really nice post , but for me, I will just go with a divorce .

Dheartless:
really nice post , but for me, I will just go with a divorce .

Just like ur name

Dheartless:
really nice post , but for me, I will just go with a divorce .

It is said that the more issues people handle, the more mature they become. Going for a divorce will be an easy way out of the situation but devising ways to keep your sanity while you work on the relationship is the reason for the thread. Some persons have called OP a Narcissist and a reasoning person would also know that such a person falls into the group of persons to be managed properly.
In life there are various schools of thoughts and they are all right in their eyes so whatever makes you a better person is OK .

I personally don't like commenting on certain issues. But o well here we go.

The book of proverbs says that it's better to live in the roof Top than to live with a contentious woman.
Believe me, atleast seperate, live in different houses. Because no matter what you do, that contentious woman will never change her ways and in the process cause you pain, poverty and misery.

You can never amount to anything in life if you as a man remain in such a marriage.
As a man you need peace in your home inorder to be productive at work.
Live is too short to spend with Wicked people.
Safe.

OP contentious is not an everyday word
How will someone know what contentious is or what it means
I m not a writer but in my years of reading, most times writers define what they going to discuss about in the first paragraph so we don't lose interest in the write-up while we are looking for dictionary meaning

Bibors:


Brother pls Dont act too fast. Oyibo movies have scenes where they guy grabs the chick during the first beating and kiss her. It may work.

lolzz! It won't work!

favoured234:
OP contentious is not an everyday word
How will someone know what contentious is or what it means
I m not a writer but in my years of reading, most times writers define what they going to discuss about in the first paragraph so we don't lose interest in the write-up while we are looking for dictionary meaning

Hey! Look up your dictionary and quit beating around the bush already

Bibors:


My dear, I must admit we all have issues but she can live with his problems by not trying to change him as he will never change under the pressure of nagging but under the weapon of stooping to conquer in submission.
She can NEVER win fighting.

What is this one saying now?

There is nothing you can do over a contentious wife,even the bible confirmed that in proverbs.just pray for God to give you the opposite

Anoither mor.onic post!

Tallesty1:
At least twice? I disagree.

A perfect gentleman is the one who knows when not to be gentle.

Hit me once and I will reset your head.

Bless u brother

Op please. Some people were created never to be in a pair with another. A contentious woman isn't supposed to be married. If a man notices he married one. He should pack his things during the day and escape during the night. They should be left alone and sent away

Dyt:
And how does she live with his problems?

You can start a thread for that lets know what women think of their husbands too

very useless thread. wonder y it made FP. magosh...get married first

Never be with a contentious woman. If u somehow find yourself with one, exit the relationship.

Shikena. U should enjoy life not endure it.

Bibors:
I have read many threads and comments here about avoiding errors in making choices of your spouce hence this my first thread on how those who now live with a contentious and nagging wife can survive.

Once the knot is tied and the butterflies fly away and reality sets in , its now time to take the bull by he horn and survive or DIE.
Note- these women have good intentions for being contentious women. They are protecting their man. Wants him to come back home straight from the office, to always look away when he sees a beautiful woman, calls and calls to know where you are and still calls even after a million explanations until you can't take the call again, try to stop you from hanging out with friends over a bottle of beer, try to correct everything they perceive as an error you made, goes the extreme with you as in- why call consistently when i have told you what's up, then you hear OK I will NEVER call again. Ahhh the list is endless.

The typical Naija man is a hardworking hustler who doesn't want to be slowed down with the rules to make a woman happy while he withdraws into a shell.

1. Never keep pleasing her to displease yourselves- if you keep playing by her rules she will still complain.
2. Never neglect your network of friends especially guys you discuss business with just because she doesn't like them.
3. Never raise your hands on her except she has beaten you atleast twice- ie. Her first beating could be a mistake, second beating, she has anger issues, if she tries to repeat it, Brother deliver her but carefully so you Dont give marks or injury for she still remains your wife.
4. Provide all you can but never get into debt to please her.
5. You can never talk sense into a contentious woman if you try you hurt both yourselves more so resort to short syllabus words- Love you, thank you, excuse me, fine, etc.
She will never stop checking your phone and will still fine faults even when there is nothing there so always lock yours and never look at hers.
6. She will manipulate to into jealousy- Never give into any kind of manipulation no matter how it hurts.
7. Ignore her rantings and concentrate on raising your kids.

8. Live with your problems, get used to it, and you will walk through victorious where others have failed.
9. Always remember that the man who contends with more problems/ issues and challenges is always a better man.

Name callers are welcome- constructive critisiam is well come above all matured experienced contributions very welcomed.

kick her out of the house or beat the hell out of her! who got time to waste

Educative

I cant tolerate a wife for any reason whatsoever. I rather have to enjoy my wife because I'll make sure she enjoys me to the fullest according to God's will. I'll give her no reason to nag. I hell don't have a reason to live with a problematic woman. It's either she is the wife she promised to be during courtship or she reverts back to being single. Simple as A B C.

