Break-ups are usually painful no doubt. But I would like to know, wot is it dat makes breakups painful:

Is it the feeling of being rejected by someone you love genuinely,

or

Is it the feeling of being dumped by your lover after sharing your body with him/her?

Which kind of break-up is more painful, a break-up from a no-sex relationship, or a break-up from an "sexfull" relationship?

Does the length of the relationship determine how painful the breakup will be? If yes, does the factor of sex or no-sex increase or reduce the pain?

Or is it the pain that comes when you add up "all" you have invested in the relationship?

House, pls lets rub minds togeda...

davidmark4naija:


Is it the feeling of being rejected by someone you love genuinely,

It's a terrible experience...

Breakup from a sex full relationship emotionlly hammars ladies more cos they may feel used, that does not leave the guys out especially if they had made alot of physical and financial commitments.

booked

Too much time, money, resources spent, betrayal of trust.......

Most painful one is: Dos hu brk-up a day or 2 to d wedding day.

After buying her a house in banana island and so. Its really painful

Vision4God:
Most painful one is: Dos hu brk-up a day or 2 to d wedding day.

Anybody who does dat doesnt have conscience abeg.

Topestbilly:

It's a terrible experience...

I feel ya bro. It is really

Breakups painful ke,,,just for a week and am over it...

davidmark4naija:


Anybody who does dat doesnt have conscience abeg.

Ha! Wat if one of dem deceived d oda Al tru der courtship n d truth of hu d person really is came out 2days to d wedding...... wud de still go ahead n get married?.... breakup is d best option.
Lik u said.... d person involved no get conscience.

Breakups are painful mainly because we open up ourselves up so easily to another. We have sex and then release all those 'feel good' chemicals such as oxytocin and endorphins. The same stuff in cocaine and such 'recreational' drugs.

If we go ahead and 1. guard our hearts 2. keep it zipped; perhaps we can start to eliminate the chemical bombardment and its neural re-wiring of our brain networks that ultimately leaves us 'pained' when it all comes crashing down.

What makes breakups painful? Blame it on 25% biology, 25% neuro-psyche and 50% human mind.

Love can be addictive, why not? it's same chemical and neural pathway that fuels addiction.

It's no different than cocaine addict or alcoholic addict suffering from withdrawals.

The pain of breakups are like withdrawals symptoms. Perhaps, we ought to start treating falling in love as a potential addictive drug.

As such, we can begin to see breakups as potential detriments to our whole being and others just as drugs can be.

As such, maybe we can start falling in love slowly and cautiously. We can be hesitant to engage in sexual co-mingling prematurely.

Perhaps we should have "heartbreak anonymous" groups for those suffering from breakup heartbreaks.

Xia: Hi. I am Xia- I suffer from pain from heart break. I feel like i can't live anymore. I am depressed, lonely and hopeless.
Group: Hi xia, welcome to the group.

The rejection from someone you genuinely love. Nothing could be worse

Laveda:
Uhmn in my case if I really loved him...
Mehn I'll find it real hard to move on
Might even go sick lol ...that's how painful it is..

I don't pray to experience another..

really! Tell me about the one you experienced.

THE FLASHBACKS when you keep remembering and remembering

Um. I think it depends on the feelings shared when the relationship was going on. "Sexless" relationships can be even just as hard to get over, after breaking up.

I can't rly imagine sha, but when you have someone that u like and get along with so well, losing them or ending that relationship; is always going to be a "vewi painful sumtin"

Failure is not when ur gf leaves u















its when u leave her a virgin bro.

Fortunately, I have never been heartbroken in a relationship. Dunno how it feels.

Using this medium to tender an unreserved apology to the guys I have broken their hearts, I am sorry, so, so sorry.

Rejection.

Simple....when one party is in the losing end.

Simple....when one party is in the losing end...

Yeah wen u are at the loosing end u gave all ur sincerity nd it was taken for granted ur emotions were toyed with u nd u were treated less human lied against been used nd u suffer all the pains nd disrespected to the last brim its d worst feeling ny human can go tru bt i will b fine i av faith a better person will come my way again 1million times better nd accepted my fate of dis present mental nd emotional torture

Wat as a begining will av an ending so is my pain ryt now

sickstars:
Yeah wen u are at the loosing end u gave all ur sincerity nd it was taken for granted ur emotions were toyed with u nd u were treated less human lied against been used nd u suffer all the pains nd disrespected to the last brim its d worst feeling ny human can go tru bt i will b fine i av faith a better person will come my way again 1million times better nd accepted my fate of dis present mental nd emotional torture

Wat as a begining will av an ending so is my pain ryt now

i can imagine...sowi ehn

Boltam:
i can imagine...sowi ehn

Tank u

Remembering the time you guys have spent together makes it painful.

davidmark4naija:
Break-ups are usually painful no doubt. But I would like to know, wot is it dat makes breakups painful:

Is it the feeling of being rejected by someone you love genuinely,

or

Is it the feeling of being dumped by your lover after sharing your body with him/her?

Which kind of break-up is more painful, a break-up from a no-sex relationship, or a break-up from an "sexfull" relationship?

Does the length of the relationship determine how painful the breakup will be? If yes, does the factor of sex or no-sex increase or reduce the pain?

Or is it the pain that comes when you add up "all" you have invested in the relationship?

House, pls lets rub minds togeda...

defiantly the sexual relationship.

funny thing about betrayal is that its done by those who you trust

The lenght of time wasted,the show off,the love and emotions..so many things..Brkup is crazy nd shatters life..

prettymina:
Brkup is crazy nd shatters life..

Really?

After all the breakups u bin tru, ur still very alive and dont sound shattered to me. Guess u meant on a temporal basis, right?

RoastedCorn:
funny thing about betrayal is that its done by those who you trust

Break up is not really betrayal na

Laveda:
Uhmn in my case if I really loved him...
Mehn I'll find it real hard to move on
Might even go sick lol ...that's how painful it is..

I don't pray to experience another..

love with ur head not ur heart, with thz u won't experience another one trust me