All I see is even if he had married them legally on same day, he was only practicing lawlessness because under God's law he had no basis for constituting such marriage but if he is bringing himself under God's law he will be free of such illegality if he let go of the other wives and stick with the first wife, because all he had was illegal in the first place.

A man with wives dt got born again should come to Christ with ALL his wives. Salvation is unconditional! But it is a sin for a saved - married man with a wife to marry another wife.

lilmax:
If a girl looses her virginity and becomes a christain what is she supposed to do?

U just answered his question. Make him levam as emm dey.... No more no less

idefua:
The man that has only one wife before he gave his life to Christ, is saved because of his faith in Christ Jesus. Also, the man with more than one wife got saved because of his faith in Christ Jesus. Salvation is a free gift from God and not by good work. Read Romans 4: 1 to the end.
Only the Holy Ghost can direct the polygamous man that has just received salvation on what to do.

But in this generation we find many false and worldly pastors directing converts instead of the Holyghost. smsh.

ettaetta:
I know Modern day christianity condems polygamy and the bible condems divorce, so my quetion now is? If a man has multiple wives and becomes a Christian, what is he supposed to do?

He should take care of his family and stop looking for excuses...polygamy is not a sin, it is the white man's interpretation of the Bible that is a sin.

[quote author=OHOnairaland post=46798073][/quote]. the FIRST woman or man you married, is your wife/husband.. the scripture said, to avoid 4nication let every MAN have his own WIFE. it didn't say "WIVES"..there is a difference between both. if you married 1million women b4 u bcame converted, but now, youve become a christian, heaven expects that you seize to have sexual relations with those women, and also you seize to address them as your wives..now, if you hav children from your past r/shp with other women , you also marid in d past,, they are your responsibility because you brought them into this world in the first place. so you are expected to take care of them..that is the cross you have to carry.

Millerz:
The bible only sanctions marriage between one man and one woman. Jesus made Eve for Adam, not Eves for Adam. That God allowed it in times past doesnt mean God ordained it. Same way God allows people kill other people, it doesn't mean its sanctioned by him.

You are to have one wife and not to divorce her except for adultery. A polygamist who has just come to Christ must divorce his other wives because what we call polygamy is actually adultery.

i'm a muslim and we are all learning. Its nothing personal. But if this is what the bible says then its very unfair to the other wives. Cos the same bible preaches repentance to the best of my knowledge. If the bible didnt state any solution to cases like this, yu should use your prophets to judge. King David married more than 1 woman and God pardoned him. Then God will also pardon this case cos he is the most Merciful.

To all saying God hate divorce, what kind of divorce are we talking about? Is the one based on legal principle or the illegal one? Explain

histemple:


So, old testament teachings and activities shouldn't be followed abi? Or we should follow them only when it suits us----------because tithing was only in the old and not in the new testament.

Hmm.. I think you're missing something I don't said it shouldn't be followed, but Bible made us to know that if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old things have passed away. And all things will become new..
The bible didn't tell us that all things will become old instead new...


Pls jux take a look at this Bible verses regarding the tithe you're talking about :

I fast twice a week; I give tithes of all that I get.’ Luke 18:12


“Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you tithe mint and dill and cumin, and have neglected the weightier matters of the law: justice and mercy and faithfulness. These you ought to have done, without neglecting the others. Matthew 23:22


In the one case tithes are received by mortal men, but in the other case, by one of whom it is testified that he lives. Hebrews 7:8

pee777:

Will u throw away the bath with the baby? God is love and not amadiora, Christ died even for the worst offenders. Christ also died for the polygamist mind you, if he had taken wrong steps by having multiple women bearing children for him, he now need to show more love by ensuring non suffers after he received Christ rather than the feel of guilt and condemnation that can even lead him to more mistakes. What did Jesus told d woman caught in adultery? If they did not condemn you neither have I, go and sin no more. Putting away d wives n children can even lead to more danger for them. God is not a task master as the pharises and saduces of our generation had made us to believe.

The right thing to do is he will dilute the illigal marriage.

