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| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by habsydiamond(m): 7:24am On Apr 23, 2016 |
AreaFada2:sometimes ladies don't know that this sex of a thing is for them to know what the future holds for them. 1 Like |
| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by Rexhenrex(m): 7:43am On Apr 23, 2016 |
Bigcake:go to your bible[b]2timothy chapter 2:22 Flee also youthful lusts: but follow righteousness, faith, charity, peace, with them that call on the Lord out of a pure heart.[/b] 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 - Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. my questions to you now are... 1,what is youthful lust pls research and check your dictionary or any source of your choice. 2,sex before marriage is it righteous?? if it is then pls continue you will make heaven by doing it with passion 3,will you support your daughter to have sex before marriage? if your answers are yes then keep it up the lordis your muscle! no matter how this generation tries to justify fornication it won't stop it from being wrong both because it doesn't display good morals and also against religion hope I answered your question. 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by Rexhenrex(m): 7:54am On Apr 23, 2016 |
Haryohdeji:yes am proud to be one and believe me when I tell you its not lack of opportunity but because I choose to be one although its not by my power but God's sufficient grace! 1 Like |
| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by toprealman: 8:16am On Apr 23, 2016 |
Rexhenrex:Christ is not that Big Brother monitoring to see when you falter. He knows and can tell what you have been up to. Have a pic of a caring father.....not in support of premarital kerewa because for real....who kerewa EPP?  Rexhenrex:Christ is not that Big Brother monitoring to see when you falter. He knows and can tell what you have been up to. Have a pic of a caring father.....not in support of premarital kerewa because for real....who kerewa EPP? |
| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by uchennaq(m): 8:19am On Apr 23, 2016 |
OP BE LIKE..     1 Like
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| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by DanceVille(op): 8:29am On Apr 23, 2016 |
amtaken:Thanks dear. 1 Like |
| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by aligba4u: 8:30am On Apr 23, 2016 |
DanceVille:i love this |
| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by DanceVille(op): 8:31am On Apr 23, 2016 |
Vikky014:Exactly! We need to wise up. |
| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by ifeolamide00(m): 8:32am On Apr 23, 2016 |
Sex-free world maybe after rapture sha |
| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by DanceVille(op): 8:33am On Apr 23, 2016 |
See how guys are bashing me because I revealed the truth. Angelberry...come defend me o |
| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by DanceVille(op): 8:34am On Apr 23, 2016 |
aligba4u:That's good. |
| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by ibietela2(m): 8:44am On Apr 23, 2016 |
[s] DanceVille:[/s] All this rubbish is getting STALE already 1 Like |
| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by saintkeppy(m): 8:45am On Apr 23, 2016 |
In summary, no testing before buying ....after buying, anythin u see, u take am lyk that, weda gud or bad. |
| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by uchennaq(m): 8:45am On Apr 23, 2016 |
[size=20pt]Sex Before Marriage: 5 Reasons Every Couple Should Do It[/size] Written by Kiri Blakeley on CafeMom’s blog, The Stir A lot of teens these days are taking something called the “purity pledge,” wherein they vow not to have sex until they get married. Hey, I’m all for people putting off sex until they’re adults and can handle the ramifications. Because even with safe sex, sex comes with responsibilities. It does tend to emotionally bond you to someone, and that can mean getting emotionally attached to the wrong person. Once sex enters the equation, a relationship is never the same. But one woman recently wrote about her “purity pledge” that went wrong. It led to an incredibly short starter marriage. Once she realized that she and her new husband had absolutely zero sexual chemistry, she counted down the days until she could get a divorce, which happened six months into their marriage. Here are five reasons to get rid of that purity pledge and do the dirty before you say “I do.” Sexual chemistry. Jessica Ciencin Henriquez, who kept her “purity” until her wedding night, writes in Salon: Our bodies wanted different things from one another, so what we ended up with was a horizontal battle. I would hear married girlfriends talk about the joys of make-up sex and continue to sip my coffee in silence. We would fight, and then have bad sex and then fight some more. Every flaw in our marriage and in him seemed much more miserable when combined with the possibility of faking orgasms until death did we part. There was no relief. Six months into our marriage, the idea of separating seemed more appealing than feigning headaches for the rest of my life. As Jessica found out, sexual chemistry is something that can really only be ascertained by, well, having sex. Jessica would make