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If truly you love your girl and you feel she loves you too, pls go ahead and marry her, nobody is a saint. Let your Sis learn to forgive and move on, after all, we are in the era of change. Your babe might have changed but your sis is out there, holding grudges. Why didn't she tell you those stories earlier when you met your babe?

You have a final say on this, but I can assure u ur sister know her better than u do, they must ve shared experience in the past that made ur sister said NO! If u go ahead u will not like the future result cos your girlfriend will make ur sister an arc enemy and will create problem between u and ur sister and this will transfer to their children by them u will not be able to correct it. ur girl friend is wayworld am very sorry to say that, and that was y she told ur sister she will leave u and Marry another person, she have them in her archive. She's not remorseful.

@All ladies in the house, you can see how your pasts can haunt you.
always be a good girl u never can tell your next neighbours can be ur future husband's family.

I'm not advising you atall but if I were in your shoes, I won't marry the lady.

Your sister ain't no saint but karma is using her as a vessel to deal with your girlfriend.

If you notice the advice from most ladies here, its same, " let bygone be bygone" that how many of them think. Some say "as far as she loves you and vice versa" that's what counts.
If all the allegations are true and they follow the same of pattern of her attitude, you had been run for own future peace because those are her real person. Mind you Leopards don't change their spots.
Sisters know alot and see a lot more in another girl than a bro sees. If your sister has been sincere with you till now, she has your best interest at heart. Girls always play the " love " card, all too often when they sting you they don't remember love. Be warned, don't cast your pearls to a swine the mud its destination. May God help you.

OP @ Jayhumble listen to me and listen good. Don't you ever listen to those ladies that made the first few comments telling you everyone has a past. Your sister knew your gf's bf back in school and they were in a serious rship but she left him for a guy that has money. It is a serz issue from the past that can repeat itself in the future but notwithstanding people change for good. But I doubt that she has changed because of the kind of statement she made to your sister " if you don't want me to marry your brother let me know so I can marry someone else" this tells you she might even have multiple people she is dating.

Best thing to do now is to hold the plans for any wedding and pretend like you are having financial crisis for a few months that is the only way you can find out if she has truly changed but if you go ahead to marry her without doing this, you might just wake up one day to realize, she has left you and 3 kids because things are no longer too rosy for you.

Goodmorning Mr Jayhumble and how are you today? I Read all you have said and picked the statement underneath ...

my GF sent a text to my sister saying "If you don't want me to marry you brother, I will leave your brother for you and marry someone else".

Op that statement your girlfriend made shows she's an impatient person, and she's not ready to fight for you(her boyfriend) meaning she cannot stand by you in difficult times and from your narration, you said you just stepped up your relationship with her, that means you already have the intention of getting married to this babe ... My Honest Advice to you brother is to push love aside and think like a strong and brave Man, don't allow the flesh to lead you because you will regret it. Put an END to your relationship with this Girl and Move on with your Life. #BetterDaysAndGirlsAhead. #PeaceBro.

Una sabi ask stupid questions sha...

We here na Dr. Phil

girls don't like their brothers marrying their girlfriends

my GF sent a text to my sister saying "If you don't want me to marry you brother, I will leave your brother for you and marry someone else".

@op your gf made a Very Disqualifying Statement. #UnpredictableMaterialisticGirlIndeed

Ladies! They can do to guys what they will not
Wish other ladies do to their brothers .
From experience, run away from your so called GF.

Uchbebe46:
girls don't like their brothers marrying their girlfriends

Not all girls please. You could use "some girls"

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oga leave that your girlfriend, she has trust issues. she never told you until you discovered. prolly she's sticking with you because you have some money. the mere statement that she's ready to marry someone else should your sister insist is another reason to leave her. unless you want your family to disintegrate then go all.

DeRay98:
If you notice the advice from most ladies here, its same, " let bygone be bygone" that how many of them think. Some say "as far as she loves you and vice versa" that's what counts.
If all the allegations are true and they follow the same of pattern of her attitude, you had been run for own future peace because those are her real person. Mind you Leopards don't change their spots.
Sisters know alot and see a lot more in another girl than a bro sees. If your sister has been sincere with you till now, she has your best interest at heart. Girls always play the " love " card, all too often when they sting you they don't remember love. Be warned, don't cast your pearls to a swine the mud its destination. May God help you.

Word. On point.

When a guy does same, they cry from the roof top and their bandwagon mates rain curses on all men ever created.
Love is over-rated these days. It evaporates quickly when greener pasture beckons.

OP's sister and alumni have clearly seen that. They only mind because they think with her sordid past, your sister should not become her sister-in-law. Girls know themselves.

If she was worth it, she would not have kept it secret from your sister. Your sister would be delighted to have a dear friend become a sister.

