Like what constitutes and indecent dress, people's opinion differs. There isn't a straight definitely line.
opinions seem to vary.
While almost all (if not all) people agree that public nudity is unacceptable, there is divers opinions to what what constitute an indecent dress.

Some conservatives would outrightly condemn any kind of pants/trousers for women, some liberals feel it's OK for ladies to put on pants as long as they're having a top long enough to cover their thigh regions. The preferences vary even further.

But where would you as an individual draw the line of unfaithfulness? What actions would you consider an act of unfaithfulness by your significant other?

Most of us probably would agree sex is a red card.
But what about other actions? Like hugging, flirting, kissing, online chats, fantasising, sharing personal secret, dates, going out for lunch with the opposite sex, and of course sex?

Where would you draw the line of unfaithfulness?

Is your significant other aware where your line of unfaithfulness is drawn? Does he/she know the detail of your interactions and activities with the opposite sex?
Would it be awkward if he/she knows?

Please candidly share your thoughts on this faceless platform where your own line of unfaithfulness is.

Any type of sexual contact that you would do with only your partner is considered cheating.
Would you give the same kind of kiss to a friend than you would to your partner? No. Would you sleep with a friend? No. I even consider kissing is as cheating. There are certain things that I would only do with my partner and those things are sacred to me. Just think if you are sharing something you and your partner should only do why would you want to do them with someone else. That is is you really love them. If you feel like someone cheated on you and they are making some dumb excuse and saying that it is not cheating, then they probably are. Depending on how it is done, just touching in a sensual way could also be cheating.

# My own opinion tho##

Smellymouth:
She can't just start having sex with the opposite sex.. it starts with the hugging, flirting, dates etc

True. But you haven't drawn a line yet.
Where is your own line, hugging, flirting?
Which action from your significant other will you deem unfaithful?

postmann:


True. But you haven't drawn a line yet.
Where is your own line, hugging, flirting?
Which action from your significant other will you deem unfaithful?

Modified now, read up pls

You don't stop living because you are loving. Where to draw the line on unfaithfulness should be based on your vow. Did you vow to have intimacy. with only him/her, then if you do otherwise, you are being unfaithful.


Did you promise to chat with only him/her, share secret with only him/her, kiss only him/her then do not do otherwise for you will be rightly accused of not being faithful to ur vow.


I won't consider my partner's admiration of another as an act of unfaithfulness because he didn't promise to admire me alone. I feel pain though that he admires another but instead of charging him with unfaithfulness, I will deal with the jealousy in me.


I expect he understands this.

anywhere

ATMC:
You don't stop living because you are loving. Where to draw the line on unfaithfulness should be based on your vow. Did you vow to have intimacy. with only him/her, then if you do otherwise, you are being unfaithful.


Did you promise to chat with only him/her, share secret with only him/her, kiss only him/her then do not do otherwise for you will be rightly accused of not being faithful to ur vow.


I won't consider my partner's admiration of another as an act of unfaithfulness because he didn't promise to admire me alone. I feel pain though that he admires another but instead of charging him with unfaithfulness, I will deal with the jealousy in me.


I expect he understands this.

Largely true. But there are different kinds of admiration. A sexual admiration (lust) in this case, I, in my own opinion considers it unfaithful.

And of course there is righteous jealousy; A right to be jealous when what truly belongs to you, or what you are entitled to is being given to another.

firstEVA, come have your say.

I draw mine right from his affiliation with females who are non-family members

postmann:
firstEVA, come have your say.

let me read first.

skarlett:
I draw mine right from his affiliation with females who are non-family members

hmm you must really be a jealous lover then...

Lyondavinci:




hmm you must really be a jealous lover then...

Yes o!

skarlett:
I draw mine right from his affiliation with females who are non-family members

Your comment got me laughing for the matter of fact way you stated your opinion.

I think you're uncorrupted and untouched by the 21st century moral decay.

skarlett:


Yes o!

how abouh you hire a guard to follow him around wherever he goes ?

Lyondavinci:



how abouh you hire a guard to follow him around wherever he goes ?

Shey? Good idea

postmann:




Your comment got me laughing for matter of fact way you stated your opinion.

I think you're uncorrupted by the 21st century moral decay.

Really?

skarlett:



Shey? Good idea

haha, what a character you're.

postmann, its a tough one

skarlett:



Really?

