pentag0nal:


The wife is well educated and she knows that. according to her, she does not want to take any chances of getting pregnant again so the man must settle for condom forever.

menabae:
if the woman knws and can calculate her ovulation period then she av no thing to fear about,bt if she doesn't knw anything abt her ovulation abeg let her stick to her condom,becos family planning is not 100% reliable fact,and it does work on some women effectively while some fails,I'm saying this becos I witness a similar case that happened to one couple some years back,they agreed to have family planning but along the line. Injection or pills watever method she took didn't work unknowingly for her she took in,while she still believes she is on family planning ,untill the belle don reach six month before she knew wtf?the husband couldn't believed his ear so he denied the pregnancy and the wife,he said he was not the one responsible ,so he rejected the baby and the mother till date....so I will advice her to go for condom to avoid story that touches....

Strahovski1:
What is family planning? Is it a medicine that prevent pregnancy? As long as man bang without cd. And it cum inside woman. Woman bring baby.

That's what my daddy told me

So I support the woman. Family planing my ass

Tufanja:


It would be nice if we can refrain from judgements about other women.

The lady is actually acting very wise. I have been an intern at prenatal consultations, we got different women who used different types of contraceptives and became pregnant anyway (despite of the implant, contraceptive pills, intra-uterine devices). Last january only I got at least 3 cases! None of these methods is giving a 100% coverage. The security of the method is in practice often even lower than many of the statistics use to show (especially those funded by the producers). That is why it should be general knowledge that if you want the maximum level of security you use the "double dutch-method", which means the combination of two methods, mostly a condom with a form of female contraceptive. The lady in this case has shown she is intelligent and well-informed. Thumbs up.

More drastic solutions are male or female sterilization. If the husband is complaining, he can show leadership and let himself be helped by a surgeon instead of putting the fertility burden at the female side only.

Tufanja:


It would be nice if we can refrain from judgements about other women.

The lady is actually acting very wise. I have been an intern at prenatal consultations, we got different women who used different types of contraceptives and became pregnant anyway (despite of the implant, contraceptive pills, intra-uterine devices). Last january only I got at least 3 cases! None of these methods is giving a 100% coverage. The security of the method is in practice often even lower than many of the statistics use to show (especially those funded by the producers). That is why it should be general knowledge that if you want the maximum level of security you use the "double dutch-method", which means the combination of two methods, mostly a condom with a form of female contraceptive. The lady in this case has shown she is intelligent and well-informed. Thumbs up.

More drastic solutions are male or female sterilization. If the husband is complaining, he can show leadership and let himself be helped by a surgeon instead of putting the fertility burden at the female side only.

3rdlegxxx:


Thanks for educating us on this, i just learnt something new today, i am kind of disappointed by the few females who spoke and put the woman down, i thought as females they would tell us reasons why she might be doing what she is doing, instead they did what we guys would do and bash the wife.

pentag0nal:


So then a man cannot have sex with his own wife again without a condom?

Wonders shall never end.

Cutehector:
The wife needs to get enlightened that condoms aren't the only means in practicing birth control..

This is where the doctor comes into play

3rdlegxxx:


That's not the point, read the story well, they both agreed no more kids but she doesn't trust the family planning methos, it isn't sounding good to the guy and his suppose friend and someone here just made a case study of similar cases and what usually happens, i really don't know the best way out tho....

eyinjuege:


The man should get a vasectomy. Faster, easier to perform and more effective.

Cutehector:
dat is why I said she needs to be schooled... I wonder why u say she is literate when she doesn't knw a thing abt child bearing or family planning.. she can't knw everythn

Medunah:

Family planning is not 100% so it makes sense for her to tell her husband to use condom. No one knows wat she went through b4 aving those 3. The husband should get a vasectomy if he can't use a condom. After all, it isn't one sided

pentag0nal:


While I understand your points, is this enough justification for a woman to sentence her husband to a lifetime of condoms?

3rdlegxxx:


Thanks for educating us on this, i just learnt something new today, i am kind of disappointed by the few females who spoke and put the woman down, i thought as females they would tell us reasons why she might be doing what she is doing, instead they did what we guys would do and bash the wife.

Tufanja:


I doubt if you understood my points...if you would have understood you would never give this comment.

