It is so ridiculous and shameful at the same time that in our society, people have become so religiously blind to the extent where our traditions no longer have the slightest of value, regard or relevance. It is this shameful disregard for customs and traditions that has made many Nigerians to have a picture of a day called 'wedding night'. It is usually expected that a man and his wife should make love only after the wedding ceremony. That night after the wedding is usually seen as the 'right time' for loving making to take place between the couple. This practice is a symbol of cultural slavery among Africans!

For those who claim to profess Christianity even more than the missionaries, the Early Church headed by Simon Peter concerned itself with leading people to salvation and not to ordain or organise marriages. All marriages recorded in the Holy Book were done or consummated traditionally, according to the customs of the people; including the one Jesus attended in Galilee! This should clearly show the 'religious zealots' that marriage is more of tradition than religion.

White wedding as the name implies is for white people. It has never been a religious way of joining a man and a woman together; it is the cultural and traditional marriage practice among westerners. After all, the Jewish people have their customary way of getting married. Why did the Europeans and Americans not copy them? Africans readily accept alien practice pushed down to them without any slight resistance even if such practice makes mockery of their customs and traditions.

If a mother sends one of her children to go and wash plates and when that child is done with the task, she sends another one to re-wash the plates, it means the work of the first child is not good enough. This is what Africans indirectly tell the westerners: 'Our marriage customs are not good enough; yours are better'.

A man has every right to sleep with his wife immediately after the bride price is paid and the traditional marriage rites are carried out. Same thing applies to the woman. Let us stop enslaving ourselves culturally. After traditional marriage, sex becomes a duty to be enjoyed and not a taboo!

We should learn from the Japanese, Chinese, Koreans and the entire Asian continent who have succeeded in preserving their culture. Between white wedding and traditional marriage, the former is the alien one and should be seen and treated as such.

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TrollKiller:
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A man has every right to sleep with his wife immediately after the bride price is paid and the traditional marriage rites are carried out.

True. I see white wedding as celebration of marriage so if you still have money after the traditional marriage you can still call family and friends to rejoice with you

Ofcos once the bride price is paid

Traditional marriage is far na, immediately after the introduction ceremony.. Oga, na ur wife b DAT.. Whether u pay her BP or not.. Uve made ur intentions known so ure now her hubby..

Criticaltemp:
Traditional marriage is far na, immediately after the introduction ceremony.. Oga, na ur wife b DAT.. Whether u pay her BP or not.. Uve made ur intentions known so ure now her hubby..

true talk

Just speak for yourself. I'm not agreeing to that.

Super true!! She's your wife legally once the brideprice is paid and everything settled traditionally. White wedding is just a celebration of marriage (besides its not compulsory)

tee59:
Just speak for yourself. I'm not agreeing to that.

Common sense is not common for you.

Please explain?

tee59:
Just speak for yourself. I'm not agreeing to that.

Once the bride price is made, automatically becomes your wife. White wedding is just a formality.

How many people are even doing white wedding nowadays?

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Before nko

Like they have not be fvcking each other before traditional marriage.


Mtchew...

Yes he has the right if and only if the Traditional Marriage is their Last Wedding Rite.

It is hypocritical to do two marriages only one is valid and recognized. If you need the church wedding to validate your marriage, then the church wedding is the real wedding and if you do not intend to go to the church for ANOTHER wedding ceremony after the traditional wedding then so be it: the traditional wedding is your real wedding. Go to the courts and collect your certificate of marriage.

The church recognizes traditional marriages and hence do church blessings for traditional marriages AND NOT not another wedding.

D person wey write this message come be like say, he dey vex, my own be say, bros, any how or any time u wan take consummate tam , u are free, whether na after the first date or first proposal , or after u buy first gift, the main tin be say,no dulling, gals are not to be trusted these days.

Ok

Of course

Say no to adultry

any wedding asides traditional wedding is a waste of time and money

Some people don't even know the supposed WHITE WEDDING is only about 250yrs since it started. That's why it was never mentioned in the Bible, they run full scale with a tradition that has no Biblical basis and feel they have fulfilled all righteousness.

Neither Jesus nor any of the disciplines conducted a wedding ceremony. The error of white wedding is same as the error of tithe, imposing and teaching other people's culture on children of God as commandments.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/White_wedding

zainaboo19:
no I disagree its only on honey moon a man can sleep with me

See them

After paying bride price and settling the gods of the land u expect me not to Bleep till wedding night? We die here

Op just spoke the truth most religious people will not want to agree with. I read posts where some still think they are still courting even after traditional marriage...smh

Hypocrites will say it is a bad thing.

Some are currently fvcking their girlfriend/boyfriend even before introduction.