out for hours with her husband before their marriage, so she thought that would translate into awesome horizontal mambo. But it didn’t. Sexual identity. I know too many couples where one partner was able to cover up his or her true sexual persuasion because he or she simply didn’t have sex with anyone. Not having sex with the opposite sex can also mean you ignore those longings you might have for the same sex, and therefore don’t acknowledge them. Sex itself. Not everyone is great in bed, and most people don’t start out very good at all. A lot of good sex is about listening to your partner and being able to respond accordingly. But how do you know if someone is a good listener or responder unless you try it first? Size. Don’t you want to know if your husband is packing a hunting rifle or a tiny little plastic kid’s pistol? After all, he knows how big your boobs are. I’m not saying size would be a dealbreaker, but don’t you have the right to know what’s down there? Sexual issues. Sexual problems like premature ejaculation, inability to get an erection, or even an allergy to your partner’s semen are all possibilities, wouldn’t you rather deal with those issues before you’re married? This way you know if your future is even going to address them. Let’s face it, sex plays a big role in marriage. Just like you should discuss children, religion, and where you both want to live before tying the knot, sex is too big a part of a relationship to leave to chance. [size=20pt]Why Sex Before Marriage Is the Moral Thing to Do[/size] Americans love to tout the value of waiting until marriage to have sex. We teach abstinence-only education in schools across the country, and even comprehensive sex-ed programs often point out that "abstinence is best." Pop stars from Britney Spears to Jessica Simpson, to the Jonas Brothers, to Miley Cyrus, to Justin Bieber routinely assert that they're waiting 'til marriage – putting them into the Good Role Model category (at least, until someone leaks a sex tape). There's a booming "purity industry", complete with jewelry, elaborate events, books, t-shirts and DVDs. Our state and federal tax dollars have long been spent promoting "chastity". While conservative commentators are happy to assert that waiting until marriage is the best choice for everyone and people who don't wait aren't doing marriage "the right way", sex-positive liberals hesitate to say that having sex before marriage is an equally valid – if not better – choice for nearly everyone. So here it goes: having sex before marriage is the best choice for nearly everyone. How do I know? Well, first of all, nearly everyone has sex before marriage – 95% of Americans don't wait until their wedding night. And that's a longstanding American value. Even among folks in my grandparents' generation, nine out of ten of them had sex before they wed. Of course, just because lots of people do a thing doesn't mean it's a good thing. But sex is. In terms of happiness, sex is better than money, and having sex once a week instead of once a month is the "happiness equivalent" of an extra $50,000 a year. People with active sex lives live longer. Sex releases stress, boosts immunities, helps you sleep and is heart-healthy. Sex is good whether you're married or not, and certainly folks who wait until marriage can have a lot of sex once they tie the knot. But waiting until marriage often means both early marriage and conservative views on marriage and gender – and people who marry early and/or hold traditional views on marriage and gender tend to have higher divorce rates and unhappier marriages. We know that, on the other hand, there are lots of benefits to marrying later and to gender-egalitarian marriages. Couples who both work outside the home and also share housework duties have more sex. Financially independent, college-educated women who marry later in life have extremely low divorce rates. It turns out that feminist values – not "traditional" ones – lead to the most stable marriages. And feminist views plus later marriage typically equals premarital sex. Most adult human beings naturally desire sex. And despite the rightwing emphasis on concepts like "purity", having sex does not actually make you a dirty or "impure" person. On the contrary, sex is like most other pleasurable things in life – you can have sex in ways that are fulfilling, fun, good and generous, or you can have sex in ways that are harmful, bad and dangerous. Marriage is not, and has never been, a way to protect against the harmful, bad and dangerous potential of sex (just read the Bible if you want a few examples). Instead of fooling ourselves into thinking that waiting until marriage makes sex "good", we should focus on how ethical, responsible sexual practices – taking precautions to protect the physical and mental health of yourself and your partner; having sex that is fully consensual and focused on mutual pleasure – are part of being an ethical, responsible human being. Sexual morality isn't about how long you wait. It's about how you treat yourself and the people you're with. Sex, of course, isn't all ponies and rainbows. The United States has one of the highest unintended pregnancy rates in the world. We have one of the highest abortion rates. We have one of the highest rates of sexually transmitted