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Okay this is actually a Reply to A similar thread Created sometime last year and I feel the Lady ( debbysmyles) presently seeking abortion advice in this thread https://www.nairaland.com/2886641/im-pregnant-boyfriend-wants-abortion should see this and reconsider her stand.

Chigozie who has once been in a similar situation has something to say

Hhmmmm, I ve made this mistake once. We took care of it. Up till now, I still regret that very action, I should ve
stood up and take care of my responsibilities, but NO, I
choose the easiest route, may GOD forgive us. I am never proud of what I did.

I ve faced more challenges in life, challenges were I was
eager to sacrifice my life for the course I believed in, thank God I survived the jungle. I came to realize that keeping and taking care of the mother and child was a no task for me. Money was not my problem, I was still a student den, I was just irresponsible.(Don't ask me how I make my
money).all I know was that I was loaded.
I came to realize that this life was never all about money, it is about being responsible in the real and actual context of being responsible, I failed woefully in that aspect.
My being irresponsible boiled down to "what will people say? , I can't do dis to my mum, she might die," until I realized that the only thing that does not have a solution is a matter of life and death. Even that sef has a solution as @ some point I never really valued my life.(I was like wats the big deal? Once I am gone I won't know anything happening behind me, life will still go on without me, so wats d big deal?) I stopped thinking about that when I realized that it is not the dead person that feels the pain of death, but people he/she left behind, some might not even come out from d shock of ur death.

All my university days, I had never wanted to give my
parents especially my mum any reason to regret aver
giving birth to me. thank I never did. But I made so many
mistakes which I corrected/took care of.
I know this is also ur fears and regrets.( Don't worry, no
one is above mistake)
I ve lived my life the good,bad and ugly. But I am still
alive,I still ve a reason to live, because I found out that no one cares about how u live ur life except urself.
Whatever I do, I take responsibility for any action I take in this life and stand by it. I know this is also ur problem (forget about what people will say).

My point is this.
*what do u want?
*can u stand by ur decisions no matter the odds?
*can u cope even if your boy denies u?
* Please take the responsibility of what has happened in ur life, @least for once.( Make sure u graduate, prove people wrong, tell them that u re responsible, tell them that what happened was just a mistake which no one is above) but the only way to do it is by being successful ,thrive ,work hard, make sure u are better than ur peers in the society.
*i will advice u keep ur baby. U will not know d joy now,
until u give birth.( Joys of motherhood)
*tell ur parents, beg them,they are human, they can carter for u until u graduate. They might reject u now, don't blame them, but once they see ur new baby, they will reconsider.
Tell dem about ur pregnancy, don't hide it, I feel your pains and your confusion as raising a child is not a child's play.(Financially, psychologically and other wise).

By chigoizie7
May God help us all.

Lalasticlala you can help move to the front page for Others to see and Learn a thing or two.

Whatever is up there I agree.

falconey:
Whatever is up there I agree.

Hahaha. Dude, what's with the female tag?

falconey:
Whatever is up there I agree.

Hope you read it sha?

Lollll funny comments.

This is a tough decision to make, hope she does wat she feels is good for her

Does single girls of nowadays have time to keep pregnancy? Hell no! Abortion is their next of kin...they now do it with no trace of regret.

Oh kay

falconey:
Whatever is up there I agree.

I feel ur femail swag!

Decker:
Hahaha. Dude, what's with the female tag?

My mama told me ' son you can be anything you wanna be'