Gudevening my dear romancelanders forgive my writing because am not much of a writer but a reader.A friend of mine opened her heart to me on the frustration she is facing from her father but I could not give any advice but I told her to hold on because i have a team of experts online when it comes to relationship issues. she has been dating a guy for 3 years now and he decided to pop the question and ask her to marry him n she said yes but now her dad does not want him to marry him just because he is not a doctor or a engineer or a rich man son and even threatens to disown her if she counter his decision and give her birthright to her immediate sibling. he said the guy is a lowclass because he is not from a rich home and he can't send her to the university and she brings home an average man that makes her happy or she loves but must bring a graduate and a rich man or no marriage.she is torn between her love for her man because he is her everything and her father.
P.S!!!the father of the girl and her fiancee are into the same job but her dad is his senior.please she needs advice. thanks

Parents sometimes force their children into the difficult position of having to choose between what brings them happiness and pleasing parents. This is usually well-intentioned albeit wrong.

I strongly advice against defying your dad. You should instead patiently help him see the good qualities which you yourself have seen in your guy. You'll have a better chance convincing him if you have a history of other good choices you've made in the past. Most parents know that even they didn't have all these qualities they are asking and all they really need is reassurance that your decision is well thought out.

It is also a plus if your guy is gainfully employed and can reasonably take care of you as well as himself.

Talk about the pot calling kettle black. Was the dad a graduate & a wealthy man when he married her mom? Did his lack of wealth or education prevent him from raising what sounds like a good family? Because to me it sounds like whomever was responsible for your friend's upbringing did a wonderful job if she's able to pick a guy for other qualities other than money. I suspect it must be the mom since the dad seems to be the apex gold digger in the family.

merikims:
Gudevening my dear romancelanders forgive my writing because am not much of a writer but a reader.A friend of mine opened her heart to me on the frustration she is facing from her father but I could not give any advice but I told her to hold on because i have a team of experts online when it comes to relationship issues. she has been dating a guy for 3 years now and he decided to pop the question and ask her to marry him n she said yes but now her dad does not want him to marry him just because he is not a doctor or a engineer or a rich man son and even threatens to disown her if she counter his decision and give her birthright to her immediate sibling. he said the guy is a lowclass because he is not from a rich home and he can't send her to the university and she brings home an average man that makes her happy or she loves but must bring a graduate and a rich man or no marriage.she is torn between her love for her man because he is her everything and her father.
P.S!!!the father of the girl and her fiancee are into the same job but her dad is his senior.please she needs advice. thanks

at bolded if you were the father will you ask 'him to marry him?

Berlyn:
at bolded if you were the father will you ask 'him to marry him?

sorry oo.I was typing really fast and its a typo error.I guess you don't have any advice right?

BrideOfDracula:
Talk about the pot calling kettle black. Was the dad a graduate & a wealthy man when he married her mom? Did his lack of wealth or education prevent him from raising what sounds like a good family? Because to me it sounds like whomever was responsible for your friend's upbringing did a wonderful job if she's able to pick a guy for other qualities other than money. I suspect it must be the mom since the dad seems to be the apex gold digger in the family.

lol.Bitter truth babe.U gat no chills mhen.I feel u gal!

bb6xt:
Parents sometimes force their children into the difficult position of having to choose between what brings them happiness and pleasing parents. This is usually well-intentioned albeit wrong.

I strongly advice against defying your dad. You should instead patiently help him see the good qualities which you yourself have seen in your guy. You'll have a better chance convincing him if you have a history of other good choices you've made in the past. Most parents know that even they didn't have all these qualities they are asking and all they really need is reassurance that your decision is well thought out.

It is also a plus if your guy is gainfully employed and can reasonably take care of you as well as himself.

she has talked to him n try to let him see reason but he is adamant and now he does not call or checkup on her anymore. she sent elders from church n he chased them out of the house n even wen they reach on phone he does not pick. So let her stand her ground n leave him to his conscience.

