Twaci:
The thing here is, does she really like u?

If you are sure of this, keep trying. But do not become overbearing or irritating. Call once a while to see how she's doing. Don't send her gifts just yet, she might think you are trying to buy her. Visit whenever you can but responsibly and don't forget those text messages. They actually work. What I am just saying is, be a friend.

Finally, impress her friends. No better way to get to a girls heart than that.

Spyde:
hmm cool, thanks

dannyben5:
av been observing, now my quest.why is it that girls can never summon the courage to walk up to a guy she like even if she dying inside to have that guy?

Twaci:
Before I answer these questions, u might want to consider the fact that I grew up amongst guys. That said....

1. If he sees me unclad and looks away...its cool. No big deal. But once he sees me and keeps staring, especially if we are no dating, I will be furious with him

2. If he did it knowingly, and we are not dating.... wetin you see, make you collect

3. I will pour soap water in his eyes

4. Its my fault. I didn't lock the door. So I will jejely close the door and lock it this time.

5. Ha! I will pick up my towel in embarrassment and go to my room.

Hope I have answered your questions

SuperSupremo:
Epic!!!


When I come to Nigeria I must dash you 1k for being truthful

ivyy:


Which oversight? Yes indeed

iykekelvins:
1 What makes you fall for a guy?

2 Would you still stay with a guy you love but his sex game aint strong?

3 How do you think is the best way to satisfy a girl?

Cc:Twaci,Optional1,Laveda safarigirl and others

Twaci:
The thing here is, does she really like u?

If you are sure of this, keep trying. But do not become overbearing or irritating. Call once a while to see how she's doing. Don't send her gifts just yet, she might think you are trying to buy her. Visit whenever you can but responsibly and don't forget those text messages. They actually work. What I am just saying is, be a friend.

Finally, impress her friends. No better way to get to a girls heart than that.

Ayomide93:
Lol. Good point. Let me tell a story of something that happened to me. I was a medical student for two years before I left to study economics(don't ask me why I left, but it wasn't because I failed though, lol). There is this pretty colleague of mine, we got along so well, she was sweet. We got pretty close when we stopped being colleagues sha. We visit and hang out so well. I loved her so much and when I say love, she was the only girl I ever truly loved. I told her my mind and she refused bluntly that she only loves me as a friend and I kept trying. Along the line we still got close, I could remember her birthday in 2014 I made a painting of her and gave her, she took me out two weeks later too to celebrate my own birthday.
Her 2015 birthday also, I was broke kinda but I still managed to make her a cake and bought her a wine and fortunately enough I got some money after that and gave her 15k to add to what I did before. On my birthday she came to my house cooked for me brought stuffs and I felt loved. Still I kept trying to make us a couple. She was so free that I could still some kisses sef, even touch her bum jokingly. We flirted but nothing happened. I knew 3 of her close friends and we got talking, I told them my mind and they said they would talk to her. Mid 2015 she started withdrawing, she doesn't even pick up calls again and reply text too. We were like this for 11months. We later got talking last april again and she was still her old sef. She said her friend actually spoke to her but they acted somehow in the course, those friends stopped picking my calls also.
It was hard getting over her cos I loved her truly. But had to at a time. I asked her just last week if she has someone now and she said yes. I had a feeling of lust, love and hatred all combined but I later sat down and thought about all of it. She doesn't deserve me really. You would ask why, she didn't see the best in me, she didn't believe in me, she claimed to love me but couldn't even date me cause of whatever her friends told her.
In the long run, I concluded, no matter how hard you try what is not yours would never be. Gladly I told my mom about this and her answer surprises me. She said she has study me so well and she saw that I am going to be a selfish lover and commitment for me is hard. She told me that even though I look after people I still resent them in a way and that maybe her friends saw that which she didn't and they warned her to leave. She later said irrespective of that, if she is truly yours, she would seek you herself eventually in a way that would marvel you. Since then, I have decided to be the best, make money and make myself worthy of any woman no matter her status.

Twaci:
Nice experience! Though I must say u tried your best.

