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Michellla:
Everyone has a past.
if you truly believe that you love her then either get past it by being the more mature individual and get past it and continue dating her and destroy it from your mind and making her feel like crap for how she hurt you, if she still want's you back. Or you can snub her off and find someone else. But ask yourself if you really love this girl and if she loves you the same way. Also try to communicate with her, if you haven't already.and fix it.you just have to show her that you truly care, besids whats the assurance that the next girl you'll leave her for would be a saint?
the ball is in your court now.

This is what I hated most.Everyone has a past.That's why we were been told that before I take an action,please do think of the consequences.We are noy perfect but we are human beings that have the ability to think.For the lady to leave her Ex for greener pasture,Who tells you she won't do that if she's married to the op?Our actions and reactions should be considered whenever an issue comes up.

texazzpete:
If definition of 'hoe' is a girl who has slept with more than one man before, or dumped a boyfriend for another, then nobody go marry again in Nigeria.


All that matters is if they love each other. Simple

OP said "many allegations", to the point he admits been unhappy about the whole information.
Who said it's just dumping one guy?

In a short period of quarrel, she slept with another guy already. Still with the OP o.

So any time she has quarrel with hubby (normal thing in most unions) na to go bleep another man?

There's really no need to be pretentious here... Ur gf has a sordid past that nobody's commending her for . Accepted.. Every girl gets tempted once in a while when they are in a relationship,coz as a friend told me, "there'd always be someone better" than the person u're currently with.

Everyone's mad at her.. Her ex-classmates inclusive. This means she must have really slopped big time... Leaving one guy for another just because of money. I understand how tempting that could be, but discipline is needed and the desire to commit and hold dear what u have, irrespective of other seemingly glamorous things. She doesn't seem to posses all those virtues... And now, she's dumped that guy again and wants to be with u.


Jayhumble, ask yourself. How long will it be before she moves on to the next best thing?


But perhaps, ppl really do change. She might be in for the long haul this time around. It's left for u to find out and decide if u wantu risk finding that out in marriage. But for now, tell ur sis to mind her biz. She's done enough already.

Michellla:
Everyone has a past.
if you truly believe that you love her then either get past it by being the more mature individual and get past it and continue dating her and destroy it from your mind and making her feel like crap for how she hurt you, if she still want's you back. Or you can snub her off and find someone else. But ask yourself if you really love this girl and if she loves you the same way. Also try to communicate with her, if you haven't already.and fix it.you just have tom show her that you truly care, besids whats the assurance that the next girl you'll leave her for would be a saint?
the ball is in your court now.

My dear every one has one,two or many ugly experiences in life. Your sister also hers own past which she might not share with you, assuming she is the one that introduce her guy to you, and you have known that guy from adam and you decide to run her down how will she feel. Broda if you truely love your girl, talk to her and forge ahead with her. Marriage is totally different from dating or relationship, please don't break someones heart. Good luck

u should listen to ur sister,she knws her better.I just pray marryin g dt girl won't bring war into ur family u will gt a better one

jayhumble:
Good evening fellas...

I love my Girlfriend so much. She happened to be my sisters friend back in the University. Well they were staying in same hostel back then. I didn't meet her thru my sister, we met during an occasional event way back 2014. My sister has been silent about everything right from the on set she saw her pic on my phone, little did I know my lil sister was waiting for the right time to strike. Well, I finally built the courage to introduce my GF to my mom since I have decided to step our relationship up. The moment I gisted my sister about my plans... She went on whatsapp and warned my GF to leave me and go back to her ex. I still didn't know any of this was going on until my GF sent a text to my sister saying "If you don't want me to marry you brother, I will leave your brother for you and marry someone else".
The moment my sister got that message, she started telling me her story back in school and how she cheated on her 'then bf' when they had a little misunderstanding and she dated someone else pending the time she settled with her BF. She keeps telling me she is not a type of girl to be trusted and all these blah blah blah girls talk. She even had to call a guy who has dated her before and put it on speaker but I didn't mind cuz I felt it's just a girl to girl things...
My GF broke into tears while telling me all these on phone and actually confessed to every allegations laid on her. Went to check my sister's phone to re-read all their chats and I didn't like what I saw actually but I'm still playing matured.
Now this whole issue has blown up to their alumni whatsapp group where all her mates were accusing her of leaving her ex BF just because she found a greener grass.. All those type of talk.

