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Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by Nobody: 8:38am On Jun 17, 2016
Chai!
Ladies and pretence
She was desperate to settle down, so she acted Lyk a good wife material to win u.
Well, I'm not gonna say buy it or not just TALK to her!
Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by robosky02(m): 8:40am On Jun 17, 2016
PrincessAnna:
Really washing machine no dey wash cloth well? you are very funnygrin I can't do without it my brothergrin when will Nigerians stop all this, a lady was telling it's wrong to use watching machine and that its not in our culture. I wash even my pants with it. Back then I resume work at 7 and return late so I get one that do the washing for me. I nor be robot
Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by Nobody: 8:42am On Jun 17, 2016
Feranchek:

shocked shocked shocked shocked shocked
EVERYTHING I need??!!! Including...... shocked shocked shocked
lipsrsealed
Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by PrincessAnna: 8:42am On Jun 17, 2016
[quote author=robosky02 post=46649830][/quote] Be ready to get me a bigger one..why you no reply
Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by robosky02(m): 8:44am On Jun 17, 2016
PrincessAnna:
Be ready to get me a bigger one..why you no reply

didn't see it
Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by PrincessAnna: 8:46am On Jun 17, 2016
robosky02:

didn't see it
Really? I wanted to give u a call in my dreams grin
Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by marvelous000: 9:10am On Jun 17, 2016
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Why on earth would you feel threatened by a vile threat from your wifeangry

Who married who btwn you two? Cos you come across as a push-around.

No conspicuous potency in handling your home from my deduction.
A loving husband should endeavour to ease stress his wife has to go through, when capable, but if he is not capable and she decides to coerce or blackmail him into her caprice against his volition , t
hen any man who wants to maintain law and other in his home, should make it a paramount goal to see to the latter that she doesn't have that thing, until she sees the need for diplomacy and reasoning(a person looking for loan in the bank does not set Terms and condition. That right is exclusively reserved for bank).


Mr OP, don't buy that machine even you have the money, until she solicit in the apt way. If she refuse to wash it. Send her back to her parents to culture and teach her, her role as a wife.

No babylon should quote me, cos I have infinitesimal tolerance for inanity.
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Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by lovean: 9:29am On Jun 17, 2016
kanmie:
My marriage is just three months old, my wife said I should get her a washing machine or else she will stop washing my clothes.
I don't know why the sudden change, this is a lady that do wash my clothes right, left and center when we were dating, there is no weekend that passed without her coming over to my apartment to do my laundry.
I never believe she will change so soon, the same lady that will call me and tell me Honey, keep your dirty clothes I will be coming over these weekend to wash them.
I have tried to know why the sudden change but no reasonable answer from her.
Offcourse I know I will get a washing machine but at least when the kids start coming, business is very slow , no money for washing machine at the moment.
I love my wife so much and I don't want to start having problem with her at this time, our marriage is still early and fresh.
What should I do in this matter?, Should I borrow to buy her a washing machine?
hmmm,this is unbelievable, women could be something else at tyms ooo....well just for peace sake u should try n buy the washing machine only if u have the money...she's ur wife she knows ur capability... she shouldn't ask for what she knows u can't afford ....seat her down and talk with her heart to heart maybe shes being influenced by bad frnds ....make her understand u and promise her u will get it as soon as u can afford it....I wish u the best of luck in yah marriage sir .take care
Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by Lucasbible: 9:37am On Jun 17, 2016
Washing/drying machines are essential to have clean wears. Even dish washers. Explain youe financial situation to her but i guess as couple you should have joinr acct for home management.

Buy it as soon as possible. She is a good woman for giving you ultimatum. It makes men worker harder.
Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by onoslove(f): 10:04am On Jun 17, 2016
Sincerely, I will advice you not to buy the washing machine for several reasons. (1) Do not borrow to buy since you don't have the money (2) she is trying to use emotional blackmail to get you to do her bidding, and once she succeed, that will be her weapon. (3) Try to wash your clothes alone, if she truly care, she will take it over from you (4) Only buy the washing machine when you can, and when she list expect it.

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Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by vicben27(m): 10:06am On Jun 17, 2016
Estharfabian:
I think she listened to Jennifer Lopez's hit song- I ain't your mama.




Lemme help with the lyrics-I Ain't gonna do your laundry, I ain't your mama.


