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Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by whiteybankz(m): 12:32pm On May 30, 2016 |
Dear nairalanders, I thought I should share my probs with u for advice especially from the married and experienced matured ones, and pls critics, do am with mercy lol… gonna make this short I'm a 27 year old guy with little businesses here and there trying to enlarge and be stable, with a promising future, plans to settle down in 2-3years time. my prob now is who to choose as I have these 4 really close female friends with promising futures, who are crazy about me from all indications. the first is from crossriver, a 20yr old nursing girl still in school, who in d course of our frndship developed strong feelings and offered me her land when I wanted to start my snail farming which is doing well now, known her for 2yrs now. 2nd is a 25yr old yoruba lady, who is a nurse, health/nutrition consultant and she's doing rly great this lady is so crazy about me, she readily helps me with stufs, all I need do is ask. Known her for a year and 7months. 3rd is a 23yr black australian mid-wife/nurse, this one fights anyone she notices flirts with me on my wall, met her on fb, after 2yrs she made me know how much she fell for me overtime and wish I'm hers, she suprises me with money in my account, little sums though and now wanting to send me huge sum so I can start up one of my proposed businesses and also rly settle so when she comes we can be together in a house of my own and not lodge her in a hotel, which I'm delaying jst coz I wana make a choice first of them all. This one, already to her, we in a relationship and she can be very possessive.known her for 4yrs now 4th is a 29 yr old ugandan, master holder from an indian uni, working with a multi national, met her on fb, she professed love to me after like 1yr, she wants me to further promising to sponsor and planing to relocate to naija so we start a massive business together, know her for close to 3yrs. This one can be so matured in everything even emotions. But I wana be careful of not choosing girl coz of money or material stuffs, and also discard d rest without hurting them so much. jst a young man who needs advice, critics are welcome. So I got married to the second lady in 2019 and we're blessed with a handsome boy already and preparing to relocate to canada because of naija dwindling economy & insecurity which affected my farm business big time. How time flies |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by feldido(m): 12:36pm On May 30, 2016 |
Go for the first 1 Like |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by Legalkhaddie(f): 12:38pm On May 30, 2016 |
Pray about them, hopefully you might choose the right one! 2 Likes |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by Nobody: 12:39pm On May 30, 2016 |
The one big pass me....lemme call Mimzy 1 Like |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by whiteybankz(m): 12:41pm On May 30, 2016 |
Legalkhaddie:Yes , I'm on that, and thanks |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by Nobody: 12:43pm On May 30, 2016 |
suzan404: Lolz.. If you ask me, na who I go ask |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by BrideOfDracula(f): 12:44pm On May 30, 2016 |
Be wary of the Australian if you don't wanna end up with an ice-pick burried in your back. She sounds very unstable. I can understand jealousy, but not having enough restraint & go lashing out on people in a public platform sounds a bit nutty to me. The Ugandan sounds more like a better choice imo. But if I were to be frank with you, I'd say marry none of them because if either of them were what you're searching for you'd have known without needing to do all this eeny-meeny-moneey-mo. You'd just know! |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by Nobody: 12:48pm On May 30, 2016 |
mimzy:na only you I fit ask oo.....abeg make I call Smellymouth too 1 Like |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by Nobody: 12:49pm On May 30, 2016 |
Op im gonna be very blunt with you. from all indications, you are not in love with any of these ladies, you are simply keeping them cos of one material gain or the other. My advise? It all still boils down back to you, sit yourself down and ask yourself... If you were to spend the rest of your life with any of these ladies and you'll be the one to take 100% responsibility of the home, who will it be Wish you luck... whiteybankz: 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by whiteybankz(m): 12:49pm On May 30, 2016 |
BrideOfDracula: No, she does the lashing privately and those ppl msg me to report. Truly, I have a thang more for the yoruba lady…but that shouldn't be enough reason to piCk her, should it? |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by 4reala(m): 12:49pm On May 30, 2016 |
There is something u are yet to do. Dat is working on ur self. Cos from all u've stated here, u are looking for someone u can rely on(Financially). It is wen u start learning on how to take responsibilities and not rely on women. Then u knw dat u are ready to settle down 1 Like |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by halfricanadian(f): 12:51pm On May 30, 2016 |
See as u confuse ursef B very careful not to end up with d wrong person 2 Likes |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by whiteybankz(m): 12:52pm On May 30, 2016 |
mimzy: |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by Nobody: 12:53pm On May 30, 2016 |