I have had close female friends that I'd not have encourage any of my relatives, including cousins, to marry.

By the way, is her womb intact? Please avoid what I had to sadly go through.

You have been warned.

Hmm. You guys of nowadays. No balls
Simply do what one Igbo guy in the Uk did when his mother wanted to chase away his dream babe.

He was Igbo and he found love with one utterly beautiful Brazilian babe he met in Scotland. This babe loved him so much, she flew to the US from the Uk to meet his aunt to learn how to make egusi, okazi and ogbono soup.

Then the mother came to visit , saw the Brazilian babe and privately took the son aside to tell him that he must marry a girl from his tribe and not this Brazil babe.

The guy calmly looked at his mother and said "mama, it looks like you don't want to come for my wedding then". The woman thought it was a joke until the guy proposed to his babe and started wedding preps

She had to come to accept the babe by fire by force

So simply ask your sister "is it that you will not come to my wedding or not "?

Forget all this old fashioned BS...your choice of a wife is 99% your decision.

Why do you want to turn a potential LovePeddler to a house wife?

Love is blind and it has taken over your mind, what you think is love is truly not. You need to elevate and find another.

Afterall girls run like buses, you may miss one, catch one every hour on the hour promptly.

texazzpete:
Hmm. You guys of nowadays. No balls
Simply do what one Igbo guy in the Uk did when his mother wanted to chase away his dream babe.

He was Igbo and he found love with one utterly beautiful Brazilian babe he met in Scotland. This babe loved him so much, she flew to the US from the Uk to meet his aunt to learn how to make egusi, okazi and ogbono soup.

Then the mother came to visit , saw the Brazilian babe and privately took the son aside to tell him that he must marry a girl from his tribe and not this Brazil babe.

The guy calmly looked at his mother and said "mama, it looks like you don't want to come for my wedding then". The woman thought it was a joke until the guy proposed to his babe and started wedding preps

She had to come to accept the babe by fire by force

So simply ask your sister "is it that you will not come to my wedding or not "?

Forget all this old fashioned BS...your choice of a wife is 99% your decision.

This is not about tribe or okazi soup.
It's about moral rectitude. A hoe of any tribe or nationality is a hoe.
Even the Brazillian lady & Igbo guy, have they been married for 25 years?

If after 20 years by God's grace, a Brazilian guy has not used Samba to take her away, then we can talk more.
God saved me from one married Samba lady years back. Temptation.

AreaFada2:
Word. On point.

When a guy does same, they cry from the roof top and their bandwagon mates rain curses on all men ever created.
Love is over-rated these days. It evaporates quickly when greener pasture beckons.

OP's sister and alumni have clearly seen that. They only mind because they think with her sordid past, your sister should not become her sister-in-law. Girls know themselves.

If she was worth it, she would not have kept it secret from your sister. Your sister would be delighted to have a dear friend become a sister.

I have had close female friends that I'd not have encourage any of my relatives, including cousins, to marry.

By the way, is her womb intact? Please avoid what I had to sadly go through.

You have been warned.

pray tell what did you have to go through



good morning

Only a lady knows a lady.

Try covincing your sister. Tell her to open up.

There might be more to it.


Use your head not your heart

my brother, is better u listen to your sister oo

girls full town

you can find true love elsewhere, after all u ar nt even sure if the girl truly loves u

is better not to marry than marry a girl that will nt be in peace with ur family
but if u doubt me tell ur mum of her past and see if she will still accept her

Out of the first seven comments, 5 ar from d ladies and dey are preaching about forgiveness, love and blah blah blah!

Let d reverse be b case, u will start seeing, "babe, better leave dat guy and flee, he has cheated once, he willl cheat again'

Comments like: "chei, oloriburuku lawon okunrin sha'! He wan use and dump him,follow ur sister's words o, don't marry him'!

Lol! Awon Feminists oshi!

Bros, go to God in prayer! He will lead u thru

AreaFada2:
This is not about tribe or okazi soup.
It's about moral rectitude. A hoe of any tribe or nationality is a hoe.
Even the Brazillian lady & Igbo guy, have they been married for 25 years?

If after 20 years by God's grace, a Brazilian guy has not used Samba to take her away, then we can talk more.
God saved me from one married Samba lady years back. Temptation.

If definition of 'hoe' is a girl who has slept with more than one man before, or dumped a boyfriend for another, then nobody go marry again in Nigeria.


All that matters is if they love each other. Simple

Jayhumble, follow your mind.... It won't lead you astray.

jayhumble:
Good evening fellas...

