halfricanadian:


Mayb

Am more of sangunine

no one is of a single charctr. U must b a blend probably SanMel. Tht bittr, holdbck, revengefl, moody trait all in melancholy is there fighting d fun nd forgetful (sanguine) part.

Evakinqz:
tanks..... Gat tu go, I pray destiny bring us tugeda again.... bye ma lady

Ok

Israel5:
no one is of a single charctr. U must b a blend probably SanMel. Tht bittr, holdbck, revengefl, moody trait all in melancholy is there fighting d fun nd forgetful (sanguine) part.

Mayb

halfricanadian:


Mayb

hmm. U hav almst evrythng to b a succesful wife as wel as groom a perfct man. SanMels make a perfct wife and mother.

Israel5:
hmm. U hav almst evrythng to b a succesful wife as wel as groom a perfct man. SanMels make a perfct wife and mother.

Awwww tanx u made me smile tank u

halfricanadian:


Awwww tanx u made me smile tank u

it jst happns that that's d truth Nt that i wnt to please or tease u. U'r wlcme sha. I wish i culd chnge my bae or atlst her temperament witout hurting her. #MelPhleg

Israel5:
it jst happns that that's d truth Nt that i wnt to please or tease u. U'r wlcme sha. I wish i culd chnge my bae or atlst her temperament witout hurting her. #MelPhleg

Awwwwww data cool too nah

The day I or should I say he broke up with me was the day I got myself another bf. Mind you, I never double dated. I was hurt for a hour or 2 that is all about it. Maybe it didn't get to me Cox it has all been a lie (2yrs relationship) and I usually do play safe.

halfricanadian:
mine hurts so deeply nd badly yet no one sees that

Im shattered inside

Madam, its been months now and u keep saying this. U rily need to do sth abt ur issue oh

obongitiad:


Madam, its been months now and u keep saying this. U rily need to do sth abt ur issue oh

Tanx

Israel5:
haha.. No dear. Ok, Hope 4 d best nd b ready 4 d worst.

May God help us all;break up aint a easy thing

halfricanadian:
mine hurts so deeply nd badly yet no one sees that

Im shattered inside

I'm so sorry bout that love.. I totally understand.. how u feel

armylord:
I'm so sorry bout that love.. I totally understand.. how u feel

Tank u so mch

Closing the door is always hard, but harder wen one tries to fake happiness. U go around as if u dnt care, but u know u r burning inside, there is dis heavy stone on yo heart, and yo mind cant b still. Remember dat wat doesn't kill u, only makes u stronger. Allow yoself to face de pain, cry for a month if u have to. Go to gym, eat healthy, do yo hair nails etc, go shopping, den go to de zoo, a movie or for drinks. U wil feel so good after dat, dat u wnt even remember his name.

Another man's trash, is another man's treasure. If he cudnt value u, den he is a fool, and someone clever and deserving of yo heart will. Most of de time, closing de door of pain, means opening a new chapter, de door of joy. If u love him so much, y wer u miserable in de relationship? If u cant get over him, wat made u to take de step of walking away from pain, in de first place? Love is a beautiful thing, and it's not supposed to heart. Cant keep loving someone who wont love u back. U have been here befor, and u came out alive, wat makes u think dis time u wil die?

I have been hurt a thousand times, but i still believe in love,

and no amount of heartbreak, can ever change dat.

All de worst experiences u gather, prepare u for tomorow, so better celebrate dat heart break
I have

ZeeAfrica:
Closing the door is always hard, but harder wen one tries to fake happiness. U go around as if u dnt care, but u know u r burning inside, there is dis heavy stone on yo heart, and yo mind cant b still. Remember dat wat doesn't kill u, only makes u stronger. Allow yoself to face de pain, cry for a month if u have to. Go to gym, eat healthy, do yo hair nails etc, go shopping, den go to de zoo, a movie or for drinks. U wil feel so good after dat, dat u wnt even remember his name.

Another man's trash, is another man's treasure. If he cudnt value u, den he is a fool, and someone clever and deserving of yo heart will. Most of de time, closing de door of pain, means opening a new chapter, de door of joy. If u love him so much, y wer u miserable in de relationship? If u cant get over him, wat made u to take de step of walking away from pain, in de first place? Love is a beautiful thing, and it's not supposed to heart. Cant keep loving someone who wont love u back. U have been here befor, and u came out alive, wat makes u think dis time u wil die?

I have been hurt a thousand times, but i still believe in love,

and no amount of heartbreak, can ever change dat.

