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Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by Joysmart(f): 8:30pm On Jan 24, 2016
debbysmyles:
Decker I appreciate but my mum has been warning me since about pregnancy,the main problem now is the guy is threatening to deny me and pregnancy if I don't abort it.
My dear the world has gone past pregnancy denial
Tell him there's something called DNA test

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Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by justwise(m): 8:30pm On Jan 24, 2016
Opoki:

If you're planning to keep the baby despite the threat you bf is issuing then you hhave to think very very well.

One of my student once had a baby in 2014 and she's regretting the action. Keeping the baby might be very difficult and may halt a lot of things in your. Life. If you you're just scared of the abortion of a thing, then seek a professional.

You should watchout next time when you wanna get down.

So killing the baby is the preferred option?
Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by Fantasticks: 8:31pm On Jan 24, 2016
Gbyte:


And the question about Genevieve and Waje is this, which of the two of them is married? Or you think they don't like to get married? And those are two out of hundreds/thousands of single mothers we have out there. The truth is, we are in a society that frowns and does not support baby mama in anyway, there is more to life for a woman than having money and a child, you need a companion also, you need someone to love and love you. Except you want to put that on the line, you can have the baby. Truth is, I have a lady I am dating at the moment, she has two kids, but trust me, its all for this period, we are never going beyond date, no way we are getting married. She has beautiful kids, but am I ready to be a father to two kids that are not mine ? Am i going to shoulder their responsibility with my own kids without seeing them in a different way ? Is my family going to welcome her ? Am I going to love her unconditionally without thinking otherwise whenever she needs take her kids to go see their real father to say hi ? All these are question's have asked myself and most of the answers is no. Many would call me names for dating her in the first place, the truth is, i didn't even know she has kids until we've started, she is beautiful and doesn't even look like someone who has a kids, she's lucky to have a family that loves her and took the kids as theirs, but this is reality here my dear, don't put yourself in a sorry situation this early. Living alone without a companion is not something easy or enjoyable
They might not be married but they are successful. If they had aborted their pregnancies , do u no where they will be now? Say d truth friend, abortion is the same as committing murder.

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Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by zubycharles(m): 8:32pm On Jan 24, 2016
debbysmyles:
Decker I appreciate but my mum has been warning me since about pregnancy,the main problem now is the guy is threatening to deny me and pregnancy if I don't abort it.
just try n tell her....she must yell and qet anqry buh dnt be discouraqed....u re not d first 2 be in dis kind of mess neither will u be d last...just try n buckle up everytin will b alryt nxt tym...buh next tym try buy Condom or take conceptrative pills
Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by 0079jaBond(m): 8:33pm On Jan 24, 2016
debbysmyles:
Pls I need advice,i just had to create a new account to avoid embrassment.
I'm 21yrs old and I had sex for the first time 1month ago,i was feeling sick so I decided to visit the doctor only to discover that i am pregnant.

I told my boyfriend and he suggested abortion..the problem is I don't want to abort the baby cos of fear.I kept my since till one ago because of different Phrophecy concerning pregnancy I must not abort if I do I will die.
I told my boyfriend everything but he insist I abort it if not he is going to abandon me to my fate.
My mum will kill me,society will crucify me,i have cried and cried,i don't know what to do.

Some guys are wicked upon all the promise of love.
I would have kept my virginity if I had known.

My dear, I feel for you. It's just a pity. But do you know how Jesus felt when He was being crucified? Betrayed, dejected, hated and all that. Nonetheless, he carried and endured His cross, and for a greater glory!

You've threaded the wrong path of life and apparently you got its learning. Just the other day, I heard a lady of 23yrs finally lost her virginity after her 'sweet' boyfriend fooled her by saying he's in his "safe period" so he can't impregnate her. How stupid!

The best you could do now is to learn from this and take up your cross. Moreover, I need you to get your priorities right first. Why still yearn for a boyfriend who has turned you down? Is it the playing around you want or someone who's gonna add more value to you? Be sincere with yourself.

