In as much as i am not a fan of curses and all forms of crazy s h i t, i wouldn't blame the lady in question here. If i was in her shoes,i would have done worse than that.... And for the guy,i always tell guys like me to be careful not to start what they can't finish.... I am very sure that this guy in question knew ab initio that it would eventually boil down to this so he should stop the holier than thou bull crap in his story....

Edusouls:
may this ur wicked advice be done to ur sister amen...you animal..

Gentleman,we are here to express views and not to insult each other -if my view contrasts with your own,you don't need to throw tantrums.You read it and maintain your own perspective,or better you don't even read it.We have freedom of individual expressions but the freedom after the expression,I can't guarantee .So please,be mature enough not to abuse nairalanders because you don't share their opinions.

I really don't know what the moderators are doing cause some people might decide to abandon the forum.Lets respect ourselves duely!

Frei:
Hahahah' bad guy.....I can't blame him tho' if a girl aborted for me four times and I fūcked her for 6years' mehn its a no-no

Weyrey


Your sisters will suffer the same fate,...

This isn't good at all. But let's not be quick to draw conclusions when we have not heard what lead to his action. Imagine you caught your girlfriend pants down in her house with her ex. This girl wasn't even nervous at all, instead she had the nerves to accuse you of spying on her. You ended up doing the apology for failing to notify her that you were coming, after which, you seriously cautioned her against such act. In just two weeks, same poo happened. You called several times to give notice you were coming around but there was no response and later her younger brother who answed the call to told you that she went out. You still came anyway, lo and behold, you saw her coming out of the ex's room. She couldn't give you any proper explanation so you threatened to end the relationship. This is the time she brings up the issues of the abortions she had done for you and time spent in the relationship. Advice.

Ourchoice. That is your belief and I can see most people on here subscribe to that. As far as I'm concerned her curse is V.O.I.D. Except they did not agree to Fornicate and Abort.

Whatever assistant they must have given the guy is charity except they were expecting something in return which is not in good faith.

You see it is important to stock take once in a while in relationship , so that you are sure that you both are still in the relationship so you know whether to continue investing or call it a day amicably .
From time to time Ask point blank are you still happy in this relationship? This is a very big question because the response will inform the next decision instead of investing heavily both physically, mentally,emotionally only to find out 6yrs later that he /she stopped loving you ages ago and vice versa.
A lot of relationships are lacking communication because it is only when you speak your mind that the other party knows what's up, speak your mind so that the other party doesn't assume things that are not there.its hard but damn speak your mind!!!!!!

MADrator:



You lied here... I've met several girls that'd rather not have sex with a man if protection is involved. The fact is, they always have that line "so you feel like I have disease or something"? What annoys me most is that I usually end up doing it unprotected with them after wasting my expensive condom (N166 out of 3 pieces that sells for N500). Imagine if I have saved all that money, now I'd have used it to buy some skyrocketed food stuffs or probably have become a millionaire.

In as much as all the girls I've had unprotected sex with (apart from one of them) either advocated for it or were cool with it, I still don't allow my semèn get into their system. There is a reason why withdrawal method is classified as a birth control technique and it is usually effective to those who know how to use it.

Although in all I've said, I'm not trying to justify the guy's actions. He messed up big time and I wish curses do work so that he ends up feeling the pain he inflicted on the girl in multiple folds. Tho I believe that the girl shouldn't have spoken of it, cuz she should have allowed nature take it's full course.

My elder sister has been in her shoes before. Her's was for about 7-8yrs. The useless man forming Yankee and the best thing to happen to the world, was even married in the US but my sis didn't know. He took so much money from my mum on several occassions (my mum being a gullible woman wanted my sister's marriage with the fraud star to work by all means to the point that she started threatening my sister). All the money he fraudulently took from my mum, including the one he claimed he would use to help work a visa for me were in millions. By the way, my mum never told us that the fraudstar was taking money from her until the idiotic mofo disappointed my sister. He later wanted my sister to start having babies for him under my mum's roof and even though he was just only engaged to my sister. That was when my sister said she's had enough. The man was like well she can go if she likes, as for him, he can decide to impregnate any girl he sees in the streets of US.

