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Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by xtervaganza(m): 1:09am On Apr 01, 2016

halfricanadian:
Exactly my thought

see this one too

Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by Maski87: 1:12am On Apr 01, 2016

You should get one of your friends with a big long prick and have a party after that I promised you she won't let you sleep again, I did it with my girlfriend

Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by 9jatatafo(m): 1:18am On Apr 01, 2016

OP sit your wife down and talk things out with her. Also how old is the baby? Maybe caring for the baby has overwhelmed her. Are you good in bed? Do your wife attain orgasm during sex? Did you test run sex before marriage and how was it? Don't ever consider cheating on her, just make sure you wake her sexual feelings up and fast.

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Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by Fearcom(m): 1:21am On Apr 01, 2016

swefty:
Postnatal care comes in diverse categories. Both for the mother and child. There are women who reject their children after birth till they are attended to by therapist etc. There are several reasons it could be that way.
1. If she had a cut from childbirth,try finding out the state of the wound.
2. You can't use force, talk about it with her, ask about her fears and desire
3. There are people who aren't just sex fans, there's nothing you can do about it except being nice and soft
4. If you can try take away s#x from the picture and focus on rebuilding a sweet friendship/relationship, she will open the door herself to you. I just feel you've not exhausted your options.

NO, you CANNOT TAKE SEX AWAY FROM THE PICTURE.
God wasn't stupid when He inspired Paul the Apostle to write to married people not to deny each other sex. People have turned this issue on it's head : instead of avoiding sex when single and doing it freely when married, people are doing it freely when single and then avoiding it when married, all with the excuse that they now have a baby, of course. Sex, Money, Children...when one of these areas in marriage suffers and the couple isn't old, then it's hell

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Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by bee444: 1:36am On Apr 01, 2016

Bros.. women do have moments when they dont feel the need to have sex. They can hold it for months. This is because the last sexx you both had satisfied her very well.

Another possible reason she's not always in the mood would be that someone out there is getting her attention. She might not necessarily be intimate with that person, but she obviously finds him attrative. She's now seriously thinking and comparing the two of you.

So, you see, its a trap. Shes waiting for you to make that silly mistake so she could use that as an excuse to leave your sorry asss.

Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by 9jatatafo(m): 1:49am On Apr 01, 2016

kola1930:
Thanks for all the comments and suggestions... These r answers to most of the questions asked:
Am very attractive with no body odour what-so-ever.
Our baby is 5 months old now, so the issue that she is still recovering from postnatal is out of it.
If am asked to judge myself, I'll say am romantic.
I feel the issue is, she does not just enjoy making love. So the solution is I seek is finding a way to make her enjoy the act. Thank you all

I have to be very vulgar. You are not fhucking her the way her body wants. You have to play her body like a musical instrument and fhuck her like an animal. Make her attain orgasm multiple times

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Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by Mayflowa(m): 1:52am On Apr 01, 2016

[quote author=Pidggin post=44194854]Are you physically attractive? undecided

[/quote

Which Kain question be dat one. Didn't she see him before marrying him. Surely, it has to do with others things like depression, attention for her new born, not feeling loved, husband not satisfying, lost dreams and non-existing man she dreams of.

Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by Mayflowa(m): 1:56am On Apr 01, 2016

deen11:
I feel u man! Just keep understudying her,and sure you would get her weakness...

Surprise her with many things...vis-a-vis
Looking good and smelling nice
Assisting with house chores as far as u could
Buying her gifts
Taking her out to whr she hasn't been before
Engaging her with sensational talks and so on
.......the list is endless man.

This one na problem na. Na most women dey put vibes into the marriage. Now our bros has to hv it diff.

Don't be discouraged and I hope one will work out except if she is no longer interested in the union. Best of luck!!!!!

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Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by FTBOY: 1:57am On Apr 01, 2016

this is no issue at all.......there are ashewo joints everywhere in the country. go to anyone close to you and fvck a nice ho if your wife refuse to give you that pvssy the way you like

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Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by AVRecruit: 1:57am On Apr 01, 2016*

Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by FTBOY: 2:05am On Apr 01, 2016*

Onegai:
They're fixing drains around us and this has driven mosquitoes into the house. That has made us take the decision to keep our baby in our small bed whilst we hurriedly got a mosquito net. I am currently "ignoring" him. He has not died and I have scheduled "shenanigans" for when I drop her off

you are just a wicked woman! you're 'ignoring' him now and it sounds fine to you but when he returns the favor and starts 'ignoring' you back you'd run to nairaland and open a thread to yarn hogwash. must you fvck only in bed? whatever happens to kitchen, bathroom, toilet.......or even veranda? undecided

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Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by AVRecruit: 2:08am On Apr 01, 2016

Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by Nobody: 2:22am On Apr 01, 2016

naijathings:
dear friend, let us be honest and reasonable.
this question is open to all the ladies who will ask this same question about attractiveness in relation to sex.

will you be able to stay away from sex with your husband for months and continually ignore the urge to have sex and walk around acting like you don't ever feel like banging, just because he is not physically attractive ?

girls with fish brain

Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by kobonaire(m): 2:24am On Apr 01, 2016

@OP time for you to get a side-chick/runs-babe, the wifey will be all darling-darling in no time.

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Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by olaremint(m): 2:33am On Apr 01, 2016

When u date is different from when u marry, after u start having babies, it's another stage, most women are like that, my Bro, the woman has won the battle, married u and has your kid, why would she go to war again? Most ladies expecially in the West are worse, they begin to tie wrappers and dress in Ankara all about. Welcome to the real world brother.

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Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by onoja12: 2:45am On Apr 01, 2016

so she married somebody who she is not attracted to,isn't that a fraud huh

and here you are trying to blame it on the man huh

Pidggin:
Are you physically attractive?

