everyone is pitying you and all that but i dont understand why a man who have gone to the extent of seeing your parents and fixing a date to pay ur bride price and even intoducing u to his people should deny his baby. wasnt he expecting to have a child after he marries you.

I am very sorry but i think there is more to this story that you are telling us. Austins action must have been triggered by something you are not telling us. ok, why should his parents support him despite them liking you, seeing you as a' good girl' and all that.

something else must have lead to ur dads death, look this story is obviously far deeper that u are telling.

being a virgin does not make u a good girl. Austin to take such an action on u make me question the kind of prson u actually are.

hi dearie,
so pathetic a story.anoda reminder that most times the men bears enjoys fun; plays d game while d women bear the pain. wat's happened has happened. u cant change d past but wat u do today will effect ur future either way. dont be a loser both ways. rise up to the occassion,see through ur tears and keep d baby, he may be God's consolation for ur future.
it's a matter of time, d pain will fade away.
we are stronger than they think
it is well, luv u Bleep

everyone is pitying you and all that but i dont understand why a man who have gone to the extent of seeing your parents and fixing a date to pay your bride price and even intoducing u to his people should deny his baby. wasnt he expecting to have a child after he marries you.

I am very sorry but i think there is more to this story that you are telling us. Austins action must have been triggered by something you are not telling us. ok, why should his parents support him despite them liking you, seeing you as a' good girl' and all that.

something else must have lead to your dads death, look this story is obviously far deeper that u are telling.

being a virgin does not make u a good girl. Austin to take such an action on u make me question the kind of prson u actually are.

My dear, it is well with you. But my pastor do say something, he said God doesn't answer why, he only aswer what i.e asking him what to do to what has already happen. So dear, pray to God and focus only on him. Concerning the pregnancy, there is no need of worrying yourself, cheer up, dress well, get a nice job for yourelf, so that you can be cater for the baby when you give birth to him/her. Dont give yourself to pressure or bad thinking in order for you to see what God has in store for you. God is looking at you and know what you are passing thru, If you can give him chance and see beyond what is happening now, be sure that you will surely laugh at the end. Take care there. If you know you can stay alone without thinking, i will suggest you join choir in your church or anytime it comes to your mind, just be praising God and before you know it, you have put satan under your leg. Lookin unto Jesus the author and finisher of ur faith and cast all ur burden upon him, for he cares for you. shalom!

@sweettot, sorry ehh, this is just pure sad story
I am not an investigator ot trying to be one but lemme have ur e-mail addy and we can talk privately. I can be able to help to know if I know or anybody I know knows Austin. I personally know one Austin here but dat depends wat town/state urs is from

Not an expert on these things but life could be much worse poster, keep this child and one day the stupid guy will see the child and regret his actions
and dont feel downit was not your fault you met a bad person

frank3.16:

everyone is pitying you and all that but i dont understand why a man who have gone to the extent of seeing your parents and fixing a date to pay your bride price and even intoducing u to his people should deny his baby. wasnt he expecting to have a child after he marries you.

I am very sorry but i think there is more to this story that you are telling us. Austins action must have been triggered by something you are not telling us. ok, why should his parents support him despite them liking you, seeing you as a' good girl' and all that.

something else must have lead to your dads death, look this story is obviously far deeper that u are telling.

being a virgin does not make u a good girl. Austin to take such an action on u make me question the kind of prson u actually are.

wickedness is your middle name. this is the kind of things so many callous nigerians like you do daily without thinking of the consequences. you wonder why your educated uncles are in state of pity at 50something. this are the kind of aborminations they did to some young girls and tot they got away with.

i feel you have blue blood running inside you to say something like this. what do people do in nigeria for any one to take advantage of them? this is the first girl you have seen a nigerian fool take advantage of?

i hope you are not busy creating your own sets of more to it victims out there

If truely he impregnated you and he is not justified for abandoning you.Certainly,posterity will catch up with him.Take it all leave it.

@GEW

am surprised at ur attack. the guy is just saying his mind which might be true. You must agree there are two sides to every story. While i pity the girl, i believe the story isnt complete. If its complete as she says, then she should leave vengance to God.

