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Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by Atlantian: 1:34pm On Feb 19, 2016
pentag0nal:


The wife is well educated and she knows that. according to her, she does not want to take any chances of getting pregnant again so the man must settle for condom forever.
Please check her HIV status, she might be protecting the husband from a bigger problem.

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Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by 3rdlegxxx(m): 2:46pm On Feb 19, 2016
menabae:
if the woman knws and can calculate her ovulation period then she av no thing to fear about,bt if she doesn't knw anything abt her ovulation abeg let her stick to her condom,becos family planning is not 100% reliable fact,and it does work on some women effectively while some fails,I'm saying this becos I witness a similar case that happened to one couple some years back,they agreed to have family planning but along the line. Injection or pills watever method she took didn't work unknowingly for her she took in,while she still believes she is on family planning ,untill the belle don reach six month before she knew wtf?the husband couldn't believed his ear so he denied the pregnancy and the wife,he said he was not the one responsible ,so he rejected the baby and the mother till date....so I will advice her to go for condom to avoid story that touches....

menababe ur making sense but ur also saying stay using a cd for life; think about about it, that is so unfair to the husband, even tho from your story it sounds really bad and rather unfortunate for the lady in question but condoms for life, i love condoms but every time becomes very uncomfortable tho the good side is if he does it for a year non stop, he would get uised to the condom feeling and relax.
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by 3rdlegxxx(m): 2:48pm On Feb 19, 2016
Strahovski1:
What is family planning? Is it a medicine that prevent pregnancy? As long as man bang without cd. And it cum inside woman. Woman bring baby.

That's what my daddy told me grin

So I support the woman. Family planing my ass

bad guy but if this happen to you, i am very sure you would hate anyone that gives you that advice if you were in the guys shoes.. wink be honest
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by 3rdlegxxx(m): 2:53pm On Feb 19, 2016
Tufanja:


It would be nice if we can refrain from judgements about other women.

The lady is actually acting very wise. I have been an intern at prenatal consultations, we got different women who used different types of contraceptives and became pregnant anyway (despite of the implant, contraceptive pills, intra-uterine devices). Last january only I got at least 3 cases! None of these methods is giving a 100% coverage. The security of the method is in practice often even lower than many of the statistics use to show (especially those funded by the producers). That is why it should be general knowledge that if you want the maximum level of security you use the "double dutch-method", which means the combination of two methods, mostly a condom with a form of female contraceptive. The lady in this case has shown she is intelligent and well-informed. Thumbs up.

More drastic solutions are male or female sterilization. If the husband is complaining, he can show leadership and let himself be helped by a surgeon instead of putting the fertility burden at the female side only.

Thanks for educating us on this, i just learnt something new today, i am kind of disappointed by the few females who spoke and put the woman down, i thought as females they would tell us reasons why she might be doing what she is doing, instead they did what we guys would do and bash the wife.

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Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by pentag0nal: 3:35pm On Feb 19, 2016
Tufanja:


It would be nice if we can refrain from judgements about other women.

The lady is actually acting very wise. I have been an intern at prenatal consultations, we got different women who used different types of contraceptives and became pregnant anyway (despite of the implant, contraceptive pills, intra-uterine devices). Last january only I got at least 3 cases! None of these methods is giving a 100% coverage. The security of the method is in practice often even lower than many of the statistics use to show (especially those funded by the producers). That is why it should be general knowledge that if you want the maximum level of security you use the "double dutch-method", which means the combination of two methods, mostly a condom with a form of female contraceptive. The lady in this case has shown she is intelligent and well-informed. Thumbs up.

More drastic solutions are male or female sterilization. If the husband is complaining, he can show leadership and let himself be helped by a surgeon instead of putting the fertility burden at the female side only.

While I understand your points, is this enough justification for a woman to sentence her husband to a lifetime of condoms?
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by pentag0nal: 3:36pm On Feb 19, 2016
3rdlegxxx:


Thanks for educating us on this, i just learnt something new today, i am kind of disappointed by the few females who spoke and put the woman down, i thought as females they would tell us reasons why she might be doing what she is doing, instead they did what we guys would do and bash the wife.