I love my Girlfriend so much. She happened to be my sisters friend back in the University. Well they were staying in same hostel back then. I didn't meet her thru my sister, we met during an occasional event way back 2014. My sister has been silent about everything right from the on set she saw her pic on my phone, little did I know my lil sister was waiting for the right time to strike. Well, I finally built the courage to introduce my GF to my mom since I have decided to step our relationship up. The moment I gisted my sister about my plans... She went on whatsapp and warned my GF to leave me and go back to her ex. I still didn't know any of this was going on until my GF sent a text to my sister saying "If you don't want me to marry you brother, I will leave your brother for you and marry someone else".
The moment my sister got that message, she started telling me her story back in school and how she cheated on her 'then bf' when they had a little misunderstanding and she dated someone else pending the time she settled with her BF. She keeps telling me she is not a type of girl to be trusted and all these blah blah blah girls talk. She even had to call a guy who has dated her before and put it on speaker but I didn't mind cuz I felt it's just a girl to girl things...
My GF broke into tears while telling me all these on phone and actually confessed to every allegations laid on her. Went to check my sister's phone to re-read all their chats and I didn't like what I saw actually but I'm still playing matured.
Now this whole issue has blown up to their alumni whatsapp group where all her mates were accusing her of leaving her ex BF just because she found a greener grass.. All those type of talk.

My question now is that... Should I overlook her past and all these drama and proceed with my plans? Can I trust her with her

Please I need advise from matured minds only .

Cc lalasticl.ala
Prettythicksme

Your parents especially your mum are the best to handle the problem. Inform them first of the rift and then call your sister. And lastly call your girlfriend.

Your mum especially may be able to tell if its simply a personal grudge your sister bears or she is on a righteous coursr.

this your sister, hmmm na wa oo
who is she to jugde?
A saint?
did your girlfriend commit worst sins than Mary Magdaline?
so because your sister feels she know this lady in question she feel she is not good for you ?
this is what I call " see finish"

For real?

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This hoes can never be loyal..op history always repeats itself,dump the b!@$tch

I think sometimes, theres this "taboo" thing going on about "as my friend, you are forbidden to date my brother or sister". Well, unfortunately sometimes, unplanned feelings /love does happens. You need to talk to your sister, she needs to take a chill pill. I am pretty sure she is no saint either. Give her an ultimatum that unless theres a mindblowing reason why you shouldnt marry your girl, then she should shaddap and forever hold her peace. If its ordinary she left her bf stuff, your sis needs to grow up, so you need to investigate, betterstill, invite a 3rd party, like a mutual and neutral friend of your girl and sis.

My 2 cents.
Goodluck.

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misspicy:
pray tell what did you have to go through

good morning

Lol. Cheeky curious girl.
Well, years back during Xmas I met this nice young lady. First impressions: She was decent, Christian family.
The dad really came across as very decent, amiable & humble man. The mum somewhat pushy, like some Afro mums.
My only worry was age gap & distance: She over 5 years younger & I in diaspora.

Then she claimed she was a virgin. Hmmmmm ok. I was not looking for a virgin, but if she is, fine.
I didn't really wanna waste time but decided to observe a bit. Visited her a few times. I was now set to perfect things.

When we couldn't wait to "chop apple", she said being virgin, unless I will marry her, no apple. I said, even if she wasn't virgin, I'd marry her.
Though what I found was the regular Badagry Express sha o, but I know female anatomy enough to know reasons why she might not appear virgin. Even if actually a virgin. I didn't care anyway, I liked her very much.

Suddenly a female relative got wind that the young lady had ruined her womb a few years earlier. In a botched abortion! The relative has many contacts in the healthcare sector.

Holy cow! How did that happen? Spiritual pregnancy? But she said she was a virgin.

Then came the pushy mum proper. She said no problem at all, all in order. Shebi na you first chop the apple. Just take abroad and all will be splendid.

I insisted on doing test first in 9ja. The mum tried to stop it. The dad was ok with it. You know dads never really know these abortion things daughters do. After much foot dragging & trying to influence the doc to give it all clear, it finally came to light that her womb was severely damaged.
Despite clear medical evidence, the mother kept saying it's a minor thing, that it can be rectified abroad. That woman doesn't even know MMA. Still she never admitted any abortion took place.

Our informant witnessed the abortion first hand.

Mistakes can happen. But denying and trying to dupe others is unacceptable. If they had admitted right away and come clean, then fine.
What hope has a marriage built on such a fundamental lie?

Any how, I wasted over 2 years of life in courtship with that lady.

Dude, do not dismiss what your sister told you just like that because of LOVE. She might be younger than you but trust me, she's experienced.

Think with your head not your heart.

Seeeeeeee:
The past in any relationship is important., listen to ur sister and from ur galfriends word ''if u dont want me to marry ur brother let me know so that i marry someone else'' is a clear sign ur galfriend is a wayward and confused b*tch.

exactly my thought...u are so on point!
Once a cheat....always a cheat! ts in dier blood.