Twaci:
You are welcome

Oahray:
Hmmm... Read every damn post up to this point. Turns out there are some intelligent ladies on romance section (no vex, it hasn't been all that obvious ).

Safarigirl, you are refreshingly different. Twaci, Mimzy, Ivyy, optional1, em...

Okay I shouldn't have mentioned any names sef. This my memory. Pardon my oversight, you all tried.

Nice thread, very nice.

safarigirl:
women from time immemorial have been told that they must do everything in the quest for a man's validation.

Yes, it's easy to come online and say be yourself and f**knthe world. But is it not these same people who tell you these things that ridicule you foe being so? Aren't they the ones continually mocking successful women like Linda Ikeji and Genevieve simply for being themselves? Aren't they the ones who refuse to accept that some of us weren't made to bend to society's whims?

There are many girls who aren't stingy, who give freely and rarely collect, but those girls are the ones nobody wants because they're too 'stubborn' or 'opinionated' or they don't have the right 'look'....

Bros, I can speak lengthily on his because it's personal to me, but what good does that ever do? The same kind of girls will still get the guys while the rest of us wonder what we're doing wrong

Fkforyou:


It seems I came late to the party.

So here goes my question.

1. I hear girls say this a lot, "They like making friends with guys cos girls have issues bla bla" are they saying this just to impress a guy or it's the truth. If it's the truth, then what's the issue?

2. Why do girls get worked up easily? as in create drama over the most mundane of things.

3. I here people say this a lot, that most girls are bisexual, how true is this? Does it mean that you guys get turned on by both genders.? Does it mean that you guys are sexually unstable.?

shulamitewoman:
giving her head makes her feel loved and special..#youknowwhatimean#

kaboninc:


Speaking about what the society thinks of validation, it applies to both genders. As much as the society expects some attributes or features from women, they also expect some from men. Men must find some validation about becoming mature (they say 'come of age') to take care of a family and be responsible. To provide and protect his family. No woman will want to marry or come close to a man who falls short of these. More so, the society never says a woman must do everything unless you're amplifying the views of a few within the society.

Validation in what context? By enhancing your beauty? You could live your life and still be noticed. You could achieve a goal and be successful, yet not seek for a validation in vain. You could be the best without faking it. Its easy to come online and say it and its also truthful to mean it. Success is also relative. It could mean something to you and another to another. We don't even know the personal lives of these people and personally, my preferences will be different from yours.

Girls who give freely can be stubborn or opinionated or they could be easy going. Being stubborn or opinionated have nothing to do with giving. Giving is from the heart.

Nnaabros:

Don't know about others, but I don't know what that means. Care to elucidate

Twaci:


1. No, we ain't making it up. Its true. Most of my friends are guys. I like the way you guys think and the fact that guys move on from a quarrel quickly is another added bonus.

2. Most of us are drama queens! We feel adding a little emotion can get the guy do whatever we want. Its selfish, I know, but no better way of persuading has been found yet. Though I must say that some of these emotions are actually true and heartfelt. Just know the kind of girl you are dealing with.

3. I have no experience in this. Sorry.

shulamitewoman:
giving her head makes her feel loved and special..#youknowwhatimean#

Yeah I do

safarigirl:
I'm stubborn and opinionated, I give freely. Nobody is interested

Better?

jenigurl:

The things I read sometimes...

Nnaabros:
Do women really like deep kissing? I mean deep kissing with tongue and all? Or just plain lips only?

dollyjoy:
Twaci kudos

naijaboiy:
Girls give the worst advise or answers to questions concerning themselves so this is not necessary for me.

safarigirl:
depends...is she feeling you or nah?

If she feeling you, once a day or once every two days if cool, preferably the latter, so she doesn't get too used to you. Break the cycle once in a while and give it a four-day break, so she knows you at least have other things doing with your time.

Most girls don't like to be choked up.

JoeCutie:
Why do you think men and women should be equal, but then most of the responsibilities during marriage ceremonies - traditional and white wedding- and in the family are taken up (mostly only) by the men?

Cc: Twaci, and or anybody (female) who cares to answer.