Julietcutie:
take her matter to God... pray well and try and see if you can get close to her like you and your mom in law should be like 5 &6

Kaira333:
I understand, I wish to be 5 & 6 with her. But what I needs now is how to make her stop saying all those things especially in the presence of my hubby b4 she spoil his hrt towards me.

byvan03:
Jokingly tell her" mama e be like sey nah only you go sabi marry your son, if you keep talking like this he no go fit live with womanooo". Dey talk am dey shine teeth . If she vex" dey laugh dey talk sorry and keep saying " but mama you know sey nah truth" . Terrible MIL!

Julietcutie:
see whether you can cook something she loves serve her like a VIP after that tell her 'mama I want to have a private talk with you ' while discussing tell her u love her son and plead with her to stop saying those mean things... try to pet your husband in her presence treat him like a king... do some public display of ur love with your husband too also in her presence... and finally pray

TheArchangel:
Why not focus on your hubby and baby instead of allowing MIL to live rent free in your head.? Any negative or contrary words from you will be seen as an insult, so I suggest you avoid her as long as she is there till she leaves.
She is a ticking time bomb, do not give her the satisfaction of talking back at her to correct her negative impresions cos your hubby is gonna side with his mama at the long run. Delete her from your mental space. Please.

Melahou:
The only way you can have rest of mind is only if she's not staying with you in your husband's house

Talking back at her is not a good idea...it will only deteriorate thing for both of you.

Some mother in laws are naturally like that. You can't just impress them.

Continue being that good wife you are and sometimes play "DEAF or MUMU" with her.

Mindfulness:
Why do you choose to take what she says so seriously?
I wouldn't bother if I were you. Ignore mode. It is that simple.

It's up to you whether you let her affect you and whether you choose to invest energy into an argument, which will put your husband in an uncomfortable position. And it is also up to you whether you choose to rise above the situation.

Kaira333:
My dear nobi today ooo. I don de shine teeth since but it's not working out. What made me to create dis thread happened just today. Ok, After several disturbances dat her son is too dark (which no body is complaining na only her oo) dat I should go to d market and change his cream. I told hubby since am fair maybe let's be using my own cream together. He accepted only for her mum to come out today again to tell me to my face dat upon everything her son is doing for me dat I don't take care of him. My hrt is so heavy dis morning. Honestly I need to put an end to this.

byvan03:




To be honest with you I personally will explode right in front her and spill exactly how I feel about her bulls*hit with no sugar coating, I don't know how to tiptoe. So personally I did handle it the best way I know how to which is for the heaven to fall today or forever remain still method. My initial advise was based on the fact that sugar coating seems to be how most people roll. Make sure is in front of her son so she won't add jara and say you pushed her while twisting every thing you said. If you have the guts, this method will seal the lips permanently if you utilise it well.

cococandy:
That's true though.

But it's a kind of hard advice to give someone because they may not know how to do it expertly in order to both call the bullshit and at the same time avoid insulting the other person.

Kaira333:
Dear, u won't understand. Assuming u are d one u could have choose to take what she said more seriously than I do. Imagine someone always trying to label you a bad person in d presence of ur hubby. Its Neva easy to take dat only by God's Grace

cococandy:
You should have listened to your husband when he said he didn't want her to come.
Well too late.
Ignore her just like some posters have said.
She's just looking for an excuse to find faults in your marriage.

Which one is that he's now dark and you should change his cream for him. Is he a baby? Some women sef.

Kaira333:
Honestly I don't like complaining about things like dis but I think this is too much. I got married to a man dat is every woman's dream. (Glory be to God) but my mum in law is actually annoying and I think am tired of her problems I need to sort it out once and for all.Dats y am here for better advice. I got married with her daughter dsame month dsame yr but I did only trad. Marriage but her daughter did both white and trad dsame day. It wasn't up to one month dis woman started disturbing me DAT she want grand children. I was like mum am still in my finial year and have not done my white wedding please calm down d person in good position to give u grand child now is ur daughter not me.Hubby told her to leave me alone dat am still in school, Any day dis woman sees me she will be pressing my tummy asking if nofin has entered. Imagine ooooo. Next thing she will say is dat her son is now slim dat I don't feed him well, he will be saying all dis in d presence of her son ooo so dat my guy will start feeling dat his wife is not taking good care of him. I kept on enduring all those things simply because my hubby don't listen to her. He loves me die. As God may have it am done schooling I have done my white wedding give birth to a bouncing baby girl, Due to certain conditions my mum couldn't come to do my omugwo. I wanted to manage my self not to invite anybody but I couldn't due to d fact dat am a first timer and hubby and i dont have any exprience. We needed eldely woman to help.Due to her character hubby sugested we should invite her sister instead of her. I wanted to accept dat but on a second thought i know it will bring great misundetstanding and hatred towards me. I told hubby lets invite her. Hmmmmm Dis woman wont let me be ooo. This time around she said her son is darker now than when she gave birth to him dat am not taking good care of him UPON EVERY THING HE IS DOING FOR ME. The ones in bold letters got me mad. At any slightest talk she will be saying dat in d presence of my hubby.In as much as he still care for me as usual but am afraid this thing her mum is always repeating might affect his character towards me may be at time goes on. I have decided to confront her any times she speaks in dat manner to me but I don't know how to do dat.