My sister left him and is presently married (married last year at the age of 35 to a younger and more reasonable human being- 37 or 38 years of age- unlike the other foolish fraud star that is about 10 years older than her). As for the fraud star, news got to us that the idiotic imbecilè was arrested for raping a girl in his cab (he was a cab driver in the US before the rape case). What happened to him if not karma and I believe my sister didn't even need to swear for him before nature took its course.

Since I've seen such a thing happen to my sister, I've avoided such situations very well. I once dated this girl (back when I was so damn broke) that loved me so much and was willing to give up all her life savings for me. She loved me to the point that even after 2 years of breakup, she's still keeping in touch (don't know if the love was as a result of the marathon sex I gave her ). I knew that leading a girl on for several years and later dumping her could be very much painful so, throughout my relationship with her (for about 4 - 5 months) I didn't ask her for money and never took a dime from her (by the way, I don't take things, especially money, from women) even though she was managing her dad's business as at then and was seeing money. She was even the one that made me get so used to unprotected sex, to the point that I now can't have sex if protected. I broke up with her within just a few months into the relationship because I knew she was not just the woman for me and I couldn't play along just because of the sex I was getting from her.

All guys should read this! This is what they call a real man, stay blessed bro! I love to roll with sensible and rational guys like u, I am so impressed, well done

Buh she should ve seen this coming,till the age of (30) no engagement or proporsal of any sort she was just being ignorant,tho it seems bad buh cum to think of it aborting 4x without caution she is even lucky to be alive and with wat ve read so far the dude said she took it well wen he broke-up with her buh the rage sparked wen she got to know he is engaged that is there must ve been some redflags in the relationship she just fail to notice,I pray she finds solace tho,cause life goes on

Sleekbaby:
I don't know what is wrong with some guys shaa, what was the guy thinking when the family was helping him, a times we don't reason like human, let the guy put himself or any of her sisters in the girl's shoe, 6 years is not 6 months, she supported him in all ramifications and at the end he paid her back with heartbreak and I believe that all this while that some guys must have been disturbing the girl for relationship and marriage but bcoz of the guy she must have rejected them.


Please guys, girls love with their whole heart if they like the person, I'm not saying that the guy should marry her out of pity but should at least give her sometime to heal before proposing to another girl. All is well, my advise to girls as well is to always study their guys very well to avoid all these heartbreaks.

For the curse, he should go and meet the girl, make her see reasons why he broke up with her and if possible he should settle the girl, all is well.

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
I don't believe in curses. Dude, live your life joor, nothing will happen, never marry out of sympathy. This is the same kind of advice that the feminists on nairaland will give if a girl magas a guy for six years and leaves with a rich dude, so what is good for the goose...

The curse will work because the guy has promoted what will make it work. Can you wish that happen to your daughter?

Specialbaby:
you and I know that raw sex can't be equated with ruber sex,if a lady you are attached to hate condom,the best thing to do is explore alternatives birth control methods if you are not ready to be an emergency dad,btw,the last time i checked,guys are the ones who always insist on unprotected sex.

ladies insist on raw sex most

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
I don't believe in curses. Dude, live your life joor, nothing will happen, never marry out of sympathy. This is the same kind of advice that the feminists on nairaland will give if a girl magas a guy for six years and leaves with a rich dude, so what is good for the goose...

Guy no talk ooo. E dey work full time whether u believe it or not. I knw a victim of such so s guy has every reason to b scared cos e dey work. No jokes

curses my butt! it takes two to tango i believe, he didn't force her into abortion, he didn't force her into having sex, she opened her legs willingly, why was she even having sex without been married? (fornication) for all you sanctimonious folks hoping and claiming that the curse will work, its all Rubbish! curses only exits in the minds of nigerians. for those who asked if it was my sister? well...my sister i hope will not be dumb enough to abort 4 times, have sex out of marriage. if she does then what ever happens to her after she deserves.
i say it again (curses what ever that means) exists only in nigerians archaic imaginations.
lastly, women use men all the times infact every time and we/ they are expected to accept it and move on, now that it is the other way round. its becomes wrong. , she is lucky is wasn't some one like me i will celebrate after dumping her evil baby killing ass!

I dnt even knw Wat to say here!d reason u were no longer attracted to her was because u started sleeping with someone else.aw do u even get to sleep at night?curses or no curses my dear let's not deceive ouselves Karma ll come 4 u trust me!4 six good years!!!u wasted her time I pity u n arrears.

