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After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by doughziay: 8:05am On Mar 07, 2016
I dated this young lady for some months and things were going on fine until recently she told me she would like to discuss something with me and told me to promise her that it wouldn't change my attitude towards her.

She said she Has an 8year Old daughter already which made her drop out of school to take care of the child. The father of the child didn't take responsibility. She and her parents have been taking care of the child who's now 8yrs Old.

MY QUESTION: What would you do if you were in My shoes. Marry a single mom or Let her be.
Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by Nobody: 8:05am On Mar 07, 2016
If she's a good girl and you love her, being a mum shouldn't change nothing.


And she seems like a good and sincere one. She could have carried on without telling you she's got a baby. But she's been honest with you. Enough to admire her

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by halfricanadian(f): 8:07am On Mar 07, 2016
I can marry sumone with a child no biggie bt how u treat me matters

So op how she treats u matters nd how mch she loves u sooner or later d child wud get used to u

U lucky d girl is till 8yrs if to say she b 16 17 omo she go put u for challenge

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by tooman: 8:07am On Mar 07, 2016
marry her nah because of that experience

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by falconey(m): 8:14am On Mar 07, 2016
Had that experience 6years ago, i found out after we had sex.


seriously i cant date a baby mama talk of marry her, common she is a BABY MAMA!!!!!! someone's mother.

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by chiefolododo(m): 8:15am On Mar 07, 2016
Eyah , sorry
Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by Pheals(f): 8:20am On Mar 07, 2016
Congratulations bro !! SHe told u the truth after all na months not years ..the choice is yours , who knows the child might prosper in future if u render help then u will reap it instead of her father who will later regret

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by Nobody: 8:24am On Mar 07, 2016
So has she now completed her education?

Just impregnate someone outside too then tell her later. Equation balanced.

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by Emac34: 8:28am On Mar 07, 2016
RadicallyBlunt:
So has she now completed her education?

Just impregnate someone outside too then tell her later. Equation balanced.
grin

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by doughziay: 8:32am On Mar 07, 2016
grin
RadicallyBlunt:
So has she now completed her education?
Just impregnate someone outside too then tell her later. Equation balanced.



That's gona end up being ' a baby mama and a baby papa relationship' LOL

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by halfricanadian(f): 8:36am On Mar 07, 2016
doughziay:
grin



That's gona end up being ' a baby mama and a baby papa relationship' LOL
grin iceprince kind of relationship it always last long o

Maimi has a son ice prince as a son nd d love is stil waxing strong dats love !!!!!! Ice prince knows ow to show love chaib cry cry

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by Adeayo7(m): 8:43am On Mar 07, 2016
RadicallyBlunt:
So has she now completed her education?

Just impregnate someone outside too then tell her later. Equation balanced.

LMAAOOOO
Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by funkyglitz: 8:43am On Mar 07, 2016
as for me,will advice you to hv a heart to heart talk with her and know what exactly transpired in d past to be sure d grls dad won't resurface again if at all u decide to marry her....who knws she might hv bin a victim of rape or unfavourable circumstances sef?

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by doughziay: 8:51am On Mar 07, 2016
funkyglitz:
as for me,will advice you to hv a heart to heart talk with her and know what exactly transpired in d past to be sure d grls dad won't resurface again if at all u decide to marry her....who knws she might hv bin a victim of rape or unfavourable circumstances sef?


Not rape or unfavourable circumstances dear

She dated the guy for 3years and blamed the incident on 'mistake'

But why would ladies who have a child or two decide to be silent about it until u are deep down in the relationship?

What's the difference saying it at the beginning or after a long period of time. To me, they are the same.

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by pharmagba: 9:15am On Mar 07, 2016
Very complicated.
I have seen such that came out good and those that crumble.
Having a girl child is ok and easier to take in, win her love and father than a male child. If you love her and you see in her all you desire take her and her child, and make sure everyone refer to you as the girl's father. Do this and she will worship you for ever. Also the successes of this involves not living close to family members.
In all the first thing is you most love and desire her and she same for you

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by naijaboiy: 9:18am On Mar 07, 2016
doughziay:



Not rape or unfavourable circumstances dear

She dated the guy for 3years and blamed the incident on 'mistake'

But why would ladies who have a child or two decide to be silent about it until u are deep down in the relationship?

What's the difference saying it at the beginning or after a long period of time. To me, they are the same.
Telling a guy at the beginning may make him lose interest in her and they are afraid of that.

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by Nobody: 9:21am On Mar 07, 2016
Op she probably didnt want you to know due to stigma being single mum etc

But now you must love her after time went by ,, nothing has changed yes u round out she's got a kid but i think you can still marry her be a father the child never had and u can still have kids of your own .. God would bless you more


Sometimes some guys dont take responsibility n by default lady does all but its up to good guys like u to do the right thing regardless.. smiley

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by naijaboiy: 9:24am On Mar 07, 2016
BumBae:
Op she probably didnt want you to know due to stigma being single mum etc

But now you must love her after time went by ,, nothing has changed yes u round out she's got a kid but i think you can still marry her be a father the child never had and u can still have kids of your own .. God would bless you more


Sometimes some guys dont take responsibility n by default lady does all but its up to good guys like u to do the right thing regardless.. smiley
You ehn!

