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Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by Owoplenty(m): 5:37am On May 08, 2016
Iffffffy:
Sometimes You just need your peace. We have separate rooms but normally sleeps in my room.
then you're the oga nah, 'cos you dictate the tune: am sowie for ya man
Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by einsteino(m): 6:00am On May 08, 2016
BiafranAmerican:


Personally, my house is 3 floors. First, Second and Third. My room is on the first floor, and my wife's room is on the second floor. And we are doing just fine. Some days when we have conflict, she locks herself in her room, and I also lock my room when I want to make yanga. When she wants to watch Telemundo or Zee world all night, I have no worries cos every door in my house are sound proof.

There are atimes that we really need to talk, when I upset her and she doesnt wanna come out, on one instance, after knocking on her room door severally and she is doing yanga, I simply turn off the circuit box that supplies electricity to the entire second floor, and when her room became dark for 10 minutes, and she thought it was PHCN problem that Generator will soon come up,she didnt see light coming, so she tried to come down to ground floor, that is when she realized that the entire second floor dark while there was light everywhere. No body tell am to come ask why her floor has no light. Na so she come go my own guest room for first floor go lie down, I went to ground floor and remove the DSTV booster cable and supply of signal to all rooms except the decoder in my bedroom. That night she no dey comfortable.
Next day, I didnt restore light to her floor and she had no choice than to watch TV on ground floor or my room. Chai, see as person come ask if electrician can come and check light for second floor.I told her that I turned the fuccking light off, and will continue to turn it off any time she refuse to open door at my request.

Trust me, sharing your room with your wife, will kill you faster than a bullet.I sleep mostly in her room, and sleep in my room when I want to meditate and chant some esoteric frequency modulating mantras. I suggest that every man have their own room. Women can put their combs and weavon anywhere, but not my room. My bedroom is neat,excellent, beautiful, very very clean and no drop of lipstick and above all, no telemundo in my room, they can mess with 10 other TVs in the house but not my own room. My home office and my bedroom are no go areas for my wife. She can mess with any other rooms.

Infact, the greatest power I have in this house is telling her. "Please get the Bleep out of my room." That one dey pain am.

I never thought i would chorus this....what you have up there is the power of money! A floor to yourself, wow!

Personally i prefer having seperate rooms with a door in them that opens into the other. I cant stand the way women congest rooms with unnecessary stuffs and i also treasure some me time. The way i see it, it is a matter of choice and what one can afford.

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Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by missyadorable(f): 6:15am On May 08, 2016
I have my own room

I don't like to be choked up

my personal effects stay there

I sleep in his room at night(if the atmosphere permits)

if you marry a Nigerian man,you will understand the importance of a separate room..it has saved many lives

Couples who live in 1 room stil have ALL the problems and challenges of those who live in 5 rooms duplex.

Peace is essential
My privacy(oh yeah,i still need it) is important

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Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by fogunloto: 6:31am On May 08, 2016
Most of yu are single... When u get married u will understand why yu should have your own room once a while....
Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by jamorgan: 6:36am On May 08, 2016
No it is not good as it promote unfaithfulness in the marriage. The woman can be doing midnight chats and phone calls with male lovers and the man can also do same with girl friends!!!
Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by dadson2009(m): 6:39am On May 08, 2016
It is a NO for me, I don't like the idea
Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by Provie(m): 6:41am On May 08, 2016
Acidosis:
In this age where two bedroom apartments goes for about N300k, na im una wan occupy two rooms?

How feasible is that when you have about 2, 3 children?

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Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by bapullow: 6:46am On May 08, 2016
It's depend

When hv 2 to 3 kit is good separate wit ur wife
Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by nkemdi89(f): 7:00am On May 08, 2016
omonnakoda:
Fake story ,so even if they share rooms don't they travel separately .Or Heart attacks are only allowed to happen at night or when you are in your house
It's someone close to me officially, he was to embark on a trip that morning when we got the news,studies has shown the older men grows the more vulnerable and needy they become,the man in question was above 50 so he is prone to that. Sorry it's not fake.
Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by Vince77(m): 7:02am On May 08, 2016
missyadorable:
I have my own room
Haven't seen u in a while. Where hv u been?
Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by djlakeside(m): 7:22am On May 08, 2016
There is nothing wrong for them to sleep seperately but it is adviseable to share thesame room. A close friend and his wife sleep seperately while my wife and I share a room. Both families are good without any hitch. It depends on what you and your spouse want. (My hunch)
Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by jamace(m): 7:41am On May 08, 2016
What for?