Nevertheless, It is also his duty to take care of them and lead them to Christ. And if they accept d truth, there wil be peace.

OHOnairaland:


Do not say devorce is a sin, only say what ur bible says. It says God hates devorce. Do not add ur own to it.

God hates divorce yet it is not a sin?... I wonder how some of people interpret, yet, they can tell people to divorce other wives bcoz bible said this and that... whereas no where in the Bible clearly describe this scenario. Smh

One of the reasons why Abraham was asked to put away the mother of Ishmael was because Abraham didn't legally marry the lady before putting her in a family way, but when a man marries women ritefully, he's is their husband. And been born again doesn't change it. He needs to live a life of Christ by avoiding sin and living for Christ and not thinking of divorcing those women at the expense of his first wife. Cos doing that will confine those women to hardships and other negativities.

Talk2nanro:
u have shallow understanding. a woman that has a husband that is married to 5 women, is he still not husband to each of them. you refer to a scripture that does not have a direct answer to the issue . now let me give u an eye opener, from what is written in 1 Timothy 3 vs 2, u can deduce that there were polygamist within the christian faith but for the post of bishop, a polygamist should not fill the role.

now tell me why the post of a bishop should not be filled by a polygamist.

Dhilariousdandy:


Hmm.. I think you're missing something I don't said it shouldn't be followed, but Bible made us to know that if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation. The old things have passed away. And all things will become new..
The bible didn't tell us that all things will become old instead new...


Pls jux take a look at this Bible verses regarding the tithe you're talking about :

I fast twice a week; I give tithes of all that I get.’ Luke 18:12


“Woe to you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! For you tithe mint and dill and cumin, and have neglected the weightier matters of the law: justice and mercy and faithfulness. These you ought to have done, without neglecting the others. Matthew 23:22


In the one case tithes are received by mortal men, but in the other case, by one of whom it is testified that he lives. Hebrews 7:8

The wrong interpretation of the bible is clearly the reason why there are so many churches and the problem keeps increasing instead of reducing.

Our society may not recover from this mess occassioned by mischievous fake prophets brainwashing gullible miracle-seeking masses.

frosbel2:
The bible has never explicitly mentioned that God is against Polygamy, after all in ancient times many great men of God had multiple wives and God still acknowledged them as righteous.

Also quoting Matthew 19 vs 9 is a misnomer because for starters the MAN did not put away any of his wives, he remained married to them.

What we do know is that God is explicitly against Adultery, i.e sleeping with another man's wife or vice versa and general sexual immorality.

So here is my take, if a man is married to 4 wives and has children with all of them, even when he comes to a knowledge of Christ, there is no biblical verse or command which suggests he should chase 3 wives away and remain with one wife . He should remain with his 4 wives and take care of his children while bringing them to a knowledge of truth.

bringing the 4 wives to d knowledge of truth while still sleeping with them that is why d kingdom of God is not as cheap as you think . settle them to go. you will b sending means to them pending on when they get another husband.

how is it a sin, and who told you that the bible condemns divorce, the bible States that u can only divorce your wife on the ground of adultery. polygamy is not a sin.. that one man one wife I just how the British did their own marriage.

GogobiriLalas:
He should take care of his family and stop looking for excuses...polygamy is not a sin, it is the white man's interpretation of the Bible that is a sin.

. my dear, if polygamy is not a sin to YOU, Its definitely a sin to GOD.

"For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables." (2 Timothy 4:3-4). Evidently signs of the end time. People will seek to deliberately miscontrue the words and commandments of God. Fornication is now deemed normal, acceptable and makes up our daily living. Shall we continue to sin that grace may abound? O.P nothing like modern day christianity. Jesus christ is the same yesterday, today, and Forever. The man should put away his 2nd 3rd..and other concubines and stick with the first. Polygamy is unacceptable in Christianity. One man, one wife. The instruction is very clear. To those supporting polygamy, you better repent........ Or IN SMAUG'S VOICE..you will burn!

