debbysmyles:
Pls I need advice,i just had to create a new account to avoid embrassment.
I'm 21yrs old and I had sex for the first time 1month ago,i was feeling sick so I decided to visit the doctor only to discover that i am pregnant.

I told my boyfriend and he suggested abortion..the problem is I don't want to abort the baby cos of fear.I kept my since till one ago because of different Phrophecy concerning pregnancy I must not abort if I do I will die.
I told my boyfriend everything but he insist I abort it if not he is going to abandon me to my fate.
My mum will kill me,society will crucify me,i have cried and cried,i don't know what to do.

Some guys are wicked upon all the promise of love.
I would have kept my virginity if I had known.

Why is everyone keep saying she shouldn't abort ? when you all know it's not going to be easy for the young lady, this is an unwanted pregnancy, her education might be affected.

I am not saying you should abort, let your parent make the final decision.

Tell your mum he forced you to do it.

byvan03:
Whatever you do, don't end up on a quack 's table so you don't ruin your entire world over a pregnancy. How old is this your boo?

26yrs.

Abort...and your life and love-life will never remain the same again

You are wicked

Emac34:
sorry u hear

uhmmm!!!, you made a mistake. But the solution? Only you can decide that. you will have to look where you are coming from, where you are, and where you want to be. if you are not ready to become a #Mother, you may go for safe abortion my dear. Your life is very important. please think wise

debbysmyles:
26yrs.

he iz due to marrÝ u den.

Please please please NEVER you abort that baby. Do you know you will regret later? Is better that your mum crucify you than for you to regret later. Mums are always mums, no matter what she will come around. And for the guy let him go. You have seen there is no love in this relationship and don't be stupid to abort this baby and continue to abort babies for the IDIOT to love him.

Didn't he use condom

debbysmyles:
you can condemm me but everyone make's mistake.

debbysmyles:
Pls I need advice,i just had to create a new account to avoid embrassment.
I'm 21yrs old and I had sex for the first time 1month ago,i was feeling sick so I decided to visit the doctor only to discover that i am pregnant.

I told my boyfriend and he suggested abortion..the problem is I don't want to abort the baby cos of fear.I kept my since till one ago because of different Phrophecy concerning pregnancy I must not abort if I do I will die.
I told my boyfriend everything but he insist I abort it if not he is going to abandon me to my fate.
My mum will kill me,society will crucify me,i have cried and cried,i don't know what to do.

Some guys are wicked upon all the promise of love.
I would have kept my virginity if I had known.

Two wrongs don't right a "WRONG", D deed has been done. Aborting ur baby is tantamount to committing murder, and believe me, if u do its a decision u will live to regret for the rest of ur LIFE. You not the first Teenager to give birth outta wedlock, and u won't be the last either. Frankly Speaking! Its all up to you, to pick up your pieces n move ahead, Genevieve Nnaji n Waje Iruobe both had babies when they were not even up to ur age, So girl, Be Bold n MAN up, There's a drop of GREATNESS in every WOMAn.
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CaroLyner:
you're smart.

Yh, I get that a lot. BTW, I quoted you the other day concerning fried plantain. You said you will holla when next you fry, I dey wait o. *hands akimbo"

this sh*t will continue to resurface, its a cycle that is never ending,all cuz of stupid and foolish partners like the op and her useless bf,the blame is totally on you,and its a big shame, cry out ur brains or not it changes nothing, its your first time so??everybody had/has a first time!!! until ladies realize they are always at the losing,receiving end in this love,relationship,sex thingy the better,now the miserable bast*rd who put u in d family way is ranting an abortion or you on ur own,no more I love you,can die for you,bet all those lines made u open up your legs,now guys are wicked and heartless innit?? with the level of education,information its really annoying reading tales of unwanted pregnancies,a guy that f*cks a lady with or without condoms should be expecting two things,a pregnancy or none,same goes for the lady being laid!!puts me off when y'al seem confused and amazed when the result screams positive,better seek out the families of ur bf,and indulge em of the developments,open up to your mum also,if they both discard you then you on your own,dust ur self and keep your baby,go for an abortion if you don't value your life or future,and I hope karma catches up with that useless guy you tagged a bf.