So then a man cannot have sex with his own wife again without a condom?

Wonders shall never end.
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by 3rdlegxxx(m): 3:37pm On Feb 19, 2016
pentag0nal:


So then a man cannot have sex with his own wife again without a condom?

Wonders shall never end.

That's not the point, read the story well, they both agreed no more kids but she doesn't trust the family planning methos, it isn't sounding good to the guy and his suppose friend and someone here just made a case study of similar cases and what usually happens, i really don't know the best way out tho....

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Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by executioner27: 3:38pm On Feb 19, 2016
Cutehector:
The wife needs to get enlightened that condoms aren't the only means in practicing birth control..

This is where the doctor comes into play

Condom is not even 100% sure...she is just paranoid. Dont know what to tell the guy. Just endure.
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by eyinjuege: 3:42pm On Feb 19, 2016
3rdlegxxx:


That's not the point, read the story well, they both agreed no more kids but she doesn't trust the family planning methos, it isn't sounding good to the guy and his suppose friend and someone here just made a case study of similar cases and what usually happens, i really don't know the best way out tho....

The man should get a vasectomy. Faster, easier to perform and more effective.

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Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by 3rdlegxxx(m): 3:49pm On Feb 19, 2016
eyinjuege:


The man should get a vasectomy. Faster, easier to perform and more effective.

and bro vasectomy is one scary procedure, it's cool but what if something happens, divorce cases, wife passes on, dude decides to remarry or something, remember it's permanent which means he can no longer pregnant any other lady, it sounds cool and scary, cool for a man who maybe has had all the kids he wants and wants to go on having fun without the fear of every getting anyone else pregnant, at least that reduces the worries to only STD's
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by Medunah: 3:50pm On Feb 19, 2016
Cutehector:
dat is why I said she needs to be schooled... I wonder why u say she is literate when she doesn't knw a thing abt child bearing or family planning.. she can't knw everythn
Family planning is not 100% so it makes sense for her to tell her husband to use condom. No one knows wat she went through b4 aving those 3. The husband should get a vasectomy if he can't use a condom. After all, it isn't one sided

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Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by pentag0nal: 3:57pm On Feb 19, 2016
Medunah:

Family planning is not 100% so it makes sense for her to tell her husband to use condom. No one knows wat she went through b4 aving those 3. The husband should get a vasectomy if he can't use a condom. After all, it isn't one sided

But how does it sound to you, that your own husband cannot have access to you unless he has a condom on, just think about it.
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by Nobody: 4:17pm On Feb 19, 2016
pentag0nal:


While I understand your points, is this enough justification for a woman to sentence her husband to a lifetime of condoms?

I doubt if you understood my points...if you would have understood you would never give this comment.

So it gives the husband enough justification to follow his selfish desires and sentence the woman to a chance of another pregnancy? She is only asking him to use a condom, not even to deprive of it at all, not even demanding of him a sterilisation. What a big deal! Man can use condom when they go and sleep around but not when it is for a good purpose? #totallybiased

Do you know that with every pregnancy a woman put her body and life at risk? I would welcome you to spend some serious period in the labour room, you would never open your mouth like this anymore. Period. This lady might have much more serious arguments why the risk to have another child would not be a good idea. Why the heck are you guys even thinking about dropping a stone in her direction without knowing all the inside outs in the first place?

Besides...some fundamental reasoning problems here:

- Intercourse is no a right but a privilege. Nobody else has any say about your body but you and cant claim any right on it. Never. If the man doesnt want to use a condom, okay perfect, the woman has as much right to refuse intercourse without condom. To be honest, this should not even become an issue. One should seriously wonder what the lovebasis of your relationship is when you cant even find loving solutions on such minor issues.
- A woman who is in fear can never give her body and mind fully and in a loving way to a man. How do you think it feels when you sleeping with your man out of duty and only thinking while he is doing his thing "I hope I don't get pregnant"? Do you have even the smallest clue about how the female brain works and how we can stress and think about so many other things on such a moment while you are only thinking about satisfying yourself? And then those men come her on NL with a big mouth complaining the intercourse with their wife is not good and that she is holding back and they even give themselves reasons to cheat? WTF# What is the fun of the intercourse when you cant be both fully engaged in it and make it an instrument to communicate your love instead of making an instrument showing the lack of love?
- Where is the man taking responsibility? Where is he showing care for the fertility that is inherent part of his woman's life? He is not giving her the comfort that she needs to flourish and flow with him when he is not part of the solution.
- Sex and love are again totally mixed up here