Any Need For All Of These?...........I'll Send Her Back To Learn Characters From Her Mother

yvelchstores:
A man will read this n think to himself, " this is how my silly wife is" then goes home and gets angry at her for no reason causing a fight. Op, this thread, what effect will this thread have on relationships?

I think the idea here is to give the flip side of marriage. The idea is not to discourage but to make you understand the pitfalls

When will men learn that women are insatiable?
Don't bother trying to please her cause the only way to please a woman is to try and not please her

But why are all the ladies getting angry over this thread, even my very dear DYT? If you are not a contentious woman, you should not bother. Or would you rather your brother marry a contentious woman?

Fit2Rule:
I cant tolerate a wife for any reason whatsoever. I rather have to enjoy my wife because I'll make sure she enjoys me to the fullest according to God's will. I'll give her no reason to nag. I hell don't have a reason to live with a problematic woman. It's either she is the wife she promised to be during courtship or she reverts back to being single. Simple as A B C.

Spoken quite intelligent.
Why try to put up with her devilish character when there is the option of "I QUIT"

Bibors:
I have read many threads and comments here about avoiding errors in making choices of your spouce hence this my first thread on how those who now live with a contentious and nagging wife can survive.

Once the knot is tied and the butterflies fly away and reality sets in , its now time to take the bull by he horn and survive or DIE.
Note- these women have good intentions for being contentious women. They are protecting their man. Wants him to come back home straight from the office, to always look away when he sees a beautiful woman, calls and calls to know where you are and still calls even after a million explanations until you can't take the call again, try to stop you from hanging out with friends over a bottle of beer, try to correct everything they perceive as an error you made, goes the extreme with you as in- why call consistently when i have told you what's up, then you hear OK I will NEVER call again. Ahhh the list is endless.

The typical Naija man is a hardworking hustler who doesn't want to be slowed down with the rules to make a woman happy while he withdraws into a shell.

1. Never keep pleasing her to displease yourselves- if you keep playing by her rules she will still complain.
2. Never neglect your network of friends especially guys you discuss business with just because she doesn't like them.
3. Never raise your hands on her except she has beaten you atleast twice- ie. Her first beating could be a mistake, second beating, she has anger issues, if she tries to repeat it, Brother deliver her but carefully so you Dont give marks or injury for she still remains your wife.
4. Provide all you can but never get into debt to please her.
5. You can never talk sense into a contentious woman if you try you hurt both yourselves more so resort to short syllabus words- Love you, thank you, excuse me, fine, etc.
She will never stop checking your phone and will still fine faults even when there is nothing there so always lock yours and never look at hers.
6. She will manipulate to into jealousy- Never give into any kind of manipulation no matter how it hurts.
7. Ignore her rantings and concentrate on raising your kids.

8. Live with your problems, get used to it, and you will walk through victorious where others have failed.
9. Always remember that the man who contends with more problems/ issues and challenges is always a better man.

Name callers are welcome- constructive critisiam is well come above all matured experienced contributions very welcomed.

Revise number eight. That is the Nigerian mentality talking. No one should stay in an abusive relationship. It is unhealthy. You are talking about hitting each other in your third point and you think that's healthy?

Tallesty1:
Naija chick will bite your lips.

your first comment I ignored but this second one,I can't help it. One word for you. ODE. Haahahahahahahah.one keg of palm wine and rusted chiken for you.cos you made me laugh. Wooooo

favoured234:
OP contentious is not an everyday word
How will someone know what contentious is or what it means
I m not a writer but in my years of reading, most times writers define what they going to discuss about in the first paragraph so we don't lose interest in the write-up while we are looking for dictionary meaning

WAEC still has one free registration left after they gave one to Mrs. Kemi Adeosun to rewrite mathematics. I'll pay an expert to prepare you adequately so that you may pass the English language this time around.

@Op.. If you're married, pray your wife doesn't stumble on this thread else nothing for you this nyt. I hope the married women on NL dont hold meeting for you. I like your write-up though but the truth is there are different strokes for different folks. What works for you may not work for the other person. There is really no formula when it comes to marriage.
Women are a whole lot of mystery.

I do not subscribe to hitting women irrespective of the reason. I know that may not sound so easy but one thing I have always prayed for is the grace never to hit my wife. My opinion is this, if she hits you, please send her back to her parents (those chics are damn fragile men.. You dont wanna hit her back with all that muscles you've built over the years)

That is why I keep telling folks, look beyond that beautiful face...

Tallesty1:
At least twice? I disagree.
A perfect gentleman is the one who knows when not to be gentle.
Hit me once and I will reset your head.

Thumbs up Holmes.

Bibors:


Just the way you women like mumu attention, mumu care, mumu die for me love.

Lol...Bros calm down a little!!!

Tallesty1:
At least twice? I disagree.

A perfect gentleman is the one who knows when not to be gentle.

Hit me once and I will reset your head.

You know what ? A lot of ladies will respect their men more when they beat them.

dangotesmummy:
Finally before I leave this smelling NARCISSIST ic thread for those that end up their lives with things like op aka a sorry excuse for a man

You need a psychiatrist cos you have serious attitudinal issues. Seek help asap