But i feel she must have done something really bad, or the guy is a monster. But u cant know which till u hear the other side.

@Frank3.16
My guy u think well and have every right to say ur mind and read between the lines.

stiyke:

@GEW

am surprised at your attack. the guy is just saying his mind which might be true. You must agree there are two sides to every story. While i pity the girl, i believe the story isnt complete. If its complete as she says, then she should leave vengance to God.

But i feel she must have done something really bad, or the guy is a monster. But u cant know which till u hear the other side.

@Frank3.16
My guy u think well and have every right to say your mind and read between the lines.

thanks for being reasonable

GEW:

wickedness is your middle name. this is the kind of things so many callous nigerians like you do daily without thinking of the consequences. you wonder why your educated uncles are in state of pity at 50something. this are the kind of aborminations they did to some young girls and tot they got away with.

i feel you have blue blood running inside you to say something like this. what do people do in nigeria for any one to take advantage of them? this is the first girl you have seen a nigerian fool take advantage of?

i hope you are not busy creating your own sets of more to it victims out there

you can call me anything you like, but i just want you to stop and go back and read this story. For every reaction, there must be a action. honestly the reaction in this story have no action. Unless you are trying to tell me that Austin and his whole families are monsters.

If they are such monsters as she has labeled them, then she would have seen this coming right from time.

analyze the story and you will see there is more to it.

she was a virgin
he loved he and took her home to his people
he went to see her parents, and they set a date for paying her bill (sorry for that language)
he deflowered her (something that should make him cherish her even more)
then she got pregnant (this should make him hasten the taditional marriage process)
then all of a sudden, he denies the pregnancy (oh pleease, give me a break)
the father died of heart attack (because ur daughter was pregnant? or because the husband refused to marry her?)
then he leaves town, and his so called nice people encouraged this act by not accepting to give her his contact?

i am not trying to be mean, but i wont let pity becloude me sense of judgment

@poster
tell us the truth
what did u do to incure Austins judgement

well from my analysis of men, these the sort of things that can make a man act the way Austin did

1. He had been hearing rumors about you, which he sort of confirmed
2. perhaps u made out with his friend or friends
3. The pregnancy wasnt really his (this is enouf to lead to your dads demise)
5. you have a very bad character and something about you just striked him, and every body have been warning him

I am not saying you did all this, but i am insisting there is something you are not telling us

The dude got his papers and bounced, what a terrible story

My sister stay strong, karma always plays out at the end.

C2H5OH:

When will this Obama-Syndrome stop

Me self I tire ooo.

GEW:

will using a clinton make you feel better?

If it would make u feel better,then yes. But biko,no more about obama una hia.

deji2009:

I hope I'm communicating ? remember freedom of speech, so please talk to me
like i will talk to you with due respect

Hehehehe *shakes his head*

deji2009:

We're all happy for obama's victory has an american first black president. I agreed with the above statement which have highlighted in bold,because nowadays is like when prople want to talk they use obama, not that I'm jealous about obama or anything like that. is a wonderful man which i really

My point exactly.

chai that is a really really sad story, just try to have faith , because abortion should never be an answer, especially when your reason isnt really a good one. What goes around comes around and this AUstin of a fella, well he reap whatso ever he has sown. literally. CHerish your family and with their support you can get through anything. GOod luck and GOd bless

sum of da thingz guyz do is jus eeessshhh. . . u kinda think, do they hve a coNscience
ds actually got me 2 tears
ma advice is 4 u 2 luk un2 God, da author n finisher of yo faith
He knwz errting u goin thru. . . errting worketh 4 good 4 they da love da Lord
I pray dat God will c u thru ds terrible situation sweetie. . . i feel u bbz

Also try 2 4give da guy. . . bwt cursin da guy, dnt think dat waz gd ov u. u shud let God do wateva he wantz wiv him. He knwz best darling

frank3.16:

thanks for being reasonable

you can call me anything you like, but i just want you to stop and go back and read this story. For every reaction, there must be a action. honestly the reaction in this story have no action. Unless you are trying to tell me that Austin and his whole families are monsters.

