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GogetterMD:
It’s easy to make a girlfriend of a girl (In principle oooo, ehen). Walk up, speak your mind and expect your “yes” (or slap). At this point, “it’s nothing serious, just a girlfriend” so no other factor matters, just the physical. “She’s fine” “she speaks well” “she’s set” end of discussion. But these “just girlfriends” are potential candidates for wife so when will it be right to check for wife level qualities? What are these wife level qualities by the way?
There was a time the first thing to come to mind would be the ability to pound yam. Strangely though, that is still a major bonus point today. Potential mothers in law want to hear stuff like that, better still, they want to see her handle the pestle and throw it like Thor wields his hammer but not everybody is or can be Thor. If your potential husband was raised to believe that every good wife must be able to pound yam, just know you have failed.
Of all the qualities checked in the past, the most important were:
– Religion
– General character
– Physical appearance
– Name/ family background
– Tribe (and nationality where relevant)
– Ability to cook on A-level grade (including pounding and cooking tradition specific soups)
– Humility and respect (including calling every child “broda”)
– Hard work and energy (including things like fetching water from an external source)
All the above after the lady must have passed the bobo level tests of loyalty, love, beauty, “presentability” and patience.
First visit to meet his mum, it is a cordial visit but you know it’s arguably the most important assessment session of your life. Everything matters, how you kneel down, when you kneel down, how you talk, walk, smile, when you smile (If you smile) and if she means business she’ll tell you she needs to tidy up the meal in the kitchen and wait for your reaction after she asks what you want to eat
“I will eat small rice” – Verdit: too rude too hungry (ebinna) F9
“errrm, I will eat small rice ma” – Verdict: Too hungry E8
“errm, I will have whatever you give me ma “ – Verdict: Repenting ebinna D7
“I’m fine ma, I have eaten” (cheating detected) – Result cancelled
“errm when I am ready I will go and make it” – Verdict: Overcautious rude smart-ass C6
“errm when I am ready I will go and make it ma” – Verdict: Overcautious smart-ass C5
“errm don’t let me bother you ma” (on knees) – Verdict: hmmm interesting C4
“errm please don’t bother mummy, I will enter and make it for you” – Verdict: Impressive B3
“Ah no mummy, let me go in there and make what you will eat” – Verdict: very good and nice girl B2
“Ah no mummy, let me go in there and make what you will eat ma” (on knees) – Verdict: My son has found a wife A1
“Ah mummy, let me go in there with you so that we can bond and bla bla bla bla” (Pretence detected) – Missing result.
Yoruba mothers, I dey hail ooo (I didn’t say anything ooo)
But how effective and relevant are these things being checked against the reality on ground?
What makes a lady a “wife material”?
I believe it varies from place to place and the importance of some factors are according to personal choice and circumstance but things like Religion and tribal sentiments need to be addressed first and settled. Next is health compatibility (including but not limited to blood genotype tests).
That’s like getting the answer sheet ready before the real exam to validate:
– Character
– Humility
– Patience
– Perseverance
– Love
– “Upgradability”
These are the primary constituents off which all the other secondary characteristics needed for a successful home are formed. They are the things we need to be checking for not whether she can prepare Edikang-Ikong soup or not.
Not everybody will ace every individual primary constituent but the overall score needs to be good enough by your assessment. In other words, you get to call the shot so you are responsible for the outcome.


http://www.giwaspeaks.com/love/wife-material-tests-modern-day-reality/

STENON:
Wow!! This is very interesting and Educating.

With smile, I'l say "“Ah no mummy, let me go in there and make what you will eat ma” (on knees) – Verdict: My son has found a wife A1.


Thank you for sharing this.

STENON:
Wow!! This is very interesting and Educating.

With smile, I'l say "“Ah no mummy, let me go in there and make what you will eat ma” (on knees) – Verdict: My son has found a wife A1.


Thank you for sharing this.

Strahovski1:
I don't understand.

I thought love is key? Not ability to cook or religion or whatever

foolinlove:
Whatever happened to love?

GogetterMD:
Old school style, that was down the list on requirements. Ability to perform at some certain "tasks" forms the foundation for love.
You guys are new school sha, so I don't blame you

GogetterMD:
It’s easy to make a girlfriend of a girl (In principle oooo, ehen). Walk up, speak your mind and expect your “yes” (or slap). At this point, “it’s nothing serious, just a girlfriend” so no other factor matters, just the physical. “She’s fine” “she speaks well” “she’s set” end of discussion. But these “just girlfriends” are potential candidates for wife so when will it be right to check for wife level qualities? What are these wife level qualities by the way?
There was a time the first thing to come to mind would be the ability to pound yam. Strangely though, that is still a major bonus point today. Potential mothers in law want to hear stuff like that, better still, they want to see her handle the pestle and throw it like Thor wields his hammer but not everybody is or can be Thor. If your potential husband was raised to believe that every good wife must be able to pound yam, just know you have failed.
Of all the qualities checked in the past, the most important were:
– Religion
– General character
– Physical appearance
– Name/ family background
– Tribe (and nationality where relevant)
– Ability to cook on A-level grade (including pounding and cooking tradition specific soups)
– Humility and respect (including calling every child “broda”)
– Hard work and energy (including things like fetching water from an external source)
All the above after the lady must have passed the bobo level tests of loyalty, love, beauty, “presentability” and patience.
First visit to meet his mum, it is a cordial visit but you know it’s arguably the most important assessment session of your life. Everything matters, how you kneel down, when you kneel down, how you talk, walk, smile, when you smile (If you smile) and if she means business she’ll tell you she needs to tidy up the meal in the kitchen and wait for your reaction after she asks what you want to eat
“I will eat small rice” – Verdit: too rude too hungry (ebinna) F9
“errrm, I will eat small rice ma” – Verdict: Too hungry E8
“errm, I will have whatever you give me ma “ – Verdict: Repenting ebinna D7
“I’m fine ma, I have eaten” (cheating detected) – Result cancelled
“errm when I am ready I will go and make it” – Verdict: Overcautious rude smart-ass C6
“errm when I am ready I will go and make it ma” – Verdict: Overcautious smart-ass C5
“errm don’t let me bother you ma” (on knees) – Verdict: hmmm interesting C4
“errm please don’t bother mummy, I will enter and make it for you” – Verdict: Impressive B3
“Ah no mummy, let me go in there and make what you will eat” – Verdict: very good and nice girl B2
“Ah no mummy, let me go in there and make what you will eat ma” (on knees) – Verdict: My son has found a wife A1
“Ah mummy, let me go in there with you so that we can bond and bla bla bla bla” (Pretence detected) – Missing result.
Yoruba mothers, I dey hail ooo (I didn’t say anything ooo)
But how effective and relevant are these things being checked against the reality on ground?
What makes a lady a “wife material”?
I believe it varies from place to place and the importance of some factors are according to personal choice and circumstance but things like Religion and tribal sentiments need to be addressed first and settled. Next is health compatibility (including but not limited to blood genotype tests).
That’s like getting the answer sheet ready before the real exam to validate:
– Character
– Humility
– Patience
– Perseverance
– Love
– “Upgradability”
These are the primary constituents off which all the other secondary characteristics needed for a successful home are formed. They are the things we need to be checking for not whether she can prepare Edikang-Ikong soup or not.
Not everybody will ace every individual primary constituent but the overall score needs to be good enough by your assessment. In other words, you get to call the shot so you are responsible for the outcome.


http://www.giwaspeaks.com/love/wife-material-tests-modern-day-reality/

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kedikenet:
Nice write up still think the old school way of assessment is better
love alone is never enough in a relationship