PS--I think you imposed doing laundry on her. like You probably thought She's always gon be the one doing the laundry. You kept dumping clothes on her and she got pissed. it's tough love sweety. wink get THE fvcking machine or wash your clothes yourself.
uncultured women every wer, so is a bad thing for wife to do her huby's laundry? Point of correction shez his mama, wife , girlfrnd n all. I can clearly see wat d western culture is doin to our ladies.
Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by lovean: 10:11am On Jun 17, 2016
Lucasbible:
Washing/drying machines are essential to have clean wears. Even dish washers. Explain youe financial situation to her but i guess as couple you should have joinr acct for home management.

Buy it as soon as possible. She is a good woman for giving you ultimatum. It makes men worker harder.
no way I don't agree with that. we should encourage, motivate and help our husbands not staying ahome doing nothing but pressuring him...build ur home and not crumble it.....she knows how much he's earning so she should be patient ...should he use all the money for the washing machine and not be able to buy food for their feeding? I wonder how some women tink anyways.

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Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by donjoesbry(m): 10:16am On Jun 17, 2016
nnamdiokere45:
if he gets it, Tomao she wld ask for sumtin bigger n wen u cnt afford,she go leave u
. Except she is material conscious woman..however, the request for a washing machine ain't big oo...I used to think that way before that I won't get such things for my wife but when I got exposed , I realised they are essentials one need to have at home to help the woman ...as I said, he should complain when they woman starts looking oldvas a result of stress....caring is to anticipate a need for your loved ones and meet it with out any expectation... Here in Europe its a must have for everyone ...if he can't afford it for now, he can explain to her, am sure every reasonable wife will understand
Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by onoslove(f): 10:16am On Jun 17, 2016
Sincerely, I will advice you not to buy the washing machine for several reasons. (1) Do not borrow to buy since you don't have the money (2) she is trying to use emotional blackmail to get you to do her bidding, and once she succeed, that will be her weapon. (3) Try to wash your clothes alone, if she truly care, she will take it over from you (4) Only buy the washing machine when you can, and when she least expect it.

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Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by Lucasbible: 12:00pm On Jun 17, 2016
lovean:
no way I don't agree with that. we should encourage, motivate and help our husbands not staying ahome doing nothing but pressuring him...build ur home and not crumble it.....she knows how much he's earning so she should be patient ...should he use all the money for the washing machine and not be able to buy food for their feeding? I wonder how some women tink anyways.
A man should have atleast afford a washing machine before thinking of marriage. Dont you think so ?
Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by darlingtito(f): 12:48pm On Jun 17, 2016
Lolll @ I ain't ur mama grin
Estharfabian:
I think she listened to Jennifer Lopez's hit song- I ain't your mama.




Lemme help with the lyrics-I Ain't gonna do your laundry, I ain't your mama.


PS--I think you imposed doing laundry on her. like You probably thought She's always gon be the one doing the laundry. You kept dumping clothes on her and she got pissed. it's tough love sweety. wink get THE fvcking machine or wash your clothes yourself.
Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by lovean: 12:51pm On Jun 17, 2016
Lucasbible:
A man should have atleast afford a washing machine before thinking of marriage. Dont you think so ?
she shouldnt ave married him since she knew he couldnt afford the washing machine.
Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by Nobody: 1:24pm On Jun 17, 2016
BrideOfDracula:
Have you explained the money issue to her? IDK about you but I hate when people dish out stùpid ultimatums because I feel like it's a power-play. If you concede, they win. I feel this is what is happening here. It's a power struggle & if you give in every time, then you might as well cut off your cojones & let her keep them because she'll be calling the shots.
On point. I believe it's a power play.Delay for about 6months in buying the washing machine even if you have the money,then surprise your wife with the machine,she'll fall in love again.Use the element of surprise, don't explain anything to her now,don't tell her you don't have the money now.Just keep observing her moves and never quarrel with a woman.
Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by Moana(f): 2:16pm On Jun 17, 2016
nnamdiokere45:
c ders hw she will pt it, u self go reason am say na tru sha like 'honey, u knw we nid a washing machine' or 'baby pls lets gt a washing machine so it wld mke d work easier' nt giving me condition dat u wont wash my cloth again, c'mon is she my mom? for God sake self dis machine no dey wash cloth wel self. we av it here n I dnt use it self
doesnt wash clothes well? Are the clothes worn by a mechanic? grin
Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by Nobody: 2:26pm On Jun 17, 2016
Moana:
doesnt wash clothes well? Are the clothes worn by a mechanic? grin
yes my dear
Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by Lucasbible: 3:54pm On Jun 17, 2016
lovean:
she shouldnt ave married him since she knew he couldnt afford the washing machine.
Thats another angle to it. Now she will be disturbing are ex boyfriends as a pest. Women head sef get skoi skoi. How can someone live without washing machine but went to marry then expect his wife to wash heavy jeans and khaki. Mbanu wash your own cloth make she wash her own cloths until you get money for washing machine or kukuma give am to washerman alias dry cleaner.
Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by ukandi1(m): 4:47pm On Jun 17, 2016
I have read comments from folks here but my candid advice is DO NOT BUY D MACHINE . I have been married for 3yrs counting. I know there is no general formulae to solving such issues with 100% certainty. But I do know that someone is giving ur wife wrong council. She feels u are weak and would always use threats to compel u. If u must stamp ur authority, then its now or never. U would spend d rest of ur life borrowing to please her cos it would happen againagain . u can buy it when u have d means to do so but until then, don't.