Abra4real:
Okay, let me chip in at this point. Among all those replies above me, I haven't seen any that answered it very well. Note that I'm not replying to fight or argue (fact check, if you quote me, I won't reply, except when necessary e.g. answering a thought-provoking question), I'm actually replying to adhere to what the Bible tells me.

Jude 3 says, Beloved when I gave all diligence to write unto you of the common salvation, it was needful for me to write unto you, and exhort you that ye should earnest contend for the faith which was once delivered unto the saints.

First, someone mentioned that God hates divorce. Here's the verse to back that up: Malachi 2 vs 14-16:

14 Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet yet she is thy companion, and the wife of thine covenant.

15 And did not make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.

16 For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away [of your wife, which is divorce]: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.

Did you notice the part that says God hates putting away? For God to say that, there must be something at stake. Because clearly, in Matthew 5 vs 22, But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgement...

Even hating your fellow human isn't allowed. But you should also notice that God didn't say I hate the person. He simply hates putting away.

About having multiple wifes, hear it from the horses' mouth, in Matthew 19 vs 9, And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, COMMITTED ADULTERY: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.


Now, I read some comments that said what if a whole village got saved and were extremely polygamous? Well, you have to know that the God we serve, the Alpha and the Omega does not change (Malachi 3 vs 6, For I am the LORD, I change not...) and even if the whole world says they don't want to change, he won't change his words.

Many people think we just go to church, sing, carry Bible on Sundays, wear suit and tie, and say "God bless you" on our way to church. For your information, it's more than that. If you can't live with that simple fact, then I'm afraid you're not yet serious.

In the Biblical sense, a first wife is only recognized. Think about this for a moment. When someone is getting married, the vow says, Till Death Do You Part. What do you think that means?

Only after a partner dies does the other partner has the freedom... TO MARRY ANOTHER PERSON... TO HAVE SEX WITH ANOTHER PERSON. Chikena.

So, if death hasn't done them apart, forget about it.

Now, somebody says what if they were married the same day. You mean, simultaneously? As in, each wife stands at the altar and were consenting to the marriage? That's obvious now. The first woman that takes the vow is the real wife.


Some people still don't give a hoot about what I wrote, but they are the first that will carry the news when the likes of Pastor Kumuyi, of all people, makes a mistake (God forbid!)

They'll go, "Ah! Come and see! The holy-holy preacher has done something. He was caught redhanded."

Now the man decides to remarry because death has parted the union he has with his former wife and these same people groaned, "Ah-an! What is it with this pastor sef? Na only him waka come?"

People ehn!

I completely agree with ur point but I have a question. if a man in a polygamous marriage becomes born again, let's say he has 3 wives and they all have children for him, now, if he put the two away after marrying them traditionally, what happens to the women? are they free to marry again without ending up as adulterers because that is what Jesus called a divorced woman who chose to remarry. should we say the man has technically destroyed the lives of the two women he later dumped cause of his new faith? what should we call the man? or maybe the women can go ahead and remarry without being called adulterers since the man wrongly married them.
sorry my question wasn't properly constructed, hope u will understand my point.

It is easy to say God hates divorce when it is meant for selfish purpose. When you legally marry a second wife, are you not putting apart the first marriage God has joined together? Now explain is that legal or illegal?

histemple:


because tithing was only in the old and not in the new testament.

I think you're are the one mis-interpreting your self..
You said tithe was only in the old testament and I prove you wrong now the next thing is to be shouting about fake preaching and churches..

I guess, you are one of the member of Jehovah's witness!!

ettaetta:
what if he married all of them on the same day?

Lmao!!!

Philinho:

bringing the 4 wives to d knowledge of truth while still sleeping with them that is why d kingdom of God is not as cheap as you think . settle them to go. you will b sending means to them pending on when they get another husband.

technically, those women are divorced, so what happens if they remarry? they become adulterers? so let's say, the newly born again man used the women as a pawn to save himself? I don't feel comfortable with that. why destroy other people's life cause u want to save urs?