Don't try to abort..jes brace up urself for the challenge ahead..can't lie to you,it wont be easy but u when there is life there is hope..

Oma307:
Didn't he use condom

I swear I didn't plan to have sex with him dat day,so I didn't even bother to ask him about condom.But I was so unlucky,just my first time and I got pregnant.

debbysmyles:
26yrs.

He is not a child, he is old enough to take responsibility. Please don't let him take you to any quack, it's likely that this type of irresponsible fellow will take you to a quack. One thing is established, you want your baby, do you know his parents? Be careful with him this period, desperation can make people do fool*ish things including trying to hurt you to hide his sins. Someone needs to know, someone close enough to protect you. Anyone close enough?

Miss debby, I would advise you don't try abortion

Confide in your mother


You can also trace his house, confide in his mom...she will accept you if your mom rejetcs you..m(hats if she is a good mother tho
uote author=debbysmyles post=42275001]Pls I need advice,i just had to create a new account to avoid embrassment.
I'm 21yrs old and I had sex for the first time 1month ago,i was feeling sick so I decided to visit the doctor only to discover that i am pregnant.

I told my boyfriend and he suggested abortion..the problem is I don't want to abort the baby cos of fear.I kept my since till one ago because of different Phrophecy concerning pregnancy I must not abort if I do I will die.
I told my boyfriend everything but he insist I abort it if not he is going to abandon me to my fate.
My mum will kill me,society will crucify me,i have cried and cried,i don't know what to do.

Some guys are wicked upon all the promise of love.
I would have kept my virginity if I had known.
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Don't ever bring a child to this world if you are not ready to be a parent.

Having a baby requires you to be financially and emotionally ready.

Those singing that you should keep the baby will not help you with money to take care of the baby neither will they be willing to marry you in future as a single parent.

Abortion is the way out for you the way I see it since you also only have your mother and she is also struggling, do not add to your mother's burden.

At 21 your are not a kid, you should have made better choices, abort the baby and start afresh and start wiser.

If you tell your mum, she will tell you to keep it and it will be more difficult for you to abort it, then you should be prepared to live with the consequences for a long time to come.

Do not refer to prophecy when making serious decisions, many are deceived through such prophecies, rather put on your thinking cap and take the choice that is best for you on the long run.

debbysmyles:
maybe I will involve her sister.Thanks.

That might be d good, but I will suggest you add other members of your Family whom you know your mum honours so much. For d fellow you called your boy friend, he is a coward who needs to get a better
life out of his mystery.

debbysmyles:
maybe I will involve her sister.Thanks.

That might be a good idea, but I will suggest you add other members of your Family whom you know your mum honours so much. For d fellow you called your boy friend, he is a coward who needs to get a better
life out of his mystery.

byvan03:



He is not a child, he is old enough to take responsibility. Please don't let him take you to any quack, it's likely that this type of irresponsible fellow will take you to a quack. One thing is established, you want your baby, do you know his parents? Be careful with him this period, desperation can make people do fool*ish things including trying to hurt you to hide his sins. Someone needs to know, someone close enough to protect you. Anyone close enough?

I know his sister but his parent aren't based in lag.

who cares

Don't let it way you down. You can still come out of it. We all face challenges and set backs in our lives which is cumulative to our experience and motivates us to achieve great things.

At the age of 21, I strongly believe you're still in school and having a child at this stage will be a burden to your academics.

I won't advice you to get rid of the child because you can lose your life in the process. My candid advice is you let your parents know most especially your mum and I believe after being furious, will calm down and will suggest best ways to manage the situation. Remember your parents have your best interest at heart.

debbysmyles:
thanks,i already told my mum sis that I'm coming to see her 2morrow.

