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@poster, without mincing words, U ARE REALLY IN A DEEP SHIT!!!.

with wat u've said so far, both girls seems to be good and decent irrespective of their past. Are u sure u aint prejudiced with ur judgement? i mean u are more concerned wit the past of the unilag babe. Wat abt ur first love? doesn't she hav a past? Cos u disvirgined her doesn't mean she doesnt hav one but u are ignoring that becos of the love u hav for her.

let's put it this way. wat if u met this unilag babe without knowing a bit abt her past,would u be habouring such doubts abt her? would u love her more than u love ur ex? all i could deduce from ur mail is that u r giving the unilag babe less consideration becos of her past and i dont think it's fair becos we all hav a past. Even sinners still find favour and grace b4 God hence, the term SECOND CHANCE. u siad urself that she has changed. So, she deserves to be loved.

Notwithstanding, i aint saying ur first love isn't a good option cos she gave u a good reason for her past actions bt she came a bit too late and u made a grave mistake by taking her virginity. that meant u started wat u aren't sure u can finish. let's give it to her cos she kept herself over the years but it doesnt really mean she will end up being the lady of ur dreams.

My advice is that both of them deserve equal chance and opportunity and none of them deserves to be heartbroken/deserted but like someone said, the ultimate decision lies with u. U really hav to pick ur choice. Moreover, the earlier the better for u cos i dont think u can keep them in the dark for long. that could be highly DISASTROUS.

When someone is at war or facing a sea storm and u hav to make a crucial decison, there's a term they use and i will like to use it here. i think wateva decision u make, U ARE DOOMED. that is, u might end up losing both girls ( hav u ever thought of that?).

anyway, i wish u all the best and i hope u make the right decision.

[quote i think wateva decision u make, U ARE DOOMED. that is, u might end up losing both girls ( hav u ever thought of that?).

anyway, i wish u all the best and i hope u make the right decision.
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[quote author=Busy_body link=topic=312123.msg4385142#msg4385142 date=1250717254]Release your current girl and let her go, she deserves someone better than your sorry arse. Hook up with your childish ex, you both deserve each other.[/quote]do they now?

What a long story!!! Man you are on the long thing. Two Girls are in love with you one with a bad past and the other more or less a saint I suggest you keep the two of them, because one does not see you with the other!!! Goodluck man!!!

Malachi 2:14-16

Return 2 your 1st love. she is the wife of your youth and your life companion.

Ur First love allowed u to sleep with her knowing u were in a relationship. WHich is exactly why she hated her dad for doing the samething to her mom, which is why she was mean to u in the first place.

She playing the "virginity card' is BULL. She a SLUT.

dUMP HER ASS AND KEEP WITH UR 'REPENTANT MODEL GF". Who knows, she might really be a changed person, and if she aint, and u guys decide to break up, u av lost nothing.

Please I am not a player and is not a thing 2 be proud of!!!and I am not also tryin to disadvantageous my self with this If you read what  I said earlier, She said that we can be friend but she would be happy if I can disvirgin her then we can be friend.

***** Also, she later called me that she promised her self that the man who dis virgin her is the man she's going to marry***** I was not aware of this before I did it.  My current girl friend is so loving and caring, she wouldn't want anything to make me mad , she's also scared now, she came over to my place today and when we re talking a text came in saying, She loves me so much and I should come visit her this week, she didn't ask who sent the message but after she got home she sent a message saying she doesn't have the courage to ask me!

****** I have been getting lot of txt till now about I don't love her again that am cheating on her now,***I dont want to loose both of em!! I don't want to break my current girl friend heart cus she begged me to stay with her that she will never do anything or hurt me. That many people we laugh at her if we break up that she change because of someone who doesn't care!

Guy, i feel ur pain, av been their b4. From my little experience, keep them both, time will tell who u pick since u love dem both and they both love u. But be careful how u do d runs, cos u might end up losing out on both on hurting ur self deeply. Damn d two chics sounds cool to keep. I pity u a looooooooooooooooot. Keep us posted.

Poster: What the problem? Why can't u play and Bleep the two of dem till dey run mental? Or is there a law forbidding you from keeping numerous girls as wives, girlfriends, bed/playmates in naija?

I remember what someone used to say

'Never marry a lady that hates her father, a Miracle can never happen, even if she likes you today, tomorrow the hatred she has for her father will overshadow the love she has for men, including her husband'

A word is enough for the wise

guy! see! there is noting in this world that so special or new to us , your prsent girl friend change becos of u, ist it?
she told u everything about her past, dnt use that one to judge her,forget about her past.she is ready to settle down with u if really u love her
as u said. u have given ur xgfd what she want from u is not ur fault,she said she want to give her viginty to u.
my advice for u is that make up ur mine and stay with ur presnt girl.

Noted!

Viciyke:
Guy, i feel your pain, av been their b4. From my little experience, keep them both, time will tell who u pick since u love dem both and they both love u. But be careful how u do d runs, cos u might end up losing out on both on hurting your self deeply. Damn d two chics sounds cool to keep. I pity u a looooooooooooooooot. Keep us posted.

i dont its right for him to keep the both of them, the earlier he chooses the one he wants to be with, the better for him

Obviously the poster doesn't have a sense of what is right and what is wrong.