Iykelawrence:
One of the reasons why Abraham was asked to put away the mother of Ishmael was because Abraham didn't legally marry the lady before putting her in a family way, but when a man marries women ritefully, he's is their husband. And been born again doesn't change it. He needs to live a life of Christ by avoiding sin and living for Christ and not thinking of divorcing those women at the expense of his first wife. Cos doing that will confine those women to hardships and other negativities.

Sorry God did not mandated Abraham to put away Haggai, rather it was on Sarah's instructions. This buttress the fact that God created man to be in control of situations irrespective of how hard it may be. All our actions must glorify God either in the immediate or long run. For peace to reign in Abraham house God ask him to conscent to Sarah request otherwise Haggai n Ishmael may face the worst of all oppression in the hands of Sarah.

Dhilariousdandy:


I think you're are the one mis-interpreting your self..
You said tithe was only in the old testament and I prove you wrong now the next thing is to be shouting about fake preaching and churches..

I guess, you are one of the member of Jehovah's witness!!

I don't know the problem you have with Jehovah witness. I said the payment of tithe was an old testament instruction and you ran to scriptures that was even castigating those paying tithes in mints and disregarding more important things. Does it not show how desperate you are towards defending the indefensible?

I am not a Jehovah Witness but doubt if you are better than any of them.

WindUpMerchant:
"For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but after their own lusts shall they heap to themselves teachers, having itching ears; And they shall turn away their ears from the truth, and shall be turned unto fables." (2 Timothy 4:3-4). Evidently signs of the end time. People will seek to deliberately miscontrue the words and commandments of God. Fornication is now deemed normal, acceptable and makes up our daily living. Shall we continue to sin that grace may abound? O.P nothing like modern day christianity. Jesus christ is the same yesterday, today, and Forever. The man should put away his 2nd 3rd..and other concubines and stick with the first. Polygamy is unacceptable in Christianity. One man, one wife. The instruction is very clear. To those supporting polygamy, you better repent........ Or IN SMAUG'S VOICE..you will burn!

do u agree that by doing that, the man is destroying the lives of the other women he married cause he wishes to save himself? for example, he married three wives, the last one has spent 15 years with him, birthing 5 children. what happens to those women?

lilmax:
If a girl looses her virginity and becomes a christain what is she supposed to do?

she shuld go and find it nw...... Lol

U want to put her away cos ur now a christian, i hope u will return her to the way she use to be so that she can get a husband? If u study the Bible and not to read it like novel, then 1timothy 3 vs 2 will give u clear understanding. Paul said in a congregation, one who desires to be a pastor should be a man of one wife. Is that not enough to tell us that there are men there having more that one wife? It is something done in ignorance and u cannot restitute human being. Thanks

Abra4real:
Okay, let me chip in at this point. Among all those replies above me, I haven't seen any that answered it very well. Note that I'm not replying to fight or argue (fact check, if you quote me, I won't reply, except when necessary e.g. answering a thought-provoking question), I'm actually replying to adhere to what the Bible tells me.

Jude 3 says, Beloved when I gave all diligence to write unto you of the common salvation, it was needful for me to write unto you, and exhort you that ye should earnest contend for the faith which was once delivered unto the saints.

First, someone mentioned that God hates divorce. Here's the verse to back that up: Malachi 2 vs 14-16:

14 Yet ye say, Wherefore? Because the LORD hath been witness between thee and the wife of thy youth, against whom thou hast dealt treacherously: yet yet she is thy companion, and the wife of thine covenant.

15 And did not make one? Yet had he the residue of the spirit. And wherefore one? That he might seek a godly seed. Therefore take heed to your spirit, and let none deal treacherously against the wife of his youth.

16 For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away [of your wife, which is divorce]: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously.

Did you notice the part that says God hates putting away? For God to say that, there must be something at stake. Because clearly, in Matthew 5 vs 22, But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgement...

Even hating your fellow human isn't allowed. But you should also notice that God didn't say I hate the person. He simply hates putting away.

About having multiple wifes, hear it from the horses' mouth, in Matthew 19 vs 9, And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, COMMITTED ADULTERY: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.