My question now is that... Should I overlook her past and all these drama and proceed with my plans? Can I trust her with her

Please I need advise from matured minds only .

Cc lalasticl.ala
Prettythicksme

Them done date one guy before

Haha funny how everybody itches to give advice..face your own damn lives.

I still maintain that if you need somebody to tekl you who to marry..den you should not get married.. Cause your just not ready

May be they have shared the same sugar daddy.

Ooops bro, two things are involved. 1. Is either your girlfriend had underwent different kinds of lifestyle your sister is protecting you from, or 2. You are so close to your sister that she sense a rival for your love.

Nawao,see as girls dey protect thier fellow girl.if say na man now,hmmmmm I wonder ooo.guess u guys didn't see the part the OP. Said she left her EX for a greener pasture(him).so what is the guarantee that the girl in guestion won't leave the OP when a yellower pasture comes.lol.and remember the girl in question is the guys sister,who is opposing this relationship.both of them hav stayed in the hostel for long.if truely the girl is a good girl,i bet u,he will even help the brother in convincing the girl.she is jst protecting his brother which is nt wrong.so my advice is that people should always leave a gud life because u never know where ur help will come from.

Yes he can call it off only if they have been doing prostitution togther back in school or that something is wrong with her womb..no one is a saint and some people's past is dirtier than this.


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In addition to this, do not ignore your sister's opinion as it is very important, tell her that this is the person you want to marry and that you love her but you are going to respect her opinion, because she is your sister.

Also talk to your gf, and tell her the same thing; that you love her, but she should understand that peace must reign, then ask both of them to discuss it among themselves and settle the issue. Do not put pressure on your sister, explain to her that, you understand that every one have a past even herself and you are aware of your gf past now, but you will want them to resolve the issue, and that she should put emotions apart and look at the issue objectively.

If it it me, if my sister comes back and tell me that, in all good conscience, she will not agree to the marry and objectively state her reasons and her reasons are very valid, I will not go ahead with the marriage.[/quote]

I didn't read this fully...... Just a PSA

anyways in my single experience, I avoided his sister and I didn't regret that. I have my own sisters. I have my own friends. She doesn't need to be either. Cause if it goes wrong, it can go really wrong.

Your sis needs to go get her own life.

I don't even see anything the so called girlfriend did terribly wrong. She broke up with one ex and started dating another?

Your sister is and has probably been always jealous of her. Those jealousy ridden ones are the ones that behave like your sister the most.

Love is fake... Ignorance is bliss

The only problem with marriage is within 2 years your eyes become open and you begin to find "love" outside.
.anyways the truth is if I were you I would listen to my sis well well sha o.

Cos there's things girls in hostels I stayed in did during their Skul days that I.M.O. is absolutely trashy, if my bro come bring one wey I know say no good , I gotta inform him. @least so he wouldn't. Claim "if he had known"
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In summary... Guy look elsewhere , your sis obviously knows the character of this babe pass u. And TRUST ME. People DO NOT CHANGE.

Snipes009:
@OP, this is the best advice on here. That your gf's statement, said it all.....A word is enough

I think I agree with you. Op, forget love and think with your head. If you jump into marriage based on love alone, your eye go clear after 2 years. Your sis knows that babe more than you.

jayhumble:
Good evening fellas...

I love my Girlfriend so much. She happened to be my sisters friend back in the University. Well they were staying in same hostel back then. I didn't meet her thru my sister, we met during an occasional event way back 2014. My sister has been silent about everything right from the on set she saw her pic on my phone, little did I know my lil sister was waiting for the right time to strike. Well, I finally built the courage to introduce my GF to my mom since I have decided to step our relationship up. The moment I gisted my sister about my plans... She went on whatsapp and warned my GF to leave me and go back to her ex. I still didn't know any of this was going on until my GF sent a text to my sister saying "If you don't want me to marry you brother, I will leave your brother for you and marry someone else".
The moment my sister got that message, she started telling me her story back in school and how she cheated on her 'then bf' when they had a little misunderstanding and she dated someone else pending the time she settled with her BF. She keeps telling me she is not a type of girl to be trusted and all these blah blah blah girls talk. She even had to call a guy who has dated her before and put it on speaker but I didn't mind cuz I felt it's just a girl to girl things...
My GF broke into tears while telling me all these on phone and actually confessed to every allegations laid on her. Went to check my sister's phone to re-read all their chats and I didn't like what I saw actually but I'm still playing matured.
Now this whole issue has blown up to their alumni whatsapp group where all her mates were accusing her of leaving her ex BF just because she found a greener grass.. All those type of talk.

