sweetheart12:
I Need Your Advise Please

I will sincerely appreciate a good advise from you all.

I have been in a relationship for 7 years, in this relationship i was in, the guys father never like me from the day he heard my name. My boyfriend then asked him severally even the mum also asked the dad why he didnt like me, but he was not able to give any reason.

Myself and this my boyfriend has had several breakup due to his father not liking me.

The third time i broke up with him was because he beat me up and left several injury on me. He came back to beg and apologize and all then i accepted him back. A time came when we planed to do our wedding, when his dad heard of it he never supported it. Our Pastors asked him why he never wanted us to be together but still there was no reason given.

After this incident my family said i cant marry him since his father has never accepted me. I was not able to let go cos i was thinking how i will throw away the 7 years of relationship, but not quite long my boyfriend came to me and said he wanted us to breakup since his father wont accept, i cried n cried but at the end i decided to let go.

After 6 months i heard he has done introduction with a girl the father like and all. after a year now the same guy is now calling me saying he wants us to come back together and get married, he said he does not love the girl he was forced to do introduction with by his dad, he said he has told the girl he didnt love her and cant marry her,he also said his dad has accepted that we can get married now. DO I GO BACK TO HIM OR NOT?

During this last breakup we had, i met a very nice guy by name Sammy he has been so nice and good to me, When i and Sammy met it was not up to 6 months before Sammy traveled out of the country. He was supposed to be away from the country for 2 years then he will return and we will do our wedding. Sammy loves me alot, he is a God fearing person but recently he told me he's not sure of his coming home in next 2 years as planed, when i asked him what the new plan is and when he will return home he said he cant say, Sammy still loves me and wants us to be together but i am worried how long i will have wait before he returns. And now my ex boyfriend is saying he wants us to get married. i am just confused.

What do i do please? I need advise please.

An0nimus:


He just might be

The story looks cooked though. Well garnished sef

nnamdiokere45:
as I hear dat beating part, I knw say dat guy wld kill u weeks into d marriage. as for al this abroad tin, u r lucky d guy clear u on time say hm no go cum back. some people wld jst mess u up.hu wan cum bck dis nonsense country. my advice is play along wit d Yankee dude bt if anoda guy cums to u, tel hm ur single bcus ur more or less single

mhizeva:
First of all I don't trust Sammy... because men can be so crafty... I mean what do you know about his business, his earlier lifestyle and what is the real reason why he Travelled. have you done this research....
My dear don't base your heart on love alone.... because no marriage can stand on love alone

Secondly, for your ex.... I will advise you not to go back to him... One reason is that men are strong and vibrant and natural born leaders... If a man cannot stand for himself with the love he has for you and marry you even against his father''s wishes then he is not going to stand for you in much more difficult situations..

Secondly, he gave up on you too quickly, by going to marry another girl.... meaning that his father controls him... If his father hadnt accepted in the end that means he wont have come back for you....

Thirdly, think about the other woman that just got married to him... Thats one reason why you should off him

Fourthly, Wait for a genuine man.... Search the net, read books and you will understand what a real man is made up off my dear....

Love cannot keep a marriage forever... If it could then why are so many american marriages falling apart today after the expensive weddings in which the man professed his love...

Stay Healthy, Stay Wise

VampireeM:
Its quite obvious none of these men are meant for you.. please tell that your married ex to stop disturbing and calling you, mean it.. The dude abroad should be kept @ the friendzone.

Dear Its time for you to mingle more with men who are ready for a serious relationship and wants to settle down and in all things pray to God to give you your own man..

All the best

sweetheart12:
I Need Your Advise Please

I will sincerely appreciate a good advise from you all.

I have been in a relationship for 7 years, in this relationship i was in, the guys father never like me from the day he heard my name. My boyfriend then asked him severally even the mum also asked the dad why he didnt like me, but he was not able to give any reason.

Myself and this my boyfriend has had several breakup due to his father not liking me.

The third time i broke up with him was because he beat me up and left several injury on me. He came back to beg and apologize and all then i accepted him back. A time came when we planed to do our wedding, when his dad heard of it he never supported it. Our Pastors asked him why he never wanted us to be together but still there was no reason given.

After this incident my family said i cant marry him since his father has never accepted me. I was not able to let go cos i was thinking how i will throw away the 7 years of relationship, but not quite long my boyfriend came to me and said he wanted us to breakup since his father wont accept, i cried n cried but at the end i decided to let go.

After 6 months i heard he has done introduction with a girl the father like and all. after a year now the same guy is now calling me saying he wants us to come back together and get married, he said he does not love the girl he was forced to do introduction with by his dad, he said he has told the girl he didnt love her and cant marry her,he also said his dad has accepted that we can get married now. DO I GO BACK TO HIM OR NOT?