If they are such monsters as she has labeled them, then she would have seen this coming right from time.

analyze the story and you will see there is more to it.

she was a virgin
he loved he and took her home to his people
he went to see her parents, and they set a date for paying her bill (sorry for that language)
he deflowered her (something that should make him cherish her even more)
then she got pregnant (this should make him hasten the taditional marriage process)
then all of a sudden, he denies the pregnancy (oh pleease, give me a break)
the father died of heart attack (because your daughter was pregnant? or because the husband refused to marry her?)
then he leaves town, and his so called nice people encouraged this act by not accepting to give her his contact?

i am not trying to be mean, but i wont let pity becloude me sense of judgment

@poster
tell us the truth
what did u do to incure Austins judgement

well from my analysis of men, these the sort of things that can make a man act the way Austin did

1. He had been hearing rumors about you, which he sort of confirmed
2. perhaps u made out with his friend or friends
3. The pregnancy wasnt really his (this is enouf to lead to your dads demise)
5. you have a very bad character and something about you just striked him, and every body have been warning him

I am not saying you did all this, but i am insisting there is something you are not telling us

Brilliant !!!

Hearing stories like these I have learnt overtime to be cautious as there might be other truths to it that the poster would never blurt out , .

dont we all have our bad sides ?

[b][b]@frank3.16,
Thanks for your advice but pray that none of your sis will experience what am going through now.
God knows if i did anything wrong to Austin to warrant this kind of humiliation,let me not survive this pregnancy.as for you thinking that i slept with his friends,am not a saint but what i didnt do when i have the opportunity to do i cant try it wen am married.only o fool can do that and i know am not one
His family sided him as a result of lies he told them and been the one they look up to,nobody want to question his behavior to avoid being in his bad books except his elder sis.
as for my fathers demise,you dont understant the pain of seeing your father died in your hand as a result of false allegation labelled against his daughter.(the pain was too much for him and he gave up.I dont need to explain what i have been through and i dont even need you to pity me anyway cos you are entittled to your own opinion.
I leave all to God .
Thanks.


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sweettot:

[b][b]@frank3.16,
Thanks for your advice but pray that none of your sis will experience what am going through now.
God knows if i did anything wrong to Austin to warrant this kind of humiliation,let me not survive this pregnancy.as for you thinking that i slept with his friends,am not a saint but what i didnt do when i have the opportunity to do i cant try it wen am married.only o fool can do that and i know am not one
His family sided him as a result of lies he told them and been the one they look up to,nobody want to question his behavior to avoid being in his bad books except his elder sis.
as for my fathers demise,you dont understant the pain of seeing your father died in your hand as a result of false allegation labelled against his daughter.(the pain was too much for him and he gave up.I dont need to explain what i have been through and i dont even need you to pity me anyway cos you are entittled to your own opinion.
I leave all to God .
Thanks.


i

NEGATIVE !!!

why did Popsie have to die cos his little innocent girl that has never opened her legs for any man suddenly turns virgin Mary ? pls we need a better explanation of what went down . . .cos A GIRL GETTING PREGANT AND HAVING THE MAN DENY IT ISNT SOMETHING NEW UNDER THE SUN . . .WHAT SORT OF ACCUSATIONS COULD CHIEF AUSTIN HAVE LAID AGAINST U TO SUGGEST POPSIE GO COME KPAI LIKE THAT ? DID U SLEEP WITH ALL MINISTERS IN THE CURRENT FEDERAL EXECUTIVE OR WITH EVEN YARADUA HIMSELF ?

I am not trying to act insensitive here, but we are most times responsible as ADULTS for happenstances in our lives . . .if Austin prolly after being introduced to ur family now says all sorrt of bunkum about u . . .GIRLFRIEND, U MIGHT HAVE TO CHECK URSELF !!!