All de worst experiences u gather, prepare u for tomorow, so better celebrate dat heart break
I have

Beautiful words

halfricanadian:


Tank u so mch

u welcome Love

armylord:
u welcome Love

Flexherbal:
A very few number of people got married to the first man they ever dated.

True, the same can be said of men too,,

nikkyshyne:
The day I or should I say he broke up with me was the day I got myself another bf. Mind you, I never double dated. I was hurt for a hour or 2 that is all about it. Maybe it didn't get to me Cox it has all been a lie (2yrs relationship) and I usually do play safe.

Wow, wower, wowest, I really can't believe this,, you were over a TWO years relationship in TWO hours??
Jixox, I'm just seeing loads of things today,,

irisola:

u want me to die
i will better stay single than experience break ups

Shey you know you won't remain single for ever?

Ptoocool:


Shey you know you won't remain single for ever?

i knw
i will date when itz 3months to my wedding
with that the chances of break up will b minimized

irisola:

i knw
i will date when itz 3months to my wedding
with that the chances of break up will b minimized

Hahahaha,, abeg ah no dey laff for midnight,,
You'll be making a huge mistake by doing that, you need to learn how to live with a man even before you think of getting married, make no mistake, what you don't know, you don't know until you know..

Kindly read this: http://kolawolepeters..com.ng/2016/05/dont-rush-into-marriage.html

Ptoocool:



Hahahaha,, abeg ah no dey laff for midnight,,
You'll be making a huge mistake by doing that, you need to learn how to live with a man even before you think of getting married, make no mistake, what you don't know, you don't know until you know..

Kindly read this: http://kolawolepeters..com.ng/2016/05/dont-rush-into-marriage.html

when they end up breaking up with someone after years of knowing them nko.. why nt knw no one then

nikkyshyne:
The day I or should I say he broke up with me was the day I got myself another bf. Mind you, I never double dated. I was hurt for a hour or 2 that is all about it. Maybe it didn't get to me Cox it has all been a lie (2yrs relationship) and I usually do play safe.

Hmmmm Nike.