During this last breakup we had, i met a very nice guy by name Sammy he has been so nice and good to me, When i and Sammy met it was not up to 6 months before Sammy traveled out of the country. He was supposed to be away from the country for 2 years then he will return and we will do our wedding. Sammy loves me alot, he is a God fearing person but recently he told me he's not sure of his coming home in next 2 years as planed, when i asked him what the new plan is and when he will return home he said he cant say, Sammy still loves me and wants us to be together but i am worried how long i will have wait before he returns. And now my ex boyfriend is saying he wants us to get married. i am just confused.

What do i do please? I need advise please.

naijaboiy:

Seriously naah!

MrAboki:
Use your ex to be servicing your engine until your Overseas Bobo arrive..


Seriously..


OP,

Your first relationship of Seven years sounded like Comedy to me and you should be thankful you did not enter that marriage for the following reasons;

1. The Boy (yes I called him a Boy cos he does not sound like a Man) sounds like he is indecisive and requires parental consent to make any move. Today is who to marry, tomorrow it will be something else.

2. If He beat you up and left bruises on you once, he is very very likely to do it again. That was a potentially abusive relationship.

3. He sounds like a weak sissy boy who shouldnt be getting married to anyone just yet until he is sure of himself and his decision.

4.


On your second relationship, I don't think you have any relationship. I say so for the following reason;

1. I don't trust Long Distance relationships especially one built on just a barely 6 Months foundation.









My Advise to you:: Stop Chasing Marriage and focus on improving your life and self worth cos I dont like the picture I have of you in my head.

MarieSucre:


Hope when she is 30-something and complaining about being single. You will not say that why did she not agree for all the men that were toasting her.

AreaFada2:


Please be careful how you advise people before you seriously damage people. This is over-generalisation.
A friend advised my teenage love I left in 9ja to study abroad exactly like same.

While I was trying to make ends meet as a foreign student, trying to do nothing against the law, avoiding all the succulent babes from wealthy families in my school, my 9ja babe went ahead and marry another person.

Quite funny that the guy she married is also a very abusive man. When I returned, she was in the middle of one their many break-ups.

Anyhow, she's enduring a torrid marriage now. I was initially devastated, but I have moved on now.

Check some of my old posts from years back. I have mentioned this many times before.

Many people studying abroad have to work very hard to see themselves through, financially & emotionally. No sorting or buying pamphlets to pass.
Please stop your generalisation, and quit sounding authoritative on this issue.

Odunharry:

Really?? And many have done all those yet don't know what a genuine man is..
I hope you not mistaken a genuine man for a real man??

mhizeva:




Men are so crafty does not mean all men are bad... It means every man would do what seems right at that moment in time... It may be right in his eyes and wrong in other eyes. It means men are capable of change. It means you cannot trust a book by its cover.. Thats why I advised her to do her research... and once again I understood your plight

The reason why you girlfriend left you might have even been your fault or her fault... all the same when we are in love we fail to do the most important things
which are:

1. Know our lovers past lifestyle
2. Learn his/her behaviours when she/he is angry, upset or even happy (this will go a long way to define him/her)
3. Learn to decode every first response to every single thing he/she does

If you had done this and much more... your predicament would have been different

mhizeva:


Genuine means nothing hidden... He is an open book... very true and you can see through him like a glass (so it means a real man) although you cannot describe his every movement... You can always come to a solution when you both have problems

That is a genuine man for you

Odunharry:

I like ur definition of a real man... Can u give definition of real woman??

Jentilia:
anger did not even let me finish reading this immediately I read that beating part.
hear me now,if u ever go back to him then know that u are the biggest fo.ol ever in this planet.
I don't really know what is wrong with girls.
Always value yourself and the man that will value you will come along.as for the new guy,he has already told you,he doesn't know when he will be back.#dont put all your eggs in a basket#

#imagine a boyfriend beating me...them never born am that day

mhizeva:
First of all I don't trust Sammy... because men can be so crafty... I mean what do you know about his business, his earlier lifestyle and what is the real reason why he Travelled. have you done this research....
My dear don't base your heart on love alone.... because no marriage can stand on love alone

Secondly, for your ex.... I will advise you not to go back to him... One reason is that men are strong and vibrant and natural born leaders... If a man cannot stand for himself with the love he has for you and marry you even against his father''s wishes then he is not going to stand for you in much more difficult situations..

Secondly, he gave up on you too quickly, by going to marry another girl.... meaning that his father controls him... If his father hadnt accepted in the end that means he wont have come back for you....

Thirdly, think about the other woman that just got married to him... Thats one reason why you should off him

Fourthly, Wait for a genuine man.... Search the net, read books and you will understand what a real man is made up off my dear....

Love cannot keep a marriage forever... If it could then why are so many american marriages falling apart today after the expensive weddings in which the man professed his love...

Stay Healthy, Stay Wise