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Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by joey150(m): 2:50am On Apr 01, 2016

pet4ril:
If you are very sure you haven't done anything wrong to offend her, put her in prayers it may be spiritual husband stuff or better of, you people should visit a man of God for counseling

what will the prayer be like? Oh lord she no dey gree do again..wtf?! Everything is prayer for you people.. Disturbing heaven upandan. Others are busy finding solution with the brain God gave them. Read the parable of the talents please.
Church church everywhere. Yet no progress..na una pray pass na still una dey back pass.

You don vex me no b small!

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Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by baby124: 2:54am On Apr 01, 2016

raumdeuter:
She has a boyfriend outside.

Divorce her

This computer virus sha cheesy

Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by baby124: 2:56am On Apr 01, 2016

OP maybe her pregnancy hormones is making her that way. Also some women have to wait 6 weeks before sex. Take it easy with her and talk to her about how you feel. Pregnancy and little kids are no joke. Kids are so demanding of time and energy, it's so draining. Plus she has to think about you and making sure you are ok. This is the not so fun part, you have enjoyed all the goodies wella before now, now it's time to be a man about your issues. Not keeping malice, after all na you put the child for her bele.

As a solution, be more involved with the baby. Help her bath her and feed her. So it can free up her time to rest and be ready for you in the bedroom. Young mother's and mother's in general need lots of love and support from their spouse. Not house girls and family. You think she is not beefing you that you are still the same weight, and have the same energy?

Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by Bluffly: 3:15am On Apr 01, 2016

Pidggin:
Are you physically attractive?

Didn't they see each other's physique before marriage.

Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by Noni60: 3:32am On Apr 01, 2016

Plz, Can i reach u on email for a real chat? @Halfricanada

halfricanadian:
Exactly my thought

Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by teemy(m): 3:32am On Apr 01, 2016

kola1930:
Thanks for all the comments and suggestions... These r answers to most of the questions asked:
Am very attractive with no body odour what-so-ever.
Our baby is 5 months old now, so the issue that she is still recovering from postnatal is out of it.
If am asked to judge myself, I'll say am romantic.
I feel the issue is, she does not just enjoy making love. So the solution is I seek is finding a way to make her enjoy the act. Thank you all

It is a good thing you have realized the bolded. What remains is for you to do the necessary personal research to make her enjoy sex as much as you do (she might even surprise you by surpassing your own libido level if you get this right). With success you would get titles like
Kola my this, kola my that. The one who makes me this, my one and only that. The one who loves me seven times before the day breaks. At the end she would be yours for life. Build her up to what you desire and have the patience to see it through. You might need to start with her feelings about it and do not shy from discussing it together.

Remember no one spits out honey from the mouth because they enjoy it's sweetness. Make her like it so. All the best.
P.S Those who help in household chores get more sex. wink*

Wishing you well - Teemy

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Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by edpunter(m): 3:32am On Apr 01, 2016

FTBOY:
this is no issue at all.......there are ashewo joints everywhere in the country. go to anyone close to you and fvck a nice ho if your wife refuse to give you that pvssy the way you like

See advise, think am the other way round. If the man no give the woman as she want wetin go come be your advise for the woman?

Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by Nyaknor(m): 3:37am On Apr 01, 2016

You dont need to be angry bro... saw this kind of complain on all ds newspaper relationship matter section... The advice as that the wife is in her off period that it might take ur help to bring her back on and if the matter don pass play play u go need see a doc. I think ds helps...

Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by Abbeycity123: 3:42am On Apr 01, 2016

You probably need to pray for her or make i see a pastor soonest.

Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by callJesu: 3:43am On Apr 01, 2016

OK... Settle the matter with your wife in Christ and you will be free

Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by preshpresh(f): 3:51am On Apr 01, 2016

Jeez! Just a little problem nd ur already out here seeking advice on wether to cheat to get bk at her because of her being insensitive to ur needs. What happend to COMMUNICATING with her nd letting her knw hw u feel, so u'll knw if deres a reason for her attitude.

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Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by mattydear(f): 3:52am On Apr 01, 2016

obiak4:
100000000kisses 100000000000 like
you just spoke the truth
men support thy wife with all thy heart with all thy might
in fact become a woman rapper when she has issues to deal with especially a baby.

You a man saying this?....wow. wow. Thumbs up. Are u a Nigerian man?. Cos I bet lots of nigerian men are dressed in ego and pride that prevents them from doing this.

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Re: My Wife Feels Little Or No Urge For Intimacy... Please Advice by christinie(f): 3:59am On Apr 01, 2016*

Here's what I got from the OP's previous post:

Help! Help!! Help Save His Marriage!!! by kola1930: 7:20am On Aug 07, 2015
A friend of mine got married recently and complained of some things that is currently affecting his fresh marriage. His complain is basically about his wife. His first question was that, is it normal for a lady to enjoy pre-intimacy and hate sex? That his wife does not feel anything during the act of sex which discourages him from wanting to have sex cos he believes its not all about his own pleasure but a mutual pleasure of both partners. Secondly, does he always have to be the one to initiate the process of love making? She has never made any attempt to start the process which annoys him.

He also complain that he does not last more than 2 minutes max during love making. Could this be a cause to his wife's attitudes? Dear nairalanders, this are questions that need your d urgent contributions of experienced knowledge to save his marriage cos he is so disturbed and does not know what to do. Kindly assist with analysis of each scenario and a possible solution to each
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In my humble opinion, the OP needs to take care of himself so that he can last more in bed. The wife detests having sex with him because he lasts for less than two miinutes.

OP go meet a Medical Doctor. Thanks.

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