Once this happens, know that both or one of them is having a secret agenda of playing away games.

Or, the marriage has crashed but both pretending to be married just to hold onto the tag of "MARRIED"!

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Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by Vveni(m): 7:42am On May 08, 2016
TiffanyJ:
It won't even be healthy for their marriage. Seperate rooms among couples can bring about distrust, secrecy and it reduces their level of intimacy. Its better to share a room and know each other's strong side and weakness rather than live like strangers.


Spoken wisely can I see your face?

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Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by 1miccza: 7:44am On May 08, 2016
For me,i would say it's neither good nor bad. It is bad because it might at a point create a gulf between the couple and the union might lose it's intimate nature due to this.. It would be good on the other hand when at a time later in the union probably as a result of boredom,the pair begins to feel a form of disconnect this can bring them back .....
Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by Questyjayblack(m): 7:48am On May 08, 2016
It depends on the couples. There is no laid down rule for how to do things.
Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by ewizard1: 7:57am On May 08, 2016
Segadem:

[size=14pt]Op, u need to elaborate your point, I think there's nothing wrong for couple to have separate rooms but they should not have separate bed.[/size]
Ok! like a having a veeeerrrryyyyyy loooooooonnnnnnnggggg bed that cuts across both rooms! grin

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Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by sinceraconcept(m): 7:59am On May 08, 2016
You can separate rooms when your wife starts giving birth so that the cries of the baby won't keep waking you up at night and also,so that you won't get wet by the baby's urine.
Women know how they manage such,so they can always take care of baby alone in their room. But you must always check on your baby during the days,you can always come to the wife's room to check on the baby at any time
Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by sinceraconcept(m): 8:03am On May 08, 2016
nkemdi89:

It's someone close to me officially, he was to embark on a trip that morning when we got the news,studies has shown the older men grows the more vulnerable and needy they become,the man in question was above 50 so he is prone to that. Sorry it's not fake.
but why are younger men dying more than older men today? Anybody can be vulnerable at any time. Some old men are so strong o
Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by sykah(f): 8:12am On May 08, 2016
I don't think it's right for spouses to have separate rooms. I don't support and encourage it

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Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by Nobody: 8:19am On May 08, 2016
EVILFOREST:
Very Very Very GOOD.
it's a laudable project.

Enables the Man reason critically, the way forward for his family because these SOAP OPERA LADIES won't allow u focus and give ur best.

Most LADIES are luggage themselves, so it will enable the MAN experience a LOAD - FREE environment.

Prevents allergy coming from most ladies due to excessive MAKE UPs.

Most times Enables the MAN commune with his creator personally, because most prayers are hindered by most ladies, since they attract evil spirits more often than men.

Guy u harsh o.
Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by tony9k: 8:52am On May 08, 2016
There was a guy who boasted to his friend that he was very rich with a 4 bedroom house and separate rooms for his wife and himself. The friend said he was probably richer as he had a 5-bedroom house but shared the same bedroom with his wife. He wondered how his friend with separate bedroom gets round to doing the 'show'. The reply was that it was quite easy - he simply knocks his wife's bedroom 3 times and he wife comes to meet him. What then happens if it is the other way round he was asked - if it is the wife that wants the show. It is very easy was the reply - my wife comes to my room and asks the question 'Did you just knock my room 3 times?'

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Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by Lordscrown(m): 8:54am On May 08, 2016
Its good to have seperate rooms,they will keep thiers cloths and things in them,but will sleep together in the master bedroom which is for the husband.I'm into it already for 5 yrs now,no issues.

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Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by tbrown90(m): 8:59am On May 08, 2016
TiffanyJ:
It won't even be healthy for their marriage. Seperate rooms among couples can bring about distrust, secrecy and it reduces their level of intimacy. Its better to share a room and know each other's strong side and weakness rather than live like strangers.
hey tiff ur attention is needed at d literature section thanks

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Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by basingstoke: 9:04am On May 08, 2016
Perfectdanny:
Good day Ladies and Gentlemen.
I need matured minds on this. Thanks.

Is having seperate rooms in the house really good? As married couples is it really advisable or not? I just want your views. Thanks again.

You did not tell us the reason. For example snoring heavily. However , I do not think it is good.
Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by Hansome001(m): 9:22am On May 08, 2016
Different strokes for different folks. For me, I don't see anything wrong in having a separate room.
Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by Dedelizo(m): 9:30am On May 08, 2016
malton:
it's a terrible idea!