And as for your parents, the society and all those backlashing... oh dear, it's just one of those things that you face when life gives you its other side but really it is for your good, for a greater glory! Remember back at primary/secondary school when our teachers would flog us humiliatingly in front of everyone and even on assembly grounds? It still faded away anyway.

So my dear, please be strong. If you can be strong while in this storm, I tell you, even the world will bow for you. Sooner or later, your parents would accept you once they notice your zealousness and remorse. That's compassion there. Forget your ego.

So please, just bear it. It'll pass. Believe me. Cheers
Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by Nobody: 8:34pm On Jan 24, 2016
Funminicrown:

I'm so happy to have read your comment and i give this the best comment since the beginning of 2016 on Nairaland. Your type is what we need here and not some gullible hypocrites fond of castigating people seeking for help while leaving their own problems unsolved.
You're blessed for touching a life positively today.

Thanks.
Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by acevic: 8:34pm On Jan 24, 2016
debbysmyles:
you can insult me but I already realised my mistake.

You have your life to live. Ignore all the insults. Soak in the advice decker and some other guys gave you.

You have made the mistake already, there's no running away from the result of your action.

You have to tell you mum about it. One way r the other she will get to know and ur pop will as well. Abortion is not the way out.

Now, I know someone that got pregnant in 2005, immediately after leaving second school. She almost died from shame. She didn't abort, she had the baby and now, she is graduate and working already. If she didn't mention about any baby, you would never know. The baby boy then is all grown today.

Shame will come, insult will visit you, depression will pitch its tent inside ur room, anger will be in ur head all day all night. You might even thing of sucide but you will survive.

However, your boyfriend (if he's of the same age) could be having the worst time of his life. Could be scared to death right now. E no easy to father a baby without a job or steady income. Tell him your plans and free him. He will come along when he's calm..

In the end, it shall be alright. Keep this line in your head and heart.

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Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by Nobody: 8:35pm On Jan 24, 2016
,l

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Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by justwise(m): 8:36pm On Jan 24, 2016
Gbyte:


You have an answer already, you do not want to bring a child to this world to struggle with you and your mom, she'd hate you for giving her more burden, just abort the baby, regret it now and be glad you din't bring a child to this world to suffer later.

There is more to been a mother than just having a child, are you really ready to be a mother? If no, please my dear, don't think of it, there is only joy in motherhood when you are ready and you have the finance, there is no joy when you are not ready, its all regret. And those asking if there is no condom, like they all use condom all the time.

You've made a mistake, you'd be making another one if you keep the baby when you are not ready for the baby. Thanks and I wish you all the best

Interesting..so killing the baby is not a mistake? You are even pleading with her to kill the baby?

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Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by Nobody: 8:40pm On Jan 24, 2016
fh

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Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by Opoki(m): 8:42pm On Jan 24, 2016
justwise:


So killing the baby is the preferred option?
It may not be biblical but if she chooses the option, I won't discourage her and besides, that's not yet a baby but a foetus which can be likened to sperms spilled by some dudes even here on NL.

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Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by AyamConfidence(m): 8:44pm On Jan 24, 2016
Decker:
It's always advisable that if you want to engage in premarital sex, you should endeavor to use protection always. Asides preventing you from getting pregnant it also protects against STDs.
It was your first sex and the smart thing would have been for both you and the guy to use protection, but you didn't and now you are facing the consequences.

I am going to be honest with you. It's not right to abort children. It's religiously and morally wrong. It's murder and it's not right.
Asides for the fact that abortion is wrong, it can also be detrimental to the health of the lady and sometimes it could be fatal. So I won't advice you to abort the pregnancy. Besides this isn't a decision you should take on your own.

You just gonna have to tell your parents. That's the best thing. They are not going to kill you. They would scold you and probably punish you, but they still love you and have your interest at heart. Talk to your mum. Present the matter to her in a mature way, and be prepared for what would come after that. She would get mad and angry and emotional, but after few days, she would come along. She is a woman like you. If after you present the matter to your parents and they insist you abort it, then you have no choice. You aren't going to raise the child alone. But I don't think they would. I don't think any parent would want their child to abort a pregnancy.
If they tell you to keep it, I am sure they would proffer ideas and solutions on how you would go about the whole pregnancy issue including sorting things out with the guy who impregnated you.