One day u will marry and if u dont try find out what went wrong some of those things will still hunt u later . . .ITS NOT ROCKET SCIENCE !!!

sweettot:

[b][b]@frank3.16,
Thanks for your advice but pray that none of your sis will experience what am going through now.
God knows if i did anything wrong to Austin to warrant this kind of humiliation,let me not survive this pregnancy.as for you thinking that i slept with his friends,am not a saint but what i didnt do when i have the opportunity to do i cant try it wen am married.only o fool can do that and i know am not one
His family sided him as a result of lies he told them and been the one they look up to,nobody want to question his behavior to avoid being in his bad books except his elder sis.
as for my fathers demise,you dont understant the pain of seeing your father died in your hand as a result of false allegation labelled against his daughter.(the pain was too much for him and he gave up.I dont need to explain what i have been through and i dont even need you to pity me anyway cos you are entittled to your own opinion.
I leave all to God .
Thanks.


i

I am very much aware of the pain you are going through, infact when i read your post i almost feel your emotions.

sorry to say this, i am still very sure that there is another side to this story. and the solution to your problem for now and in future lies there.

First i dont encourage all this virgin stuff because, weather we like it or not, early (Sexual) experiences help us handle future relationships, especially if one is well guided as he/she indulges in it.
Your ignorance at 26! was where ur problem started.

to me, Austin was way much too mean to an innocent inexperienced girl like u and this does not sound reasonable.

i promise you that even people like Hitler had good reasons to why he decided to kill so much jews during his time(i am not justifying his action)

Are you Jesus Christ? Even the treatment you explain he gave u is almost more than what Jesus Christ experienced.

Just like that, out of the blue Austin who loves u and is ready to marry you, denies his own child? Lied to his people about you? and leaves town, oh please.

perhaps u did something very wrong out of ignorance, but may i know what lie he lied about you that led to ur dad's death and that led to his people rejecting their unborn baby. why would he go through the stress of cooking up such lie when you are obviously of no threat to him? when u did nothing to deserve it. Please listen to urself

If you are as innocent as you say, then I believe you are destined for something that is far greater than you can imagine

frank3.16:

I am very much aware of the pain you are going through, infact when i read your post i almost feel your emotions.

sorry to say this, i am still very sure that there is another side to this story. and the solution to your problem for now and in future lies there.

First i dont encourage all this virgin stuff because, weather we like it or not, early (Sexual) experiences help us handle future relationships, especially if one is well guided as he/she indulges in it.
Your ignorance at 26! was where your problem started.

to me, Austin was way much too mean to an innocent inexperienced girl like u and this does not sound reasonable.

i promise you that even people like Hitler had good reasons to why he decided to kill so much jews during his time(i am not justifying his action)

Are you Jesus Christ? Even the treatment you explain he gave u is almost more than what Jesus Christ experienced.

Just like that, out of the blue Austin who loves u and is ready to marry you, denies his own child? Lied to his people about you? and leaves town, oh please.

perhaps u did something very wrong out of ignorance, but may i know what lie he lied about you that led to your dad's death and that led to his people rejecting their unborn baby. why would he go through the stress of cooking up such lie when you are obviously of no threat to him? when u did nothing to deserve it. Please listen to urself

If you are as innocent as you say, then I believe you are destined for something that is far greater than you can imagine

stop trying to justify the inexcusable. i feel you are either not nigerian or you never lived in nigeria becos you are pretending this is the first time you ever heard a wicked foolish nigerian boy doing this type of thing when we know it is common in every corner of nigeria for people to try avoid responsibilities.

what wrong could she possibly have done done?

i have lived long enough to know that he just bought himself a life of hardship and failure by this single act. he may be religious enough to deceive himself he can pray his way out of wicked acts like this but i can tell you nigeria and the world is littered with failures like him who are not able to show anything for thier existence.

be very sure you reap whatever you sow. watch what you sow. there is always harvest time.

when you go out creating hardship for a defenceless young child be sure his or angels will make it their duty to frustrate you too. you dont know anything that is why you defend wicked acts like this

