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| My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by wildQuincy(f): 8:10am On Jul 04, 2016 |
I joined my brother in the US over a year ago and observe that he's in a serious relationship with 3 Nigerian girls! All of them have been nice and caring to my brother and also shower me with gifts each time any of them visits. But the problem is my brother has already confided in me whom among them he's going to marry! Infact, serious plans are already on ground to come down to Nigeria by september with one of them to finalize marriage plans! I really feel quilty for playing along with the other two knowing fully well that my bro isn't going to marry them. They have shown serious commitment in the relationship and I feel as a lady I should just hint them about the whole plan cuz I wouldn't like someone decieving me like that,but I don't want it to seem like I'm betraying my brother. One of them is even around for the weekend and she's not the 'chosen' one! Pls what should I do? |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by Nobody: 8:13am On Jul 04, 2016 |
I knew you must live in Texas...Only Texans have Funny mentalities like this. Let your brother have fun, Nigerian immigrants Females are some of the most pompous, proud, Retarded_ women I know...Men deserve to play around with them...MIND YO DAMN BUSINESS. 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by wildQuincy(f): 8:15am On Jul 04, 2016 |
Vanquay16:Pls vanquay stop this  this is a serious matter! Pls just adress the issue.  *modified* I tried to mind my bussines but its not been easy doing so! And I don't really like your impression about nigerian ladies abroad! This ones I know are very reponsible and nice. If they were not, I wouldn't have bothered myself! Vanquay, all Nigerian girls abroad are not the same pls 2 Likes |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by Nobody: 8:16am On Jul 04, 2016 |
wildQuincy: I have a couple of family in Texas...If I come over, how about I take you on a drink? 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by baranzy(m): 8:23am On Jul 04, 2016 |
Fool better get urself a job and a bf and leave ur broda alone......no mumu go comot food from en mouth wt ur stupid conscience.....I advice u mind ur business..... 1 Like |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by wildQuincy(f): 8:24am On Jul 04, 2016 |
Vanquay16:I don't like you vanquay  I hope you won't be calling me names as a Nigerian girl after taking me out for a drink? Don't derail this thread pls! |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by Nobody: 8:24am On Jul 04, 2016 |
wildQuincy: It's your Brother...Haven't you heard "Snitches get Stitches"...Let him ball, you never know maybe when he was in Nigeria, these ladies never sniffed in his direction and now he has made it, it's time to geek around I have been living here since I was 8, I know more than you do, maybe 75% of them under 30 are Retards_...The ones above 30 often are Gems maybe because they are looking for husbands or their husbands have disciplined them. It's not a date you don't have too like me...If I like you I will take you to a strip club  1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by Nobody: 8:27am On Jul 04, 2016 |
It will be tough to deliver the heart-breaking news to the other women your brother is dating; but it's better to call them aside and tell them about his decision on time. You wouldn't want to wait till he has done the traditional marriage rites before spilling the beans. 1 Like |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by wildQuincy(f): 8:35am On Jul 04, 2016 |
CFCman:This is exactly what I'm trying to avoid! Time is running out and they become more commited as time goes by! Funny enough, the lady he's marrying is not from our tribe, and the lady from our tribe is so sure she's the chosen one! How do I even break this kind of news to her? |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by jmichlins(m): 8:35am On Jul 04, 2016 |
If you want your brothers trust just keep on your lane. These girls may know but because he is balling big time, they will choose to ignore the signs. And if they are dating him without seeing the signs of cheating, then they most be fools |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by wildQuincy(f): 8:38am On Jul 04, 2016 |
Vanquay16:Well, maybe I need more time to know about Nigerian girls over here, but so far, I think you are exagerating! Let me know when you are in texas! I'm not going to a strip club tho  5 Likes |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by BrightEye(m): 8:39am On Jul 04, 2016 |
this is not ur fault... |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by Antina(f): 8:45am On Jul 04, 2016 |
wildQuincy: In this kind of situation, there is nothing u can do, don't ever, I mean ever tell anyone of them, let them know or ur brother tell them himself. So that u wouldn't start a problem u won't be able to finish. 1 Like |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by Nobody: 8:47am On Jul 04, 2016 |
wildQuincy: I see where you're coming from. In any case, the ultimate responsibility lies on your brother's shoulders. He should summon the courage to "break up" with the other ladies. He could tell them that he no longer feels the chemistry between them, or make up a story about him relocating to another country with little or no hope of returning to the US (eg relocating to Germany). Later, he should block the other two ladies from his social media accounts, so that they don't get to see his wedding pics online. Sure, it won't be easy to do all that, but as the saying goes, "a stitch in time saves nine". |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by VictorRomanov: 8:51am On Jul 04, 2016 |
It is ur bro u should talk to. If u can't talk to him, then don't talk to anybody. 4 Likes |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by wildQuincy(f): 9:08am On Jul 04, 2016 |
Antina:If I won't tell them, I guess I have to begin to distance myself from them! I guess I'm feeling this way because I'm too close to them. They take me out, buy me gifts etc. They were the ones who spent a lot showing me around and make me have fun since my bro doesn't have so much time for all that! Tanx for your suggestion |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by wildQuincy(f): 9:11am On Jul 04, 2016 |
