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scantee:
Hello N'landers! Please i am very sorry to come up again with this my fiancee matter again, for those of you who might be familiar with my previous threads https://www.nairaland.com/2666138/want-call-off-marriage..i-feel concerning her attitudes will understand better.

Brief Intro: i met this girl some years back when she was still on 1st Semester 200L in one of the university in SE states, though we met in Lagos...we fell in love <fast forward> i wanted to marry her then but she said i should allow her finish her school before we can officially get married (she was 20yrs then) while i was in my mid 20tez as well, so i decided to wait since i am still young & not in a rush, we are like everything to each other, i introduced her to my entire family members, friends, relatives & work coliquez, i made them understand we would be getting married during or after her final year in school, we are in a distance relationship because my work takes me to places within & outside the country, we only spent time together only during her holidays (i.e after 4 months) practically all her friends knows about me though i never met them in person, we really love each other so much that people believe we are unbreakable...

To shortened the story..we spent time together in Lagos last xmas before she traveled for new year..while i stayed back in Lagos, & we have agreed that we would be getting married this being her final year in school, i noticed that since she left for the new year celebration in her village our communication declined so much, she hardly called or pick my calls, when i complained she attributed that to a bad network in the village where she went to spend some days with her friend that was getting married that last year.

NOW SHE IS BACK TO SCHOOL..the same thing is still happning, she does not give me much attention again, hardly called, if i called she will claim to be so tired having hectic day in school, so i got tired of everyting yesterday when i called her she did'nt pick my call rather she text me that is was very busy & will call me back when she is done, after 2hrs no call back i decided to call her back & her number was busy, after she done making her call she picked my & said she was on call with her sister, i asked what she was doing that kept her busy from 8;30pm -10:30pm she said she was ironing & cooking. I felt unconvinced i asked her are you tired of me? She said yes & laughed, i was shocked, i ask her why, she said she can't even explain it herself, i then ask..

ARE U SEEING SOME ELSE OR HAVING CRUSH ON ANY GUY? She said yes that it started last year, the guy use to come visit her in her hostel, but now she has lost contact with the guy, though nothing has ever happend between them, i felt like i was dreaming because i can swear for this girl that she can never do such...she said though she declined the guys proposal to date him because she does not see the possibility of it happning. Now i fell betrayed after all these years of waiting even when some friends adviced me against it, i have lost the trust in her, right now i feel so hurt, she pleaded that she don't even understand what is happning to her that she is confused, she then said she just feel like being left alone to concentrate in her final year project...

please i feel so sad right now because i put all my egg in one basket in the name of love, my imagination is just going wild about her right now, i have lost apitite for food & loosing concentration, i so much love & trust her. Please how do i overcome this now? help me..

U are 10% of what happened to u and 90% of how u react to it....this kind of thing motivates me to be a better person in life....my last gal did dis to me and it inspired me to write a great song.......my advice bro move on and rise above it,she ain't good enuf for u..5yrs from today u will wonder if u ever loved her.

willyboss:
Workingclass dating a student is a major risk

more than risk bro

djgrafiti:
U are 10% of what happened to u and 90% of how u react to it....this kind of thing motivates me to be a better person in life....my last gal did dis to me and it inspired me to write a great song.......my advice bro move on and rise above it,she ain't good enuf for u..5yrs from today u will wonder if u ever loved her.

thanx man is a done deal.

scantee:
thanx man is a done deal.

u are welcome

hammary:
I kind of understand her, she may not know what's wrong with her but somebody needs to talk to her so she'll know who will b better for her. not that cos she's crushing she'll go for a guy that's not too good and will b regretting later, d guy may not truly b in love with her and she may not know. bro if time isn't on your side pray and move on, youll c someone better. she may learn and come back but u have to move on, keep your mind open... don't put your life on hold for somebody, there will b hundreds of good girls that will want to b with u. sorry

Nice

Even though i might be replying to this post late, i would still drop my piece of advice.
Bro you work offshore and travel out, that entails you that you wouldn't always be at home.
You need a woman you can trust, forget this bitch she has hurt you enough already. I know its painful right now, but remember time heals all things or better still try having some fun with other ladies n clubbing it will clear your mind a bit, cheers

what a piddy, wait and see how life unfolds.

Kaycee625:
Even though i might be replying to this post late, i would still drop my piece of advice.
Bro you work offshore and travel out, that entails you that you wouldn't always be at home.
You need a woman you can trust, forget this bitch she has hurt you enough already. I know its painful right now, but remember time heals all things or better still try having some fun with other ladies n clubbing it will clear your mind a bit, cheers

thanx for stoping by bro, she is now an EX..(i don enter labour market since de search, though never found but still searching. lol)

scantee:
thanx for stoping by bro, she is now an EX..(i don enter labour market since de search, though never found but still searching. lol)

am glad to hear that. God will lead you to your missing rib, who would make you complete. Cheers

scantee:
thanx for stoping by bro, she is now an EX..(i don enter labour market since de search, though never found but still searching. lol)

am glad to hear that. God will lead you to your missing rib, who would make you complete. Cheers

@Scantee

When you look back today, how do you feel?

snipesdam:
@Scantee

When you look back today, how do you feel?

LOL as if we never dated ni

scantee:
LOL as if we never dated ni

babe still wan enjoy her life . Sorry sir

Live your best life.
And hey, she's gonna come back... She just wanna explore a little before tying the knot.


All the best.

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scantee:
just that the more she calls & text the more i feel for her and melt, and all these our outing/tripz pics on my phone & laptops is not helping matter @all, & i don't even have the mind to Del them..just can't believe this happning to me, but i have to face the reality.

This story is a sad one, hope uv moved past it Bro

Since she rejected the other guy's proposal and she said you should give her time, then no need to worry.