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Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by Nobody: 4:22pm On Feb 19, 2016
3rdlegxxx:


Thanks for educating us on this, i just learnt something new today, i am kind of disappointed by the few females who spoke and put the woman down, i thought as females they would tell us reasons why she might be doing what she is doing, instead they did what we guys would do and bash the wife.

Exactly!

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Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by pentag0nal: 4:25pm On Feb 19, 2016
Tufanja:


I doubt if you understood my points...if you would have understood you would never give this comment.

So it gives the husband enough justification to follow his selfish desires and sentence the woman to a chance of another pregnancy? She is only asking him to use a condom, not even to deprive of it at all, not even demanding of him a sterilisation. What a big deal! Man can use condom when they go and sleep around but not when it is for a good purpose? #totallybiased

Do you know that with every pregnancy a woman put her body and life at risk? I would welcome you to spend some serious period in the labour room, you would never open your mouth like this anymore. Period. This lady might have much more serious arguments why the risk to have another child would not be a good idea. Why the heck are you guys even thinking about dropping a stone in her direction without knowing all the inside outs in the first place?

Besides...some fundamental reasoning problems here:

- Intercourse is no a right but a privilege. Nobody else has any say about your body but you and cant claim any right on it. Never. If the man doesnt want to use a condom, okay perfect, the woman has as much right to refuse intercourse without condom. To be honest, this should not even become an issue. One should seriously wonder what the lovebasis of your relationship is when you cant even find loving solutions on such minor issues.
- A woman who is in fear can never give her body and mind fully and in a loving way to a man. How do you think it feels when you sleeping with your man out of duty and only thinking while he is doing his thing "I hope I don't get pregnant"? Do you have even the smallest clue about how the female brain works and how we can stress and think about so many other things on such a moment while you are only thinking about satisfying yourself? And then those men come her on NL with a big mouth complaining the intercourse with their wife is not good and that she is holding back and they even give themselves reasons to cheat? WTF# What is the fun of the intercourse when you cant be both fully engaged in it and make it an instrument to communicate your love instead of making an instrument showing the lack of love?
- Where is the man taking responsibility? Where is he showing care for the fertility that is inherent part of his woman's life? He is not giving her the comfort that she needs to flourish and flow with him when he is not part of the solution.
- Sex and love are again totally mixed up here







If you think that it is not a big deal for a man to use condom for the rest of his life it is a VERY big deal for us.

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Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by pentag0nal: 4:26pm On Feb 19, 2016
Tufanja:


Exactly!

Are you saying that it is okay for a woman to bar her husband from having sex with her unless he has rubber covering
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by pentag0nal: 4:26pm On Feb 19, 2016
Lalasticlala.

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Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by Nobody: 4:29pm On Feb 19, 2016
pentag0nal:


Are you saying that it is okay for a woman to bar her husband from having sex with her unless he has rubber covering

Take a reading and comprehension course and get back to me afterwards. Thank you.

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Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by pentag0nal: 4:50pm On Feb 19, 2016
Tufanja:


Take a reading and comprehension course and get back to me afterwards. Thank you.

As far as am I concerned, you have not addressed the question which is why should a married man be sentenced to a lifetime of condoms with his own wife.

All the epistle you wrote up there does not address this, thx.