Now, I read some comments that said what if a whole village got saved and were extremely polygamous? Well, you have to know that the God we serve, the Alpha and the Omega does not change (Malachi 3 vs 6, For I am the LORD, I change not...) and even if the whole world says they don't want to change, he won't change his words.

Many people think we just go to church, sing, carry Bible on Sundays, wear suit and tie, and say "God bless you" on our way to church. For your information, it's more than that. If you can't live with that simple fact, then I'm afraid you're not yet serious.

In the Biblical sense, a first wife is only recognized. Think about this for a moment. When someone is getting married, the vow says, Till Death Do You Part. What do you think that means?

Only after a partner dies does the other partner has the freedom... TO MARRY ANOTHER PERSON... TO HAVE SEX WITH ANOTHER PERSON. Chikena.

So, if death hasn't done them apart, forget about it.

Now, somebody says what if they were married the same day. You mean, simultaneously? As in, each wife stands at the altar and were consenting to the marriage? That's obvious now. The first woman that takes the vow is the real wife.


Some people still don't give a hoot about what I wrote, but they are the first that will carry the news when the likes of Pastor Kumuyi, of all people, makes a mistake (God forbid!)

They'll go, "Ah! Come and see! The holy-holy preacher has done something. He was caught redhanded."

Now the man decides to remarry because death has parted the union he has with his former wife and these same people groaned, "Ah-an! What is it with this pastor sef? Na only him waka come?"

People ehn!

Matthew 19 vs 9, And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, COMMITTED ADULTERY: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery


Understand this, this verse talks about when a man leaves his first wife completely then marries another. He commits adultery.
But if he still chooses to stay with the first even though he marries another he hasn't committed adultery

Philinho:

bringing the 4 wives to d knowledge of truth while still sleeping with them that is why d kingdom of God is not as cheap as you think . settle them to go. you will b sending means to them pending on when they get another husband.

Why is the gospel of Christ referred to as Good News? Simply because it's too cheap to be believed. Same reason the scribes fought Jesus because they felt He has no power to forgive sins. We obtain righteousness by faith and not by works of the Law. Issue of adultery in the Law is what even you and I can not keep, Christ said even if you look at a woman lustfully you are guilty and the law condemns you. If the law can save, then we don't need Christ.

larrytorch:



Why is everyone shying away from the real situation ? The man has married this wives already b4 coming the lord. Don't you think sending the other wives parking is evil and wicked ?

Everyone is merely quoting scriptures that doesn't explain this scenario.

Sending the other wives can be very costly. Let me give you reasons
1 The other wives might frown at the religion that cost them their place in their husband's home. As Christians, we should be winning souls for God and not sending souls away.

2. The children. Do you know whats growing up in a broken home like?. Damn, I bet u have no idea. These children might grow to hate Christianity to the core of their bones.

Why should we break homes, when we can save the whole of the home ? Remember God wants us to win souls

Why should we break a home because of a verse does not clearly describe this scenario?

When God said do not Judge... he has a reason for saying that.

I think yours is the most appropriate contribution have seen. after reading several comments and replying some, my conclusion is, most of us are naive and myopic, we lack understanding and depth.

Jay542:

i'm a muslim and we are all learning. Its nothing personal. But if this is what the bible says then its very unfair to the other wives. Cos the same bible preaches repentance to the best of my knowledge. If the bible didnt state any solution to cases like this, yu should use your prophets to judge. King David married more than 1 woman and God pardoned him. Then God will also pardon this case cos he is the most Merciful.

Dearest, A True Christian Knows That Christianity Is Serious Business, And That Jesus Christ Meant All That He Said And Thaught..We Believe That We Were Bought With His Precious Blood And So We Are Slaves To Him And Him Alone. As Such, We Are DUTY BOUND to do HIS will WHATEVER THE COST..going to heaven is not SHAWARMA AND ICE CREAM neither is it a JOURNEY for the lazy and undetermined. its a journey for the SINCERE, FAITHFULL, AND OBEDIENT.