You made a mistake, I get it. Everyone makes mistakes at some point in their lives, what's important is that we all learn from these mistakes. Don't worry, it's all right. Everything is okay.

You are just 21 and you have your whole life in front of you. Don't let this discourage you in anyway. It's just a little set back, but don't let it stand as a hindrance to you striving to achieve your dreams and goals in life.

It's alright. smiley
its Decker again...always on point
Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by AyamConfidence(m): 8:46pm On Jan 24, 2016
CaroLyner:
first of all at 21 you dont know about condom
and aftermath pills? am not upto 21 but i know
all these things.anyway the deed has been
done.do not get an abortion.Dont let anyone
force or coerce you to get one. You are your
child’s mother, and no one – not your boyfriend– can make you get an abortion. Let your “no!”
mean “no!” – no matter what anyone else tells
you. Your baby is a new, unique person who
deserves a chance at life. Period. If you ever
need to be reminded why you don’t want an
abortion, read real stories from real women who have had abortions. Their experiences will
remind you why you don’t want to do this, and
will help keep you strong in difficult moments
that is my own Caro ooo...you are on point...EVERYBODY I'VE SEEN MY CARO O...HAVE YOU FOUND YOURS??

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Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by justwise(m): 8:55pm On Jan 24, 2016
Gbyte:


Its not a baby yet, so you are fine if she keeps the baby and then the baby gets to suffer? Would you in anyway support her if you came to you for support? If you'd support her at all, would you do it with no strings? Lets wake to reality, the pregnancy is still in its early stage, its safer for her now than when its fully grown. This is reality, not some sentimental people who would keep the truth and say what they think people would applaud them for.

Why are you so sure that the baby will suffer if she keeps the pregnancy? Why are you talking as if you have mapped out her future? Have you thought of the danger involved in abortion? Why are you so sure that abortion is the best option in this case?

Oprah Winfrey's mother never had it all as a single mum, Opray herself was raped and got pregnant the age of 14 but she did not abort the baby though the boy died. Look at her now and how helpful she has been to many many people around the world. Imagine if the mum had aborted her then because she was a single mother.
Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by noblegrex: 8:55pm On Jan 24, 2016
debbysmyles:
My mum will never accept me,I'm scared right now.
just shut your mouth and talk to your mum. She won't accept what. Since it has to do with a matter of life or death. If you do it on your own and you die,it will be more painful.if you have 10 ladies,I can assure you that 8 are not virgin.the remaining two might just be mistake and you know what that means not to be a virgin,something must have entered there.so talk to your mum she knows what to do. Besides, did your dad meet her as a virgin?
Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by Nobody: 8:57pm On Jan 24, 2016
debbysmyles:
Pls I need advice,i just had to create a new account to avoid embrassment.
I'm 21yrs old and I had sex for the first time 1month ago,i was feeling sick so I decided to visit the doctor only to discover that i am pregnant.

I told my boyfriend and he suggested abortion..the problem is I don't want to abort the baby cos of fear.I kept my since till one ago because of different Phrophecy concerning pregnancy I must not abort if I do I will die.
I told my boyfriend everything but he insist I abort it if not he is going to abandon me to my fate.
My mum will kill me,society will crucify me,i have cried and cried,i don't know what to do.

Some guys are wicked upon all the promise of love.
I would have kept my virginity if I had known.

i know hw u must be feeling..but ur world hasnt ended. its up to you at d end of d day. wat dyu really want?

i sent u an email. reply me if u need some help. i had a friend in ur shoes and i helped her. just reply if ure interested.