My question now is that... Should I overlook her past and all these drama and proceed with my plans? Can I trust her with her

Please I need advise from matured minds only .

Cc lalasticl.ala
Prettythicksme

a woman's past is dangerous!

once you know her past! runaway from that WOMAN or stay and see how your life will damage!

WOMEN don't repent from their past life there are only dormant to it. with time they will still continue what there know how to do best.

Keep acting like a matured man and ingnore ur sis and friends....even dat ur innocent sis dat was 1s her company has her own ugly past.. Women slf

Let bygones be bygones, she was probably too naive and gullible back in the university days, am sure she might have learnt a thing or two since then.

Conclusion.
Marry her if you love her

Your sister is telling you the bitter truth... The earlier the better

why is it mostly the ladies that are asking the op to forget the past??

willynilly87:
Listen to your sister it happened to me the way you just explain, I listen to my sister today I thank God because the said girl can do anything for money now. Women pretend a lot before you take them to alter. Any bad thing you know now please don't ignore, after marriage you will know love is not blind.

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Greener grass today could be hay tomorrow. Guy be smart....she seem to be interested in marriage. Some questions begging for answers: Why say if you don't want me to marry you brother rather than date your brother? Why did she break up with her EX? Why is your sis so bitter about this your relationship? Is she the troublesome type?

jayhumble:
Good evening fellas...

I love my Girlfriend so much. She happened to be my sisters friend back in the University. Well they were staying in same hostel back then. I didn't meet her thru my sister, we met during an occasional event way back 2014. My sister has been silent about everything right from the on set she saw her pic on my phone, little did I know my lil sister was waiting for the right time to strike. Well, I finally built the courage to introduce my GF to my mom since I have decided to step our relationship up. The moment I gisted my sister about my plans... She went on whatsapp and warned my GF to leave me and go back to her ex. I still didn't know any of this was going on until my GF sent a text to my sister saying "If you don't want me to marry you brother, I will leave your brother for you and marry someone else".
The moment my sister got that message, she started telling me her story back in school and how she cheated on her 'then bf' when they had a little misunderstanding and she dated someone else pending the time she settled with her BF. She keeps telling me she is not a type of girl to be trusted and all these blah blah blah girls talk. She even had to call a guy who has dated her before and put it on speaker but I didn't mind cuz I felt it's just a girl to girl things...
My GF broke into tears while telling me all these on phone and actually confessed to every allegations laid on her. Went to check my sister's phone to re-read all their chats and I didn't like what I saw actually but I'm still playing matured.
Now this whole issue has blown up to their alumni whatsapp group where all her mates were accusing her of leaving her ex BF just because she found a greener grass.. All those type of talk.

My question now is that... Should I overlook her past and all these drama and proceed with my plans? Can I trust her with her

Please I need advise from matured minds only .

Cc lalasticl.ala
Prettythicksme

every saint has a past and every sinner has a future...............my noble opinion

jayhumble:
Good evening fellas...

I love my Girlfriend so much. She happened to be my sisters friend back in the University. Well they were staying in same hostel back then. I didn't meet her thru my sister, we met during an occasional event way back 2014. My sister has been silent about everything right from the on set she saw her pic on my phone, little did I know my lil sister was waiting for the right time to strike. Well, I finally built the courage to introduce my GF to my mom since I have decided to step our relationship up. The moment I gisted my sister about my plans... She went on whatsapp and warned my GF to leave me and go back to her ex. I still didn't know any of this was going on until my GF sent a text to my sister saying "If you don't want me to marry you brother, I will leave your brother for you and marry someone else".
The moment my sister got that message, she started telling me her story back in school and how she cheated on her 'then bf' when they had a little misunderstanding and she dated someone else pending the time she settled with her BF. She keeps telling me she is not a type of girl to be trusted and all these blah blah blah girls talk. She even had to call a guy who has dated her before and put it on speaker but I didn't mind cuz I felt it's just a girl to girl things...
My GF broke into tears while telling me all these on phone and actually confessed to every allegations laid on her. Went to check my sister's phone to re-read all their chats and I didn't like what I saw actually but I'm still playing matured.
Now this whole issue has blown up to their alumni whatsapp group where all her mates were accusing her of leaving her ex BF just because she found a greener grass.. All those type of talk.

