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davidmark4naija:
So basically its okay to walk out from a relationship so long as I dont promise a girl marriage, abi?

MzLarem:
If u have a good reason to..Yes.

MzLarem:
Ok..wait till 70 b4 u start thinking of marriage then.

davidmark4naija:
Must it be a "good" reason? And by wot standard do we measure the "goodness" in the reason?

DharmyYinks:
lolz... I think 80 will be a gud age to start.

raayah:
You will be wasting both your time and your partner's time.

Wasted emotional and financial resources.

Don't date someone you don't want to marry

dollyjoy:
Questions like these make me wonder the kinda peepz in the romance section of nairaland.


Like,wft,it just like asking what is wrong with going to church when you are just a bench warmer.


Simple,you are simply wasting your time,energy and money.

Estharfabian:
Honestly? Not everyone dates with the sole purpose of marriage...Some people tend to see beyond that.


Dating is as much about learning what you need and want, and how you need to grow and change, as it is about finding the "right" person...


So, I honestly do not see the Rush...I could actually date someone i have No intention of marrying..it's all about exploring!

cutedawg:
so 9ja still get this kinda babe!

B4 nko?

Estharfabian:
B4 nko?

EverLily:
Silly reasons? Seriously?
When I date someone, I tend to give it my all. If we never agreed on a future together, it's fine. If he breaks up for just any reason, then that's very insensitive and he should remember that karma is gonna catch up with him.

Like I said earlier, I will shuk him knife

MzLarem:
So shall it be.

DharmyYinks:
For who

MzLarem:
Ok..Maybe u'll feel on top of d world if u gf leaves u cos she wants to sample dat cute neighbour dat jst packed in. U're an Adult,u knw ur right frm left nd moreover its more abt self-conviction. Ur own wrong might be another person's right.

davidmark4naija:
Okay, wot if I actually promised you marriage and later get to change my mind, will dat be wrong?

MzLarem:
You still need a justifiable reason for changing ur mind.

SUPERPACK:
all is wrong

MzLarem:
Me na.

davidmark4naija:
Haha!

Assuming we were dating and after some months I realise dat I made a promise to marry you under the influence of infatuation, limerence and fantasy? Now dat the whole infatuation tin finally fades away I den realise dat we are not compatible and thus marrying you wont be the best for both our sakes and our children sakes cos of the potential future risk of growing apart?

Is dat justifyable?

DharmyYinks:

DharmyYinks:

MzLarem:
Yap it is..that's u considering ur future happiness..nd its enuf reason to opt out bt u've got to explain to d bae.

davidmark4naija:
Oh! So we finally agree huh?

Wot if d babe no gree gree? Say I wasted her time becos I wasnt sure of maself? Wetin I go come tell her make she gree?

MzLarem:
if she consider her happiness also,she shld understand tho it will be painful. Bt if she's stubborn nd forming 007,direct her to d nearest bridge..

davidmark4naija:
Well, u just helped to prove my point dat doe we do not always set out to date someone we cant or wont marry, it just happens. Either becos we were attracted to dem for the wrong reasons or something happened along the way dat made us change our minds.

So why were u attacking me initially like say I follow for the guys way don break ur heart before?

MzLarem:
Lolz..I don't have a breakable heart.

davidmark4naija:
Pls bring it, let me handle it and see for myself

MzLarem:
if she consider her happiness also,she shld understand tho it will be painful. Bt if she's stubborn nd forming 007,direct her to d nearest bridge..

davidmark4naija:
Okay, I have anoda question. Wot if I promised you marriage and afta like a year or two, I decide to back out becos ur from a different tribe and I've bin convinced by friends and family to marry from my tribe. And I bought the idea majorly becos of language and culture barrier, which previously was not an issue but now is.

Would dat be a wicked tin to do?

MzLarem:
All that shld be put into consideration b4 proposing marriage to sum1,if u didn't do that,then that's a fault on ur part nd where love prevails,culture or language shldnt be a barrier..u can help her blend. Did ur frnds nd family help u woo her? Did they knw wat attracts u abt her?

davidmark4naija:
U day always make sense sha.

The thing is I dont speak my language fluently not to talk of teaching it. And as such having my kids speak anoda language seems very awkward to me.

Secondly being in the midst of my inlaws and not understanding a tin day say also seems awkward to me. Wd I have to wear earphones whenever am around my inlaws or weneva day come to ma house, since am not interested in learning dia language and I cant tell dem not to speak dia language when am around?

All of dis wasnt an issue before but they are now. Very critical issues.

MzLarem:
nd what's ur partner say abt this? This is why she's ur partner,I believe u've sat her down nd told her all this..I don't knw which tribe u're both from nd I can't make any judgements bt if u've come a long way nd u're sure she's d one,this shldnt be a reason to let go..There's more to marriage than Language barrier.