its ur choice anyway. i wont ask u to do anything u dont wish to.
Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by chigo003(m): 8:58pm On Jan 24, 2016
Please never agree to abortion. it will ruin your life. Abortion is murder, its a sin too. You have to tell your mother that you are pregnant and she will advice you on what to do. You have to be honest with your family now, you have made the mistake but how early you tell your mother will tell her whether you are honest or not. Anyway the signs will start showing soon so its better you say it first. Your boy friend is not ready to be a father now that is why he wants an abortion, you can not put your life at risk and sin twice against God. Dont cover a sin/mistake with another sin/mistake. You can still savage your life, you can still achieve your dreams but abortion is not an option. I had a neighbour who died during abortion and its straight to hell fire, what will you tell God? it has eternal consequences. Please desist from pre-marital sex, you have to keep the baby.
Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by jimmy1boy(m): 9:01pm On Jan 24, 2016
make sure nothing happens to that Angel in you. You are blessed by God. We are too fast to make mistakes and to slow to accept responsibilities.
Abortion should not be a word in your dictionary for now..... DON'T LISTEN TO YOUR BOY FRIEND ON THAT.
You can abort both your life and the baby's so DON'T think of that..... It has long lasting effects on you years after...... It is a mortal SIN to commit Abortion.
Dear sister do not separate yourself from God. call 08074852556 for further help and enquiry.
Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by justwise(m): 9:03pm On Jan 24, 2016
Opoki:

It may not be biblical but if she chooses the option, I won't discourage her and besides, that's not yet a baby but a foetus which can be likened to sperms spilled by some dudes even here on NL.

Not every sperm one spilled out turn to a baby, so this is a baby. Apart from when the mother's life is in danger getting rid of pregnancy is morally and biblical wrong.
Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by royallord1(m): 9:05pm On Jan 24, 2016
debbysmyles:
Pls I need advice,i just had to create a new account to avoid embrassment.
I'm 21yrs old and I had sex for the first time 1month ago,i was feeling sick so I decided to visit the doctor only to discover that i am pregnant.

I told my boyfriend and he suggested abortion..the problem is I don't want to abort the baby cos of fear.I kept my since till one ago because of different Phrophecy concerning pregnancy I must not abort if I do I will die.
I told my boyfriend everything but he insist I abort it if not he is going to abandon me to my fate.
My mum will kill me,society will crucify me,i have cried and cried,i don't know what to do.

Some guys are wicked upon all the promise of love.
I would have kept my virginity if I had known.
if u were mine u would have been registered in antenatal by now... #MyBabyMama... .BABY BOO
Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by jimmy1boy(m): 9:05pm On Jan 24, 2016
debbysmyles:
My mum will never accept me,I'm scared right now.
DON'T ABORT ....... HMMMM YOU CAN AS WELL ABORT YOURSELF IN THE PROCESS. DON'T SEPARATE YOURSELF FROM GOD. KEEP THE LIFE IN YOU. A BLESSING FOR YOU..... YOU PRESIDENT OR GOVERNOR OF TOMORROW..... GOD BLESS YOU IF YOU LISTEN.
Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by Funminicrown: 9:10pm On Jan 24, 2016
DeeTus:
Go get pregnant and let him advice you. The best the chick could do is to go for abortion. Single mother sucks because men are scared to marry them due to unforseen problems.
You're damn far from sanity.......i swear!
Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by jimmy1boy(m): 9:10pm On Jan 24, 2016
justwise:


Not every sperm one spilled out turn to a baby, so this is a baby. Apart from when the mother's life is in danger getting rid of pregnancy is morally and biblical wrong.
Thou shall not fornicate..... what does that mean to you?
Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by justwise(m): 9:13pm On Jan 24, 2016
jimmy1boy:
Thou shall not fornicate..... what does that mean to you?

It means that you preaching to a wrong person

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Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by bibijay123(f): 9:14pm On Jan 24, 2016
debbysmyles:
Decker I appreciate but my mum has been warning me since about pregnancy,the main problem now is the guy is threatening to deny me and pregnancy if I don't abort it.

Put it at at the back of ur mind that no matter what happens " you will survive" and life goes on! If u die trying to abort that precious baby inside u that stupid guy will move on wit his life sharp sharp. Ur mom will yell bt she can't kill u n u need to be strong becos there's still a lot ahead of u..... God is ur strenght

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Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by bigtalla(m): 9:18pm On Jan 24, 2016
OP, Let me be honest with you...