infections. But our problem with sex isn't that we're having it before marriage; it's that we've cast it as shameful and dirty. And when our collective cultural consciousness says that sex is shameful and dirty, we don't have the incentive – or the tools– to plan for sex, to see it as a positive responsibility and to make healthy sexual choices. We're obsessed with sex on television, in music and in advertisements, but we somehow lack the ability to talk about sex as a positive, moral, pleasure-affirming choice that, like any other adult decision, comes with a set of responsibilities. And when government money is going toward telling people to just wait until marriage, we are literally funding an idea that has never worked in all of human history, instead of supporting tried-and-true policies that could mitigate the harm of a sex-obsessed, but pleasure-starved, culture. If waiting until marriage were simply an individual choice with no political consequences or backdrop – if it were as arbitrary a marker as waiting until the third date, waiting until you knew your partner's middle name or waiting until she wore really awesome high heels – it wouldn't be a problem. And personally, I don't really care when you, as an individual, choose to have sex. As long as you feel ready and it's consensual, I say you do you. But "waiting until marriage" as a cultural phenomenon – albeit one that isn't actually happening for nearly everyone in the western world – has some nasty views about women and sex lurking behind it. Using "purity" as shorthand for "doesn't have sex" by definition means that people, and mostly women, who have sex before marriage are impure, dirty or tainted. As Jessica Valenti says in her book The Purity Myth: "While boys are taught that the things that make them men – good men – are universally accepted ethical ideals, women are led to believe that our moral compass lies somewhere between our legs." It's all the more troubling when those beliefs are federally funded. From a more practical standpoint, not everyone is going to get married, or even legally can get married. The instruction to wait forever to experience a fundamental human pleasure is pointless and cruel. And while the old adage tells women that men won't buy the cow if they can get the milk for free, if I'm buying a cow, you can bet I'm going to make sure the milk is to my liking. But our cultural view of premarital sex as morally tainted makes it harder for couples to engage in real talks about their sexual needs and desires before marrying, the same way they would talk about their religious values, how many kids they want or whether the wedding cake will be chocolate or vanilla. Sexually frustrated marriages are both miserable and common – the inboxes of advice columnists from Dan Savage to Dear Prudie are filled with letters from couples with mismatched sex drives and bad sex lives. We'd be a lot better-off if we recognized that sex is incredibly important to a lot of people, and, for most couples, sexual compatibility is necessary for a great marriage. You really can't tell if you're sexually compatible unless you have sex. The insistence that premarital sex is dirty or perverse makes it a whole lot harder to have necessary conversations. And a worldview that positions sex as shameful and bad also isn't going to evaporate on your wedding night. [size=20pt]Purity peddlers construct a false universe where there are pure virgins who wait until marriage, and then there are slutty whores who are going home with different men every night of the week. The truth is that most adults will have a great many important relationships in their lives – some of those relationships will be romantic, and some of those will be sexual. That's a good thing: our relationships with other people, sexual or not, are how we grow, evolve and learn about ourselves. They're how we figure out what love is, what we like physically and emotionally, and how to negotiate our own needs with someone else's. Despite the claims of the wait-till-marriage camp, waiting to have sex won't protect you from heartache, frustration or love lost. But a variety of fulfilling relationships, sexual and not, will make you a more well-rounded, compassionate and self-assured person.[/size] My point isn't that everyone should have sex before marriage – people should determine for themselves when they are ready to have sex. For the vast majority of people, that's going to be before they're married. Making that choice isn't a moral failing. On the contrary, it's often a great, healthy, overwhelmingly positive choice. Whenever you choose to have sex, the cultural message that waiting until marriage is the best choice is simply wrong. And it's wrong for almost everyone. 2 Likes |
| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by Bigcake: 9:03am On Apr 23, 2016 |
Rexhenrex:My friend let me tell you, the book of Corrinthians was written by Paul and not by Chist... A Christian is a fellower of Christ and not Paul.... Paul was a rugged guy who flexed his life after killing God's children. only for God to put sand-sand in his eyes on his way to Damascus. As he repented, he suddenly wants to Lord over everybody by writing numerous later like Obasanjo to various christian cells in the Middle East. The wisest king whom God gave wisedom got married to 700wives and had 300 girlfriends otherwise known in local parlance as "side chick" or concubines..... Jacob the father of the twelve tribes of Israel got married to two sisters and not satisfied, his two domestic workers became his side chick which bore him children. 2 Likes |
| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by saintkeppy(m): 9:05am On Apr 23, 2016 |
AreaFada2:. Thats 1 of the disadvantages of not testing the engine of a car if its sound or not before buying 1 Like |
| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by Rexhenrex(m): 9:16am On Apr 23, 2016 |
And God was happy with solomon till the end i guess btw u didn't answer any of my question. Bigcake: |
| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by Bigcake: 9:25am On Apr 23, 2016 |
Rexhenrex:And God was not happy with Jacob too. |
| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by Rexhenrex(m): 9:37am On Apr 23, 2016 |
U didn't answer my question in thr bible God frowned against fornication and adultery believe iy or not you know the truth and u can't hide it from your self its bad thats period Bigcake: |
| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by ikupakuti(m): 9:37am On Apr 23, 2016 |
“Tell them“ ...In Desperate Chicks‘ voice |
| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by adellam16(f): 9:39am On Apr 23, 2016 |
DanceVille:r u a virgin? |
| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by Spanner4(m): 9:41am On Apr 23, 2016 |
Loose conduct everywhere. I hv read most comments coming from guys and I weep. #Say no to pemarital sex# 1 Like |
| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by Nobody: 9:50am On Apr 23, 2016 |
DanceVille:what can I do for you now? Stand by your words, you said the truth. Let them bash u but I love this thread |
| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by uchennaq(m): 10:01am On Apr 23, 2016 |
Rexhenrex:[size=20pt] YOU ARE DEVIATING FROM THE ISSUE AT STAKE. PLEASE CLARIFY YOUR ARGUMENT. ARE YOU SAYING FORNICATION IS BAD WHICH WE ALL KNOW OR ARE WE ARGUING ON KNOWING YOUR PARTNER SEXUALLY BEFORE GOING INTO MARRIAGE WHICH IS FOR LIFE. [/size] |
| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by uchennaq(m): 10:05am On Apr 23, 2016 |
[size=20pt]Sex Before Marriage: 5 Reasons Every Couple Should Do It[/size] Written by Kiri Blakeley on CafeMom’s blog, The Stir A lot of teens these days are taking something called the “purity pledge,” wherein they vow not to have sex until they get married. Hey, I’m all for people putting off sex until they’re adults and can handle the ramifications. Because even with safe sex, sex comes with responsibilities. It does tend to emotionally bond you to someone, and that can mean getting emotionally attached to the wrong person. Once sex enters the equation, a relationship is never the same. But one woman recently wrote about her “purity pledge” that went wrong. It led to an incredibly short starter marriage. Once she realized that she and her new husband had absolutely zero sexual chemistry, she counted down the days until she could get a divorce, which happened six months into their marriage. Here are five reasons to get rid of that purity pledge and do the dirty before you say “I do.” Sexual chemistry. Jessica Ciencin Henriquez, who kept her “purity” until her wedding night, writes in Salon: Our bodies wanted different things from one another, so what we ended up with was a horizontal battle. I would hear married girlfriends talk about the joys of make-up sex and continue to sip my coffee in silence. We would fight, and then have bad sex and then fight some more. Every flaw in our marriage and in him seemed much more miserable when combined with the possibility of faking orgasms until death did we part. There was no relief. Six months into our marriage, the idea of separating seemed more appealing than feigning headaches for the rest of my life. As Jessica found out, sexual chemistry is something that can really only be ascertained by, well, having sex. Jessica would make out for hours with her husband before their marriage, so she thought that would translate into awesome horizontal mambo. But it didn’t. Sexual identity. I know too many couples where one partner was able to cover up his or her true sexual persuasion because he or she simply didn’t have sex with anyone. Not having sex with the opposite sex can also mean you ignore those longings you might have for the same sex, and therefore don’t acknowledge them. Sex itself. Not everyone is great in bed, and most people don’t start out very good at all. A lot of good sex is about listening to your partner and being able to respond accordingly. But how do you know if someone is a good listener or responder unless you try it first? Size. Don’t you want to know if your husband is packing a hunting rifle or a tiny little plastic kid’s pistol? After all, he knows how big your boobs are. I’m not saying size would be a dealbreaker, but don’t you have the right to know what’s down there? Sexual issues. Sexual problems like premature ejaculation, inability to get an erection, or even an allergy to your partner’s semen are all possibilities, wouldn’t you rather deal with those issues before you’re married? This way you know if your future is even going to address