Having trouble getting over your ex?
Do you miss the way that they looked at you? The way that they smelled? The way their hand felt in yours?
Do you think you see them walking down the street when really it’s a stranger? Do you still hear certain music that reminds you of them?
When someone takes up so much of your life, it’s impossible to get over them in a day or two.
And while doing things like reading, walking, working out, journaling, and hanging out with friends can certainly be positive distractions, if you really want to deal with the root cause of the emotional pain you still feel you’ll have to do things a little bit differently.
A Personal Story
I have a secret to confess…
I went through a break up that took me several years to get over.
She was intelligent, challenging, loving, kind, and fuuucking beautiful. We dated for just over a year and the mark she left on my heart was undeniable.
I had imagined our futures together. Repeatedly. I pictured her smiling face looking up at me at our wedding. We had discussed what we would name our children.
I fell in love with her, hard. And one day it was all over.
It took several painful years to get over her. Years of hiding myself emotionally and engaging in surface level relationships.
I could have done it a lot sooner if I knew how to properly address what was really going on in my unconscious mind… and I want to help you get through things much faster, by laying out that process in this article.
The Chemical Process You Experience During A Break Up
Emotions are one of the most addictive things available to you.
When you are in love with someone, your brain is hit with massive surges of dopamine (brain scans have shown that our minds follow very similar patterns when influenced by cocaine or nicotine).
When you no longer have access to your intimate partner (post-breakup), your brain doesn’t fall out of love with them… it simply continues to be in love with them, but you no longer have access to them. And, like a crying baby who doesn’t have access to his mother that it so yearns for, our minds “rejector stimulus” is on overdrive. We simultaneously feel the pain of abandonment, the deep craving for a “fix” of our drug (aka partner) of choice and our once-regular hits of dopamine and oxytocin are nowhere to be found.
In fact, immediately after a break up, your happy chemicals are replaced with a flood of cortisol (stress hormone) and adrenaline. It’s almost as if your body is saying “Here’s a rush of energy… time to get up! Either work your ass off to get that one back, or go make yourself a more valuable partner and find someone else!”
(Side note: If I had $100 for every time one of my clients asked me if they should process their fresh break up by going out on a tear and hooking up with a dozen women, I would be retired)
Long story short, if you were hooked up to a brain scanner, your brain after a painful break up is highly similar to the brain of a drug addict in rehab.
Getting Over A Break Up — Do These Things First:
1. Remind Yourself Of The Good, The Bad, And The Awful
Part of the reason we get stuck in processing our break up is that we idealize the relationship as a big collection of amazing, emotionally fulfilling times with very little downside. In reality, you fought frequently and there were core incompatibilities that drove you apart.
To get a more accurate view of your past relationship, journal about the things that you loved about the relationship, the things that bothered you about your ex, and your part in the down fall of the relationship.
2. Allow Yourself Space To Grieve By Yourself
Take a few days (at least) to sit with your emotions and let them move through you.
Every time you resist feeling an emotion it goes down to the basement to lift weights. So if you ignore the frustration, anger, resentment, hurt, or pain that is present in your body, it will only get stronger and come back louder than before until you listen to the signals.
3. Embody The ‘You’ That Felt The Most Stifled
In any failed relationship there is bound to be a part of you that felt like it was discouraged by your ex.
Maybe she didn’t like your playful side, or how much time you wanted to spend with your friends, or how much time you spent working on your business.
Whatever it was that felt dormant, go and inhabit that side of yourself to the fullest degree.
You only suffer in a breakup to the extent that you lost yourself during the relationship… so there might be some leftover negative emotional residue if you felt like you weren’t fully allowed to be yourself around your partner. So go be you… all of you!
4. Use Your New Found Energy For Positive Growth
With the surge of adrenaline and cortisol that you get after a break up telling you to get up and get out (aka numb yourself to the pain by partying and hooking up with others) you have a huge opportunity.
Get your exercise routine dialled, learn a new skill , or build a new business.
I have had clients who built successful seven figure businesses from the surge of adrenaline that they got from an especially painful breakup.
Some of the best art in the world was made by people who had lost love. Utilize this current of emotional energy for your personal gain.
5. See Your Emotional Process As A Trend, Not A Linear Path Away From Suffering
If you expect your emotional suffering to decrease in a linear A to B straight line, you’re in for a rude awakening.
Re-frame your processing of the breakup as something that generally trends upwards and you won’t be as taken aback by the down days (when you see something that reminds you of your ex, smell their perfume on someone, etc.).
How To Destroy The Root Cause Of Your Emotional Suffering
So you’ve done everything listed above and it only feels like it’s affecting you on the logical level, and not on the deeper emotional level?
Then I have one exercise left for you. And it’s one that gets right to the heart of the suffering.
Think back to your relationship with your partner, remember all of the good times and ask yourself one question…
What is the overarching emotional benefit that you got from being with them specifically?
It could be something along the lines of “She made me feel appreciated/proud/good about myself.”
Whatever that thing is, one of the reasons that you’re suffering this long after your break up is because whatever she did for you is still a large void in your life.
You may be emotionally and psychologically addicted to your ex because they were your only source of a certain emotion, thought, or feeling that you only got from them.
Some examples of this would be…
– You have low self-esteem and she made you see yourself through her much more positive perspective
– You are reluctant to give yourself any praise for a job well done and she would lavish you with praise and congratulations
– You feel directionless in life and your relationship with her gave you a project to work on
– You aren’t good at keeping yourself accountable or on track with your goals and she helped you tremendously in this area of your life
Whatever your ex gave you, you are likely still suffering because you barely give yourself any of the emotional benefit that she gave you tons of.
So the action step part of this section is to start giving yourself the thing that she used to give you.
Like a bird who lands on a tree branch only to have it break out from underneath it’s feet, you still have wings. You can make yourself soar without her.
Is Getting Over Your Ex Truly Possible?
Do I still do mental gymnastics sometimes and begin convincing myself that I’m still not over her? Yes, I do. As do a handful of my clients that are engaged to other women. But our brains are experts at convincing ourselves (logically) that we want things that aren’t good for us (because we want them emotionally).
When I slow down for longer than a minute and think about why we broke up (several times) it was because we weren’t right for each other. She is my ex for a reason… just like yours is your ex for a reason. If it was meant to be then it would have been easier and you both would have fought to keep it going. But now it’s in the past and all that’s left to do is to let go of it.
They came into your life to teach you a lesson about yourself, and now it’s time to gracefully let go of that person. You are better off for having known them, and you both bumped into each other on your life’s journey so that you can better prepare each other for your next respective relationships.

oloriomoloa:
Having trouble getting over your ex?
Do you miss the way that they looked at you? The way that they smelled? The way their hand felt in yours?
Do you think you see them walking down the street when really it’s a stranger? Do you still hear certain music that reminds you of them?

I really wish I could block you here as well, like I just did on facebook..
C'mon, be real!!!

halfricanadian:
mine hurts so deeply nd badly yet no one sees that

Im shattered inside

Whatever happened just put it in prayer.God is the only person that can melt your shattered heart