So you had sex with the "love of your life" while going out with another girl. If your current gf's past bothered you all that much, why didn't you talk to her about it ? Or alternatively, why didn't you go on a break so that you could decide how you felt about her? If you've been going out with her for a year and you couldn't get over what she did and didn't do, then you cant like her all that much. The only reason why you haven't left her yet is because you know that other men are practically lining up to go out with her. Which is extremely selfish. Not to mention immature.

Please break up with her jare! Dont waste her time, and as much as some Unilag girls do the double dating thing, what is SHE's actually being sincere? Even if she isn't, what makes you better than she is? Arent you doing the same thing now?

Some people are so daft.

Guy, u sounded lik my boyfriend, sorry he's nw my ex. U cant eat ur cake n hav it. Thats d gospel truth. U dont even deserve any of d girls. Check this out, ur present girlfriend stopped all lot of things jst because of u n nw, u want to hold her past against her. Let me ask u, are u an angel? dont u hav a past? If ur not so sure of her, tell her n dont go back to ur ex. Cheers!

U're just like 'em players. Ur ex- ur present- u like- u love. U're ve no determination. I've loved 2ex so foolishly dat i can't do anythin without, they wanna come back but de train has left de station. No going back. If i'm ur new girl ehn! i'll kill You

luvbooks:
Obviously the poster doesn't have a sense of what is right and what is wrong.

So you had sex with the "love of your life" while going out with another girl. If your current gf's past bothered you all that much, why didn't you talk to her about it ? Or alternatively, why didn't you go on a break so that you could decide how you felt[b] about her? If you've been going out with her for a year and you couldn't get over what she did and didn't do, then you cant like her all that much. The only reason why you haven't left her yet is because you know that other men are practically lining up to go out with her. Which is extremely selfish. Not to mention immature. [/b]

Please break up with her jare! Dont waste her time, and as much as some Unilag girls do the double dating thing, what is SHE's actually being sincere? Even if she isn't, what makes you better than she is? Arent you doing the same thing now?

Some people are so daft.

You're somewhat right I think!! I think I am selfish, I don't want to loose her ! and that also bothers me alot,  many guys that call her are friends,  Some people can be daft bt am not! We have talked about it alot maybe when we re together a guy calls her or text came in!, but just a friendly txt and she use to tell em that she's with her boy friend, but if ham not with her what will she say?

I think I like her alot but honestly, she is so sweet, If I loose her I know what I am gonna miss. But  I don't want that to happen.  *****But my ex damm I use to love her I still have that little feelings for her and also, kinda of complicated for me right now.

P.S few of my friend use to know my current girl friend and they think she's a model and they use to see her with different guys before but not again sha, but they still thinks she still do all dse stuff. I try tellin them she as changed !

Poster
One thing I know for certain is that I've taken time to read each and every post on this thread. It's good that you're following up. You don't strike me as a really intelligent person. You're leaving a girl who's doing anything for you, who's with you when she can be elsewhere for your ex? An ex you never really had? Love doesn't hit you suddenly. If you think you know your ex, you're even dumber than I thought. The most profitable time you spent with her was the time you were peeping through the fence. All you're doing now is playing catch up. Annoying part is for every three people that push you in one direction, 5 draw you the other way. You know in your church mind you feel inferior to your new girl. If you feel you truly love your ex, please go.
Sit down and think. You already know what you wanna do, you either haven't admitted it yet or you're looking for approval and moral support.

Sound Interesting I guess

did u just get an oil job

i am speechless. lord have mercy.

Busybody2:
Release ur current girl and let her go, she deserves someone better than your sorry arse. Hook up with ur childish ex, you both deserve each other.

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monopolist:
Malachi 2:14-16

Return 2 your 1st love. she is the wife of your youth and your life companion.

Gbabe! Awon ti bible skool

Guy jus seein dis stuff dt was posted 2009!
Hmm dts like 5 years ago..abeg com update oo..mak we knw d outcome..


Waitin..(dts is if none of dem neva kill u )

d unilag babe is worth fightin 4 unlike ur ex wu wanted 2 use virginity 2 hold u...i dnt trust dat ur ex ooo(she seems fishy)

How many points will this thesis add to my CGPA?

Busybody2:
Release ur current girl and let her go, she deserves someone better than your sorry arse. Hook up with ur childish ex, you both deserve each other.

I believe flesh and blood did not reveal this answer to you.... perfect answer to a dummy who doesn't know when to use the greyish matter in his thick skull. . Who cares about virginity. Giving her virginity to you doesn't mean she wouldn't give her p*ssy to another guy

This op just stupid clearly, u no get ur own past??
Am not siding the unilag girl but Oga u are cheating shikena,u can't let ur ex puna go free,u gats reward urself for the mumuness wey u do before,u don't know what u want in a woman that's all,truly age is just a number,maturity another separate matter.

it's been nine years now..please tell us what you did and how it ended..let's garner some experience

Tolani, where did it all end?...where are the ladies now?..Please kindly update us I'll love to hear where it all ended...

Although, scores might have been settled one way or the other but, op really messed up. He shouldn't have gone back to his ex talk more of copulating with her. I think the Unilag girl is the one for him, irrespective of her past, after all, his ex being newly deflowered by him can turn to something terrible even more than Unilag girl's past. Op should seriously use his thinking cap with severe prayer

TolaniLuv:
Noted!

I just saw this your post and realized that it's been almost 10years since you posted this...pls can you kindly tell us how it all ended your first luv and the unilag babe which one did you end up with, sorry if I seem nosy sha but it's just curiosity it's as if we went back in time when reading your post