CFCman:Woow!..I wish this could just happen because I can't stand the drama that will unfold at the end. Tanx |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by pedrilo: 9:52am On Jul 04, 2016 |
funny op, u dnt want to tell the ladies abt wat ur broda is doin to them but u r here tellin the whole world with ur pic n location in full display. VERY SMART GIRL. 3 Likes |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by halfricanadian(f): 10:04am On Jul 04, 2016 |
Op do unto others d day u want them to do to u Sorry to say ur broda is a very wicked person Op if it was u dar ur bf was cheating on u wont u want an hint in order nt to waste ur time? Hint those ladies abeg no human knows d thing dey will do dat can bring Gods wrath nd anger upon deir lives Wen he knos he wanna marry just one mehn even d supposed "chosen one" shd run too for her life 3 months to her wedding her man is still cheating *husband to be indeed* 3 Likes |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by Nobody: 10:55am On Jul 04, 2016 |
U really were/are heartless. Because he is your brother, so what  You both are irresponsible adults. Big shame on you two2 Likes |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by Headlesschicken(m): 12:01pm On Jul 04, 2016 |
| Pls mind yuh business yuh broda has his reasons 4kipin d 3 of em,n its a natural tin wiv we guys 2v more dan 1galfrnd 1nc we wanna settle down,trust me those ladies wld'nt b dt nice 2u once dey settle dwn wiv yuh bro all na scope,dia r df syds of em which u jst vnt seen... |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by schumastic(m): 12:53pm On Jul 04, 2016 |
wildQuincy: he only ask you to choose and not for you to expose him, is that to hard to do.. |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by samsam2019: 12:57pm On Jul 04, 2016 |
How about you have words with your brother 1st. He's playing a dangerous game and he's not safe |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by Nobody: 1:10pm On Jul 04, 2016 |
Just sit down as the show unfold cause practically u cant do anything in this situation |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by Nobody: 1:10pm On Jul 04, 2016 |
Your brother is showing signs of a cheat. He is going to cheat in his marriage for sure. He's playing too much--and a dangerous game at that. These three women.....one of them will be the end of him. If you care about your brother, don't keep idly. Do something. Tell him to step up and break the news to the other two women OR you will do it. If not for the other two ladies, do it for the one he is marrying. The one he is marrying is even at a much larger disadvantage. Give HINTS, if not explicitly. Don't just do nothing. What goes around comes around. Keep that in mind. When you are on the other side, you will want someone to do same for you--weather you are the two he's playing or the one he is marrying. Point blank. No ifs, ands or buts. Just do it. 5 Likes |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by foolinlove(f): 2:08pm On Jul 04, 2016 |
Xiadnat: I agree. Your brother is putting you in a difficult situation and it is unfair to all of you. He needs to show some maturity and responsibility. 1 Like |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by nlanded: 5:10pm On Jul 04, 2016 |
I wish women understood there is no such
thing as a "main chick" OR "side chick" OR "first chick" either. If you ain't the ONLY chick, you're a DUMB chick! 3 Likes |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by bitchcrafts: 5:21pm On Jul 04, 2016 |
wildQuincy:But you still have to mind your biznis. Its yo bruh's sh!t not yours , + you don't see what he sees before deciding to play the fast trick... NVM , He'll know how to handle those other chicks after he might have settled down with the perfect b.itch without having you get victimized I guess, Or would you have him wife the 3 altogether? |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by Nobody: 6:01pm On Jul 04, 2016 |
Some of the reasons why I never befriend anyone dating my cousin brothers. A quick "HI" is enough and if one happens to ask me anything, my response is always " I don't know". They probably think I'm difficult, but truth is I'm only saving myself from this situation you in. DON'T TELL THEM, your bro will sort it out 1 Like |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by queencalipso(f): 6:48pm On Jul 04, 2016 |
Op talk to your brother, tell him to brk it up with the other two ladies. Let him know how unfair and wicked he is being and make him imagine him self or even you his sis in their situation. If he refuses, then figure out a way to tell them indirectly. Do not tell them point blank that your brother isn't going to marry them and he has plans for another. Try to mk them see obvious signs they've been ignoring, paint your brother bad a little before them and allow them do the rest of the thinking for them selves. Note: they may see you as not wanting your brother to marry them, but for what its worth, you cleared your conscience and that way, they won't hate you when the cat is finally out of the bag. You did your best to warn them as a friend. That's what I will do. Imagine the comments from the guys here (cheats). One is even saying is common for guys to have more than one gf, yet you expect the girl to have only you. She will be turning down other guys, even suitors thinking she is in a serious r/ship only for her to be dumped in the end. God will judge you all. If the girl cheats and she's caught they will be shouting b!+ches aren't loyal all over the place forgetting that they have multiple girls, talk about hypocrisy Op these girls may even be turning down other guys bcz of your brother. Do what you have to do and clear your conscience. 1 Like |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by BluStreak(m): 4:47am On Jul 06, 2016 |
With the popularity of Nairaland among Nigerians in diaspora, I bet my Nixon Gunmetal Chronograph that these girls already has this info or will in a bit. Helped by your picture on display in your profile, location and the topic on FP. Sh!tt is about to go down. Duck your head o from flying missiles. 2 Likes |
| Re: My Conscience Troubles Me About This! What Should I Do?? by alausaone(m): 5:18am On Jul 06, 2016 |
tell your brother to break with other two ladies, its is better than keeping then away from potentail mens who are willing to settle down.....i will like to know you better, i like girls who are God fearing like you...Shola is my real name okay |
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