GEW:

stop trying to justify the inexcusable. i feel you are either not nigerian or you never lived in nigeria becos you are pretending this is the first time you ever heard a wicked foolish nigerian boy doing this type of thing when we know it is common in every corner of nigeria for people to try avoid responsibilities.

what wrong could she possibly have done done?

i have lived long enough to know that he just bought himself a life of hardship and failure by this single act. he may be religious enough to deceive himself he can pray his way out of wicked acts like this but i can tell you nigeria and the world is littered with failures like him who are not able to show anything for thier existence.

be very sure you reap whatever you sow. watch what you sow. there is always harvest time.

when you go out creating hardship for a defenceless young child be sure his or angels will make it their duty to frustrate you too. you dont know anything that is why you defend wicked acts like this

U can as well shut ur gob up if u dont realize that Frank 3.16 is just being realistic and not IDEALISTIC !

GEW:

stop trying to justify the inexcusable. i feel you are either not nigerian or you never lived in nigeria becos you are pretending this is the first time you ever heard a wicked foolish nigerian boy doing this type of thing when we know it is common in every corner of nigeria for people to try avoid responsibilities.

what wrong could she possibly have done done?

i have lived long enough to know that he just bought himself a life of hardship and failure by this single act. he may be religious enough to deceive himself he can pray his way out of wicked acts like this but i can tell you nigeria and the world is littered with failures like him who are not able to show anything for thier existence.

be very sure you reap whatever you sow. watch what you sow. there is always harvest time.

when you go out creating hardship for a defenceless young child be sure his or angels will make it their duty to frustrate you too. you dont know anything that is why you defend wicked acts like this

if you are a woman i honestly wont blame you for talking and doing like this, but u are a guy, then i will say that you are either a novice or just ignorant.

I know there are very very mean guys out there, i am not denying that fact. but lets forget every other thing we have heard or seen and face just the situation above.

it is very very rear for a guy to behave in such a way without any reason. the poster is either forgeting something or not telling us everyting. there is something missing in this story. well u can belive what u want to believe.

at poster i am still waiting to hear the lies austin told his people about you that led to ur dads death. this information is very important. if i hear this i will tell u something that will change ur life forever

Oh my God, what are we talking about, Gew please do not worry yourself any further , it's obvious from all indication that Frank3.16 is runaway husband austin, What confuses me more about God is that , in future, this Austin will be so suuccessful that you will begin to wonder , how does God revenge, @poster you have heard enough advice, the Lord is strength, we are all parying for you

the darkest hour lies before dawn. some of us have been through that and worse but here i am still living on. as painful as it may seem now all i can say is breathe hope dear one cause its about the only thing that will sustain your little heart aye. Be strong. You haven't failed, you have only made a mistake and suicide isnt exactly a way out esp if u gots a relationship wit God. Right now, I would say what you need most is Strength from Christ and even when days seem dark jus live them through. And you keep that baby honey cause I pray he/she shall bring you blessings and joy in ways more than one.

[color=#770077][/color] Oh and let me say at this point no matter how african you are, stop worrying about who says what when you go out. This africa honey, folks gonna talk till d day u die. Go out there and do what you want, get a job, slave hard for you and baby and prove dem folks wrong.

@Dr Kitaun and frank3.16
   do u think this poster needs your pity, or do u know her personally, wats u guys stress. she shared her story and only needs your encouragement, sometimes this things go beyond ordinary eyes, i ve experienced somethin similar to her story but  mine didnt travel out and we still ended up gettin married, but i can tell u my fiance then bleeped up bad but God with his infinite mercies turn my story around, now am happy but i can tell u i passed thru hell i mean hell and i was pregnant too.

pregnant woman and emotional stress is bad it could kill or lead her to misscarriage.
please poster just take heart, God has not forgoten u. he is with u always, take heart your joy will most definately come.

candyshore:

@Dr Kitaun and frank3.16
do u think this poster needs your pity, or do u know her personally, wats u guys stress. she shared her story and only needs your encouragement, sometimes this things go beyond ordinary eyes, i ve experienced somethin similar to her story but mine didnt travel out and we still ended up gettin married, but i can tell u my fiance then bleeped up bad but God with his infinite mercies turn my story around, now am happy but i can tell u i passed thru hell i mean hell and i was pregnant too.

pregnant woman and emotional stress is bad it could kill or lead her to misscarriage.
please poster just take heart, God has not forgoten u. he is with u always, take heart your joy will most definately come.

u are lucky u ended up marrying the man that[b] nearly made ur father lose his life [/b] abi that kain thing no reach ur side ?. . .beggars belief !!!

