignorance of the daily happenings?

How many wives were killed last year by their husbands? please wake up from this perpetual delusion of always relating intellectual stuffs to the creator.

You can as well attribute every film writer life to the type of films they write...

AdeniyiA:
...and it's better left for LAWMA.

Seriously whenever I hear or see a marriage crashing, I ask myself, where is their first love demonstrated by these statements "I couldn't sleep, eat, or work without you by my side" , "I miss your presence every time" ,"you're my life" ,"my life is nothing without you"... etc, probably it wasn't actually a real love but lust/infatuation.

Toks2008:
When ttoke makinwa was gushing about her hubby some years back i simply tweeted asking her to calm down.

Today im happy that she knows better that a conditional love is not love and i really love her courage to patch up even if it for whatever reasons.

IzonOwei:
yes i show a special kind of emotion to one girl at a time rather than love all girls at once..that would make me a flirt and a potential promiscuous man..the girl i intend to marry must be shown preferential treatment..i cant start that in marriage..if there is a break up i arrange my heart and love again..the love i have for my neighbor would surely be different from the one i would have with the girl i am in a relationship with..they cant be the same..

Oahray:
as in eh... I weak. Everyone else has to either create her or give birth to her to qualify as one who loves her. Because a husband cannot possibly fulfill either requirement, he stands no chance.

Marriage is not by force. People with this mindset shouldn't even get married, cos nothing the husband does would ever be good enough.

Vikky014:
As an emotionally weak girl i just decided on my own with the help of my sweet mum not indulge in this Love thingy in my teens to avoid hrt attack and it really helped me a lot to understand now that love btw a girl and a boy is jst for the moment using my female friends as a case study.
LOL am always the one to console them whn the hrtbreak thing happens atleast one of them learnt her lessons.....

It is always good to be friends on platonic level with the opposite sex whn u r nt yet ready to tie the knot. if u r nt too emotional like me u can go ahead and be in the romantic relationship bt whn the chips are down just pick ur pieces and move on

in summary i dnt believe in Today's I LOVE YOU FROM MOST GUYS. most of them want something from we ladies...just maintain ur lane let me maintain mine after all we can be friends not LOVERS... but in marriage i think couples grow in LOVE. MY MUM AND DAD Confirms it...

Oliviaarims:
And has she told u that she's realized she never loved him? Or perhaps, that she doesn't love him anymore?

Vikky014:
in other words you must marry your girlfriend so you hv her as a girlfriend because you intend to marry her is ur parents and her parents aware of the relationship or is it a backyard relationship where you guys play hide and seek This still buttress my point that girlfriend boyfriend relationship is jst where two people experiment what married people do
most guys cant even buy a gift for their own mum but will spend money on their supposed girlfriend. they cant even give their younger ones the way they give to their girlfriend. and the so called girlfriend will just be using them as their ATM machine.


Anyway your life your business so live and let live

Vikky014:
in other words you must marry your girlfriend so you hv her as a girlfriend because you intend to marry her is ur parents and her parents aware of the relationship or is it a backyard relationship where you guys play hide and seek This still buttress my point that girlfriend boyfriend relationship is jst where two people experiment what married people do
most guys cant even buy a gift for their own mum but will spend money on their supposed girlfriend. they cant even give their younger ones the way they give to their girlfriend. and the so called girlfriend will just be using them as their ATM machine.


Anyway your life your business so live and let live

fulfillbill:
What i implied in my last was post was that you can't be sure you are ready for the maths test, unless you have a done a lot of exercises.

You running from heartbreak will make you even more heartbroken because you probably won't be able to handle it when it happens.

Its like learning to ride a bike without falling.

Relationship helps you discover somethings about yourself that you didn't know, and nobody will tell you...you only will discover it.

JhyMedex:
Hahaha... We r chemical beings n love is notin more Dan a chemical rxn induced by wat u see, hear or feel abt some 1...
However like all Chem rxns wen d inducing stimulus is removed d synaptic interactions u perceive as love will degrade n Jst like dt "U JST NT FEELING D PERSON AGAIN"
Love does exist....
The duration of love is however dependent on d duration of application of stimulus.....

Oahray:
aunty abeg no vex, e don do. Marry all your male friends if you like, so you can treat them equally.

Just stop trying to define every romantic relationship out there when you've never been in one. It's ignorance-birthed arrogance.

Oyind17:
What is your point?

Oliviaarims:
That a number if wives were killed by their husbands doesn't mean love doesn't exist.. Nor does it suffice as a standard basis for ur argument. Not in any way. And why are u sounding as though everyone marries out of love?

Ppl marry for different reasons. U shouldn't assume that every couple u see is in love , or were at any point in love with each other... And the fact that there are many failed relationships doesn't negate the fact also that love exists. I can only agree with u that there are lots of ppl who mistake lust , infatuation and whatever else for love. But again, it is no sufficient condition to assert that love is nonexistent. The mistakes, misfortunes and short-sighted mess of a number of individuals should not send the idea of love into forever exile or make is delude ourselves that it never existed.

Love exists... And as imperfect humans, we shouldn't crave for a perfect love. It just can't be. God loves us despite all of our short comings because he's God and infallible. But, still... It doesn't stop Him from punishing us when we go wrong and err against him. But God, in all His perfection can afford to forgive us and bring us back into his fold. Don't even attempt to compare the love of God and that of man. It's preposterous!


As humans, we must acknowledge our imperfections and love within that limit. Too many ppl are looking for fairytales Why? How? When will that ever be achievable? Love, like a plant needs to be nurtured and tendered else it rots away.

Vikky014:
marriage is a different ball game all together so that i treat all genders equally as a single lady does not mean i will do same to my hubby. so i dnt understand your advice about marrying all male friends

IzonOwei:
why else would i date a girl without the intention of marriagenow i know what your problem is..you have a warped view of dating reason for all your conclusions..and yes the girl i date knows my parents and i know hers..and by all means i try to marry the girl i date...i dont date for play...change your views about dating and you would see the light before you enter one chance...