Nb not as if I don't care for my hubby as she says Honestly I do, I help him well in his business and also combine dat with my household duties as a wife. Still she won't let me be.



Any person dat has a better way to tackle to issue should please help out. I will so much appreciate dat.



Thanks

Vikky014:
hmmmmm quite annoying. swty just endure since she wont stay 4ever bt dnt make dt mistake of inviting her for ur omugwo again. try and tell ur hubby to shun her mum anytime she makes such comments by opposing her mums view. his silence is deadly

Kaira333:
Thanks dear.( My rummy don catch me for nairaland). Honestly its no longer funny. Am tired of complaining to u. If not i for done gist you for whatsap

Kaira333:
Thanks to you all for ur wonderful advice but people shouldn't blame me for not inviting her sister instead of her as hubby suggested. Since my own mum couldn't make it and I can't cope alone, I thought its very unfair to her if I invite her younger sister instead of her. She won't forgive me in dis world if I have done dat but I have learnt my lessons.

Kaira333:
Honestly I don't like complaining about things like dis but I think this is too much. I got married to a man dat is every woman's dream. (Glory be to God) but my mum in law is actually annoying and I think am tired of her problems I need to sort it out once and for all.Dats y am here for better advice. I got married with her daughter dsame month dsame yr but I did only trad. Marriage but her daughter did both white and trad dsame day. It wasn't up to one month dis woman started disturbing me DAT she want grand children. I was like mum am still in my finial year and have not done my white wedding please calm down d person in good position to give u grand child now is ur daughter not me.Hubby told her to leave me alone dat am still in school, Any day dis woman sees me she will be pressing my tummy asking if nofin has entered. Imagine ooooo. Next thing she will say is dat her son is now slim dat I don't feed him well, he will be saying all dis in d presence of her son ooo so dat my guy will start feeling dat his wife is not taking good care of him. I kept on enduring all those things simply because my hubby don't listen to her. He loves me die. As God may have it am done schooling I have done my white wedding give birth to a bouncing baby girl, Due to certain conditions my mum couldn't come to do my omugwo. I wanted to manage my self not to invite anybody but I couldn't due to d fact dat am a first timer and hubby and i dont have any exprience. We needed eldely woman to help.Due to her character hubby sugested we should invite her sister instead of her. I wanted to accept dat but on a second thought i know it will bring great misundetstanding and hatred towards me. I told hubby lets invite her. Hmmmmm Dis woman wont let me be ooo. This time around she said her son is darker now than when she gave birth to him dat am not taking good care of him UPON EVERY THING HE IS DOING FOR ME. The ones in bold letters got me mad. At any slightest talk she will be saying dat in d presence of my hubby.In as much as he still care for me as usual but am afraid this thing her mum is always repeating might affect his character towards me may be at time goes on. I have decided to confront her any times she speaks in dat manner to me but I don't know how to do dat.



Nb not as if I don't care for my hubby as she says Honestly I do, I help him well in his business and also combine dat with my household duties as a wife. Still she won't let me be.



Any person dat has a better way to tackle to issue should please help out. I will so much appreciate dat.



Thanks

misreal:
your problem is not with your mother inlaw but with your hubby.it is only your hubby that can make her keep quiet.tell your hubby what you have told us and beg hum to please talk to his mum on your behalf..if you mistakenly speak to her insolently in front of her son,he will never be the same again..

misreal:
your problem is not with your mother inlaw but with your hubby.it is only your hubby that can make her keep quiet.tell your hubby what you have told us and beg hum to please talk to his mum on your behalf..if you mistakenly speak to her insolently in front of her son,he will never be the same again..