Naso you wan dey do am abi? undecided

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by NemzySeries(m): 9:25am On Mar 07, 2016
so wat if shez a single mum? Dos bin a single moda makes her an unfortunate woman or bad luck 2wards her's or ur achievements? By d way itz a man like u & me dat got her preggy & she gave birth to a human being & not an alien @least ure sure dat shez out of childlessness lane & her womb has bin confirmed to b fertile....I feel provided she has wat u want in a woman U've got no issues.......av seen virgins get married & are unable to conceive also av women who av done millions of abortion & dey get pregnant immediately dey get married so no biggie....infact I'm currently dating a single mum & believe me av bin enjoying d relationship d lady doesn't bug or ask me 4 anything & most times she relate wit d baby daddy on issues concerning her son & datz all.....infact every sunday I go to church I dey carry xtra money to buy d small boi of 3yrs yoghurt, sweets or ice-cream & i noticed dat if u wanna rili enjoy a single mum show alil bit of luv & concern on her kid & u'll neva regret xcept d woman has a special problem.......d child gets excited each time he sees me

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by Pumpkin34(f): 9:26am On Mar 07, 2016
She would have told you from the beginning, if you really liked her you would have stayed. Been a baby mama is not a stigma, so she was wrong but if you really like her then overlook that and look at the brighter side of the relationship.

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by Nobody: 9:27am On Mar 07, 2016
naijaboiy:

You ehn!

Naso you wan dey do am abi? undecided

Lol do who
See as u dey greet oerson undecided tongue
Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by Nobody: 9:28am On Mar 07, 2016
Pumpkin34:
She would have told you from the beginning, if you really liked her you would have stayed. Been a baby mama is not a stigma, so she was wrong but if you really like her then overlook that and look at the brighter side of the relationship.
Yes it is undecided
Especially in NIGeria

You think its part of our culture to be having babies without man or marriage or stability .. If its not y do alot of wayward chics go n abort if its ok to be single mum

Pls dont give bad advice

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by naijaboiy: 9:30am On Mar 07, 2016
BumBae:


Lol do who
See as u dey greet oerson undecided tongue
I dey greet you like stranger. Cos I nor know you.

Na just recently I discover who you be. undecided

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by Nobody: 9:31am On Mar 07, 2016
naijaboiy:

I dey greet you like stranger. Cos I nor know you.

Na just recently I discover who you be. undecided
Yh uve been in n out hardly see u on topics

Oh ok no oribs hope ur good tho
Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by naijaboiy: 9:36am On Mar 07, 2016
BumBae:

Yh uve been in n out hardly see u on topics

Oh ok no oribs hope ur good tho
Yeah,school has taken a huge toll on me.

When I took a break you had not returned fully. Just recently I started noticing your posts regularly again,didn't know it was you. Then I discovered when I saw you talking to nubian when she was about deactivating.
Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by Nobody: 9:39am On Mar 07, 2016
naijaboiy:

Yeah,school has taken a huge toll on me.

When I took a break you had not returned fully. Just recently I started noticing your posts regularly again,didn't know it was you. Then I discovered when I saw you talking to nubian when she was about deactivating.
Yh im in n out these days ... Not as fun anymore n gets boring quick
So once i finish commenting on a topic lol im out

Yh has she deactivated? Wasnt sure if she's left yet .. Think she just need a break we all do from time to time lol

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by Pumpkin34(f): 9:49am On Mar 07, 2016
BumBae:

Yes it is undecided
Especially in NIGeria

You think its part of our culture to be having babies without man or marriage or stability .. If its not y do alot of wayward chics go n abort if its ok to be single mum

Pls dont give bad advice
You don't know the situations surrounding hers, what if the man promised her everything and abandoned her? I find it difficult to judge baby mama's maybe because am a woman or I have them around me. If you really love her and if she has other good potentials, overlook that.

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by austine4real(m): 10:03am On Mar 07, 2016
U dnt want her again abi?
Who wll marry those u've fu.ckd in d past?

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by Nobody: 10:59am On Mar 07, 2016
doughziay:



Not rape or unfavourable circumstances dear

She dated the guy for 3years and blamed the incident on 'mistake'

But why would ladies who have a child or two decide to be silent about it until u are deep down in the relationship?

What's the difference saying it at the beginning or after a long period of time. To me, they are the same.
sirr d big difference is that she still told u sincerely now. U see why Africa is only favourable to men. Because she a kid wc urself didnt even find out maybe by her body structure or sth wc shows she still dey kamkpe. If its a man who has a child no. U wont c it as a big deal but cos its a woman now u asking questions. Guy dat lady loves u pls dont change cos of dat. U can never tell if dats d girl dat will help out with ur kids wen dey start coming even wen dey get older. My dear atleast u knw she is fertile unlike some wolves in sheep clothing wey abortion don comot thr baby bag. Go ahead n one thing is sure u will forever be ur woman's king. Dont forget my monicker cos u will thank me later. Invite me for d wedding i must come. May God win in ur lives

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by Nobody: 11:03am On Mar 07, 2016
naijaboiy:

Telling a guy at the beginning may make him lose interest in her and they are afraid of that.
Yes u r right cos u wont be thr again to knw what makes dem special except dat dey alrdy have a kid. Guy u must be a reasonable person. I love men with open mind

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by Nobody: 11:38am On Mar 07, 2016
halfricanadian:

grin iceprince kind of relationship it always last long o

Maimi has a son ice prince as a son nd d love is stil waxing strong dats love !!!!!! Ice prince knows ow to show love chaib cry cry
maima has a son shocked

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Re: After Dating Her For Some Months, Never Knew She Was A SINGLE MOTHER. by halfricanadian(f): 11:46am On Mar 07, 2016
bardella1:
maima has a son shocked

So i read on nairaland wen she was accused of cheating on ice prince with a married man grin

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