More than 50% of the ladies here (both married and unmarried) telling you not to abort the baby have, at some point in their life had an abortion...The bitter truth is that many of them (the unmarried) will still have another abortion if they mistakenly get pregnant.. Contrary to their advise, they never told their mothers and will still not tell their mothers if they get pregnant again.
'Baby mama' appears to be trendy now,and if you want to belong to that category then keep it. Who knows, maybe ur baby might grow up to be the next Obama or Osama. If you think you have learnt your lesson from this experience, by all means abort that pregnancy... Lets stop bringing innocent babies to this world and subject them to child labour and rape.. There is high rise in infant rape, and many are as a result of some sort of neglect from the mother of that child , who probably got pregnant mistakenly.
As for religious aspect.. Having an abortion is a sin.. Having sex is a sin... Killing the seed (sperm) of a man with contraceptives is a sin..Bringing an innocent child to this world without the intent of catering for him/her is a greater sin...

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Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by Nobody: 9:21pm On Jan 24, 2016
debbysmyles:
Decker I appreciate but my mum has been warning me since about pregnancy,the main problem now is the guy is threatening to deny me and pregnancy if I don't abort it.
You never mentioned telling anyone else about this except your boyfriend. Now, if you ain't one of 'em girls that hope the next big thing is to tie a young boy down and have him slave his life for her, who prophesied to you about pregnancy
Your mind is made on what you want. May your not be found anywhere around my brothers. Did you express fears of pregnancy before and after se.x sad shocked
Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by bendike: 9:22pm On Jan 24, 2016
If u are not ready to have a baby then have an abortion at a proper hospital. Simple. Reply me under my message and I could recomend u one if u are in lagos

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Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by nameo: 9:24pm On Jan 24, 2016
T
debbysmyles:
I know his sister but his parent aren't based in lag.

Are you are student? Or you stay in lag?

And importantly, have you talked to any of your family members, say your sis or mum? Or even a close friend. I suppose you would not be comfortable talking this over with your dad for now.

All the best tho. And plz do not beat yourself too much over this.
Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by tonynickson(m): 9:26pm On Jan 24, 2016
Decker:
It's always advisable that if you want to engage in premarital sex, you should endeavor to use protection always. Asides preventing you from getting pregnant it also protects against STDs.
It was your first sex and the smart thing would have been for both you and the guy to use protection, but you didn't and now you are facing the consequences.

I am going to be honest with you. It's not right to abort children. It's religiously and morally wrong. It's murder and it's not right.
Asides for the fact that abortion is wrong, it can also be detrimental to the health of the lady and sometimes it could be fatal. So I won't advice you to abort the pregnancy. Besides this isn't a decision you should take on your own.

You just gonna have to tell your parents. That's the best thing. They are not going to kill you. They would scold you and probably punish you, but they still love you and have your interest at heart. Talk to your mum. Present the matter to her in a mature way, and be prepared for what would come after that. She would get mad and angry and emotional, but after few days, she would come along. She is a woman like you. If after you present the matter to your parents and they insist you abort it, then you have no choice. You aren't going to raise the child alone. But I don't think they would. I don't think any parent would want their child to abort a pregnancy.
If they tell you to keep it, I am sure they would proffer ideas and solutions on how you would go about the whole pregnancy issue including sorting things out with the guy who impregnated you.

You made a mistake, I get it. Everyone makes mistakes at some point in their lives, what's important is that we all learn from these mistakes. Don't worry, it's all right. Everything is okay.

You are just 21 and you have your whole life in front of you. Don't let this discourage you in anyway. It's just a little set back, but don't let it stand as a hindrance to you striving to achieve your dreams and goals in life.

It's alright. smiley
WoW!!! Wwwell worded!!
Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by Emac34: 9:27pm On Jan 24, 2016
Oma307:
You are wicked
that's wat u think bt am not
Re: I'm Pregnant; My Boyfriend Wants Abortion by lifestyle1(m): 9:28pm On Jan 24, 2016
Gbyte:


I love what you said earlier, but asking her to say the guy raped him is totally wrong. Do not type such again please. Rape is not something to joke with or lie about.

debbysmyles: I told my boyfriend everything but he insist I abort it if not he is going to abandon me to my fate.


The guy is a wicked, he is a potential rapist.

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