Or are you not? I presumed that whatever birthed the idea of your comment is healthy enough to instill an above average moral standard in you.

firstEVA:
postmann, its a tough one

I thought so. But there is a line for everyone. Some can draw a line for their significant other and draw a different line for themselves.

But it's a question that help us know eachother better.

I can see why some Nigerian relationships become dysfunctional when the couple moves abroad to the US or UK. All this control freakery becomes much harder, and folk end up doing things that wind them up in jail.

You are with a woman. A woman is attracted to men. That is her biology and psychology. No amount of control freakery is going to change it. So you'd better learn how to live with it.

It is better to allow your woman to flirt and dress the way she wants!

The reactions and compliments will make her more self-assured.

If she is the multiple partners type, you will know early and she will soon be gone, because you have given her plenty of rope to express herself. Let her go.

If she is the loyal type, her confidence will strengthen her loyalty, because the loyal types only cheat when they need validation or have become bored.

So, going with the flow of what a woman does naturally, is a win-win situation. She will be happy, she will be loyal, and you will be happy. Or..

she will be gone EARLY, and you will be happy and grateful.

postmann:




I thought so. But there is a line for everyone. Some can draw a line for their significant other and draw a different line for themselves.

But it's a question that help us know eachother better.

i dont consider any online love or romance as unfaithfulness though

whats your line?

sinequanon:
I can see why some Nigerian relationships become dysfunctional when the couple moves abroad to the US or UK. All this control freakery becomes much harder, and folk end up doing things that wind them up in jail.

You are with a woman. A woman is attracted to men. That is her biology and psychology. No amount of control freakery is going to change it. So you'd better learn how to live with it.

It is better to allow your woman to flirt and dress the way she wants!

The reactions and compliments will make her more self-assured.

If she is the multiple partners type, you will know early and she will soon be gone, because you have given her plenty of rope to express herself. Let her go.

If she is the loyal type, her confidence will strengthen her loyalty, because the loyal types only cheat when they need validation or have become bored.

So, going with the flow of what a woman does naturally, is a win-win situation. She will be happy, she will be loyal, and you will be happy. Or..

she will be gone EARLY, and you will be happy and grateful.

Quite some liberal point of view. Everyone's opinion is welcome.
So are you saying in your relationship with your significant other, anything goes?

firstEVA:
i dont consider any online love or romance as unfaithfulness though

whats your line?

Didn't I suspect that would come?
Well, my line is hidden deep in this post and all my comments here.
Try and look and tell me if you find it.

Once you find yourself enjoying the company of another person more than your spouse, you may not have cheated, but it's very likely you're going to cheat. Cheating starts from the mind. If someone can manipulate your mind enough to make you enjoy him/her more than your spouse, it will also be easy for him/her to make you do what you wouldn't do normally.

postmann:


Quite some liberal point of view. Everyone's opinion is welcome.
So are you saying in your relationship with your significant other, anything goes?

Not anything.

Anything more than flirting is off limits.

All I am saying is that, unlike for most men, flirting can act as a release valve for women. They don't actually take it any further. It just helps them with confidence in themselves.

But, if you shut off the valve, it can suddenly explode, and she will cheat.

So, it is counterproductive to be a control freak.

sinequanon:


Not anything.

Anything more than flirting is off limits.

All I am saying is that, unlike for most men, flirting can act as a release valve for women. They don't actually take it any further. It just helps them with confidence in themselves.

But, if you shut off the valve, it can suddenly explode, and she will cheat.

So, it is counterproductive to be a control freak.

this makes a lot of sense, i agree with you.

sinequanon:


Not anything.

Anything more than flirting is off limits.

All I am saying is that, unlike for most men, flirting can act as a release valve for women. They don't actually take it any further. It just helps them with confidence in themselves.

But, if you shut off the valve, it can suddenly explode, and she will cheat.

So, it is counterproductive to be a control freak.

Now you've drawn a line! And I respect it.

Lyondavinci:




haha, what a character you're.

lol, you should know I was kidding tho

postmann:


Or are you not? I presumed that whatever birthed the idea of your comment is healthy enough to instill an above average moral standard in you.

okay, I get you now

skarlett:


lol, you should know I was kidding tho

haha, of cos I do..