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I'm not Nigerian Im afro-american. I've met the most amazing Igbo man. He's educated, kind, respectful, funny, encouraging, basically if I could have asked God for a man he is better than what I would have asked for.

I really want whatever we have going on to become something more than dates chilling and having sex. He just got out of a relationship by no means am I trying to rush him. I just dont know how to tell him. I really like him and Im not trying to waste his time.

Should I just tell him or wait it out and not say anything?

IF U LIKE HIM THEN GIVE HIM A SIGN THAT URE INTO HIM, if he is into u then he will ask you out but dnt tell him.

Callie24:
I'm not Nigerian Im afro-american. I've met the most amazing Igbo man. He's educated, kind, respectful, funny, encouraging, basically if I could have asked God for a man he is better than what I would have asked for.

I really want whatever we have going on to become something more than dates chilling and having sex. He just got out of a relationship by no means am I trying to rush him. I just dont know how to tell him. I really like him and Im not trying to waste his time.

Should I just tell him or wait it out and not say anything?

Patience is a virtue. Give it time

Just wait it out please... how will u feel if u just got out of a relationship and a friend of urs dats been deeply secretly crushin on u asks u out immediately..

I guess u can imagine wat u"d respond to him abt dat.

So just be patient.

Since u are not a Nigerian and perhap ur mindset is different from the way we reason, then u should tell him

Ok... So we've been "dating". Mostly chilling and having a lot of pretty awesome sex. I just don't want him thinking Im a rebound or booty call.

Cutehector:
Just wait it out please... how will u feel if u just got out of a relationship and a friend of urs dats been deeply secretly crushin on u asks u out immediately..

I guess u can imagine wat u"d respond to him abt dat.

So just be patient.

That isnt whats going on. We've been going on dates. Its not a secret crush. He just threw me off when he introduced me as his friend.

our igbo man Here won't like u telling him. just show that u are serious with him and responsible enough for him, and allow him do the telling, it's a man's job and it makes them feel like one

Callie24:
That isnt whats going on. We've been going on dates. Its not a secret crush. He just threw me off when he introduced me as his friend.

because u two havnt officially asked each oda out..... will I introduce u to my friends as a girlfrnd when I havnt asked you out yet? Wouldn't dat seem weird or smth...


U havnt accepted to be his girlfrnd and he hasn't asked u to be his girlfrnd so I dnt see any reason why u should be thrown off balance.

Well u should be happy he introduces u to his frnds, it's a good thing, it's a sign he really likes u... look dear, just be patient, one thing i"v learnt through mistakes I made in the past is tryn to rush a relationship where it hasn't started yet... u like him, dats good.. it's even easy... someone has to let him knw u r really into him.. do both of u hav a mutual friend? He or she can talk him into it. Dats wat is in vogue nw and it's really really uncomplicating issues.. cuz u will get to knw his mind through the mutual friend. Cheers

Tell him it will help you get clear on what you have with him and free you from fears of being just a booty call.

I am officially confused.

Cutehector:
because u two havnt officially asked each oda out..... will I introduce u to my friends as a girlfrnd when I havnt asked you out yet? Wouldn't dat seem weird or smth...


U havnt accepted to be his girlfrnd and he hasn't asked u to be his girlfrnd so I dnt see any reason why u should be thrown off balance.

Well u should be happy he introduces u to his frnds, it's a good thing, it's a sign he really likes u... look dear, just be patient, one thing i"v learnt through mistakes I made in the past is tryn to rush a relationship where it hasn't started yet... u like him, dats good.. it's even easy... someone has to let him knw u r really into him.. do both of u hav a mutual friend? He or she can talk him into it. Dats wat is in vogue nw and it's really really uncomplicating issues.. cuz u will get to knw his mind through the mutual friend. Cheers

We dont have mutual friends. But when people ask who he is thats bae. I make sure they know we arent official but he's definitely bae.

Callie24:
We dont have mutual friends. But when people ask who he is thats bae. I make sure they know we arent official but he's definitely bae.

phew... well, I dnt knw wat to tell u any further.. u two keep doin wad u do already. Wateva comes out ain't any of my business afterall...

Why not quit the sex part first...

The Igbo men I know loves taking those kind of decison themselves...abi you wan turn the man...chill

Auntie, are you talking about an opening ceremony? These days dating happens spontaneously