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Brinxs:
You clearly do not understand one-tenth of what marriage is.

jpphilips:
You ask Allah for peace?

Souljaboi1:
Yes, we do !
HE is the Creator, it is only right that we return our affairs to HIM.

holluwai:
A low IQ is very bad plus you need to broaden your horizon. I see you're limited in your thoughts and it's very painful.

If you must know I'm happily married and have kids, I took my time and made my choice and any woman I ever dated in past is either married or engaged so "mr holy karma" don't let you African mentality put thru hardship.

Remember that God looks at a man heart while humans like you do nothing but judge.

jascon1:
I can't believe I ended reading a trashy piece of sheet like this. Sex guarantees nothing in a relationship. If your mind isn't there, no amount of sex will keep you. We fake things that aren't real. In a few years to come, you will confirm that holding on, saves a lot of headaches.
That's why blacks keep feeling marginalised, coz they spend precious time looking for and giving sex, partying and following trends.

oglalasioux:
You are very very wrong. There is nothing as real as sex and it's only when we define it that relationships can last.

jmoore:
Lobish

bestdeals0:
U deserve a kiss

jascon1:
thanks, Miss! God bless you

JayTeeA:
Dear God I need to know you... Whaaaaaaaaat!!!.. Infact may ur generation b blessed for your kind of faith.. indeed God always has a remnant..

NEROSKY:
keep deceiving yourself u hear... u beta look the both sides of any road b4 u cross

jascon1:
I can't believe I ended reading a trashy piece of sheet like this. Sex guarantees nothing in a relationship. If your mind isn't there, no amount of sex will keep you. We fake things that aren't real. In a few years to come, you will confirm that holding on, saves a lot of headaches.
That's why blacks keep feeling marginalised, coz they spend precious time looking for and giving sex, partying and following trends.

klassiquette:
Quite shallow

NEROSKY:
Receive brain. In jesus name...

Mrmezico:
Its only here in Nigeria that u hear such decisive words..

Nigerians too like pretends, No sex till marriage while as u re giving it out to a nobody den serving ur man and denying him his right.

of course, at the time of quoting you, you will get 33 likes; and that only confirms there are about 33 stupid people in this thread!

First of all, the op never said sex guarantee anything. He never made a statement remotely close to that. So, instead of reading your warped preconcieved world view in an innocent and some-what beautiful write up, why don't you just get off your popish attitude and stop being a hypocrite and a bad influence!

And who told you "holding on" saves bulllshit? I just graduated from the University and you think people who 'held on' actually liked what they did? I have a friend who, all through our university days, did not have a single girlfriend not to talk of being sexually active and he confessed to me that he didn't like it. He echoed what i have experienced myself when he said that parents and religious 'holy-holy' people like your pathetic self do tell us to abstain and never to keep lovers in school and they give reasons like: "you will not concentrate in school". But he told me (and i have experienced it myself too) that that is actually not true; and that he even feels distracted that he is trying to keep by the rules. Studying was a problem for him.

You likes should stop scaring people about what is in itself, not wrong. By the time you tell your daughter or son that they should never have sex before they get married and you try to paint a picture that students who are sexual active arre not serious students, you think that child of yours will never go to school and find out that the opposite is actually the case? And when he finds that out, don't you think that that stark revelation is going to cause a needless crisis of faith and culture in him? Don't you think that that crisis of faith and culture is what will undoubtedly unsettle such a child hence a poor performance in exams? No wonder my friend and i felt distracted even when we were forming chaste!

Finally, what in this world brought in Black people into this discussion? Don't white people have a liberal view about relationships? Sarah Pailin, a christian republican hypocrite like yourself preaches this same thing you are preaching, but her daughter of just 17 gave birth to a baby and she is talking about having another baby already! I will not be surprised if all your children make you a grandad before you are 40! It is the likes of you, like Sarah Pailin, that breeds such children the most, hypocrite!

If Obama's daughters (liberal democrats) gave birth to a baby before 17, the likes of you and your partner in hypocricy, Sarah Pailin, would have pointed accusing fingers at the Obama girls as evidence of black ghetto lifestyle.

Just get off here already, your proselytism isn't welcome here!

Syphax:
OP, God is soaking your cane in hot oil.
Saying no to premarital sex gives me a clear conscience, that alone is better than all those jargon you wrote there.

pretydiva:
Marriage is honorable n d bed undefile. Premarital sex is a sin..shikena

Reiyvinn:
Sex sex sex! That's the topic breaking through ethers of the romantic atmosphere across the globe.

In all ramifications, it can be drawn that the act of Sexual intercourse can indeed change a relationship for good; either to the right direction or otherwise.

The bond that Sex creates in relationships shouldn't be overlooked because even as it could strengthen relationships, it could keep you emotionally attached to the wrong person.

WAITING till after marriage for sex seems religiously appealing at all fronts, and to be honest with you it really is a beautiful thing to behold. However, let us not pretend to be unaware of the numerous disadvantages it holds. (few of which will be treated here)

Thus, before taking a "purity pledge" (i.e. No sex till marriage), let us be realistic at the following levels:

1.) Your Future Sexual Satisfaction is not guaranteed:

This is the major disadvantage of not having sex with your partner till after marriage.

It is true marriage isn't entirely about sex but we can't deny the fact that sexual intimacy makes up a huge part of marriages.

When you haven't had sex with your mate before walking down the aisle, your partner's sexual capability is entirely subjected to guess work which is really a huge risk and if your guess turns out wrong, it most often than not leads to.....

2.) Infidelity:

We're humans. It is in our nature to diversify when our long term investments yield a loss.

Oh yes, that's the word, it's a big loss! Imagine having spent two decades (or more) of your life waiting for your wedding night to have that long envisaged pleasure of intimacy only to be met with an ill-performing partner. It's a huge loss!

At this point, one party or both begin looking for alternative means to attain that long yearned satisfaction. At first, it starts with masturbating and porn addiction, and when it gets out of hand, infidelity sets in.

Body no be firewood you know.

3.) Risk of Impotence:

There's absolutely nothing worse than discovering that you've been entangled to a partner that'll never be able to procreate with you till death do you both part.

What a nightmare that is!

No wonder some people choose to get married only when the wife gets pregnant.

I even recall a neighbour back in Abuja who had an impotent husband. She had to have children with his relations and name them after him just to keep the marriage strong.

Some love strong sha!

4.) Sexual Chemistry:

Supposing everything goes fine and both partners are fit, capable and fertile, they will most definitely be one thing missing: Sexual Chemistry.

For couples who have had each other before walking down the aisle, pleasing each other won't really be difficult because they already know where ticks and how to get into each other's cloud nine. That's the understanding they took time to build. Mind you, everyone's different. That which works for Obi may piss Alhaji off.

It's really hard getting married to someone you don't fully understand and some situations come up where one partner wants MouthAction and the other detests it, or where one partner seeks to try out other positions and the other won't just get any of it.

These could lead to both insatisfaction and infidelity which aren't really good for a lifetime bond.

So, guys, that's it.

I'm not encouraging you to lose your "sexual purity", I'm rather highlighting the disadvantages of what you're getting yourself into and being real about it.

Please don't get me wrong, your purity pledge could come out as a tremendous success (which would be awesome) but assuming you find yourself in any of the situations stated above, know it's because of the decision you took.

Wish you well.