Abortion?

4 humans mudered!!

And you two want me to be concerned about marriage or curses. Who will be concerned about 4 lost lifes!!! Four Nigerians!!!!

Wowzer:
Ourchoice. That is your belief and I can see most people on here subscribe to that. As far as I'm concerned her curse is V.O.I.D. Except they did not agree to Fornicate and Abort.

Whatever assistant they must have given the guy is charity except they were expecting something in return which is not in good faith.

Don't play with covenant! And one sure way of making covenant is through words of mouth!

Don't accept someone's support when u know they are giving u the support with the hope of getting something from u!

I repeat: curses are real! Whatever we speak with our mouth with faith always come to pass.

Martin Luther King Jnr spoke with faith that one day, a black man will rule United States...he said it out of frustration and anger, seeing how whites were maltreating blacks...white people then called him a dreamer! white people never believed it would come to pass, but it later came to pass!

Someone told some powerful Hausa/Fulani/Yoruba in Nigeria's politics years back that in few decades to come, that someone from this oppressed region they are oppressing and trying hard to suffer (Biafrans; Igbo+Niger Delta) will rule them, they said never!

Finally, the same Yoruba (OBJ) and Fulani (Yaradua) helped Goodluck (someone from old Biafra land) to become Nigeria's president!

So my brother, words of mouth spoken out of anger, frustration, innocence, honesty and faith usually come to pass! Don't doubt it

This guy is just being stupid... I am a guy and there's no reason why he shouldn't marry her... That pity talk is just a plain excuse, he should go back, ask for mercy and marry her... Lemme tell you, in relationships people get tired and that's when you re meant to spice it up... I can't have a good woman and then do this to her... It's a very wicked thing and that curse will work, it must work and I pray it works until you marry her and live right... Nonsense

heart break.....the girl was full of anger,hatred,vengeance,dumped,and frustrated....none has to blame her,,,if you were in her shoes you may have done more than what she did....you may even murder the guy....i dont blame the girl..the guy should be blamed.....................my sincere and rare advice to this guy now is to go closer to this lady,cuddle her,forget her age,forget the past and just remember what you saw in her before you got engaged to her.........you will and must definitely find a reason to love her again....afterwords she suffered for you and made you what you are today,tomorrow and forever............................................please think over this advice and upload it...you will never regret it

TrumpDonald:


Guy no talk ooo. E dey work full time whether u believe it or not. I knw a victim of such so s guy has every reason to b scared cos e dey work. No jokes

Rubbish! the woman herself wasn't innocent she aborted 4 babies. which curses will work on her? infact she is the evil one. curses what ever that means, does not exist. if that victim of yours you know is not doing well or is having problems is either because he is lazy or otherwise it's definitely not because he was cursed, besides how did you know he was curses? did you witness the curse implimentation? guy you need to say what you are sure of or you may be cursed too

vani86:


Your reply just indicated how shallow and naive you are.

How can you date a girl from when she was 24 to 30, got her prego 4 times and have her abort them all for you to dump her and engage a 22 abi 23 year old months later.


Dude that guy is evil, and very wrong. Imagine if she was your sister. Will you say the same thing.

People like you still have the "Village Mentality" where every misfortune is attributed to one Witch from your Maternal compound!




First, that guy is foolish and not worth the "two balls" inside his pant!
FEAR is what is killing him, not any curse from his ex-girl friend!

Why is it that when a lady breaks a relationship, for nay reason (she found a better man, she is no longer interested, the guy is not ready and she cant wait any longer, she has fallen out of love for him, her Mama said she should not marry a Muslim/Christian, e.t.c), It is OKAY and we dont hear all these foolish stories that are meant to garner silly sympathy, from equally stewpid people? The guy simply moves-on and looks for another lover.

On the other hand, when a guy breaks a relationship for whatever reason (including all the ones l stated above), the lady starts to count "How many times she had shex with the guy", like she did not enjoy it as well?
She starts to count how many times she cooked for him, like she did not eat out of the food or it was not the guys money that bought the groceries used?
She does not count how many times she slept on the bed he bought, all the gifts (Phones, Flowers, shoes, bags, Clothings, cash, e.t.c) that she benefited from the guy!
She wont remember how many times the guy was driving her around (like he was her taxi driver) while she was sitting at the passenger's eat and grinning from ear-to-ear?