My question now is that... Should I overlook her past and all these drama and proceed with my plans? Can I trust her with her

Please I need advise from matured minds only .

Cc lalasticl.ala
Prettythicksme

Bros leav that girl ohh

Run if your sis cn open up to tell u this...better run

Wat pain ur sis is that the girl is too rugged......to date his Bro....

Also is that u guys cn find fresh girl to date??y date someone's, someones ex..who knows how my ex....

Maybe your taste though.. Cuz I cnt date someone's ex...

Why cnt u date fresh girl...so mst u collect eaten d drop by guys...

Which eva way There mst b Ppl that takes girls used by other guys..

Many persons are saying forget the past hum the past is very Important. If you treat it lightly you will regret tomorrow. Your girlfriend left her ex in their time of misunderstanding to be flirting with another guy and you think it isn't something to worry about. So what tells you she won't do that to you afterall you may not know. She does not see her acr as a mistake n hence her telling ur sis that she will leave you and marry another man if she wants you too. If the girlfriend really loved u she won't mke dat statement rather she would have been begging ur sis to forget the past n try to convince her she has changed. So my dear that your girlfriend will certainly betray n disappoint u. Listen to ur sister. As a girl she has told u d truth based on ur girlfriend attitude both present n past. Don't let love or so blind u to glaring facts cox love isn't blind. Dnt ruin ur life. If I were ur sis doh I would table d matter before ur parents also n tell u to go ahead if u insist bt warn u of d danger ahead. Dnt go into a marriage that will crash months or weeks before or after wedding

Michellla:
Everyone has a past.
if you truly believe that you love her then either get past it by being the more mature individual and get past it and continue dating her and destroy it from your mind and making her feel like crap for how she hurt you, if she still want's you back. Or you can snub her off and find someone else. But ask yourself if you really love this girl and if she loves you the same way. Also try to communicate with her, if you haven't already.and fix it.you just have to show her that you truly care, besids whats the assurance that the next girl you'll leave her for would be a saint?
the ball is in your court now.

Not everyone has a sordid past marred with wrong decisions. I always say it that if you go into a relationship with the best of intentions and you don't make choices which would portray you as irresponsible then you wouldn't have a past you aren't proud of.

your past determines your future.

Nienie:
Brother eh..it's between you and your lady..your sister should go and marry abeg.
Help me ask her this question first.."Sis what if you were in her shoes?"
She has to respect you and tolerate her..You can try to reconcile them..if she no gree..leave trash for lawma.

You really meant your last line? Leave trash for lawma?Don't forget their relationship is leading to marriage soon according to Op.There is different b/w dating and marriage. I don't know how my wife to be and my Sister will stay in my house when they Can't agreed.

cyprus000:
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It is understandable for ladies on this forum to rally round your Gf to solicit for "by gone".

But ama advice you lyk a fellow .
Her past is too ugly for comfort, considering that she dumped her allege ex for a guy with higher ballary.

Over looking infidelity is safer than over looking a potential gold digging snitch that will ditch you when things(God forbid) turn awry. This is what your sis is harmlessly trying to make you understand,cos she knows the adverse effect
of negligence of such attrubute.

you are kinda playing with fire.
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OP, i hope you will listen to this guy. The best way to look for a wife is to get someone that knows a lot about her and will sincerely tells you about the woman you want to marry. Marriage is not rice and beans. When you fail to listen someone like your sister that knows much about her, then prepare for the worst in your marriage.

Damseluc:
this your sister, hmmm na wa oo
who is she to jugde?
A saint?
did your girlfriend commit worst sins than Mary Magdaline?
so because your sister feels she know this lady in question she feel she is not good for you ?
this is what I call " see finish"

look at them


coming here to preach!

@op! if you listen to any woman telling you forgiveness! past is past, and the likes of this ^.


you are the biggest FOOL.

remember ice prince?
O.Y.O!

hollywater:
You really meant your last line? Leave trash for lawma?Don't forget their relationship is leading to marriage soon according to Op.There is different b/w dating and marriage. I don't know how my wife to be and my Sister will stay in my house when they Can't agreed.

Hate doesn't last forever..they can't hate each other for Long if he eventually marries her.