them. Let’s face it, sex plays a big role in marriage. Just like you should discuss children, religion, and where you both want to live before tying the knot, sex is too big a part of a relationship to leave to chance. [size=20pt]Why Sex Before Marriage Is the Moral Thing to Do[/size] Americans love to tout the value of waiting until marriage to have sex. We teach abstinence-only education in schools across the country, and even comprehensive sex-ed programs often point out that "abstinence is best." Pop stars from Britney Spears to Jessica Simpson, to the Jonas Brothers, to Miley Cyrus, to Justin Bieber routinely assert that they're waiting 'til marriage – putting them into the Good Role Model category (at least, until someone leaks a sex tape). There's a booming "purity industry", complete with jewelry, elaborate events, books, t-shirts and DVDs. Our state and federal tax dollars have long been spent promoting "chastity". While conservative commentators are happy to assert that waiting until marriage is the best choice for everyone and people who don't wait aren't doing marriage "the right way", sex-positive liberals hesitate to say that having sex before marriage is an equally valid – if not better – choice for nearly everyone. So here it goes: having sex before marriage is the best choice for nearly everyone. How do I know? Well, first of all, nearly everyone has sex before marriage – 95% of Americans don't wait until their wedding night. And that's a longstanding American value. Even among folks in my grandparents' generation, nine out of ten of them had sex before they wed. Of course, just because lots of people do a thing doesn't mean it's a good thing. But sex is. In terms of happiness, sex is better than money, and having sex once a week instead of once a month is the "happiness equivalent" of an extra $50,000 a year. People with active sex lives live longer. Sex releases stress, boosts immunities, helps you sleep and is heart-healthy. Sex is good whether you're married or not, and certainly folks who wait until marriage can have a lot of sex once they tie the knot. But waiting until marriage often means both early marriage and conservative views on marriage and gender – and people who marry early and/or hold traditional views on marriage and gender tend to have higher divorce rates and unhappier marriages. We know that, on the other hand, there are lots of benefits to marrying later and to gender-egalitarian marriages. Couples who both work outside the home and also share housework duties have more sex. Financially independent, college-educated women who marry later in life have extremely low divorce rates. It turns out that feminist values – not "traditional" ones – lead to the most stable marriages. And feminist views plus later marriage typically equals premarital sex. Most adult human beings naturally desire sex. And despite the rightwing emphasis on concepts like "purity", having sex does not actually make you a dirty or "impure" person. On the contrary, sex is like most other pleasurable things in life – you can have sex in ways that are fulfilling, fun, good and generous, or you can have sex in ways that are harmful, bad and dangerous. Marriage is not, and has never been, a way to protect against the harmful, bad and dangerous potential of sex (just read the Bible if you want a few examples). Instead of fooling ourselves into thinking that waiting until marriage makes sex "good", we should focus on how ethical, responsible sexual practices – taking precautions to protect the physical and mental health of yourself and your partner; having sex that is fully consensual and focused on mutual pleasure – are part of being an ethical, responsible human being. Sexual morality isn't about how long you wait. It's about how you treat yourself and the people you're with. Sex, of course, isn't all ponies and rainbows. The United States has one of the highest unintended pregnancy rates in the world. We have one of the highest abortion rates. We have one of the highest rates of sexually transmitted infections. But our problem with sex isn't that we're having it before marriage; it's that we've cast it as shameful and dirty. And when our collective cultural consciousness says that sex is shameful and dirty, we don't have the incentive – or the tools– to plan for sex, to see it as a positive responsibility and to make healthy sexual choices. We're obsessed with sex on television, in music and in advertisements, but we somehow lack the ability to talk about sex as a positive, moral, pleasure-affirming choice that, like any other adult decision, comes with a set of responsibilities. And when government money is going toward telling people to just wait until marriage, we are literally funding an idea that has never worked in all of human history, instead of supporting tried-and-true policies that could mitigate the harm of a sex-obsessed, but pleasure-starved, culture. If waiting until marriage were simply an individual choice with no political consequences or backdrop – if it were as arbitrary a marker as waiting until the third date, waiting until you knew your partner's middle name or waiting until she wore really awesome high heels – it wouldn't be a problem. And personally, I don't really care when you, as an individual, choose to have