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Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by daben1(m): 5:10pm On Feb 19, 2016
Oga! if you concur, then you're not a man
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by Toronto123: 5:12pm On Feb 19, 2016
He should get a a vasectomy. Why must we women be the ones to endanger our lives with birth control pills proven to cause cancer. Nonsense. Selfish men

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Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by EbolaParasite: 5:14pm On Feb 19, 2016
menabae:
The wife is just being cautious,family planning method is not good fr every woman's body,so is bound to fail to some extent, I think the condom is better...... my opinion thou

Na lie. Either she suspects the guy is "playing away games" or she is "playing away games" shocked
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by EbolaParasite: 5:15pm On Feb 19, 2016
pentag0nal:


As far as am I concerned, you have not addressed the question which is why should a married man be sentenced to a lifetime of condoms with his own wife.

All the epistle you wrote up there does not address this, thx.

One of them is cheating!!
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by tpiar: 5:16pm On Feb 19, 2016
pentag0nal:
Rocktation, Farano, Lalasticlala

and they answered you?
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by herboshedhe(f): 5:16pm On Feb 19, 2016
pentag0nal:
I know a couple that have three children. They don't want another child and the wife insisted they adopt a family planning method. They have gone to the hospital and the family planning has been done but even after that, the wife has insisted that the man must use condom anytime they want to have sex.

The man is very unhappy about this and becoming frustrated.

What you think guys, ladies?

Note that there is no case or suspicion of infidelity here, the woman is so afraid of getting pregnant again.

I feel for her
Can't they try withdrawal method too?
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by Nobody: 5:17pm On Feb 19, 2016
The man should try vasectomy, birth control mustn't be the woman's job na. Family planning methods haven't proven to be 100% trustworthy so far, she is only trying to take double-precaution.
I understand her fears.

Lets not be quick to judge, she might have had a scary pregnancy experience and doesn't wanna go down that lane again. We don't know the whole story...

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Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by tpiar: 5:17pm On Feb 19, 2016
pentag0nal:
I know a couple that have three children. They don't want another child and the wife insisted they adopt a family planning method. They have gone to the hospital and the family planning has been done but even after that, the wife has insisted that the man must use condom anytime they want to have sex.

The man is very unhappy about this and becoming frustrated.

What you think guys, ladies?

Note that there is no case or suspicion of infidelity here, the woman is so afraid of getting pregnant again.



will answering your question get me a house on Banana Island or some other plush property?

let me know so I can decide if I should comment or not.
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by macino1(m): 5:17pm On Feb 19, 2016
more Enlightenment needed. . . shocked
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by victme1(m): 5:20pm On Feb 19, 2016
menabae:
The wife is just being cautious,family planning method is not good fr every woman's body,so is bound to fail to some extent, I think the condom is better...... my opinion thou

She is about letting hell lose in her home. maka continue... eheheheheeh so Ladies!!!! where are those players.... Bervely shebi u bi nos 9 ... i beg come see one available MAN here!!! he is about to leave the nest....
Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by haibe(m): 5:20pm On Feb 19, 2016
Davidovinci:
It's either She's indirectly looking for a divorce or she's just plain stupid
or she has an STD but doesn't want to transfer to her hubby

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Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by maestroz: 5:22pm On Feb 19, 2016
pentag0nal:
I know a couple that have three children. They don't want another child and the wife insisted they adopt a family planning method. They have gone to the hospital and the family planning has been done but even after that, the wife has insisted that the man must use condom anytime they want to have sex.

The man is very unhappy about this and becoming frustrated.

What you think guys, ladies?

Note that there is no case or suspicion of infidelity here, the woman is so afraid of getting pregnant again.

wetin concern you na, why you dey use panadol for them matter. oga shola, e shogbayin...

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Re: Wife Insists That Husband Must Use Condom Before They Have Sex by Nobody: 5:24pm On Feb 19, 2016
pentag0nal:


As far as am I concerned, you have not addressed the question which is why should a married man be sentenced to a lifetime of condoms with his own wife.

All the epistle you wrote up there does not address this, thx.

Her epistle addressed it, if only you read with understanding. The lady educated you on something you obviously don't know, and you still refused to see the sense in it. Why? angry

If he doesn't want a life with condoms, he should try a VASECTOMY!!!. That way she would be sure he is shooting blank shots.
Family planning mustn't be a woman's job, haba.

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