Good. What they like to see is a remorseful face. It is up to t=you to ensure that remorse is real in your heart to avoid a life repeat. Wishing you the best dear.

Pls any lady who ready to give me child, am serious o

teemy:

Good. What they like to see is a remorseful face. It is up to t=you to ensure that remorse is real in your heart to avoid a repeat. Wishing you the best dear.

thanks I appreciate.

What u have to do now is to be calm, cos from write up, u are worried. Pls i will like u not to abort the baby. Just have that boldness and courage to tell ur mum and if u think of the stigma from the society, u can change vicinity

debbysmyles:
I swear I didn't plan to have sex with him dat day,so I didn't even bother to ask him about condom.But I was so unlucky,just my first time and I got pregnant.

@OP don't do it

I BELIEVE NIGERIANS DIE, ALL OF A SUDDEN EVERYBODY HAS BECOME VERY RELIGIOUS. PREACHING PEACE IN THE MIND. PREACHING AGAINST ABOTION AND SOUNDING LIKE THE GOOD GUY/FEMALE SO THAT THEIR COVER WILL NOT BE COMPROMISED. I BET YOU AND I CAN SWORE WITH MY CERTIFICATE THAT 95% OF ALL THOSE COMMENTING ON THIS TREAD WILL OPT FOR TERMINATION OF THE PREGNANCY IF THE CASE WAS THEIRS.
I AM NOT IN FAVOR OF IT BUT TO BE HONEST TO NAIRALANDERS AND TO MYSELF, IF I AM A SERVING CORPER, STUDENT, LIVING WITH MY PARENTS/UNCLE OR THAT MY PERENTS ARE NOT TOO REACH.ie face me i face living condition. The mistake is mine, the regret is mine, the sin is mine. To repent of my sin is mine, I WILL GO FOR TERMINATION BUT WILL MAKE SURE ITS NOT DONE BY A QUACK DOCTORS.
BE THE FIRST TO CAST STONE ON ME, IF your innocent from this crime.

this is my mother.
my mum got pregnant at 17.
my biological father abandoned her.
the society crucified her.
my mother didn't abort me.
today i make my mother proud.
my mother is smart.
be like my mother.

Forgive me if this is a repetition, because I didn`t have the time to read every advice given to you so far

Right now, you need to forget about your boyfriend and concentrate on your mum. A couple of weeks ago, a guy was convicted for trying to kill a girl-friend that refused abortion, so that is one of the reasons why I would advise you to start avoiding him. After you have told your mum,she would decide what next with your boy-friend`s side. You still have time on your side, so calm down and see this as a blessing in disguise.
What happens, if you abort it- in order to finish everything you are doing now-and then you finish; get married, but you never become pregnant again? This is not a make believe, it is something I have seen before. So you are better off not aborting.
Every parent say the same thing that your mum has been saying to you, but once you are pregnant, they would not reject or `kill` you, so don`t hide it any longer. Call your mum as soon as you are able and tell her everything. She is the one that can give you total love right now.
By the way, the boy-friend may still end up as your future husband, so be careful in what you say or do. Good luck

Quite a difficult time its for u nw. I knw u feel, so sad nd full of regret. One thing is sure, u can't turn back d hands of time but u can certainly learn from this mistake. D deed is done bt great lessons infact everlasting lessons to learn.
If u can discuss it wit ur mum, look for any of ur mum's sis (ur aunt), d one dat ur mum wil listen to u nd tell dem wat happened. This is in a bid to avoid terminating d baby.
Abortion s no gud,
Am sure @ 21 u r stil in skul, @ 21 I had nt tasted sex, because I concentrated in my studies.

So fruit of the womb is now a source of sadness and apprehension,?

God forbid.

If this story is true, then I'll say Congratulations!

Wish you safe delivery.

The only thing is that guys like me who preach charity are seen as weird.

Imagine what you'd have done if you met a guy like me who meets you as a Virgin and hold your hands and say, keep it.

I doubt you'd really like such.

So again congratulations. It's a good thing to be pregnant.