In my experience, well, not exactly a personal experience, but from what I could gather from the lives of couples leading this life, it could create some communication gap which in turn might lead to stonewalling (refusal to communicate at all).

You'll find out too soon how much you can go without each other. And before you realise it, either of you might be out cheating just as soon.

When you're not there beside her when she needs someone to cuddle and tuck her in, she'll definite seek consolation from quarters you wouldn't be quite comfortable with. That's why the phone and social networks are there.

The most memorable moments in a couples lives are made in the bedroom, not only from sex, but the little acts that gives joy. It's there that she sees just how good a person you are...it's the holy ground to get bonded.


See me dishing all these advice when I'm still only just a corper. lol.

Goodluck though!
....I gat u..seperate rooms doesn't mean u must sleep in seperate beds. My wife sleeps in my room everynyt since we got married but she has her own room cos of her stuff and she use my room wen ever she likes...
Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by nkemdi89(f): 9:31am On May 08, 2016
sinceraconcept:
but why are younger men dying more than older men today? Anybody can be vulnerable at any time. Some old men are so strong o
Life expectancy rate has dropped and so many factors are responsible aside health,drugs, food and general lifestyle contributes to it.
Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by sinceraconcept(m): 9:34am On May 08, 2016
nkemdi89:

Life expectancy rate has dropped and so many factors are responsible aside health,drugs, food and general lifestyle contributes to it.
hmmmmn,may God save us from early death o

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Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by Barigaboy(m): 9:35am On May 08, 2016
To me its not bad at all. Having different rooms doesn't mean u can't be sleeping in dsame room. Imagine if your wife or husband is still studying or is d head of a department n might somethings need time to clear some work stuff at home. That requires privacy. Some couples have separate room, keeping there close and other wears in d room they belong but prefer to be staying in d same room once one of d parties doesn't have some private important job to do n that will need trust.
Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by Nobody: 9:43am On May 08, 2016
omonnakoda:
Fake story ,so even if they share rooms don't they travel separately .Or Heart attacks are only allowed to happen at night or when you are in your house
Accident happens o. Don't forget the definition of Accident. ''untimed and/or unwanted circumstances. Even if the story is fake, can't it happen?
Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by sinceraconcept(m): 9:44am On May 08, 2016
BiafranAmerican:


Personally, my house is 3 floors. First, Second and Third. My room is on the first floor, and my wife's room is on the second floor. And we are doing just fine. Some days when we have conflict, she locks herself in her room, and I also lock my room when I want to make yanga. When she wants to watch Telemundo or Zee world all night, I have no worries cos every door in my house are sound proof.

There are atimes that we really need to talk, when I upset her and she doesnt wanna come out, on one instance, after knocking on her room door severally and she is doing yanga, I simply turn off the circuit box that supplies electricity to the entire second floor, and when her room became dark for 10 minutes, and she thought it was PHCN problem that Generator will soon come up,she didnt see light coming, so she tried to come down to ground floor, that is when she realized that the entire second floor dark while there was light everywhere. No body tell am to come ask why her floor has no light. Na so she come go my own guest room for first floor go lie down, I went to ground floor and remove the DSTV booster cable and supply of signal to all rooms except the decoder in my bedroom. That night she no dey comfortable.
Next day, I didnt restore light to her floor and she had no choice than to watch TV on ground floor or my room. Chai, see as person come ask if electrician can come and check light for second floor.I told her that I turned the fuccking light off, and will continue to turn it off any time she refuse to open door at my request.

Trust me, sharing your room with your wife, will kill you faster than a bullet.I sleep mostly in her room, and sleep in my room when I want to meditate and chant some esoteric frequency modulating mantras. I suggest that every man have their own room. Women can put their combs and weavon anywhere, but not my room. My bedroom is neat,excellent, beautiful, very very clean and no drop of lipstick and above all, no telemundo in my room, they can mess with 10 other TVs in the house but not my own room. My home office and my bedroom are no go areas for my wife. She can mess with any other rooms.

Infact, the greatest power I have in this house is telling her. "Please get the Bleep out of my room." That one dey pain am.
Chai,this guy is rich as phuck
Re: Is It Good For A Husband And Wife To Have Separate Rooms At Home? by Nobody: 9:45am On May 08, 2016
sukkot:
depends on how young you are. if you are under 30 its not good but if you are over 30 then its OK
Why?

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