So it gives the husband enough justification to follow his selfish desires and sentence the woman to a chance of another pregnancy? She is only asking him to use a condom, not even to deprive of it at all, not even demanding of him a sterilisation. What a big deal! Man can use condom when they go and sleep around but not when it is for a good purpose? #totallybiased

Do you know that with every pregnancy a woman put her body and life at risk? I would welcome you to spend some serious period in the labour room, you would never open your mouth like this anymore. Period. This lady might have much more serious arguments why the risk to have another child would not be a good idea. Why the heck are you guys even thinking about dropping a stone in her direction without knowing all the inside outs in the first place?

Besides...some fundamental reasoning problems here:

- Intercourse is no a right but a privilege. Nobody else has any say about your body but you and cant claim any right on it. Never. If the man doesnt want to use a condom, okay perfect, the woman has as much right to refuse intercourse without condom. To be honest, this should not even become an issue. One should seriously wonder what the lovebasis of your relationship is when you cant even find loving solutions on such minor issues.
- A woman who is in fear can never give her body and mind fully and in a loving way to a man. How do you think it feels when you sleeping with your man out of duty and only thinking while he is doing his thing "I hope I don't get pregnant"? Do you have even the smallest clue about how the female brain works and how we can stress and think about so many other things on such a moment while you are only thinking about satisfying yourself? And then those men come her on NL with a big mouth complaining the intercourse with their wife is not good and that she is holding back and they even give themselves reasons to cheat? WTF# What is the fun of the intercourse when you cant be both fully engaged in it and make it an instrument to communicate your love instead of making an instrument showing the lack of love?
- Where is the man taking responsibility? Where is he showing care for the fertility that is inherent part of his woman's life? He is not giving her the comfort that she needs to flourish and flow with him when he is not part of the solution.
- Sex and love are again totally mixed up here

Tufanja:


Exactly!

pentag0nal:


Are you saying that it is okay for a woman to bar her husband from having sex with her unless he has rubber covering

Tufanja:


Take a reading and comprehension course and get back to me afterwards. Thank you.

menabae:
The wife is just being cautious,family planning method is not good fr every woman's body,so is bound to fail to some extent, I think the condom is better...... my opinion thou

pentag0nal:


As far as am I concerned, you have not addressed the question which is why should a married man be sentenced to a lifetime of condoms with his own wife.

All the epistle you wrote up there does not address this, thx.

pentag0nal:
Rocktation, Farano, Lalasticlala

pentag0nal:
I know a couple that have three children. They don't want another child and the wife insisted they adopt a family planning method. They have gone to the hospital and the family planning has been done but even after that, the wife has insisted that the man must use condom anytime they want to have sex.

The man is very unhappy about this and becoming frustrated.

What you think guys, ladies?

Note that there is no case or suspicion of infidelity here, the woman is so afraid of getting pregnant again.

pentag0nal:
I know a couple that have three children. They don't want another child and the wife insisted they adopt a family planning method. They have gone to the hospital and the family planning has been done but even after that, the wife has insisted that the man must use condom anytime they want to have sex.

The man is very unhappy about this and becoming frustrated.

What you think guys, ladies?

Note that there is no case or suspicion of infidelity here, the woman is so afraid of getting pregnant again.

menabae:
The wife is just being cautious,family planning method is not good fr every woman's body,so is bound to fail to some extent, I think the condom is better...... my opinion thou

Davidovinci:
It's either She's indirectly looking for a divorce or she's just plain stupid

pentag0nal:
I know a couple that have three children. They don't want another child and the wife insisted they adopt a family planning method. They have gone to the hospital and the family planning has been done but even after that, the wife has insisted that the man must use condom anytime they want to have sex.

The man is very unhappy about this and becoming frustrated.

What you think guys, ladies?

Note that there is no case or suspicion of infidelity here, the woman is so afraid of getting pregnant again.

pentag0nal:


As far as am I concerned, you have not addressed the question which is why should a married man be sentenced to a lifetime of condoms with his own wife.

All the epistle you wrote up there does not address this, thx.

Her epistle addressed it, if only you read with understanding. The lady educated you on something you obviously don't know, and you still refused to see the sense in it. Why?

If he doesn't want a life with condoms, he should try a VASECTOMY!!!. That way she would be sure he is shooting blank shots.
Family planning mustn't be a woman's job, haba.