Hi dear,
After asking God for forgiveness, forgive the guy and free urself from guilt by forgiving urself if not you cant and wont move forward.

Dearie,
I can imagine how you feel right now, emotionally and mentally stressed up; its just for a while it will be over no mater how long it takes.
But I will like you to this for me; "all things work together for good"
Leave your past behind and press on towards the future, concentrate your energy on the positive impacts this your unborn child will bring your way.
Do all your reporting to God; He is a righteous JUDGE and allow natural justice to take its course. Dont bother much about what people will say to
you, just keep moving on.

As for the Guy, one day he will return.
I wish you safe delivery and the Good LORD will take very good care of you and your child. Let me have your number so we can talk, or send ur email address.

So many things do not add up.

Q. You already had a banker boyfriend in PH when this one came and you played along

A. Its like you have big eye (Ojukokoro)

Q. You went to spend some time with him as tradition demands?

A. Which tradition is that?


You did it to yourself and now you are all by your self so don't disturb us.

frank3.16:

I am very much aware of the pain you are going through, infact when i read your post i almost feel your emotions.

sorry to say this, i am still very sure that there is another side to this story. and the solution to your problem for now and in future lies there.

First i dont encourage all this virgin stuff because, weather we like it or not, early (Sexual) experiences help us handle future relationships, especially if one is well guided as he/she indulges in it.
Your ignorance at 26! was where your problem started.

to me, Austin was way much too mean to an innocent inexperienced girl like u and this does not sound reasonable.

i promise you that even people like Hitler had good reasons to why he decided to kill so much jews during his time(i am not justifying his action)

Are you Jesus Christ? Even the treatment you explain he gave u is almost more than what Jesus Christ experienced.

Just like that, out of the blue Austin who loves u and is ready to marry you, denies his own child? Lied to his people about you? and leaves town, oh please.

perhaps u did something very wrong out of ignorance, but may i know what lie he lied about you that led to your dad's death and that led to his people rejecting their unborn baby. why would he go through the stress of cooking up such lie when you are obviously of no threat to him? when u did nothing to deserve it. Please listen to urself

If you are as innocent as you say, then I believe you are destined for something that is far greater than you can imagine

@frank316
Y dont you try another dimension to this case, dont you think another guy might have set her up in other to punish her?
you guys are very mean and can do just anything. may be a guy wanted her n being that she is a virgin , her refusal spelt anger in the guy. please have a second thought on this issue and leave this innocent girl alone

@frank3.16 & Dr Kitaun,
you guys should sit down n do a rethink. Stop reacting as if you are in an utopic society where such a thing is not obtainable. Men and women are committing attrocities in the name of love. Stop attacking this girl and deal with the issue she brought up.

Dont you know that if everyone here sums up courage to air thier experiences, you would probably change your perception about life n d world generally.

Enoyoh:

@frank3.16 & Dr Kitaun,
you guys should sit down n do a rethink. Stop reacting as if you are in an utopic society where such a thing is not obtainable. Men and women are committing attrocities in the name of love. Stop attacking this girl and deal with the issue she brought up.

Dont you know that if everyone here sums up courage to air thier experiences, you would probably change your perception about life n d world generally.

This line is getting stale already !

what we are trying to say is very simple; her story about her pops dying cos of the allegations is simply crap ! why didnt she kukuma die in place of her father . . .na so she strong reach wey hin papa weak sotay na to kpai be the next thing ?

REASON GUYS REASON !!!

all we are saying is despite all the commiseration we are awarding her, let her also go and try assess herself . . .

CHECK URSELF BEFORE U WRECK URSELF BABY !!!