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Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by JustHere2Observ(f): 4:52pm On Jun 17, 2016
Just buy the machine, there are cheap ones out there. You make it sound like you married her just because she washes your clothes. Lol
Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by SmellingAnus(m): 4:53pm On Jun 17, 2016
Just save your marriage and respect yourself and get that machine if you can afford it.. at least there will be peace in your house... A woman can decide that in the next two weeks no body will be happy around the house...
Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by Onuokwu: 5:00pm On Jun 17, 2016
kanmie:
My marriage is just three months old, my wife said I should get her a washing machine or else she will stop washing my clothes.
I don't know why the sudden change, this is a lady that do wash my clothes right, left and center when we were dating, there is no weekend that passed without her coming over to my apartment to do my laundry.
I never believe she will change so soon, the same lady that will call me and tell me Honey, keep your dirty clothes I will be coming over these weekend to wash them.
I have tried to know why the sudden change but no reasonable answer from her.
Offcourse I know I will get a washing machine but at least when the kids start coming, business is very slow , no money for washing machine at the moment.
I love my wife so much and I don't want to start having problem with her at this time, our marriage is still early and fresh.
What should I do in this matter?, Should I borrow to buy her a washing machine?

Mark my words this day. Once you succumb to blackmail, you will be open to more blackmail.

Thank me later!
Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by apeleone(f): 5:57pm On Jun 17, 2016
is she working? if yes she can afford to buy it as her contribution to d house cos it's her house as well,but if u can afford it just buy it for her cos it's a necessity
Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by lovean: 6:11pm On Jun 17, 2016
Lucasbible:
Thats another angle to it. Now she will be disturbing are ex boyfriends as a pest. Women head sef get skoi skoi. How can someone live without washing machine but went to marry then expect his wife to wash heavy jeans and khaki. Mbanu wash your own cloth make she wash her own cloths until you get money for washing machine or kukuma give am to washerman alias dry cleaner.
I really hardly get the message ur trying to pass to me.,but anyways this is somtin she has been doing on her own free will...common even if she wants a change ,there's a responsible way to pass the message to ur husband and am sure he will understand and not the attitude she's putting up especially since she knows her husband's financial statues....thats how bad advice pushes women to lose their husy and their advicers end up happily married. so unfortunate .
Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by Trudiee(f): 6:21pm On Jun 17, 2016
Estharfabian:
I think she listened to Jennifer Lopez's hit song- I ain't your mama.




Lemme help with the lyrics-I Ain't gonna do your laundry, I ain't your mama.


PS--I think you imposed doing laundry on her. like You probably thought She's always gon be the one doing the laundry. You kept dumping clothes on her and she got pissed. it's tough love sweety. wink get THE fvcking machine or wash your clothes yourself.
lol, this got me rolling tho, but well said! its true she does the laundry, doesn't mean she enjoys it
Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by ThreeGEEKS(m): 7:17pm On Jun 17, 2016
Bro she is your wife now, not a washing machine
Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by Nobody: 7:26pm On Jun 17, 2016
darlingtito:
Lolll @ I ain't ur mama grin
know the song? wink



Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by Nobody: 7:29pm On Jun 17, 2016
Trudiee:
lol, this got me rolling tho, but well said! its true she does the laundry, doesn't mean she enjoys it
Spot on! wink





he probably thought it was Her inherent duty to wash his clothes. like forever. Guys Could go overboard sometimes....

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Re: My Wife Sudden Change Of Attitude - Need Your Candid Advice by darlingtito(f): 1:42am On Jun 18, 2016
Yep..love d video
Estharfabian:
know the song? wink



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