sex. As long as you feel ready and it's consensual, I say you do you. But "waiting until marriage" as a cultural phenomenon – albeit one that isn't actually happening for nearly everyone in the western world – has some nasty views about women and sex lurking behind it. Using "purity" as shorthand for "doesn't have sex" by definition means that people, and mostly women, who have sex before marriage are impure, dirty or tainted. As Jessica Valenti says in her book The Purity Myth: "While boys are taught that the things that make them men – good men – are universally accepted ethical ideals, women are led to believe that our moral compass lies somewhere between our legs." It's all the more troubling when those beliefs are federally funded. From a more practical standpoint, not everyone is going to get married, or even legally can get married. The instruction to wait forever to experience a fundamental human pleasure is pointless and cruel. And while the old adage tells women that men won't buy the cow if they can get the milk for free, if I'm buying a cow, you can bet I'm going to make sure the milk is to my liking. But our cultural view of premarital sex as morally tainted makes it harder for couples to engage in real talks about their sexual needs and desires before marrying, the same way they would talk about their religious values, how many kids they want or whether the wedding cake will be chocolate or vanilla. [size=20pt]Sexually frustrated marriages are both miserable and common – the inboxes of advice columnists from Dan Savage to Dear Prudie are filled with letters from couples with mismatched sex drives and bad sex lives. We'd be a lot better-off if we recognized that sex is incredibly important to a lot of people, and, for most couples, sexual compatibility is necessary for a great marriage. You really can't tell if you're sexually compatible unless you have sex. The insistence that premarital sex is dirty or perverse makes it a whole lot harder to have necessary conversations. And a worldview that positions sex as shameful and bad also isn't going to evaporate on your wedding night.[/size] [size=20pt]Purity peddlers construct a false universe where there are pure virgins who wait until marriage, and then there are slutty whores who are going home with different men every night of the week. The truth is that most adults will have a great many important relationships in their lives – some of those relationships will be romantic, and some of those will be sexual. That's a good thing: our relationships with other people, sexual or not, are how we grow, evolve and learn about ourselves. They're how we figure out what love is, what we like physically and emotionally, and how to negotiate our own needs with someone else's. Despite the claims of the wait-till-marriage camp, waiting to have sex won't protect you from heartache, frustration or love lost. But a variety of fulfilling relationships, sexual and not, will make you a more well-rounded, compassionate and self-assured person.[/size] [size=20pt]My point isn't that everyone should have sex before marriage – people should determine for themselves when they are ready to have sex. For the vast majority of people, that's going to be before they're married. Making that choice isn't a moral failing. On the contrary, it's often a great, healthy, overwhelmingly positive choice. Whenever you choose to have sex, the cultural message that waiting until marriage is the best choice is simply wrong. And it's wrong for almost everyone.[/size] [size=20pt]@OP FROM YOUR PIC, YOU MUST BE A NOVICE WHEN IT COMES TO MARRIAGE. THERE ARE SOME THINGS/RULES YOU BEND TO LIVE A HAPPY LIFE. YOU ARE NOT MARRIED, SO YOUR NOT QUALIFIED TO POST THIS. GET INTO A SERIOUS RELATIONSHIP FIRST, YOU WILL SEE THAT HOW YOU LOOK AT THINGS IS NOT HOW THEY SEEM TO BE. [/size] 1 Like |
| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by Rexhenrex(m): 10:09am On Apr 23, 2016 |
Fornication is bad quote me anywhere on the issue of sleeping with your patner before marriage its still bad marry her first then if you like sleep with her for a whole year its not a sin but before marriage its bad no manner how u will wanna justify it. uchennaq: |
| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by Silumi(f): 10:10am On Apr 23, 2016 |
Rexhenrex:Well spoken... Wise words in our indecisive generation |
| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by Haryohdeji(m): 10:22am On Apr 23, 2016 |
Rexhenrex:you talking like an APCian |
| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by Rexhenrex(m): 10:28am On Apr 23, 2016 |
Funny enough i don't have any political party at heart all i solicit for is good governance i don't care the party that provides that! Haryohdeji: |
| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by DanceVille(op): 10:29am On Apr 23, 2016 |
adellam16:Yes dear... I am. |
| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by olyrayy(m): 10:29am On Apr 23, 2016 |
Rexhenrex:Okay... Provide a sensible reason why premarital sex is wrong? |
| Re: 10 Reasons Why You Shouldn't Indulge In Sex Before Marriage- Danceville by nneh1(f): 10:30am On Apr 23, 2016 |
HolyHero:Then change your name because there is nothing holy with what you said......... |
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