Smh! Wait...You're dating All of 'em at once Some Player, You Are! I'm Almost impressed! Marry All of 'em...Except the Ugandan. she's not A Nurse. dunno what you lots gain from playing with people's feelings. Guy hoe! |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by whiteybankz(m): 12:53pm On May 30, 2016 |
mimzy:Good rhetoric question, thanks a lot, food for thought |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by Nobody: 12:55pm On May 30, 2016 |
lol u dont love any of them ,because if you did u wouldnt have gone for another |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by BrideOfDracula(f): 12:55pm On May 30, 2016 |
whiteybankz: Dude still, the lack of restraint should be a huge red flag. You aren't even in an official relationship just yet but she's already terrorizing anyone she perceives as a threat to your pseudo-relationship. Imagine what she'll do once you're truly "HERS". If you have a "thing" for the Yoruba lady, then maybe that's what you should explore. Sounds like a more plausible reason, than the other things you listed in your initial post. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by whiteybankz(m): 12:56pm On May 30, 2016 |
4reala:bros truly from my heart, I'm not looking for who to rely on financialy in any woman, trust me bros, all of em jst happen to always offer me one help or the other, I'm a hustler myself and rly growing fast.but thanks sir |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by ronald4lif(m): 1:00pm On May 30, 2016 |
4reala: Very apt. More like a gigolo who sees these women as a springboard to success. When he's financially stable it'll dawn on him that they were just there for the financial undergird. |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by whiteybankz(m): 1:01pm On May 30, 2016 |
Estharfabian:I'm not dating any officialy, God knws I didn't ask any of em out |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by whiteybankz(m): 1:02pm On May 30, 2016 |
BrideOfDracula:I thought about that, thanks a lot I do appreciate She's the one I married & we have a handsome boy already, thanks |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by Nobody: 1:03pm On May 30, 2016 |
whiteybankz:you led 'em on... |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by BrideOfDracula(f): 1:05pm On May 30, 2016 |
whiteybankz: Thought about what, the Yoruba lady situation or your Aussie ticking time bomb? |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by whiteybankz(m): 1:06pm On May 30, 2016 |
ronald4lif:Bros u are totally wrong for that, but I don't have to defend myself. Thanks though |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by whiteybankz(m): 1:08pm On May 30, 2016 |
BrideOfDracula:The aussie ticking d time bomb lol, she jst too possesive and aggresivee, that scares me …thank u |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by BrideOfDracula(f): 1:14pm On May 30, 2016 |
whiteybankz: Ok. You should be scared. You don't wanna feature in an episode of Snapped: women who kill One down, 3 to go Has your head cleared a bit? Just go for the one you feel a thing for & leave the rest to find their own soulmates. It's not right that you're hogging all these women without any sincere intention on your part. It's not fair. |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by Nobody: 1:17pm On May 30, 2016 |
whiteybankz: I like this kind of situation. Do this : Get four pieces of paper Write the name of them girls on each roll the papers throw them up into the air randomly pick any of them rolled papers That one you're holding is your partner. |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by ronald4lif(m): 1:18pm On May 30, 2016 |
whiteybankz: Mate, most of the time guys who sought for friendship from women abroad on social media sites like Facebook are either looking for financial assistance or an easier route to entry visas. That may not have been your intent but your narrative have the blueprint of someone seeking for financial freedom. There was no where in your inditing where you mentioned if you have any emotional feelings towards any of these women or if any makes you feel happy, it was centralised on what they did and keep doing for you. That's a signal of a leech, fam. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by Nobody: 1:28pm On May 30, 2016 |
Whiteybankz, You don't love any of the 4 girls you mentioned. Frankly speaking, I doubt if you understand what love is. It sounds like you are looking for someone to provide financial (and sexual) favors on ur way to financial success. Love isn't about what a person can give you. It's about giving. And knowing and seeing a person's imperfections and still wanting to be with that person through thick and thin. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by halfricanadian(f): 1:30pm On May 30, 2016 |
Julianyao:lol dats called playing with ones destiny wat if devil now wants to purnish op nd giv him d one dat scares him d most to pick U wicked o |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by Cutehector(m): 1:40pm On May 30, 2016 |
Wow I can see a lot of wise comments here especially from mimzy You should keep them as friends op... when someone does good for u, u tell them thank u. They all have feelings for u.. yes But do u have feelings for anyone? If ur answer is no, Den case closed |
Re: Please Help, I Have The Problem Of Chosing A Partner by Nobody: 1:46pm On May 30, 2016 |
halfricanadian:I'm not. There's a meaning behind that. That post encapsulates much of my philosophy. There's no justifiable reason to pick one over another; We are all the same, with our good sides and defects. The substance of love is commitment. He should be able to pick any and make it work.... 1 Like |
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