In this particular example, what if she had four abortions, how is that the guys fault or is it his fault that she cant use "prevention" and wont allow the guy use a condom? How is that a "bargaining chip" to force someone to marry you?
If tomorrow now, he starts pummelling you like Mike Tyson, out of "bottled-up" frustrations, you will say 'men are wicked' .... while not admitting you are the cause!
What if they were together for ten years? It is called TOGETHER, which mean "he was also with her" for the same number of years!
What difference does it make then?
What if your parents helped him when he was in need? Where they not just trying to protect the interest of their daughter?

Honestly, it is these type of guys that give ladies (some) this type of silly entitlement.
She is entitled to "Nadda"!
Her curse means Nadda..... except if the guy himself is cursed from hi smother's womb!

All he need do is type "back-to-sender" and forward the text back to her .... then block her number completely and move-on with his life/plans.

If that is how "curse' works, all wicked people should have been dead by now!
Do you know how many curse people like IBB, OBJ, FFK, Fayose, Buhari, Saraki, Jonathan, Olisah Mee-2, e.t.c ...... get in a single day?
yet they are all still alive and stinkingly rich and living the life!


Women must understand that when you are dating someone, it does not necessarily have to result in marriage or they must marry you by-fire, by-force! Same goes for men.

Trying to blackmail them by quoting all those useless "do you remember" stories does not work and should not work except if the man is foolish and want to dig his own "early grave".

I tell you, anyone that marries for "the wrong reasons", including PITY/SYMPATHY/FEAR .... is destined for a life of pain and suffering.

if you feel so indebted to your girl-friend/Boy-friend, simply give them a "cash-gift" and tell them to pfhuck-off and stop bordering you.

Marriage is a life-long decision that is too important to be taken based on "sentiments and foolish emotions".
If you miss it, your life is ruined but if you get it right, its is like winning the lottery!





Lastpage!

BTW: If she is my sister, l will tell her exactly the same thing, maybe in a less combative manner, but the core-message will be the same.

vani86:


Your reply just indicated how shallow and naive you are.

How can you date a girl from when she was 24 to 30, got her prego 4 times and have her abort them all for you to dump her and engage a 22 abi 23 year old months later.


Dude that guy is evil, and very wrong. Imagine if she was your sister. Will you say the same thing.

A neighbour dated his ex for 16 yrs but their marriage ddnt last 18months. A friend dated his ex for 10yrs but eventually ended up not marrying her. My point is this dating thing is a game. Marriage these days does not guarantee ones security. For me,what matters in the end is personal happiness. The lady should just move on and forget about spilt milk. We have seen marriages end in the most bizzaar ways. If the guy had gone ahead with the marriage out of pity, the marriage would have been a sour story.

EmtolalaaPRAISE:
This guy is just being stupid... I am a guy and there's no reason why he shouldn't marry her... That pity talk is just a plain excuse, he should go back, ask for mercy and marry her... Lemme tell you, in relationships people get tired and that's when you re meant to spice it up... I can't have a good woman and then do this to her... It's a very wicked thing and that curse will work, it must work and I pray it works until you marry her and live right... Nonsense

My brother I am also praying the curses work faster on him! Nonsense guy!

God knows if I meet a good lady like this, I am getting married to her for sure! But unfortunately, ladies only fall for useless guys like this!‎

faithee21:
I dnt even knw Wat to say here!d reason u were no longer attracted to her was because u started sleeping with someone else.aw do u even get to sleep at night?curses or no curses my dear let's not deceive ouselves Karma ll come 4 u trust me!4 six good years!!!u wasted her time I pity u n arrears.

karma my butt! she wasted 6 years of her own time Aborting 4 babies, infact she is evil, why was she even having sex out of wedlock? fornication i believe, she was not forced to wait 6 years was she? i am guessing karma in your world works partially
good riddance to an evil baby killing hoe

franks123:
heart break.....the girl was full of anger,hatred,vengeance,dumped,and frustrated....none has to blame her,,,if you were in her shoes you may have done more than what she did....you may even murder the guy....i dont blame the girl..the guy should be blamed.....................my sincere and rare advice to this guy now is to[b] go closer to this lady,cuddle her,forget her age,forget the past and just remember what you saw in her before you got engaged to her.........you will and must definitely find a reason to love her again..[/b]..afterwords she suffered for you and made you what you are today,tomorrow and forever............................................please think over this advice and upload it...you will never regret it

See WICKED ADVISE!