I think you have already made up your mind on what to do before typing this, but I'll try to make a little point to add before you ruin your life.

Believe it or not, once a parent starts saying things like "your fiancee is not a graduate, not from a rich home or not an engineer" that is the time to call their Bluff.

How do I know this, I have a cousin who wanted to marry an "Osu" (I don't know if I spelled that right). His dad told him he will disown him, bla bla bla. This guy went ahead and guess what happened.
The dad still managed to to attend the weeding, then the guy traveled overseas with his wife and later invited the dad and he stayed in their house.

Eventually when the man died, this his son he almost disown gave him a befitting burial.

Take what you can from this

ThreeGEEKS:
I think you have already made up your mind on what to do before typing this, but I'll try to make a little point to add before you ruin your life.

Believe it or not, once a parent starts saying things like "your fiancee is not a graduate, not from a rich home or not an engineer" that is the time to call their Bluff.

How do I know this, I have a cousin who wanted to marry an "Osu" (I don't know if I spelled that right). His dad told him he will disown him, bla bla bla. This guy went ahead and guess what happened.
The dad still managed to to attend the weeding, then the guy traveled overseas with his wife and later invited the dad and he stayed in their house.

Eventually when the man died, this his son he almost disown gave him a befitting burial.

Take what you can from this

thanks for advice.Noted.

merikims:
she has talked to him n try to let him see reason but he is adamant and now he does not call or checkup on her anymore. she sent elders from church n he chased them out of the house n even wen they reach on phone he does not pick. So let her stand her ground n leave him to his conscience.

Even the best relationships have ups and downs and whenever our relationship hits a snag that is when we need family the most. For this reason my advice still remains that she shouldn't alienate her family completely. If she must stand her ground she should at least enlist the support of her mom and siblings.

I am a man and I know that even when we love we sometimes hurt our significant other in ways that we never imagined. We may be distant and non communicative at other times. For such times it is often good if the lady has someone in her or her spouse's family to whom she could go for emotional support. That is why I believe we must cultivate the approval of our families when marriage is concerned.

Me not an expert but will like to ask some questions which might profer solutions.
#1. Is your friends dad a rich man? I mean high class?
#2. Is your friend a graduate?
I asked this questions because in my study of social class, I realise you marry from your class, except otherwise. If your friend dad is not rich, I don't know where and how your friend will meet a rich guy remember birds of like feathers flock together.

the last time I checked... our parents are mortals, bound 2mk mistakes as well.. my dear... it's your life, and I dare 2 tell you, that anything you do... do not follow what any1 wants for u.. follow ur heart... make d mistake and learn from it... your father shouldn't pass his frustration out on u... he isn't going to stay with any1 u marry.. so follow ur heart and make yourself happy.. Every other thing is secondary.

hemanuelmoc:
Me not an expert but will like to ask some questions which might profer solutions.
#1. Is your friends dad a rich man? I mean high class?
#2. Is your friend a graduate?
I asked this questions because in my study of social class, I realise you marry from your class, except otherwise. If your friend dad is not rich, I don't know where and how your friend will meet a rich guy remember birds of like feathers flock together.

The father is not a rich man but he is OK,and yea my friend is a graduate.

GoldenJAT:
the last time I checked... our parents are mortals, bound 2mk mistakes as well.. my dear... it's your life, and I dare 2 tell you, that anything you do... do not follow what any1 wants for u.. follow ur heart... make d mistake and learn from it... your father shouldn't pass his frustration out on u... he isn't going to stay with any1 u marry.. so follow ur heart and make yourself happy.. Every other thing is secondary.

Thanks

merikims:
The father is not a rich man but he is OK,and yea my friend is a graduate.

On that note, I will say the girl too should marry someone who is atleast ok, den he must be a graduate too. Remember we talking about social class

Story for the gods. Mtcheeeew