If tomorrow, they start having problems, it is same "double-mouthed' advisers like you that will find another excuse to shift blame!
You cant force yourself to love someone, if the love is not there!

Love is not like some "switch".....its not the same thing as "shex" or infatuation.

As for the guy, "You are a SLAVE to whatever you believe-in".



Lastpage!

goldonome:
I ve being wth my ex for five years and one day she just called me and said the love is not there anymore, I don't feel anything for u anymore, I agreed and we parted, I did the needful blocking her on all my social network, I later found out she was dating someone else, it didn't border me dat much I concentrated on what gives me joy, music,....a year later she called dat she wanted us to talk we met, and she was complaining of her guy cheating, not proud of her and d rest, all I culd say is "eyah" at d end I asked her what does she Want me to do, she said we shud come back togeda again, omo I was feeling like Rambo, I told her NO dat am in a serious relationship her eyes was filled wth tears, while my heart was filled wth joy...
Weting concern dis my writeup wth OP topic sef, I too talk

Some Ladies shaa,after she told u another guy don dig her hole for a year,she now realized it is time to come back for another relationship.


Somehow funny.

humilitypays:
My brother I am also praying the curses work faster on him! Nonsense guy!

God knows if I meet a good lady like this, I am getting married to her for sure! But unfortunately, ladies only fall for useless guys like this!‎

SMH are you this gullible? a lady who aborted 4 babies is a good lady in your mind eh? as you believe in curses then may you find a good baby killing lady like her, your wishes has been granted!

nnamdiokere45:
Taa, na so girl they do joor. at first no be this same girl no like condom? baba it happens joor...no mind all those kinda threat. mke dem pray for u cus d fear nw na mke d babe no folo d talk with backing from one baba

Karma never loses an adress my dear. I've seen these things work. The Bible says " As a bird by wandering, as the swallow by flying, so the causeless Curse shall not come" Prov 22:6... So u See, in other words, it's only if the Curse is deserving. Now tell me? with all that happened doesn't he deserve the curse?

ireneony:
Hmmmmm

what's mmmmmm?

Hmmn,I blame the guy..6 years is a whole lot of time.Try and apologise to her and makes sure she forgives u..

gypsey:
SMH are you this gullible? a lady who aborted 4 babies is a good lady in your mind eh? as you believe in curses then may you find a good baby killing lady like her, your wishes has been granted!

Yes she is a good lady! Do u know how the guy pressured her to abort that he's not ready Were u there? And mind u, every good person u see have some bad part...wot matters is let your good be more than your bad, and to me her good deed to the guy is more than her bad according to the story.

If the guy wanted her to keep the pregnancies, she would have, so pity the poor lady and don't support evil! That guy is evil!!

missyadorable:
Nothing like curses! it won't work.the girl is just venting her anger and bitterness

If she is smart enough,she suppose to keep calm as if nothing happened then kill arrange for the guy to be abducted and tortured to death in cold blood...That's revenge!

cursing him is just pure noise making

How can you date a man for 2years and he doesn't propose and you don't have a back up plan? but you continue to spread your legs for 6years,abort 4 times? Ain't you the definition of a goat?

Op,pls enjoy your marriage.You are a typical Nigerian man!

no man will marry a lady after 1 abortion,talk of 4.you did nothing wrong.Congrats

U are 100% wrong, it is by choice not fiction as u fink.

emekamigo:



Gentleman,we are here to express views and not to insult each other -if my view contrasts with your own,you don't need to throw tantrums.You read it and maintain your own perspective,or better you don't even read it.We have freedom of individual expressions but the freedom after the expression,I can't guarantee .So please,be mature enough not to abuse nairalanders because you don't share their opinions.

I really don't know what the moderators are doing cause some people might decide to abandon the forum.Lets respect ourselves duely!

it boggles the mind the sorts characters one comes across on this forum, ignorant and irrational they expect one to Agree with their opinion if one disagrees he is either an out cast or evil hence the warped replies. It's funny because they may have agreed with you on another topic.

Na wa o. Dis one strong walahi!